Post by traveltheworld on Oct 19, 2018 12:03:47 GMT -5
Got DS’s first progress report from grade 1 and he scored “developing competency" in all areas except one, and that's the lowest "grade" you can get. But all the competencies are stuff like following instructions, keeping desk and area clean, etc., essentially life skills. Nothing remotely related to academics (or even classroom behaviour), so I don't know if I should be concerned or not...
Co-worker update: My boss decided to interfere on other matters with Coworker 1, namely that she refuses to talk to anyone and insists on doing everything over email. I'm not sure why he felt the need to bring it up with her other than he claims he got a client complaint about it. (But it is true - I sit 15 feet away from her - I talk to her maybe a handful of times a week. All of her communication is over email and if I stop by to ask a question, she needs to look into it and follow up.) She out today because she "has a fever" (probably because her feelings are hurt). He asked her to call him at her leisure regarding her vacation request, and she responded back that she's "too ill" for a call.
One of her complaints about our other coworker was that she thinks Coworker 2 hates her. I don't know how to explain to her that the rest of us all feel that way about her. We walk on eggshells around her to try to keep her happy, but we're all pretty convinced she hates working with/for us.
I also think she might be pregnant, and if she is, my guess is she sticks around long enough to get maternity leave covered and quits.
I feel like Nasty McNasterson about the whole situation.
k3am , I feel you. We just went through something at work well not really similar, but it's just hard being a manager and employees with varying personalities.
WP- I need help. I work in a community about 30 minutes from where I live. Where I live a well known librarian was fired and it appears that it is due to her disability. Since we have worked with out HR outsource on being compliant for employees with disabilities I know the law is reasonable accommodation. I think they could have provided that. She basically couldn't walk. So they could have provided or had her insurance provide a wheel chair maybe?
Their director put in writing that staff is not to help her, which I get that staff are not obligated, but it is not unreasonable if someone wants to help her to her car that they aren't allowed to. I get there is liability in someone falling and an employee getting hurt, so their lawyer could have said that. But I know another lady I see in meetings in a wheelchair and a staff member is always sent with her to these meetings to assist her, and they have a small budget as well.
Anyway, she is have a community thrown party and I have been asked to attend. What is the etiquette on this? She will probably say something to me since I am in the field, and she knows that. But since I am in the field I feel I have to stay neutral because my boss knows her boss it's a small world etc. And there could have been something else related to it that the director would use as defense- performance issues, attitude maybe etc. I would have stayed out of the party altogether, but was asked by a close neighbor friend as a favor who does a lot of favors for us.
I don't see myself now ever working for them. They lowball and seem to be cycling through employees due to the lowball and low hours. But it is possible as something to do when I don't need as much money. Also, I have heard that residents are running for the board to try to fire the director. It's a political mess that I am trying to stay out of.
Post by librarychica on Oct 19, 2018 21:01:11 GMT -5
waverly, I would go to the party. I’m a librarian too (though I’ve worked in corporate research so long that maybe I’ve lost my library cred) and I know that especially public ones can be political as hell, but I don’t think there is any real reason to skip the party. Be politely neutral, it doesn’t sound like you know her well enough that you would be involved in any type of suit anyway.
waverly - sort of similar but before a reorganization I was invited to lunch with “the other team”. I took PTO for a work lunch because it was so politically charged. After the reorg a then former colleague invited me to lunch (we were friends) while the “other team” (now my new team) was in town. I declined because if someone saw/mentioned/heard and it passed on it would be a clear communication of “loyalty” - the reorg was hard core factions and drama.
In a normal world I would have gone to lunch. In your world i would go to the party as long as you have an elevator speech about it that CYA “a neighbor invited me and it was great to see XYZ, who I knew in college and now does ...” or whatever. Anything to make it socially plausible and not political.
Tomorrow I get to help chaperone 4th graders on a field trip to the local sports stadium and history museum since another chaperone had to drop out due to strep. DD will be so happy.
DH and I decided to get DD tested for inattentive ADD since all of her teachers were concerned about her inability to get classwork done during class time. It's starting to impact her grades a bit (instead of A's, she is getting B's and C's even though she knows the material). I'm worried that if we don't step in, DD will have a rough time at the middle school next year since the pace will be faster and there will not be any recess to use for catch-up work. I've already talked to the pediatrician and she is sending Vanderbilt surveys for her teachers and DH and I to complete. DH and I plan on giving the surveys to the teachers at the parent/teacher conference in early November. I guess we should stop by and let the guidance counselor know too. Then we'll take DD to the pedi at the end of November to discuss the results. Has anyone dealt with this and have any tips or resources for dealing with this? We are in a public school, if that makes a difference.
polecat8 I just saw this. Yes, I have a lot of experience with ADHD (and more). Vanderbilt is a screening tool, rather than diagnostic IMO. It should be used to take the temperature, so to speak. “Does this child need a stronger test or a referral? Is their medication effective?” The next step after that would most likely be a referral to a psychologist, psychiatrist, neuropsychologist, developmental pediatrician, or neurologist for further evaluation and treatment. They will probably do a longer questionnaire, likely either BASC or Connors, or possibly Vineland which is more common if ASD is suspected. Instead of around 20 questions like Vandy, they’ll have around 100 questions for parents and 100 for teachers, and the results will indicate possible problems like ADHD (and likely subtype), anxiety, ODD, conduct disorder, etc.
From there it just depends. They may recommend behavior therapy of some kind before trialing meds. They may suggest both. Most of the time it is better to have a psychiatrist, neurologist, or developmental pediatrician trial meds. That has not been the case for us (can’t get a psychiatrist and the neurologist was garbage whereas our pediatrician has a lot of experience with meds as most of the time on Medicaid the pedi is the specialist. But our pedi has been phenomenal and we are finally at a really good place. (But DD is a special case with multiple issues that exacerbate one another.)