traveltheworld, My DD is also complaining about the work being too easy. Her math homework page was something they were doing back in October of last year. DD said she told her teacher that they were all doing 2nd grade math last year and why do they need to do baby first grade stuff and her teacher said it was review and they wouldn't be doing new stuff for weeks.
So..school isn't going well. She said she could only go to the bathroom at recess so had to hold her poo yesterday which isn't helping her constipation issues. I don't know if this is a DD issue or a teacher issue. She read 40 minutes yesterday and 90% of that was sitting on the toilet. She doesn't like who she sits next to as they write on her paper, are noisy, and can't sit still. I told her to give it time and desk partners change. Today is day 6 of school and day 4 of I don't want to go. Now her dojo point show she is having great days and is basically the perfect highly respectful functioning kid.
Post by traveltheworld on Sept 11, 2018 11:37:51 GMT -5
186momx, that sucks. Luckily my DS still loves to go to school because of "the 3 recesses!!", but at some point, I'd like him to start actually learning something.
The whole reading thing was doubly annoying because DS said his friend got to choose level "J" books, but he "got stuck with level A", so I know it's not a "put every kid back to the beginning for review" thing. But then again, I don't know how much DS says is true, so I'm just going to wait it out for a few days and see if DS can sort this out himself.
traveltheworld - DD read below her level until second grade - a substitute teacher gave her a book on her level (based on testing, it was a long term sub and she emailed me to ask if there was a dyslexia diagnosis or some other reason DD was reading six grades below her tested level). IME teachers do their best, but kids at average and especially those above average fall through the cracks. It’s the low kids who get help and appropriate instruction, so I would not let it go too long. I did, and lesson learned. She was my first in public school and it was a big learning curve after private.
Totally let DS handle it first, but if it doesn’t change, I would ask the teacher for sure.
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traveltheworld - DD read below her level until second grade - a substitute teacher gave her a book on her level (based on testing, it was a long term sub and she emailed me to ask if there was a dyslexia diagnosis or some other reason DD was reading six grades below her tested level). IME teachers do their best, but kids at average and especially those above average fall through the cracks. It’s the low kids who get help and appropriate instruction, so I would not let it go too long. I did, and lesson learned. She was my first in public school and it was a big learning curve after private.
Totally let DS handle it first, but if it doesn’t change, I would ask the teacher for sure.
I think I've always been so worried that other people would think that I'm over-estimating DS's abilities that I have a tendency to downplay any of his strengths and tend to just leave things as they are. Kindergarten class was fine last year, but it wasn't till about 6 months in that his kindergarten teacher told us that she was surprised that DS's math skills are so strong and that his vocabulary is phenomenal. I just assumed those things would come out naturally. It's probably time I take a more active role, especially given that DS's current teacher is brand new and hasn't taught a class before.
traveltheworld - I had a fit in kinder because they refused to give DD books as it would make other kids feel bad. She was reading and her “summer slide” extended into November, when they gave her books she had read over a year before. I wish I would have pushed harder then. Essentially, DD learned to perform to their expectations instead of her abilities. So by second grade she was truly coasting, and to this day gets stressed when something isn’t totally easy because totally easy has been 99 percent of her experience. She’s reading at a 12th grade level and this is the first year her teacher isn’t letting her choose the lowest level books, which she does because for three years she was guided to those. I truly wish I would have fought.
DS is getting tested at the end of the month and then I will have the data - he’s bored out of his mind. I won’t make the same mistake with him.
Omg you guys. Today was the first day that the new school assigned homework. DD1 and I already got into a huge fight about it. She’s lazy and she rushes through and she doesn’t want to read the directions. She wants me to tell her what to do.
It’s not a comprehension issue. She understands. She’s just super lazy. And when I won’t do the work or spoon feed her, she gets angry.
mae0111, this is why I'm so happy DD is doing homework club at aftercare. I still am responsible for checking it but it is done by the time I pick her up.
I would let her turn in messy sloppy homework and see if the teacher says anything. Then when the teacher comes back you can explain.
mae0111 , this is why I'm so happy DD is doing homework club at aftercare. I still am responsible for checking it but it is done by the time I pick her up.
I would let her turn in messy sloppy homework and see if the teacher says anything. Then when the teacher comes back you can explain.
That's the plan. I told her that this was the first impression that her teacher would have of her and her homework. And if she wanted to turn it in with misspellings (of words that appear on the homework sheet - like, she just has to copy them), with sloppy writing and lazy drawings, then that's up to her. But not to be surprised if they don't ask her back at the end of the year. I told her that if she's not going to put in the work, they won't let her stay. Her class has a waitlist. They'll accept someone else.
She's willing to accept that. I am questioning why I'm paying almost a 5 figure tuition right now.
mae0111- I would be furious. We make it clear to our kids that we pay a LOT of money for their school when we could send them to public school for free instead. In return, we expect their best efforts. And if they choose to give less than their best, our money will go to stuff for DH and me instead. We had a talk about that at dinner with our 4 year old, who said Spanish was boring so he kept turning around and facing the wrong way in class. Nope. Not for what we pay!
I wouldn’t make it all about the school kicking her out. I would make it about whether you are willing to pony up for this expense to keep her out of hell. And whether she’s willing to put in the effort to keep herself out of hell. If she shouldn’t care, why should you?
mommyatty - it’s funny, after I posted that, we had yet another homework issue, and that’s exactly what we said. We told her we are paying a lot, and that we would much prefer to use that money for, say, a vacation for me and Daddy. Or a new kitchen. She didn’t get it. Sigh. But we will keep trying.