Just Monday

[rere]

A little more active weekend than I planned.   DD went to a sleepover Friday while I took DS to the cabin to fish and we hung out with some friends. Saturday, Ds asked if he could have friends over to watch football. Since I have been over worrying about his social life, I readily agreed, so he had about 5 boys over for football and food. I took DD to a friends for a while and I went up to my former family's bar for a benefit for a friend of my dad's. Had a couple drinks, didn't win any auction items and come home. 

Sunday, DD twisted my are arm for a DQ Blizzard and that was about it. I did have time to actually read.

Late FFFC. DH left the food out Saturday night because he thought I was going to eat. It was still out when I came home. It was lasagna for today too. I made him take some to lunch, so if he doesn't get sick, I will still eat it today.  

[covergirl82]

Celebrations: DS's football team won their game on Saturday! It was their first win of the season (game 5 of 7), so the team was really happy and it was good for their morale. I kind of feel bad saying that DS's baseball scrimmage being cancelled on Sunday was a celebration, but it meant that I had a gift of time, and also that we didn't have to hang out in the misty 50 degree weather for 4 hours.

Vent: Because baseball was cancelled, I let DD invite the neighbor girl, C, over to play for about an hour. During that time, I was cleaning, so I didn't hear them go into DS's room. They used a whole cartridge of instant film in his camera, and took some other things out of his drawer of his nightstand. I didn't notice that until after C had left, but I let DD know that it is wrong to go through other people's things and it's basically stealing to use someone else's things without permission. DD is going to give DS money to replace the film cartridge. I'm deciding whether or not I bring this up to my neighbor. (Open to feedback from WPs on this.) I was very clear with DD that if/when C comes over to play again, they are not allowed in any other bedrooms than hers.  (ETA:  DS was at a friend's house while DD had C over.)

[mommyatty]

It was a fun weekend. Saturday DD cheered at a football game. I got several pictures and discovered that DD has an amazing RBF. Holy cow! Every picture looks like the world’s most disdainful 6 year old!

That afternoon we had a party for DS’s classmate. Both kids went. It was fun to talk with a couple of parents from DS’s class since we know none of them.

Sunday we didn’t leave the house. DS never even got out of pjs. I sewed a bit. The kids played. DH went grocery shopping and we made turkey chili and corn bread for dinner. Both kids asked to try the chili! Unfortunately I had made it really spicy while actually thinking “Since the kids won’t even try this, I can turn up the heat a notch.” Oh well.

On a hilarious note, Sunday the kids started plotting together. DS was distracting us so DD could do her ninja moves and sneak around the house. (Thank you, Rescue Princesses.) Later, DD was playing too rough and smacked DS in the face with a woven placemat. It came close to his eyeball, so I griped at her. She cried. DS came over and said “Mama, you are in trouble. You yelled at my sister and made her sad. That is not okay. You need to say you are sorry.” So they are clearly becoming a team, which makes me equal parts thrilled and terrified.

[k3am]

I am not good at being gimpy. DH is not good at helping unless specifically asked to do something and then gets mad when I do something I shouldn’t. If he even noticed. It was a loooong weekend. Too much pride on my part, too much oblivion on his.

And technically, it is a long weekend for me. I’d planned on a pedi or massage today, but that’s not happening. Today may be the day I break down and get Netflix since I don’t have an interesting book or anything on prime to watch.

[mae0111]

It’s definitely Monday. DH texted me asking me to go buy bandaids because we didn’t have any. I knew we had some. I spent approximately 35 seconds looking in our first-aid basket in the bathroom closet and I found 47 bandaids. FORTY SEVEN. I counted.

I think he opened the closet door, looked from a distance, and decided we didn’t have any. 🙄

[mellym]

k3am, ditto here. DH spent all day Saturday in the basement painting (8am-10pm) except for three hours when I went to a movie with my Mom. I came home to a tornado of a mess in all three play areas because he had let the girls have two neighbor girls come over to play. They dumped every bin out while DH was probably watching baseball with the baby. He then asks me why I don't take it easy as he's heading back down to paint.

Kids were up earlier than usual today and DD1 went into the cupboard to get some cereal on her own. I heard a crash and found her and the entire kitchen covered in spaghetti sauce and glass. She has a cut on her foot but was okay. DH was half an hour late to work from cleaning up the mess.

[rere]

Forgot my celebrate. 2 days of work then off with the family for fall break. We have an obstacle course, shopping dining out planned for the week.

[mustardseed2007]

covergirl82, I don't know that I would raise that with the kid's parents...Maybe what I would say is that if C comes over again, I'd tell her and DD together that they are only allowed to play in DD's bedroom and the common areas of the house.

I'm taking the day off today. I'm planning on taking the kids to a Little Beakers - it'll be our first time. DS keeps not really reacting when I raise it as an outing but he's coming with us (he has off today...federal perks).

This weekend was crazy busy. DS had playdate, birthday party, and soccer game. DD had gymnastics and a soccer game (at 2pm with no shade).

The playdate went awesome. We ended up having lunch with them too and DS had a blast. Also Friday, I received a call from DS' teacher "checking in" and telling me how great DS was doing both socially and academically. It was great!

[supertrooper1]

I worked all weekend. I had mandatory OT scheduled for Saturday, but I was able to get out of it to go to my 91 year old uncle's remembrance. It was nice to see some relatives that live far away and I hadn't seen in a few years.

[xctsclrx]

DH is off today. I am not. He sent the kids to daycare. I am jealous.

[covergirl82]

mustardseed2007, thank you, what you suggested is what I was leaning toward. DH and I also told DD that in the future if she has a friend over and they suggest doing something that doesn't seem right, that she needs to come ask one of us about it/what she should do.

[justcheckingin73]

covergirl82 , I wouldn’t mention anything to the other parents. What I typically do when friends come in to play is I say to my kid - now remember, you’re allowed to play in these areas, or remember you’re not allowed to play in your brother’s room, go into our room, etc.

It was a crazy weekend. DH was supposed to leave Friday for KS for a memorial for his Dad but his flight was cancelled. He was rebooked for 1:50 on Saturday, was delayed a couple of times but finally left.

DD had XC practice and then a hair appointment for homecoming. After that we had some downtime until about 4 when her date (and his dad) picked her up and we followed them to her friends house for pictures. They went to dinner, then the dance and then an afterparty. She had a great time. I’m so jealous of her HS experience so far - being a really shy military brat, I did not have the same experience to say the least!

Sunday was church for DS and I, then a quick run to the store and then again driving DD to her friends house. DH got home around 7 and I was left feeling like I had no weekend. Today I’m tried but don’t feel that bad.

A long vent from the hair place. So I made an online appointment for DD at Ulta. She wanted waves so I chose the style category which was curls or straightening for $30. I told DD to go on Pinterest to find some hairstyles to let the woman know what she wanted. Everything she liked was a 1/2 up braid that came around back. She wasn’t sure about the braid so we told the stylist that she would decide at the end. So, she’s all curled up and asks the stylist if she can see what it would look like. I have no idea why but she went through he whole process of the braid (I thought she might just pull some hair back to show her what it looked like). DD decides she likes it and all is good. So I go up to pay and they’re having some computer issues so there were 4-5 girls up there. I noticed that one of them wrote down updo - $80. Which I questioned. She told me that a braid is considered an updo. WTF?! I never complain and I wasn’t trying to get out of a service, but I was pissed and they knew it. At no point did the stylist tell me that a literal braid that took her no more than 10 minutes would cost $50! The girl said to me, the curls are considered the style and and braid makes it an updo. And honestly, I didn’t think the braid was all that great but DD liked it and I wasn’t going to say otherwise. Thankfully they only charged me $30 and I gave the stylist a $10 tip but I’m still annoyed by it. I would have paid more for the braid but not $50 and the fact that they didn’t tell me that it would add money is so shady to me. I think I’ll be finding a new place for DD to go.

[rere]

Vent. Send help. Someone is reading a strategic plan word for word to the group in a day long meeting. I can read. Which is what I am putting on the feedback.

[2chatter]

justcheckingin73 - everywhere is that crazy for hair, seriously. It makes me nuts. I found a new stylist for me who is super reasonable so I am planning to use her for DD’s homecoming hair as she works for herself and isn’t bound to arbitrary salon standards. Marbles and Dry Bar are equally ridiculous. Aveda was even worse, because the “level” of the stylist increases the price.

Sleepover still going - I lost two kids and two more came over. Just helped DD finish the breakfast tacos because I was hungry and we used an entire dozen eggs. We had no power this morning so I was glad I had worked last night and was all caught up instead of Monday hysterical.

Tomorrow is also a school holiday and it sucks.

DD and I go to Chicago Friday - DH’s trip was cancelled for this week because of the trial verdict, which I think was stupid. So now he’s going next week and will fly back for camping - which leaves me with all the prep (he thinks). He is in reality going to do all the prep this weekend (I will remotely direct this...) We may pass each other in the air on Sunday....

[justcheckingin73]

2chatter , I typically go to Aveda myself but at least they tell me when a service I request will increase the price. It was the lack of communication that really got me. Live and learn! This was my first homecoming and I will be smarter next year

OMG rere. How painful to sit through. 

[186momx]

rere, doodle to stay awake! I feel for you


Weekend was okay. DH got all the baseboards cut yesterday afternoon with lots of handholding from me. I got a good 3 hour nap Saturday which I so needed.
Saw the chiropractor late Friday afternoon and he tried a new treatment on me to loosen my lower back muscles. It worked but it looks like I had a cupping on my stomach go wrong as the instrument he used burned circles onto my stomach. It still hurts today and I'm constantly putting on antibiotic creams.
DD read a ton this weekend. The weather was cold and raining and she was just content to sit curled up with a blanket and read for hours on end. I feel like I need to write an explanation on her reading logs when I put 160 minutes on a Saturday and another huge number on Sunday.

[2chatter]

justcheckingin73 - also watch for “party style” or “special occasion” charges - I can’t remember which places did this but curls down would be the same as an updo - because it was an occasion. Seriously things are way more complicated than when my
Mom took me to the trendy country salon in our small town.

[mae0111]

Oct 8, 2018 13:08:13 GMT -5 2chatter said:

justcheckingin73 - also watch for “party style” or “special occasion” charges - I can’t remember which places did this but curls down would be the same as an updo - because it was an occasion. Seriously things are way more complicated than when my
Mom took me to the trendy country salon in our small town.

I did not tell my stylist that I was in her chair for an updo for my own wedding, because I knew there would be bridal charges. I didn’t wear a veil and didn’t have a bridal party - so just me and my chignon trying to dodge a $50 upcharge.

[waverly]

Kids are off school, so I took off. It’s a pretty day so we should be at the pumpkin patch or something. But instead I checked things off my to do list. Took library books back and got more, did dishes, took all the laundry upstairs and put it away, dropped DH’s car off for scratches repair to the tune of $900. The car he only had for 3 months. Scratches because he was being stupid about the hitch. I think he is also bring dumb getting them fixed because they aren’t that obvious.

Then dropped my title off at the dealership because they forgot to put the bank on it. Traffic was awful so all that took 2 hours to go to 2 car places of course in opposite directions. DH is mostly working from home today.

[sdlaura]

Baby’s daycare provider took off today but the other two kids are in school. I should be using baby’s 2.5 hour nap time to get things done. Instead I’m laying on the couch eating M&Ms and watching Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. Must get motivated....

[k3am]

Oct 8, 2018 16:33:38 GMT -5 sdlaura said:

Baby’s daycare provider took off today but the other two kids are in school. I should be using baby’s 2.5 hour nap time to get things done. Instead I’m laying on the couch eating M&Ms and watching Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. Must get motivated....

Nope. You’re right where you need to be. I thoroughly enjoyed that show.

[mrspez07]

Oct 8, 2018 9:00:33 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

It’s definitely Monday. DH texted me asking me to go buy bandaids because we didn’t have any. I knew we had some. I spent approximately 35 seconds looking in our first-aid basket in the bathroom closet and I found 47 bandaids. FORTY SEVEN. I counted.

I think he opened the closet door, looked from a distance, and decided we didn’t have any. 🙄

That happened here with checks. DH went down and looked in the desk and said we were out. I reordered and went down later, and there were another 6 books, just not in the box he envisioned.

[polecat8]

I spent my Monday getting an endoscopy. It was the best little nap I had in a long time.
I've been having stomach issues (nausea, some pain) for the past 2 months and have been getting a bunch of tests done.
My vent is that the doctors have not found anything to explain my symptoms yet. So far, we have ruled out pancreatitis and ulcers. Next step is to try some acid reflux meds, wait for biopsies to come back to see if I have celiacs, and schedule tests to check my gall bladder function. At this point, I'm so sick of feeling like crap all the time. I haven't been able to exercise in two months because I feel like throwing up when I start bouncing around. I just want some answers and I want them soon!

[mae0111]

Another Monday-ish vent... I slept for 2 very fitful hours last night. I was exhausted, snuggled in, just drifting off... DH started this weird twitching thing he does. He shakes the whole king-sized bed, and startled me awake. I settled, started to drift... TWITCH. Repeat 20 more times until I shook him awake and told him to stop. By then I was wide awake and DH left to sleep in the guest room, so I watched TV for a while and finally drifted off around 4. Alarm at 615.

DH isn’t speaking to me today because I woke him up.

[librarychica]

Oct 8, 2018 16:33:38 GMT -5 sdlaura said:

Baby’s daycare provider took off today but the other two kids are in school. I should be using baby’s 2.5 hour nap time to get things done. Instead I’m laying on the couch eating M&Ms and watching Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. Must get motivated....

I want to see that. How is it?

[mustardseed2007]

I had the worst day off...well actually I guess it could have been worse than it was. About 2 hours of being with my kids at Little Beakers (OMG so fun!!!) and 30 minutes of getting ice cream and 10 hours of being on the phone and on my computer working.

So that was fun.

[librarychica]

Celebrations: I got a ton of yard work done over the weekend. Yard is shaping up!

Vent: My Monday was slammed, myTueaday will be as well, I foresee overtime on Wednesday ...

[mustardseed2007]

We watched Smallfoot on Sunday by the way! Loved it! It was both funny and important.

[k3am]

Monday vent reported on Tuesday... DH finally got more info on the job he supposedly had a verbal for. The guy talked salary, bonus, stock comp, and signing bonus to DH, they were pretty much in agreement, and then he had to get the job posted. DH talked to the recruiter yesterday - not only is the position approved for significantly less than originally discussed, it's actually for less than DH is currently making on all fronts other than stock comp. And we can't pay the mortgage with stock comp with a 3-4 year vest.

DH is still going to follow up with the guy he's been talking to, but it sounds like what originally sounded like a good offer is a no go. (It's big company mentality, but I don't want him working for someone who doesn't know how to navigate the waters of his own organization.)

It did open up DH's eyes and he's probably going to start job shopping in earnest. Best case scenario, he finds a new role, worst case scenario, he decides the grass isn't going to be any greener anywhere else.

[sdlaura]

librarychica, I really liked Marvelous Mrs. Maisel. It’s original and entertaining.