Are we judgement free?

[jennistarr1]

Back story.

I 2013 I had a miscarriage I felt like I handled well. But then on mother's day a cousin of mine shows up at my mom's and announces her pregnancy. That is exactly the day I had planned on telling my mom. It was a punch in the gut. Her due date was the exact same as mine. Unbelievable. And it was a one night stand with a married guy.

But I move on, have my daughter in 2015. Now another miscarriage this year.

Guess who is pregnant again?

I feel like the universe is saying "just wanted to make sure you felt that"

[nellgirl]

I’m sorry that all of this happened. It’s so unfair.
We had a daughter in 2016, 6 days after my SIL. We are IF, and have been trying for close to 2 years now. My SIL announces her second on christmas and scheduled he c-section on our anniversary. On purpose.

[bcv513]

I’m sorry. My cousin announced her pregnancy at my dining room table on Thanksgiving. I had miscarried one week before and she knew. We’ve been trying for a second for 18 months and every time I see her I cringe waiting for an announcement

[jennistarr1]

Thanks for understanding, I'm cringing at the other stories shared

[achi]

No judgement at all. I’m really sorry for everything.

[grace]

Oh I'm so sorry. People are so insensitive to this; it can be really hard.

[icedcoffee]

I'm sorry. I drank an entire bottle of wine the night I found out my friend got knocked up by a 58 year old man. We were going through IVF for severe male infertility that my 34 year old H was dealing with. No judgment. Just hugs.

[rikiteacup]

jennistarr1 I am so sorry. This is really an unfortunate coincidence.

I am so sorry for everybody who is struggling. Some women are true assholes when it comes to pregnancies. I wish having a child wasn't seen like the ultimate accomplishment for a woman because some use it as a power tool to make other women feel like shit. My SIL being one of them. She hates her younger sister who is struggling to conceive (male factor, failed IVF...). She is having her 3rd baby soon. She made this whole spectacle around announcing her 3rd pregnancy in front of her sister. She just wanted to stick it to her that she was "better" because she was able to get pregnant.

[vmars]

My miscarriage was just this month and I still dread a pregnancy announcement for a baby due in May. I do have a friend going through IVF so if it were her I would be very happy no matter what. She’s been trying for over a year. I am thinking of a friend who married this terrible guy and wants to get pregnant right away. That may sting.

[ellebebold]

Wow just wanted to say I'm sorry this happened to you.