Dear DH - I'm very much looking forward to our weekend away. But stop saying that this weekend is for me. You keep asking me what I want to do, and when I tell you, you make a face and say that "it wasn't what you had in mind." Museum? Sourpuss. Huge awesome comedy show in town that weekend? *Sigh* "Is that REALLY what you want to do???" (Yes. Yes it is what I really want to do.)
So, if you have something in mind, use your big boy words and tell me, and make the freaking plans. Love, Wifey who is to tired of planning our very lame social life
Dear basketball people- Suck it. I hope you don't find a coach, and one of you guys has to do double duty with that mess of a team you pulled together. But at least I got to hold up your sh!tty behavior to my kids as an example of how not to act as an adult and a role model. Yay for teachable moments. Bitter and angry
I hope you have an awesome time on your trip. I hope you didn't forget anything, I hope your dress clothes don't get wrinkled because your ironing is not on point, I hope you have a fabulous time at the concert. Don't follow people doing stupid things. We will miss you.
Love Mom.
Dear work,
Why does everything have to fall in the same week? Out until 9 PM Monday, start at 6:30 AM tomorrow. At least I am now not working Friday.
Signed, wish I was in charge of scheduling everyone's events.
Dear DH When I ask how you are so I can tell all the people who are asking me and you tell me "I'm fine nothing is different" I was shocked. When I asked if there was going to be a service or memorial again because I'm being asked and you say "no it is over" I just stared at you. Your Facebook post said you lost your best friend. If I had lost my best friend I would be a wreck. I believe you are in denial of your dad's passing and now I'm waiting for you to meltdown at some point. Worried Wife
Dear DD I'm so proud of how hard you are working at gymnastics. Could you maybe try and put that much energy into school too? I know everything is boring and a repeat of 1st but there has to be something new and exciting for you to learn. Mom
Post by covergirl82 on Oct 24, 2018 11:11:52 GMT -5
mae0111, I'm also hoping from across the internet that the coaches now have to deal with the sucky team they put together. As Shakespeare would say, they are "hoist by their own petard" (i.e., reaping the consequences of their decisions).
Dear DH- I just spent all of yesterday purging. Yes I might have thrown away a bunch of cords. Pretty sure they go to nothing, but if they go to something you can just buy new ones. You love amazon and tons of orders come in all the time. 20s buck you don't notice at all though. I might have also gotten rid of one of your books, but I think you might not notice that one either.
The house looks great, so don't f up the kitchen on Thursday opening all the packages. Recycle and plastic bags go under the sink don't just lay them somewhere that I am supposed to guess might be a recycle pile.
The house is starting to look better, but we still need to figure out the playroom. It's just never reached it's true potential. Also tell me you called the shade store to get the boxes needed for repair, and that you booked the tile guy, and booked leaf removal service. Oh and stop being melancholy about your job. Cannot listen to more of that.
waverly - what is it with men and their cords? We have THREE storage containers full of them. Because "you'll never know when you need one." In the last 11 years, I'm pretty sure he's needed... one. Maybe. Like.. we DON'T need cable wire for the TV's because we don't have cable. And if we decide to get cable down the road? Comcast gives that stuff away like it's candy on Halloween.
But maybe I'm wrong. Maybe one day, someone will break into our house, I'll apprehend the criminals, and in lieu of rope, I'll use the endless amounts of CAT5 and cable wire we have stored away and get my 15 minutes of fame. I actually think that's THE most likely scenario that these boxes of cables get used.
I've got the giant Rubbermaid tote of random cords and plugs too. The worst is DH isn't tech anything so why do we have to keep the cords. I did toss out a bunch the last time he went off on a paintball weekend.
Dear Weather Can you just rain. The foggy gray low pressure is killing my head and I'm so freaking tired. If we have to have the gray then lets have some rain so I don't have to water the plants. OK Me
Isn’t your H on the spectrum? If so, it really could be that he doesn't feel what neurotypical folks feel, and that his Facebook post is him mirroring what he thinks you’re supposed to do when your parent dies and you are on Facebook. And you’re right that there’s a good chance at some point in the future something is going to make this all come crashing down.
I honestly don’t know how folks deal with being married to folks on the spectrum. We have quite a few in my family, and their interpersonal skills/relationships are just so difficult. So bless you. That’s a hard road. I’m grateful to those who love my relatives, but at the same time I just sit back in awe of their well of compassion.
MommyAtty who has spent way too much time pondering your H’s reaction to his dad’s passing
Dear Employee:
If you don’t answer the email I sent you, I am contemplating firing you. Honest to God.
mommyatty, He has never been tested. I believe he is on spectrum and so do long term family friends who have known him his whole life. His parents refused to let him be tested as a child but he spent his elementary age years in today's life skills class. He said his peers where kids who were in wheelchairs and didn't speak. I found this out when DD was 9 months old. When I married DH I thought he was just a really big introvert. Each marriage therapist we've seen has basically told me it takes him 3 times longer to process stuff. I've asked numerous times for him to go through the testing process but he has refused because he doesn't want to admit something is wrong with him. I got some sage advice from a parent last night at gym who saw that I was upset and she has dealt with people on spectrum and said that he is dealing the only way he knows how which is to act like nothing has changed and I just need to leave him alone and not push. Out of Patience 186momx
Dear DH Happy 38th B-day. I know you will ignore the b-day text I sent to you as soon as I got up and will be cranky tonight while DD and I try to celebrate it, but we will do it anyways Happy B-day Wife
I’m almost glad you want to coach DD and DS in machine pitch baseball and tee ball, respectively. But, um, you are absolutely not buying a machine that pitches baseballs!
Signed, Woman with 12 Tee Ball Tees in a closet in her house because you didn’t want them in the garage
186momx, Have you been to individual therapist that might specialize on how to deal with spouses on the spectrum? I don't even know if something like that exist, but it might help.
You have only ever gotten me a birthday gift when either a) we have been fighting or b) you have been out of town for my birthday. So 2 total in the 10 years we have been together. Now you tell me you got me a birthday gift. Are we in a fight that I don't know about?
Signed,
Really excited about this bday gift! even if it will be late.
I’m almost glad you want to coach DD and DS in machine pitch baseball and tee ball, respectively. But, um, you are absolutely not buying a machine that pitches baseballs!
Signed, Woman with 12 Tee Ball Tees in a closet in her house because you didn’t want them in the garage
Dear work, It's Sunday night and I just made a 2 page word document of a to-do list, based solely on emails and voicemails. Can I just go off the grid for a little while so I can actually start checking some things off instead of just adding to it? I am currently drowning. Not treading water, not keeping my head above water. Completely drowning. Thanks, Overwhelmed