Our weekend was nice. We went to the birthday party and it was great! I was so happy for the little girl, who has sometimes struggled to find her place. Lots of kids showed up, everyone played nicely together, and I think her family was really excited.
Yesterday we just laid low. In fact, we never even brushed DD’s hair. The kids played all day, we made chili for dinner, and just recharged for the week.
Now I’m back at work. Blah. It’s an open day, which means something crazy will happen. I dread open time on my calendar. It’s like a harbinger of doom.
I’ve already been that mom. Walk in fracture clinic - a woman went straight to the desk and waited instead of getting in line - we were third in line and she cut to first. The first and second parents scoffed but did nothing so I mentioned it. Then she was called back before us and I got up again. I’m still annoyed.
WWWMD - curious - if DS (6 year old) has to have surgery, should I still go to (a mandatory) meeting in NY?
2chatter- ain’t no meeting that mandatory, in my mind. And that’s not a mom thing. If any of my employees (all of whom are male) made a work trip when their kid had surgery beyond maybe tubes in ears, I would be sitting them down for a talk about priorities and balance. But that’s me. Maybe a male boss would see it differently.
2chatter, I would say no, but how mandatory is it. Weird questions, but in my business, it's sometimes fluid
I am exhausted. We had our big picnic this weekend. We were there the entire weekend and my house is a wreck. I cleaned 2 toilets before work, because it was needed, and will need to clean the rest of the bathrooms when I get home. I did win an convection oven/air fryer. I have no idea what to do with it, but I am excited. Poor DS fell asleep around 6 last night since he had been up since 3:30 AM to help cook.
This is a crazy week. I have to work later tomorrow and DD has game. I hope to be able to scoot in to coach the 7/8 grade team. I have a full calendar all week, but will need to shave some time, which the only time I can find is Friday morning. I guess I can get some things done around the house and go in around 10 AM.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Sept 17, 2018 8:56:49 GMT -5
I had a 50 mile bike ride in the hills on Saturday and a 1.2 mile swim on Sunday. I was very glad I got to sleep in today with no workouts.
Saturday that stupid bike ride took up literally over half the day and then I had to rush to a hair appointment. I felt so bad. When I got home we got dinner and watched star wars, which was nice. Then after the kids went to bed, since I felt guilty for having not been home all day, I asked H to teach me his card game. It's such a needlessly complicated game with so much jargon it's ridiculous. And nerdy. But I won so, I guess it's ok.
Sunday I did my swim and then ran errands with the kids: got the kids haircuts, went to the grocery store, picked up the snap kitchen order.
VENT: Then I PLANNED to clean up the small shelf by the door that we use to store the kids shoes and that serves as the landing ground for so much junk...I STARTED to clean it, but it was covered with so much of the kid's work that I ended up organizing all of their art and school work from age 0 to present...I mean...I'm glad I did that but at the same time, this is why I clean and clean and nothing looks clean. That shelf still has junk on it. Just not school junk.
VENT: Remember that I set an alarm for when we need to start getting out the door? It did not help today as it took us 10 full minutes from the time the alarm went off to the time that all of our buts were in a seat with the appropriate safety belts on. I need to set that thing to go off earlier I guess.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Sept 17, 2018 8:57:43 GMT -5
2chatter , I'd skip that meeting. Unless you can reschedule the surgery. I'm not sure what kind of surgery it is to know how hard that would be and if you're putting him at risk by delaying it at all?
ETA: bottom line, though, if my kid is going through general anesthesia, I'm there.
Post by supertrooper1 on Sept 17, 2018 8:58:29 GMT -5
2chatter, I would not miss my kid's surgery, no matter the consequences at work.
I worked a 15 hour day on Friday because I was the only female officer on shift with specialized training. Saturday I was given mandatory OT but only had to stay 2 hours extra, so it was nice getting home at a regular time. I spent all weekend putting out fires it seems. We have a national operation going on that upper local management here doesn't seem to understand our capabilities, or lack of capabilities. It has nothing to do with our knowledge, we just don't have the capability to do certain things as an agency. Friday also was the roll out of a new computer system, and of course there are major bugs. When one bug gets fixed, another issue pops up.
Otherwise it was a good weekend at home. It's been pouring rain and chilly, so I've been curling up on the couch with DS.
2chatter, For a surgery for your kid, I think that's a "family emergency" and completely legit reason to skip the meeting and trip.
We had a great weekend. Park time with friends Friday night, story time and new books on Saturday, play date on Sunday. Plus, I had time to get most of my chores done! I've noticed that without STBXH around, I can just do things, without waiting for him to tag along, waiting for him to help, and/or arguing with him about the merit of any of the activities I want to do with the kids. I just do it and we have a great time. The one thing he said he'd swing by to do over the weekend, he didn't. So eye opening.
2chatter, I agree it is fine to skip the meeting. However you don't get a chance to go on the floor at the NYSE every day, so I would schedule surgery around it if you can. If not- no guilt in staying home.
I worked on Sat. DH took the kids to back to back soccer games and then we all went out to dinner. Sunday was weird text day. And then I went to cub scouts and a neighbor party, so it turned out better in the afternoon.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Sept 17, 2018 9:42:23 GMT -5
2chatter, I’d probably skip the meeting. I’d want to be there for DS.
We had a pretty good weekend with only a couple of hiccups. Saturday was an early morning for DH and DD - she had to be at the bus for her XC meet at 4:50 am. We ended up leaving at 6 to get there on time ( 2 1/2 hour ride). About 5 minutes from the meet, one of our tires started going flat. Luckily DH found a tire place about 3 miles down the road and they brought him back to the meet and picked him up when the car was ready. For $25. DH made sure to tip him an extra $20.
Sunday I did a 5 mile run — and on a side note, can we stop with the freaking humidity and heat? I’m so sick of struggling through my runs. I’m over it. 80 or lower, please. I got some paint for our living room and hallway that matches the kitchen but didn’t get started on it as DS wanted to go swimming with friends so I “lost” about 2 hours watching them.
I also realized that my oldest kitty has lost her hearing. I had suspected it but recently noticed that she didn’t know I was standing next to her until she saw me. I’m so sad. She has kidney issues and needs about $1K worth of dental work that I’m selfishly holding off on because of her age and health. She’s been sleeping a lot more too. I wonder if I should take her to the vet and get her checked on. I’ve never had a cat that died of old age so I’m so concerned she’s in horrible pain and I don’t know it.
Re: our house remodel. The painters are supposed to be here but so far no one has arrived yet. Tomorrow they’re supposed to start installing the floors. I’m counting down the days until we can get our furniture back in the living room so we can stop living upstairs. We are all over it.
2chatter , I have a big new deal going into committee on Thursday. I also told our COO that someone else from our division was going to have to present it for me because DD has her follow-up MRI that day. Sorry, not sorry. No one batted an eye.
DS peed thru his diaper. Which woke him up early and grumpy. He was pissed that he had to change out of his jammies before breakfast, which lead to 20 mins of crying. And then pissed that I asked him to put his blanket down, which lead to twenty minutes of crying. And then fell off the bed, leading to... you guessed it, more crying.
DD was pissed that I curled my hair today and she didn't get curlers in her hair last night. Which lead to 10 minutes of crying (simultaneous with DS's at least? Small favors?), and then pissed I wouldn't let her wear a pair of stripper style thigh-high tights (a gift - thanks friend) with her uniform to school - she was still crying when I left.
I burnt my lip on an empanada yesterday and it looks like a cold sore. Not sure which I'd rather have people think I have.
My boss is back from a two-week vacation and returning like a Tasmanian devil.
2chatter, I’m with waverly - I’d try my best to schedule the surgery so I could still go to NYC, possibly cutting the trip short. But if the only options are surgery at the time that works best for the injury vs. the trip, I’d skip the trip.
Cast today - X-rays again next Monday and the Monday after. If it moves .8mm it’s surgery. Relieved I didn’t have to decide about the work trip.
DD has her pain management follow up tomorrow and DH is supposed to push for genetics, blood tests or referrals as her issues are getting worse, not better. I’m super worried about his ability to advocate.
Post by covergirl82 on Sept 17, 2018 11:23:37 GMT -5
I agree with everyone else - a kid's surgery is a "family emergency" and trumps all work priorities.
We had a pretty good weekend. DS's football team lost again, so that was a bummer. I got most of the cleaning done that I had wanted to.
Vent - I never really realized how much MIL likes to blame everyone else when something goes wrong, until Saturday. She called me a few minutes before DS's game asking where we were. I told her we were at the game, at the "north" middle school. Well, she had gone to the "east" middle school, saying that DH had told her the wrong one, even though I know DH had told her clearly, in multiple texts, which middle school the game was at. Many other things are "not her fault" either...her divorces, her rocky relationship with her daughter, the bad state of her finances, etc...
This week is weird. Short work week as we are only in office 3 days but then we leave and go to a long 3 day continuing education seminar so then my weekend is super short. So far today has been very busy after last week which was beyond dead.
Weekend was productive but not productive. I broke the wheel on the lawn mower while mowing the grass so now are trying to find a replacement wheel. Which is way harder than it should be. Lawn mower is 12 years old but I don't want to buy one now I would rather wait till spring so trying to baby ours along. I now have the first coat of paint on all the cabinets but it was a trying frustrating experience doing it with everyone home and interrupting me or commenting on why it is taking me so long. Plus DD attention span is super short and she is always bored.
DS1 had a good soccer game on Saturday. Then we enjoyed the community day festivities. On Sunday, I took the kids to the bookstore and to a park while DH did yard work. By the end of the day, everyone was exhausted and went right to bed.
Now it is raining all day today due to the remnants of Florence. I'm really hoping that the flooding is minimal so I can get home in a reasonable amount of time later.
Our weekend was pretty busy and fun until Sunday afternoon. We had a guy in our basement doing our drywall work Fri night/Sat/Sun. He brought his 7 and 9 year old with him Saturday while he worked. I guess we run a daycare now. Luckily they were very good kids but my house still looked like a tornado came through because our best friends and their two kids came over Saturday night for dinner. The basement can't get done soon enough so these kids have somewhere to play that isn't in my space. It was nice to catch up with our friends.
We had DH's work picnic on Sunday and we were having such a fun time with the kids - face painting, games, balloons, relay races, etc. until DH comes limping up to me. He was on a kickball team and something popped in his knee after kicking the ball while practicing. He's in a lot of pain, can't put any weight on the leg or bend the knee and it looks like the tendon on the back of his knee is gone. He's in crutches and pretty sure he will need surgery. I'm trying not to freak out. We both can't be hobbling around at the same time.
DD3 has been sick and didn't sleep more than three hours last night. Got her into the doctor today and she's on nebulizer treatments, steroid and antibiotic. This is also her second ear infection in less than a month so I got a referral to the ENT.
mellym - OMG company picnics!! A few years ago, DH got hurt 2 years in a row. First year he tore his calf muscle playing volleyball. So the next year I said “No volleyball ok? You’re not in shape and you’re not 23.” He promised to just hang out and play horse shoes.
Got a text from him that read, “Played kickball. Something popped.” Refused to go to the dr. Finally 3 days later he went... completely tore his Achilles.
mae0111, at least everyone knows why he isn't at work today, so unbelievable! It happened on his first practice kick so he didn't even get to play. Our DH's must be similar as mine tore his Achilles three years ago too! He had surgery on his hip already as well and it's the same leg so we're hoping there isn't further damage there. I feel so bad for him because it's always something and he can't even play a fun game of kickball without getting hurt these days. He was an athlete and it's coming back to bite him as he gets older.
I can't add one more thing to my plate these days so I'm trying not to spiral as he's telling me he can't do any drop offs or pick ups.
DD was disappointed to learn her BFF who she wants to have a sleepover with had a sleepover with another friend, but she handled it really well. We had plans for the water park Saturday, and she didn’t sabotage it at all like she normally would. This is huge!
Sunday we worked on the new treehouse and went to a birthday party. I’m tired but it was a nice weekend.
Post by librarychica on Sept 17, 2018 20:34:47 GMT -5
Today was especially Mondayish, aggravated by my mood. My almost 4yo has decided she no longer sleeps through the night? Like she is up for hours at a time a few nights a week. Usually in the 2-4AM range. This weekend was especially bad. I got maybe 8 hours of sleep in 2 days this weekend. I am so tired and H looks dead. I hope this phase passes soon because I don’t know how to sleep train a preschooler.
She also brought home the stuffed class pet. They are supposed to do a photo journal with it. I was going to do it yesterday evening but H ended up going out and didn’t return until 3AM — just in time to catch the waking preschooler, poor man. I just got my shit together enough to get the photos off H’s phone and to CVS tonight and I can’t pick them up until 9AM tomorrow. I have to be at work at 7. It was supposed to be returned today (we returned the bear, not the journal yet). They’re just going to have to wait until Wednesday. I mean, why would they need it? No one is taking it home until the weekend. I hate homework for parents.
I’m waiting for maintenance at the hotel (which is swanky and awesome) to bring back the door plate thingy. The deadbolt wouldn’t work and I’m a big baby and I wasn’t sleeping without one.
You guys I can’t tell you how nice it is to be kid and puppy and mom free in NY. That’s my other big news - my mom signed on a senior living apartment that was a great deal - Sunday afternoon we did the paperwork. Now comes the packing, exh will help sell her car, her realtor is ready to go on her condo, we will help her choose new furniture - and she will be a ten minute bike ride away, so I plan to send the kids over to see her when they have downtime. And I should really bike at least half of the time when I visit, right?
Post by sandandsea on Sept 17, 2018 21:43:34 GMT -5
DH worked all day Sat and then took both boys to a race on Sunday so I could go to work. Today was a Monday. More work piled up and not enough time to do it. So after the boys go to bed I get to work more. Last week was 67.5 hours and I’m tired. I can’t do these hours now with two los and being in my late 30s.
Post by erinshelley21 on Sept 17, 2018 22:21:10 GMT -5
I survived solo parenting and dealing with DH's really bad case of HFM. He was in so much pain. His feet were so bad he was almost in tears when he walked. Today though he was out mowing our yard lol. He also found out that a friend had it (zero connections in the last few weeks with this friend so HFM is tearing through the county apparently) and he was given prednisone and felt better the very next day. DH's medical director at work confirmed our suspicions for us and never once mentioned that prednisone could help. He told DH to ride it out as there wasn't anything to do. It is amazing how much conflicting information there is on HFM. From it not being contagious to adults, when one is no longer contagious, and how to treat it.
The 5 day laundry marathon may have fried our dryer. The 12th load was in the dryer. That's the kind of thing you want to happen when you've started a commission based job and you're 2 months away from the holidays beginning. Our tax refund, which should be here next week, will probably be going to a new W&D and some small credit card debts.
Post by traveltheworld on Sept 17, 2018 22:22:47 GMT -5
We had a very chill weekend. DD's friend from her old daycare came over and we made cookies. The mom seemed nice. Then DH left town last night and I tried to catch up on work, which has just been crazy.
I leave tomorrow for a work trip in Europe in a city that I've always wanted to visit and had planned to stay over the weekend. Then I started feeling guilty that I'd be gone almost all week and then staying the weekend too, and briefly mentioned to DH that maybe I should come back early, then DH booked one of those food/wine tours for me on the Sunday and told me that the tour is nonrefundable, so I now I guess I have to stay 😀.
librarychica, You tell the 4 year old to play quietly in her room and not to bother you? That is what I do with my almost 4 year old. He has a clock that turns green when it is time for him to come downstairs. His was more of waking up at 4 ready to take on the day.
Can my Tuesday be my Monday feeling? Baby was a struggle last night and DH was a butt about it. Normally he is very patient and is great with babies, but he must be exhausted right now. I've been up since 430 and I am dragging.
librarychica, You tell the 4 year old to play quietly in her room and not to bother you? That is what I do with my almost 4 year old. He has a clock that turns green when it is time for him to come downstairs. His was more of waking up at 4 ready to take on the day.
We had this clock. DD would bring it into our room to wake us up and tell us it was broken because it wasn’t turning green.
librarychica , You tell the 4 year old to play quietly in her room and not to bother you? That is what I do with my almost 4 year old. He has a clock that turns green when it is time for him to come downstairs. His was more of waking up at 4 ready to take on the day.
We had this clock. DD would bring it into our room to wake us up and tell us it was broken because it wasn’t turning green.
My kids recently "lost" theirs. I was convinced it was at their dad's house and that he had taken it. Turns out, my darling cherubs have hidden it somewhere in their room.