Fri-YAY / Weekend plans / Etc.

[covergirl82]

I'm ready for the weekend, how about you? What do you have going on?

[waverly]

I am kind of getting nervous about this weekend. DD has a 4 hour birthday party that is swimming plus gym. I think swimming is first. Then I have to get her out get her dressed and over the gym part and then go to another party same location. Which is the political mess party that I was trying to avoid until friend below guilted me into going.

Then Sunday I work, and have a friend taking DD to girl scouts for the first time. It is the first time someone else is driving her besides Grandparents, bus or daycare. The friend is very reliable. Good safe driver- very responsible, but I know I will be worried about her going for the first time with the troop. And I am extremely proud, so I really don't like asking people for favors, but I know I need to get over that. But I am still very proud, but I have to ask and ignore my pride which is so hard for me. Gah why am I so prideful? I know from this board I need to outsource everything. It took a while to get over my pride to get a housecleaner, which I ended up loving my housecleaner when I had them.


People say asking for help assists with relationships but seriously I hate asking for help from anyone but DH and maybe my mom.    

[covergirl82]

I am not waiting up for 11:00 pm when the Mega Millions numbers are drawn, so I'll have to wait until tomorrow morning to find out if I'm a millionaire.

Tomorrow DS has his last football. Looks like it will be cold (upper 40s) and there's a chance of rain, so it's not going to be pleasant for those watching. Later on we're going to a fundraiser dinner at our church. At some point during the day, I need to do some picking up around the house because our church small group is coming over on Sunday and my house is not prepared for little kids.

Sunday is church and I get to teach the kids' class (which I do once a month after the director begged me to because she was low on volunteers) and then I have to take DD to a birthday party in the afternoon. Then we have our small group from church coming to our house in the early evening.

Random... I am taking next Thursday through Monday off, plus Halloween, and I'm so excited to have some time away from work (we just wrapped up our really busy time), and I don't have much planned, so I plan to hang out on the couch and watch TV or read for hours.

[twinmomma]

I'm kid free this weekend. I'm simultaneously happy about it, because there is so much to do around the house and feeling bummed because I didn't get any time with them this week due to my work trip.

Tonight I'm going to a parents' night out, tomorrow grabbing dinner with my sister in laws. I don't want to lose my relationship with them when I'm no longer "related" so I'm glad we're getting together. In between, I'm doing laundry, groceries, and a ton of yard work. My shrubs and lawn are a hot mess and we keep getting frosts so I need to do a final clean up before it's too late and snow flies.

[rere]

 

Tonight, we are supposed to go to the homecoming football game, but now it is overcast and starting to rain, so that may be out.

Tomorrow DD and I are going to an apple festival and eating all the things and looking at crafts. DH and DS are hunting. I am going with a group of friends to an adult Halloween party where we are doing very inappropriate costumes. No showing of body parts, just inappropriate theme. DH is meeting me there.

Sunday, DS and I are visiting an pioneer village open house while DH and DS are again hunting. I am glad she is up for these things.

[shakinros]

It’s my birthday this weekend! We’re going to NYC to see Harry Potter on Broadway with my bestie and her partner. DD is staying with the in-laws. I bought these tickets over a year ago and it’s finally here!!!

Oh and sign me up to be a Mega Millions winner tonight. Second prize would be fine. Doesn’t have to be jackpot.

[mommyatty]

Today was Homecoming at the kids’ school. I missed the parade this morning because of work. We aren’t going to the football game because it’s raining and cold for here. Like in the 50s.

DD has to cheer at a football game tomorrow, and it’s not at her school because her school won’t like 1st grade football players tear up the wet lacrosse and field hockey fields. As a tuition-paying parent, I support their stance. Then after the game, I’m supposed to go to a party at a subordinate’s house. There is a butterfly thing going on in his town that sounds really fun, but again, cold and rainy. Blech.

Sunday is open. I need to go search for a dress for a dinner I have in DC next week. And I have no idea of the dress code, so that’s fun.

[librarychica]

Oct 19, 2018 17:04:18 GMT -5 shakinros said:

It’s my birthday this weekend! We’re going to NYC to see Harry Potter on Broadway with my bestie and her partner. DD is staying with the in-laws. I bought these tickets over a year ago and it’s finally here!!!

Oh and sign me up to be a Mega Millions winner tonight. Second prize would be fine. Doesn’t have to be jackpot.

Happy birthday! Enjoy the show!

[librarychica]

I wrapped up my day of rental-wrangling by meeting my best friend for a quick coffee. That was a pick me up and I feel a little better. Then I got the kids and we indulged in an evening of pb&j canned soup, unlimited TV and wine for me. A Friday indulgence.

Tomorrow DD1 is going to a birthday party— the first one at her new school. H will take her while DD2 and I go see a kid play. Sunday we are going to an Octoberfest with dachshund races. It’s Octoberfest Light: the family version, but I am hoping for a beer and a decent soft pretzel before H flies out for a week or so.

[k3am]

So DDs teacher let us know that DD is “defiant” during writers workshop and she can’t figure out why. I asked DD a few times and she just says “I don’t know what to write.”

She came home with a paper written by a friend. DD can’t do that. Tried to get her to write something and it’s a full on meltdown because she doesn’t know how to write the words she wants.

I’m kind of shocked that I need to explain to her teacher that DD isn’t defiant, she’s just irrationally upset she doesn’t know how to do what (at least a few) other kids do.

[librarychica]

k3am is she in k or first?

Idk. I’m not easily bugged but this would bug me. Defiant is an awful strong word to be throwing around. Is she unsure how to spell the words? Or struggling with what to say?

[k3am]

Oct 19, 2018 21:19:50 GMT -5 librarychica said:

k3am is she in k or first?

Idk. I’m not easily bugged but this would bug me. Defiant is an awful strong word to be throwing around. Is she unsure how to spell the words? Or struggling with what to say?

Kinder. She’s knows the words she wants to use but is still struggling to figure out what letters to use. And terrified of messing them up.

I can to some extent see where she might be getting defiant - lots of “I don’t want to!” And “I’m not going to!” type stuff. But as soon as I take it another step and ask why not, she doesn’t hesitate to say it’s because she can’t or doesn’t want to mess up. (So in my book, not defiant. But I’m not in the classroom, so maybe she sees something different.)

[akafred]

DH took DD to visit his mom on Thursday, and they are coming home around 5:30. I am going to a movie at noon (“A Star Is Born”), then to the grocery, then cooking dinner and baking a pie. Mostly as a bribe to DD since she didn’t want to come home today and I could tell DH was annoyed on the phone. I need to stop that! Trying to rescue him from her big feelings is not doing either of them any favors, but he just get so out of joint over it. Sigh.

Tomorrow I may take DD skating or to see “First Man”, depending on how much exercise she needs. Problem is she needs skates. Wonder if Play It Again has any good quads in her size.

[sandandsea]

Oct 19, 2018 22:58:16 GMT -5 k3am said:

Oct 19, 2018 21:19:50 GMT -5 librarychica said:

k3am is she in k or first?

Idk. I’m not easily bugged but this would bug me. Defiant is an awful strong word to be throwing around. Is she unsure how to spell the words? Or struggling with what to say?

Kinder. She’s knows the words she wants to use but is still struggling to figure out what letters to use. And terrified of messing them up.

I can to some extent see where she might be getting defiant - lots of “I don’t want to!” And “I’m not going to!” type stuff. But as soon as I take it another step and ask why not, she doesn’t hesitate to say it’s because she can’t or doesn’t want to mess up. (So in my book, not defiant. But I’m not in the classroom, so maybe she sees something different.)

We had this at the beginning of K too. He still doesn’t want other kids to look at his stuff because he thinks they’ll laugh at him for not spelling something correctly. They don’t even do spelling so no one cares about spelling, except him. The first month of K, ds scribble scrabbled and just wrote wavy lines on the page instead of trying. Because you can’t fail if you don’t try. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️. Thankfully with a lot of encouragement from his teacher and patience and kindness he turned it around.

[mae0111]

Friday we were supposed to go to a 3rd grade parents' night out for the new school, but a combo of no sitter and pure exhaustion caused us to bail. After school I met another mom and her kids for a play date at a playground near school. DD2 could barely stand up by the time we were done - sign of a good time!

Saturday was soccer and a birthday party in our neighborhood. We all went together, which was different - normally DH doesn't go to any of this stuff. But it's a great family and he gets on well with the dad. The dad works all the time (12-14 hour days, 6-7 days a week), so we never get together with the whole family.

Today we are working on school projects - decorating pumpkins as a character from a book. DD1 is making Harry Potter and DD2 is making Shimmer. DD2's looks great so far. I'm so un-crafty, so I'm really hoping we can pull this off. And then football!!!

[divanerd]

We had my son's party yesterday plus soccer..his birthday is tomorrow. Today I'm relaxing off tomorrow life's good right now

[freezorburn]

My weekend really starts today since DS's dad weekend got shifted back a day. So I am catching up on chores, car repairs, PTA committee stuff, other household management stuff. Then we are jointly taking DS to a birthday party in the afternoon. Evolved from a drop-off situation to us both being there, because of an incident that happened at school last week that leads us to be intensely parenting at the moment. I will maybe tell you all about it when I'm not so exhausted.

[mommyatty]

freezorburn , I’m sorry there was a school situation, but I’m glad to hear you guys can co-parent effectively in a stressful situation.

Yesterday -after a very wet and cold morning that we sat out in while DD cheered for 6 year old flag football players- turned out to be beautiful. We went to my employee’s party and had fun. Today is equally beautiful, so we went to buy pumpkins and carved our jack o’lanterns. I loved being out in the sunshine.

Now I have black bean green chili enchiladas in the oven for an early dinner. DH is making guacamole, and we will have refrained beans and rice on the side of our enchiladas. All in all, it has been a really nice weekend.

[waverly]

Your weather sounds better than here. Today was beautiful but yesterday it was super windy for soccer. Then it snowed! It didn’t stick but still.

Yesterday’s birthday party was a bit odd. Someone dropped their 5 year old off for a pool party. The other school mom helped him but she didn’t know him and he didn’t appear to be a relative of the birthday boy. I think he had a floaty but still. Then the School mom had to help with with the bathroom I think just finding it and his clothes were back in the gym so he just left swim shorts on a sweatshirt. It was chilly in there but he seemed fine. We looked after him but it seemed a bit young for a drop off for a pool party. If it didn’t involve floaties and changing and multiple rooms at a big place it would have been more understandable.

Today I had to work and cub scouts and Girl Scouts. Neighbor took DD to Girl Scouts and that seemed to work out really well.

[mellym]

Oct 19, 2018 14:15:25 GMT -5 waverly said:

And I am extremely proud, so I really don't like asking people for favors, but I know I need to get over that. But I am still very proud, but I have to ask and ignore my pride which is so hard for me. Gah why am I so prideful? I know from this board I need to outsource everything. It took a while to get over my pride to get a housecleaner, which I ended up loving my housecleaner when I had them.


People say asking for help assists with relationships but seriously I hate asking for help from anyone but DH and maybe my mom.    

waverly, I can relate. I would rather stay up late or make my schedule as insane as possible before asking anyone for help. I know it would help to let people in but it is so hard on me when they say no or want to do it a different way.

[waverly]

mellym, it worked out. She is my neighbor, and we've known them for 5 years. She is always there for us when we need them. They are sometimes a bit over the top and want everything their way, but whenever we truly need something they are the first to stand up. She bought a bigger car, and has been carpooling since pre-school because pre-school was half day 3 days a week, and the moms work, so they took turns picking up and taking the kids to daycare after pre-school. So I figured she would be good with it.

I think I am slowly getting over my pride but only because I have been forced. Like I resisted a housecleaner when I had babies because of pride. I mean who does that? I gave in, and was so glad I did because I was losing my mind keeping up with everything.