I have work and personal vents. Feel free to add your own.
Work- is it a full moon? Everyone has seemed cranky lately. Maybe it is just this person. She only works part time loves her schedule and is currently complaining about state labor laws that require lunches before the 5 th hour. I mean why complain to me? It’s a state law. The company is just reminding staff they have to follow the laws.
This was the same person all mad because someone was reading work related items at work. Yes the second person didn’t have enough to do but she is new and working at it. Plus again not managed by me talk to the director.
Another co-worked is a micro manager who rubs everyone the wrong way, do that is fun.
Personal- DH just texted me that he is going for drinks. Ok I knew he would this week but just forgot. However my perpetual complaint is he can text me at 5 to tell me this because I am the default parent and it is assumed that I will pick up kids every night and take care of them and that his help is superfluous. However I have not been able to make weekday plans ever. Any weekday plans have to include either my mom or a babysitter or numerous discussions, texts and reminders for DH to be home. He totally forgot about soccer which he usually tries to be home for and wanted me to cook a complicated meal before I reminded him no I can’t.
Work rant is that I think my boss has been telling people I’ll quit if a certain situation isn’t rectified (it’s in his best interest). People have been going out of their way to tell me how valued I am, etc, which is nice to hear, but it’s always in the context of how much they want to retain me. And while the situation is frustrating and COULD push me to quitting if it goes unresolved endlessly, it’s nowhere near quitting over worthy.
I’m just basically feeling like I’m fighting on all fronts right now.
SOS - Maybe I shouldn’t complain toooo much because he did take care of it without waking me, but... Thursday(?) night DD woke with some congestion. Nothing terrible, just a little cold. She woke him and he got her humidifier out and set it up, and got her some nasal spray. He told me about it the next day. I assumed it was saline spray. It wasn't. It was Flonase. From like 6 months ago. I found out because she still had it in her room and was using it by herself tonight, several days later.
First, Flonase is prescription only for kids. It’s a steroid. It could make her cranky and have trouble sleeping. Maybe not the best choice for the middle of the night. It’s not safe to give adult OTC meds to kids. You would think he would know that. Second, this was my used Flonase. Those nasal spray things harbor tons of bacteria. I always buy a new Flonase when I have a new cold. And I should have thrown out this old one but I guess you never know when the last time you’ll need it for a given cold is and it just ended up in a drawer. But I once sprayed an old one into a sink and what came out was disgusting. So there is that too. Ewww!
How hard is it to google? I feel like we go through stuff like this all the time!
In related news, how do you all organize and store your meds?
akafred- i’m Apparently not the best person to ask because I too have had Flonase lying around the house forever- I mean years. It was prescribed for the kid and at the time it was $$$. Now I think they sell it over the counter. But it wasn’t yucky, and I did throw it away eventually.
I go through meds every 6 months maybe. It is stored on the highest shelf in a container in our linen closet. I used to have it locked up when the kids were younger. I have a few things in the kitchen too but mostly in the linen closet because space is at a premium in our kitchen.
I’m thinking I need about 10 bins for meds!!! One for everyday use that we store in a handy place, then Supplements, Kids OTC cold etc, Adults OTC cold etc, Kids Tummy, Adults Tummy, Old Rx Kids, Old Rx Adults, Bandages, Wraps and Ointments, Bug spray and bug bites.
Yeah yeah don’t keep old medicines blah blah. We we do. And will. DD has tried so many things for ADHD, and sometimes they say to try an old one again but you don’t need a whole Rx for that. I don’t hoard ABX though.
I need to separate kids and adults, apparently. This isn’t the first time this kind of thing happened.
You guys, I should take a picture of my organized meds, because I spent at least an hour throwing out old stuff and organizing everything last Friday. I have small organization bins for: first aid (bandaids, ointment), kids' medicines (pain reliever, cold meds, etc.), adult medicines, and stuff for the dog. I have the kids' vitamins grouped together, but not in a bin (mine and DH's are the same).
My only vent is that I didn't sleep well last night (like I got maybe 3 hours of sleep), so it's going to be a long day.
Vent #1: My bank is royally pissing me off. I reached out to start the mortgage refi process in just my name. They gave me lip service about how we'd have to see what kind of child support I get, they don't know if I'll be able to get pre-approved, maybe we should wait until the divorce is finalized, etc... Then they finally humored me with "Ok, well you just fill out the application and we'll see what happens." It felt very "pat on the head/little lady" patronizing. I make 2.5 times what my STBXH does. And they would KNOW that if they had even bothered to ask what my income is before trying to talk me out of even applying for a loan. But they didn't. They just patronized me and kept bringing up how much alimony I'll be getting. F you. I'm the one paying the alimony.
Vent #2: It's my wedding anniversary. We're spending it meeting with a CPA to go over divorce finances. So f this day.
twinmomma, OMG I would have lost it. I hate it when the waitress at the table gives only my H the attention because she assumes he will be buying and therefore tipping (we take turns) I can't imagine my bank doing that. Also that sucks about your second vent. Hope you can have a nice evening afterwards.
akafred, so I was team your H until we got to the part about it being yours and not hers. That should have been common sense
Vent: I can not get people at work to follow simple processes. If they would my job and theirs would be ten times easier.
The kids want to play soccer, but I am not remotely ready for the time commitment that it will be. I just don't want to sign them up. But I will, because they will like it.
1. I took on managing a grant for one of my counties, out of my scope of work, because no on else will do it. I get a notice from the grant manager that we have a grant application due and report in 2 days of each other in 2 weeks. This requires input from a board. The board doesn't meet until the last day of the 2 weeks. Now I can't get a technical question answered by the state manager so I am missing the deadline. Called for 3 days with no response. I am ready to tell them to find someone else since obviously they don't have a lot of organization or respect for time.
2. The weather. I have my new fall hair, boots, pumpkins and scarecrows on the porch, and it is 90 degrees. I am out of summer clothes, I don't want to get another pedicure. I want to walk for 30 minutes during lunch, but I can't go to my meeting sweaty. I already sweated through my clothes this morning on my run. At 5:30 AM. In October.
I’m so overwhelmed I can’t even articulate here anything beyond that. I’m managing the day to day for the most part but the list of critical items not done continues to grow. I’m at the point where I can either emotionally and logistically support my mom in the day to day OR get the big things done. So today we will see her at 7:00 for forty minutes and tomorrow not at all so I can focus on all the big stuff.
Does anyone know what to do with furniture with rips/stains? Not able to donate and my sister was planning to take it but changed her mind (losing me two weeks of time to handle it). Do I hire movers to take it to the dump? Thinking that might be the least amount of my time and worth a couple hundred dollars to be done with it. It’s a 1970s party table with rolling chairs and a leather couch and loveseat.
The kids want to play soccer, but I am not remotely ready for the time commitment that it will be. I just don't want to sign them up. But I will, because they will like it.
This, except hockey. And I won't sign them up.
twinmomma, good luck today. I hope it's relatively painless.
2chatter, thinking of you and hoping things slow down soon.
My vents are totally selfish. It's my birthday. DH has planned nothing. Every year I ask for dinner out the weekend before, because DD1's birthday and my dad's birthday are this weekend. Every year he forgets. I had planned to go to the spa today but the kids have an early release from school. DH is trying to scramble now, asking me what I want for dinner, and what kind of cake he should pick up for me. I DON'T CARE. If I wanted to plan something for myself, I would have planned it. Don't act like you're pouring all this thought into it now.
DD1 keeps asking me what I do all day. I typically list things off. Dh had been away since Fri morning (save about 3 hours on Sunday when the kids weren't home), came home last night, flight was delayed. DD1 made a comment about how DH really needed to relax when he got home, since he's been working, so I should do everything last night - showers/baths, bedtimes, make lunches, make beds since I'd washed all the sheets, etc. WTF DD1??? He's been in a hotel by himself?! How come he gets a break and I don't?
My mom called me last weekend because she feels that there is a rift between me and my younger sister. Nope, not a rift. I just see her for who she is, a selfish, self-centered person who cares about no one but herself. She's my sister, and I love her, but I know what to expect out of our relationship. There's nothing to fix. There's nothing to talk out. She is who she is and I have finally figure out how to navigate that relationship. But it dredged up so much hurt, and it made me feeling awful.
Finally, the Kavanaugh hearings have dug up so many uncomfortable memories that I had buried so, so deep. Stuff DH doesn't even know. My anxiety is at an all time high.
Post by erinshelley21 on Oct 3, 2018 9:44:07 GMT -5
2chatter, if your sister was planning to take the furniture and now she doesn't want it then she should arrange for it to disappear. I hope things slow down soon. Are you able to let some day to day tasks slide for a couple days so you can get some of the critical items knocked out? It might help you feel better. twinmomma, it's mind blowing to me that your bank wants to factor child support into the equation. Despite parents being legally obligated to pay, it doesn't always guarantee it. I'd go to a different lender after being treated that way. mae0111, happy birthday! I hope your H comes through with at least a decent birthday for you! Men are kind of dumb when it comes to birthdays. At least most of them. My DH was. 3 years ago he barely acknowledged my birthday beyond us going to eat breakfast with DS. I had a D&C that week so I was really hoping for a thoughtful gift or anything really. He did nothing and got me nothing. I brought it up 3 days later and when I was still upset after the bouquet of mini crown royal bottles from the supermarket, he didn't get it. I decided then to just start telling him what I wanted for mothers day, my birthday, and christmas. Now, he rarely needs a suggestion. I think what hit the nail on the head though is when I told him that he is setting the example for DS on how to be a thoughtful and caring husband and that it was more about showing me that I mattered.
Post by covergirl82 on Oct 3, 2018 10:00:21 GMT -5
2chatter, I agree with erinshelley21. Sister wanted it, now it's her problem to deal with if she doesn't want them. You have more than enough on your plate to deal with. mae0111, happy birthday! I hope you get your spa day sometime this week.
Post by supertrooper1 on Oct 3, 2018 10:08:37 GMT -5
Work rant: I screen printed a error done by one of my coworkers in one of our databases and sent it to the coworker's supervisor. We all know my coworker is an idiot, but the supervisor's response pissed me off. "What do you expect, it was coworker x." I think my curt response pissed off the supervisor, that just because it was idiot coworker shouldn't be an excuse, he should be talked to.
2chatter, I second the Craigslist or Facebook marketplace listing for free you haul.
mae0111, WTF is right and I'm sorry. I think it's even more important that they see Dad doing housework chores than ever. Our line is that we are a family and we all pitch in to help at home. Can the kids make their own lunches? Our neighbor said she started that in K to teach more responsibility (if they don't, they have to take hot lunch which is just terrible in their minds) so we started with DD1 in 1st grade and it's been going great.
twinmomma, time to switch banks esp if you're refinancing anyways?
My vents - DH keeps telling me to take it easy and rest but I can't when I'm doing daycare pick-up and making dinner while trying to soothe a fussy baby. It isn't possible to not be on my feet.
They asked me to manage someone in IT because she's female and the IT Director can't manage women. This doesn't work because I don't work in IT and can't help her with any of her work and she still has to deal directly with the IT Director. How about we take care of the real problem here?
mellym, I probably won't switch, only because I've been with them forever and they're generally great. I think this mortgage person was just a moron. She ran my real numbers and is sending me pre-approval today. Shocking. I know my own budget!
mellym, wow, just wow about the manager not being able to manage women. Maybe he shouldn't be a manager then. Ugh. I might be the person who files a compliant with HR about that issue.
mae0111, Happy Birthday! I would definitely have a conversation with your DDs about the roles in the family and that daddy's have to help too. Sounds like she doesn't understand how that should work.
Also maybe have a conversation with DH separately about how he needs to the set the example on how an H should treat his wife.
If that doesn't work I would want to go on strike for a week to show the girls and H how much you do for the family and how much he needs to step up.
mellym, i LOL’d at the IT manager. So typical - just work around and not actually address the problem.
Huge bouquet of flowers arrived. I guess me telling DH in May that I think flowers are an easy way out and show that he put no time into the gift really sunk in. 🙄
2chatter- if your sister won’t handle it, I really love 1-800-Got-Junk. They are fast, show up when they say they will, and are cost-effective. We have used them a bunch of times!
In the past 5 years, we have replaced both of our air conditioning units. And we paid an epic shitload for each of them. We paid so much because supposedly we were getting a deluxe gold standard unit. Well, one of our deluxe gold standard units has a compressor that has died. Wtf. It’s not even 5 years old!
And apparently the guy came totally unprepared to fix an air conditioner. So my upstairs is over 80 degrees. We may be having a downstairs slumber party tonight.
2chatter - if your sister falls through, post it for free on Nextdoor or FB marketplace. If that doesn’t work, a lot of trash providers will offer a free or low cost large item pickup once or twice a year.