Post by supertrooper1 on Oct 29, 2018 8:52:27 GMT -5
Today is my Friday finally. Between being sick, operations at work that required a lot of physical labor, overtime, and firearms training, I'm ready for two days off.
I just got a call from someone I manage that the person I talked to about micro managing thinks she is doing nothing wrong, and is mad people came to me and that I talked to her with the boss.
She is doing all of her micro managing for the common good, and therefore everyone needs to accept and get over it and only deal with her on it. And apparently the common good involves making other people feel crappy and debating with them on everything. Like the person tried to tell her again, and she debated with her on it instead of listening (again).
Also she feels that she can't work with any of them and isn't over it even though it has been 3 weeks now. But she isn't micro managing as much, so I guess her behavior has changed, but her attitude is such that she was wronged/ angry and the other people had nothing wrong done to them even though she has made numerous comments to them.
I have to attend a conference this week, and my plane home is scheduled to land at 5:00 on Halloween. During thunderstorms at DFW, which means delays out the wazoo. So if there’s trick or treating, odds are good I’m missing it.
Plus today I have TWO meetings with our Executive Team. Shit. I hate those. They make me a nervous wreck.
It was an ok weekend. On Friday, we went to a campfire at a local farm and enjoyed a hay ride and some smores. Soccer games were cancelled on Saturday since the field was a giant puddle. Then we heard about the synagogue shootings, which happened about 15 miles from my house. My city is in shock and trying to understand how this happened here. I never thought it could happen here. The scary part is that the shooter was from a suburb very close to us. I spent the rest of the weekend trying to shield the kids from too much news coverage while trying to get information. And then there were the tweets from Trump about how the synagogue should have had better security. That made me angry. Everyone has the right to worship without threat to safety. I am proud of our mayor for standing up to Trump's ignorance. I am also proud of my city for coming together in grief so that we may help each other through our pain.
On Sunday, I took the kids to the grocery store while DH went to a painting class. After dinner, we carved pumpkins and then watched cartoons together.
Had a good weekend with the girls. It was really relaxing and they helped me clean up their playroom and the rest of the house. They crack me up with cleaning and chores. They HATE actually picking stuff up and putting it away, but fight over who gets to sweep/vacuum/mop. I can't get them to understand that if the floor is carpeted in toys, none of those other "fun" chores can happen...
STBXH is having a hissy fit over a scheduling conflict. He wanted to trade weekends with me coming up, but I already have plans. Very set in stone, cannot be moved because it's an event that I'm attending plans. So every chance he gets he's been making snippy comments about how "This would all just be so much easier if we can help each other out" or, while working on the custody plan with the coach last week, something about how "well, she can't be flexible because she books things months in advance." Literally any other weekend I would trade. I even offered up other dates. But he also has an event he wants to attend and is mad that I won't "let him." This is what being a grown up is all about dude. Find a babysitter. It's your weekend. Don't make plans when you know exactly what weekends you have the kids vs. when you don't. And then he pulls the "This is exactly why we're getting divorced" card and starts fighting with me. I just cannot wrap my head around his complete inability to plan anything effectively in his life.
Good weekend. Old McDonald and the farm won 1st place in the costume contest. I just got in too late Saturday night and am still tired today.
I am texting back and forth with DD's principle about moving trunk or treat in the school gym Wednesday since it is supposed to rain. Kids usually do a round of trunk or treat then up and down the main street of our little town. Hopefully we can pull something together. This is probably her last year of trick or treating.
Vent. DH went on a health kick about 9 years ago and lost 30 pounds which stopped his snoring. He is still in pretty good shape, but lately the snoring has returned. So my nights are spend rolling him from his back to his side all night.
polecat8, thinking about all of those lost this weekend. Something has to be done. This can't keep going on over and over. People don't even bat an eye anymore it is so common.
Had a good weekend with the girls. It was really relaxing and they helped me clean up their playroom and the rest of the house. They crack me up with cleaning and chores. They HATE actually picking stuff up and putting it away, but fight over who gets to sweep/vacuum/mop. I can't get them to understand that if the floor is carpeted in toys, none of those other "fun" chores can happen...
STBXH is having a hissy fit over a scheduling conflict. He wanted to trade weekends with me coming up, but I already have plans. Very set in stone, cannot be moved because it's an event that I'm attending plans. So every chance he gets he's been making snippy comments about how "This would all just be so much easier if we can help each other out" or, while working on the custody plan with the coach last week, something about how "well, she can't be flexible because she books things months in advance." Literally any other weekend I would trade. I even offered up other dates. But he also has an event he wants to attend and is mad that I won't "let him." This is what being a grown up is all about dude. Find a babysitter. It's your weekend. Don't make plans when you know exactly what weekends you have the kids vs. when you don't. And then he pulls the "This is exactly why we're getting divorced" card and starts fighting with me. I just cannot wrap my head around his complete inability to plan anything effectively in his life.
Yeah it is why you are getting divorced. Because he is selfish and wants everything his way. And you were supposed to watch the girls 24/7 so he could live his carefree life. Ha jokes on you STBXH now you will have more responsibility and twinmomma isn't going to do everything for you anymore.
Dh was super irritable this weekend. He kept getting irritated with me for no reason, then I would get irritated with him. Then I would have the you are driving me crazy conversation, and it would get better. And then the next day repeat with his irritability with me, then me get irritated that he is being irritable then bring it out in the open and we laugh, but seriously dude! I am ready for you to travel this week (or go to a retreat lol).
Had fun with my mom getting to see DS's soccer game, then trick or treating and then we took the kids roller skating for the first time. DS did terrible as you can imagine, but also way better than ice skating. We tightened his skated up twice, and then he could at least stay on his feet all the way around the rink (holding on). He fell getting to the bench and was like I am done. Not sure if lessons would help him or not. Probably I guess... But his balance around anything with wheels is just sooo bad.
Post by covergirl82 on Oct 29, 2018 9:58:30 GMT -5
It was a pretty good weekend. Saturday we got pumpkins, then I took DD to open gym, and then we had a quiet, relaxing the rest of the day. Sunday DH and DS went to an NFL football game (an annual tradition), so DD and I had a fun day going to Dave and Buster's, Barnes & Noble, and then the harvest party at our church. But after we got home from the party, DD said she didn't feel well, and sure enough, when I took her temp it was 100/101. I'm home with her today, but I had already planned to take the day off, so it didn't impact my day too much. Her temp is down in the 99 range now, so I think the day of rest will be good and she should be able to go to school tomorrow. Hopefully DS stays healthy, though.
My week's going to suck for actually getting work done.. We have parent teacher conferences today, Halloween Wednesday (two parades plus leaving a bit early for TOT), working from home two days, and Thursday, I need a couple hours to get this stinky/itchy cast off. And I'm sure after that, I'm going to use all the water in California for the world's longest shower.
Weekend was good. No soccer Sat due to weather, so DH and I took DD2 to my parents' for a visit while DD1 was at a friend's house. Sunday was pumpkin decorating, DH fixing a ton of broken stuff, me washing ALL THE CLOTHES, a walk with DD1.
Vent: DH can't seem to pick up any slack if I'm temporarily unavailable. Last night, I got the kids their dinner, then went to take a shower. Rather than keep the train moving, DH played on his phone and watched TV until I came out and asked why no one had finished dinner (an hour later) or gotten into the shower. He was like a deer in the headlights. It's a new trend lately, and I don't like it.
k3am, that went fast in my mind. I am sure slow in your world. DH still refuses to get his hand x-rayed. So far I have tried the you should get it X-rayed to My physical therapist told me there could be problems to if you don't it will be too late to get it healed right. He still maintains it is a sprain.
Post by librarychica on Oct 29, 2018 11:32:00 GMT -5
Our weekend was good. One day of all-day fun and one day of cleaning and laundry. It is the rare Monday that finds me with a clean house and folded laundry.
That said, I woke up at 4AM for no apparent reason and like k3am I am looking at a week with too many non-work commitments.
We had an impromptu girls weekend. Friday after taking DD to school I had a "me day". I went back to bed slept for a couple more hours, watched a chick flick on TV, and just had a lazy day. Picked DD up from school and talked to both her teacher and counselor about getting her tested into the TAG program. Neither knew anything about it so were going to look into it. DH finally texted me about 4 saying he decided he was going to go over to his dad's place after all. DD and I had a quick dinner out and then meet her friend at a Halloween party before we went to open gym. DD was pretty annoyed at her friend because she wouldn't talk with her and just wanted to get candy and not socialize.
Saturday DD and I had another lazy day. We piled up leaves and then had multiple leaf fights which was a blast before we went out for dinner and shopping. It was a really nice day. Sunday we went out to the farm and wandered around. The pumpkins were pretty yuck but we did wander the patch and go through the corn maze.
DH got home about 5 on Sunday. It was a wasted trip as he had no way of getting into the house to get what he wanted and the neighbor who had a key wasn't home. I was pretty annoyed and after he talked to his mom he will be going back over as she guilt tripped him into helping her clean out the house and do a bunch of repairs. His parents were in the process of getting a divorce and not being very civil with each other and alienated DH and his brother more than they already had. DH hasn't seen his mom in over 2 years and maybe has texted a dozen. She didn't even wish him happy birthday last week. So frustrating!
Had a great weekend. Friday I left a little early and took DD to see the Goosebumps movie. Saturday she took herself to the ‘hood Halloween patty and then we had some neighbors over and had a fire outside and watched “The Greatest Showman” with our projector. Sunday we had a play date/babysat a classmate and I took them to the trampoline park. They only fell out once, which is good for these two 🙄. Worked a couple hours and solved a big problem that has been bugging me for weeks.
I’m really annoyed at work right now. My sr mgr keeps blowing me off and it is really annoying. This morning I needed to ask him if his tentative plans for the Habitat build were solid or not because I need to schedule a meeting for that day. The day before at noon is when everyone is supposed to give me their slides, so I don’t like committing to have the presentation that afternoon because I may still be chasing people and/or not have time to compile and format it all. And the following week he is on vacation all week so it can’t wait. By the way, I published the schedule saying when the review would be weeks ago, before the Habitat build was scheduled. He stood and chit chatted with someone for 20 minutes. I waited for him to be done and tried to grab him on his way to his desk, but he said he has to see the VP. Left the VPs office and went straight back to his desk. Tried to grab him before he left to go to the other building, but he blew me off again. So I scheduled the meeting for Friday with a note why, and he sent a passive aggressive reply about GUESSING he won’t be able to do the Habitat build.
Awesome. So now I have annoyed him twice trying to get his attention, made the wrong decision out of two sucky choices, and made him mad. I know he is stressed as the director is gone but this is super important. I feel critically unsupported and also like I am always pissing him off.
Total Random: DD's Halloween costume that we bought in September doesn't fit. It has capped sleeves and when she put it on Friday night it was so tight in her arms that it was cutting off the feeling to her fingers. I've been trying to stretch the elastic all weekend. It was fine when we got it mid September and is big on her in every other aspect so a outfit she could get multiple years of wear out of possible. Guess she really got some muscles with all the conditioning she has done at the gym this month.
186momx, This is why I don't buy ahead. Both their costumes are tightish on them, but they can still fit into them. I have started buying the biggest size for DS since the tendency is for him to fit his sports outfits at the beginning and at the end of the season they are like belly shirts and he has to suck in his stomach to get the pants closed. He is going to be tall!
waverly, I just find it funny that she developed that much arm muscle in a month. The outfit is still huge everywhere else just tight on her arms. Hoping I get it stretched out enough to work for her quick 20 minutes of ToTing.
Every time DD I think DD will need to move up size in leotard she has a growth spurt and gets skinny so her leotard goes back to being baggy. She has been in the child small for the last 3 years. I have the next size up when she finally needs it. Right now I can't seem to find her shirts that fit. They are all super wide and super short but I go up a size and they just get wider not longer. The challenges of having a skinny kid, I guess.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Oct 29, 2018 21:58:21 GMT -5
polecat8 , I'm so sorry you are in the midst of this. I'm so tired and angry about all of it.
twinmomma , reading your post made me so angry on your behalf! If I remember correctly, your STBXMIL babysat for you guys right? Why doesn't he call her??
The weekend was kind of a blur. The kids spent the night with my ILs while I competed in my first half ironman. They had to cancel the swim because of flooding in the area, which created a dangerous current, but the rest of the race happened. It was so so hard, but I finished it and I did really well. I met or exceeded all of my expectations! But I'm toying with the idea of doing one more because of the no swim...it's not really a triathlon with one of the sports missing.
The Friday before we went out of town DS went to a halloween party and won a costume contest and DD had her fall carnival. DS lost a tooth and the tooth fairy came to my ILs house the next morning.
After we got back into town today I picked the kids up from school and we went to the local pumpkin patch and picked out a couple pumpkins before I took DS to karate.
This week is going to be so so rough. Tomorrow DD has her eval with the speech therapist, Wednesday is Halloween, Thursday DS was invited to his best friend's birthday party (really? Thursday at 4:30?) and Friday we have DD's parent teacher conference. So basically...I'm not working a full day this week. I'm going to be bringing a lot of work home with me
Post by traveltheworld on Oct 29, 2018 22:09:30 GMT -5
Our weekend was good. DS went to his friend's house for a halloween party. I brought the mom a nice bottle of wine - I can't believe she hosted 12 screaming, hyper 6 year olds. I then went to a Stella and dot party with a few of the other moms. It was sort of the first time I've been "out" with people outside of work or my book club since we moved here. It was nice.
Sunday we just chilled and I caught up on work. I'm hoping work will slow down after this week. I could really use some time off.
Post by sandandsea on Oct 29, 2018 23:49:00 GMT -5
DS2 had his audiology appt this morning and ENT follow up tomorrow. I’m guessing they’ll recommend tubes as this is the follow up appt and he’s had two ear infections since his first appt 2 months ago and 3 ear infections in the last 3 months.
We carved a pumpkin tonight and I made myself cupcakes.
I’m taking wed off for my bday and to volunteer in ds1s class. Then I’m going to brunch with some other moms and picking ds1 up from early out. We have our parent teacher conference at 5 on Wednesday then will eat and TOT.
Thursday will suck and Friday DH leaves for a work trip to Israel for a week so I’ll be flying solo. So basically by next weekend I’m going to be running on fumes. I’m tired already.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Oct 30, 2018 9:38:22 GMT -5
The weekend was a blur. DH painted the ceilings in our living room, hallway and office area since the painters couldn’t get out here until mid-November. We got everything from the POD back into the house and all of the kitchen items put away but it’s still a mess from remodeling. Hoping to have everything mostly put back together next weekend. The worst part of moving everything back in was that we were invaded by stink bugs this summer and they were crawling all over our furniture. If we didn’t just spend a ton of money on the remodel, I’d be buying new furniture. Hopefully next spring we can do it. They are getting really run down and next to freshly painted walls and a new floor, they look pretty worn.
Does anyone have experience with tics? My son developed one (neck stretching) before school started which has gone away but it had been replaced by 3-4 others. He clears his throat, sometimes also does a neck bobbing, opens his eyes wide and added another vocal tic yesterday. I took him to the dr when he had the neck stretching but he said it was just a tic and it would go away. Now that he’s developed several more I’m getting nervous. But everything I’ve read says it’s normal (as far as tics go) and a Tourette’s diagnosis would come after a year of continuous tics. Not sure if I should make another appointment or wait it out.
The weekend was a blur. DH painted the ceilings in our living room, hallway and office area since the painters couldn’t get out here until mid-November. We got everything from the POD back into the house and all of the kitchen items put away but it’s still a mess from remodeling. Hoping to have everything mostly put back together next weekend. The worst part of moving everything back in was that we were invaded by stink bugs this summer and they were crawling all over our furniture. If we didn’t just spend a ton of money on the remodel, I’d be buying new furniture. Hopefully next spring we can do it. They are getting really run down and next to freshly painted walls and a new floor, they look pretty worn.
Does anyone have experience with tics? My son developed one (neck stretching) before school started which has gone away but it had been replaced by 3-4 others. He clears his throat, sometimes also does a neck bobbing, opens his eyes wide and added another vocal tic yesterday. I took him to the dr when he had the neck stretching but he said it was just a tic and it would go away. Now that he’s developed several more I’m getting nervous. But everything I’ve read says it’s normal (as far as tics go) and a Tourette’s diagnosis would come after a year of continuous tics. Not sure if I should make another appointment or wait it out.
No other tics, but DS had the throat clearing thing twice. Both times it meant he had strep throat. Also with PANDAS I might want to double check for strep.
The weekend was a blur. DH painted the ceilings in our living room, hallway and office area since the painters couldn’t get out here until mid-November. We got everything from the POD back into the house and all of the kitchen items put away but it’s still a mess from remodeling. Hoping to have everything mostly put back together next weekend. The worst part of moving everything back in was that we were invaded by stink bugs this summer and they were crawling all over our furniture. If we didn’t just spend a ton of money on the remodel, I’d be buying new furniture. Hopefully next spring we can do it. They are getting really run down and next to freshly painted walls and a new floor, they look pretty worn.
Does anyone have experience with tics? My son developed one (neck stretching) before school started which has gone away but it had been replaced by 3-4 others. He clears his throat, sometimes also does a neck bobbing, opens his eyes wide and added another vocal tic yesterday. I took him to the dr when he had the neck stretching but he said it was just a tic and it would go away. Now that he’s developed several more I’m getting nervous. But everything I’ve read says it’s normal (as far as tics go) and a Tourette’s diagnosis would come after a year of continuous tics. Not sure if I should make another appointment or wait it out.
No other tics, but DS had the throat clearing thing twice. Both times it meant he had strep throat. Also with PANDAS I might want to double check for strep.
I thought the throat clearing was a result of a mild cold/allergy he had but it’s been going on too long now. I’ve never heard of PANDAS so I will do some research.
justcheckingin73 , PANDAS is tics caused by strep and other things can happen too. It's very rare and some doctors I think don't believe it exists. Some do. I thought the same with DS that throat clearing was related to a cold, but he was having heart surgery that spring so I wanted to bring him in so he didn't have to have his heart surgery delayed and they found strep.
The next fall or next year I went to the doctor and said he is clearing his throat check for strep. They looked at me like I was nuts, but sure enough it was positive. And then they said wow you really know your kid. I guess....?
Post by covergirl82 on Oct 30, 2018 12:52:08 GMT -5
waverly, DD cleared her throat excessively when she had strep as well. I noticed it and it was the main reason we took her in to have a strep test. She didn't even really complain about her throat hurting.