Start sending booze now

[drloretta]

The MIL visits will begin in a little over a month!

Next month my parents are here for at least a week, then S has a big dance competition, then we have ONE DAY to regroup before MIL arrives for Thanksgiving break. She just called to ask if she could stay an extra day since her ride won't be in town until then. God forbid she spend $30 to take a cab home (she even checked on the cost). So 8 days in November

I just heard that work will once again be shut down over the Christmas break (yay). However it will only be 12/24-1/1, a lot shorter than we've had in recent years (boo). And MIL is coming from 12/20-1/3 (double boo). I think this is the 3rd year in a row she has been here over the extent of my holiday break. We tried to get her to go home sooner last year and she wouldn't take the hint.

I've already hit my annual limit of interactions with her

[liveintheville]

We always do thanksgiving with friends. This year both my SILs and their families have decided they want to come. I have no problem with them but the extra 7 people will add to the general chaos. They’ll be 8 kids ages 7 to 11. So high likelihood of kid drama. Plus I don’t know how to cook a bird this big. I wouldn’t count on dinner being on time.

[scm1011]

Again drloretta, you are a (much, much) nicer person than I am because those visits are WAY TOO LONG and I would not be ok with entertaining my annoying MIL over both my holiday breaks. Nope. If you really want her to shorten her visits I think you need to be more direct with her. Or J needs to be more direct with her actually. Is he an only child?

We're doing Thanksgiving at K's grandma's in southern Vermont, so we're just driving up day of, staying in a hotel, and heading home the next day. Much more pleasant than driving to NY to spend 3 days at my in-laws. Christmas we'll stay local and do dinner at my sisters. I'm kind of thrilled how its all working out this year.

[drloretta]

Oct 18, 2018 8:25:01 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Again drloretta , you are a (much, much) nicer person than I am because those visits are WAY TOO LONG and I would not be ok with entertaining my annoying MIL over both my holiday breaks. Nope. If you really want her to shorten her visits I think you need to be more direct with her. Or J needs to be more direct with her actually. Is he an only child?

We're doing Thanksgiving at K's grandma's in southern Vermont, so we're just driving up day of, staying in a hotel, and heading home the next day. Much more pleasant than driving to NY to spend 3 days at my in-laws. Christmas we'll stay local and do dinner at my sisters. I'm kind of thrilled how its all working out this year.

He is. And her mother passed away, and she doesn't get along with half of her sisters. So it is expected that we will step up and host her for the major holidays "so she is not alone". We tried to get her to go home early last year because her BFF has a NYE party every year. She wanted to sit on the sofa and watch CNN with us instead. J didn't want to upset her, so he caved and we had her here for about 10 days last year

So basically to keep the peace we have to have her here, or J will beat himself up that his mom is sitting home alone in her house crying.

[scm1011]

I don't know, if she has sisters and friends it feels pretty manipulative to me to play the "woe is me, i'll be sad and alone" card to get a 10 day visit multiple times a year, but I think I lean towards cold-hearted on these matters lol. I guess just make lots of plans to get out of the house without her! Or drink heavily

[5kcandlesinthewind]

You're a better woman than I am, drloretta , because I would have left his mom on the couch and gone to the NYE party. Without my husband, too, if he wanted to be manipulated by her. Godspeed.

liveintheville , can you get a big-ish bird and then get a turkey breast to supplement? I dunno if it's easier, really, but we always just make a turkey breast and it's great - no cleanup. And it takes no time at all to cook (though we buy a 4 pound one).

My brother invited us to Thanksgiving this year since they finally have a house. We figured we'd end up there either for Thanksgiving or Christmas, but why did it have to be the one with all the good leftovers?

[drloretta]

MIL left this morning! Happy dance!

Oh, DH told her she should come with us to S's dance competition next year. So that will mean we have her for 2 weeks in November and 2 weeks in December. I'm so excited, y'all /sarcasm

Note: He did not discuss this with me. We have barely been alone for a week, but I will let him have it when the opportunity arises

[drloretta]

"Oh, I thought we discussed it. Oh well, my mom will enjoy it."

Sigh

This was not a good visit with her. And she's back in 3 weeks

[scm1011]

Nov 29, 2018 22:55:11 GMT -5 drloretta said:

"Oh, I thought we discussed it. Oh well, my mom will enjoy it."

Sigh

This was not a good visit with her. And she's back in 3 weeks

Girrrrrrrrllll 

[liveintheville]

Nov 28, 2018 15:17:09 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Nov 28, 2018 13:59:31 GMT -5 drloretta said:

MIL left this morning! Happy dance!

Oh, DH told her she should come with us to S's dance competition next year. So that will mean we have her for 2 weeks in November and 2 weeks in December. I'm so excited, y'all /sarcasm

Note: He did not discuss this with me. We have barely been alone for a week, but I will let him have it when the opportunity arises

I'll help you bury the body.

I’m in. And I’ll send booze for the December visit.