Bark or other services

[2chatter]

Does anyone use Bark? Other monitoring services? DD is pushing for social media. She’s a freshman and I am down - she is mature and responsible. But I know she could also get sucked in (like that obnoxious girl who posted DD is a snake on snake day - DD would not have backed down from that and it would have escalated).

Open to recs. She only has Pinterest currently.

[waverly]

We aren't there yet age wise. I would preface it with you have complete access to her account, and make it a point to look over the account on a regular basis. Same with phones- those are technically yours not hers and you will have access to everything on it and the passwords to everything. There should be no expectation of privacy.

But I don't have an app for social media use. So far just block websites on our ipads and iphones with a password and lock our ipads and iphones.

[2chatter]

I really need to automate this. I want there to be a filter that alerts me to BS - because there is SO MUCH OF IT and I know from other parents that kids don’t generally handle it properly or well. Struggling.

[xctsclrx]

I have not heard or used any monitoring services. I also don't feel the need. My oldest has SM. If I was worried about stuff happening online and his reaction to it I wouldn't allow him to have it. He was 15 when he got an account.

SM is scary for parents, but eventually we have to trust our kids. I would strike the agreement that you have access to her passwords and that she has a trusted adult that is "friends" with her online. Let her know that you will respect her privacy until she gives you a reason not to.

[supertrooper1]

There was a clip on my local news the other night and the top two recommendations were the Norton app and the Qustodio app.