Diwali party was really fun! DD got to wear a beautiful skirt the hostess brought back from India. It was the way she got her own daughter to wear one. We ate good food and drank good alcohol and let the kids play with sparklers.
I went for a run! I’m going to try a mile 5x a week to rebuild. Came in at 11 minutes, which is better than I expected. Upside of reverting to naturally curly hair? I think I can put it in a high pony and when I take it down I won’t need to wash it.
We really hit the jackpot with the puppies. They are in a great routine and make working from home so much less lonely.
I’m really nervous about DS’ cast appointment tomorrow. If they say surgery that’s stressful enough but would also cancel a trip and I have to give a big presentation on the trip.
Mom is still on the kick that the kids are going to sing carols for a Christmas program. Teenagers. DS is like are you going to make me. I told him that it was his Christmas too and just because she had it stuck in her mind that they should sing, shouldn't sour his holiday. He was like will you really? I told him, you've seen me clap back before haven't you and he was like, Oh yeah.
Apparently, DS forgot to tell me about a school event tonight. Why he never knows this stuff I don't know.
Post by supertrooper1 on Nov 8, 2018 10:51:14 GMT -5
On Monday, I attended another morale committee meeting at work. The upper managers continue to tell of what we want to hear and then don't follow through. I'm getting tired of the bs but I'm beginning to think things will never change. I still have my name in the hat for 3 new jobs.
My coworker that has been out for a knee injury is supposed to be back this afternoon. It will be interesting to see if she does show up for work. I'm hoping she doesn't because it's been nice not dealing with her drama.
DDOT: I'm getting my hair cut and colored today. I'm brunette and am going to get burgundy highlights. I'm excited.
TAG testing update: Asked DD's teacher and counselor on 10/26 about getting DD testing for TAG. They told me they would look into and get back to me. Counselor caught me after school on 11/2 and told me he discussed it with principle and to expect a phone call with details this week. Crickets so far. Do I bug the principle before/after school when I drop off and pick up DD tomorrow when she is extremely busy with tons of kiddos or wait for her to call me?
DDOT my mother is bugging me for Christmas lists from myself and DD and I've got nothing for her. DD is asking for 1 thing and I already told her about it.
supertrooper1, it boils down to... morale is almost always down because of management. Unless there's drastic change, morale will continue to be down. No amount of meetings and conversations will help it.
Post by covergirl82 on Nov 8, 2018 12:24:43 GMT -5
186momx, my SIL already texted a few days ago about Christmas gift ideas for my kids. I keep forgetting to text her back, but I'm going to tell her that I'll let her know before Black Friday. It's too soon, and honestly, I don't even know for DS. He doesn't really play with toys anymore (except for Nerf guns), but is still at an age where books, clothes, and gift cards aren't super exciting yet.
TAG testing update: Asked DD's teacher and counselor on 10/26 about getting DD testing for TAG. They told me they would look into and get back to me. Counselor caught me after school on 11/2 and told me he discussed it with principle and to expect a phone call with details this week. Crickets so far. Do I bug the principle before/after school when I drop off and pick up DD tomorrow when she is extremely busy with tons of kiddos or wait for her to call me?
DDOT my mother is bugging me for Christmas lists from myself and DD and I've got nothing for her. DD is asking for 1 thing and I already told her about it.
I would think of it like an IEP. I believe they have 60 days after parental consent for testing. If it happens earlier than great. After the test then I would expect them to contact you to discuss.
covergirl82, same here. DD is 7 and is asking for this 1 inch gym mat from IKEA. That is all she wants. She doesn't play with toys all that much other than her horse figurines. She loves to read but other than that I don't have a clue. My mom complains I buy her stuff all the time which is why she is hard to buy for. Sorry mom she needed new pants/long sleeve shirts as she outgrew her old stuff.
186momx - that would make me batty. Cogat is administered twice a year here, and dates are set in stone. I’m still mad that DS’ kinder teacher said no one gets in during Kinder so he wasn’t tested. Every other educator he’s encountered assume he was tested, so I should have pushed.
Updates: I am in a super cranky mood. My TMJ is killing me. My neck is slightly better but not great with physical therapy. I am crabby that a friend of mine though that something might happen with us and tried to arrange it that way, and then bailed when I told him we would have dinner with DH and kids (which he had agreed to). I mean it still could be weather wise and him being clueless because forever bachelor and not understanding how people with families work. But I don't care. My family is the priority always, and I only want to be friends with people that understand and support that. I get that not everyone wants to hang with kids, but it was arranged that the kid part was very minimal.
I asked about TAG at the start of 1st and the principle told me that to get DD tested she needed 2 teachers, the counselor and herself to agree that she would benefit from the TAG testing so I needed to wait until PTC in December. I waited and her 1st grade teacher told me that she would rather push DD in class herself instead of subjecting her to the all day psych testing that is done for kids in 3rd grade or under for TAG. I agreed as DD was excelling last year. I feel like I'm being passed around now. What little info there is on the district website states that if a parent requests the school must put in the paper for the testing. Technically I've asked/inquired now 3 times. The problem is to move this to the next level I have to jump to the superintendent who is the overseer of the TAG program along with all the other special programs (district had a lot of retirements last year) and I don't know if I want to step on that toes this early in school life.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Nov 8, 2018 13:35:25 GMT -5
186momx, have you asked in writing? I know if you're talking about testing for a learning difference it's best to ask in writing so maybe that's the thing to do for TAG?
I have DD signed up for speech therapy now. 2 days a week at 5:30. She needs it so it's fine but cue leaving work early every Wednesday for us to get her there because of sucky traffic.
Post by greenmonkey1 on Nov 8, 2018 13:44:23 GMT -5
rere Whe DH and I were first married my MIL was set on us all singing carols around the piano for Christmas. With DH playing the piano. DH hasn't played the piano in 20+ years, but she was sure he would know how to play since "he was so good as a child". Lo and behold DH sits down at the piano and cannot play jack diddly. Thank goodness nobody else in the family can play. MIL has brought the issue up in subsequent years including the year she asked SIL to get her ukulele out so we could sing carols. SIL thought it was a GREAT idea, but cannot actually play said ukulele. I bet we hear about this again whenever DS1 has to play the recorder for school.....
mustardseed2007, I feel you. I left early every week last year for OT and PT that started at 4.
I also wanted to add to my update/ rant that DH is in Lima, Peru all week long. M-F. He facetimed me, I am in my robe in bed with clothes on underneath because I am always cold so lots of layers. He is at a restaurant having a great time introducing me to all his new friends. And he says travel is not fun. I would have tried to look nicer if I knew I was "meeting" all his co-workers but I am too tired at 8 at night to even do that.
Meanwhile back at the ranch, DD has coughing asthma all week and the time change, plus everything else means very little sleep over here. I'm a gem today.
Post by covergirl82 on Nov 8, 2018 13:49:18 GMT -5
My best friend told me a couple weeks ago about a super scary health incident she had just had - her heart rate was all over the place (down to 50 beats/min, then up to 200 beats/min) and she had to go to ER. I didn't get to see her for a couple weeks after that, and on Monday she told me that she met (late last week) with a cardiologist, who told her that she has calcification in a valve and her blood doesn't circulate the right way in her heart, and because of that, she could have a heart attack and die anytime. It's so serious that she already talked with her H, adult DS, and 8 year old DD about what to do if she dies (e.g., life insurance stuff, how she budgets and does the bills, etc. (she's so practical, that's why it was all practical stuff)). She doesn't have any information yet from the cardiologist about surgery. But I'm scared and sad that she's going through this, and she's only 42.
supertrooper1, it boils down to... morale is almost always down because of management. Unless there's drastic change, morale will continue to be down. No amount of meetings and conversations will help it.
This is exactly the problem. Our area director is a very nice guy, but he's in over his head. The 3 people directly under him are horrible. #1 was my field training officer and was an asshole then, but wasn't a manager. Now he writes people up for the same stuff he used to do. #2 was moved to our location because of a scandal at his old location. He knows nothing about what his group does, which is about 75 people. Much of my work falls under this group. I told our director at the last meeting that #2 was worthless and needed to get his info from knowledgable managers underneath him, not from the dumbass supervisor he thought was great. #3 is retiring soon and doesn't care. First and second line managers are all beat down due to horrible upper management. When I first started 13 years ago, we only had 1/3 of the management we do now, and they have promoted so many idiots.
DDOT: I had to sit in a company wide sales meeting today. Most of the company is working on a new program - they announced results for the last few months.. over 3300 cold calls were made, resulting in 24 applications and 8 approvals. “What does this mean? It means we stick with it for another few months.”
DH took DD for another urine sample - they didn’t get a clear read from the first one. My mom’s closing moved to Monday because the buyer’s agent didn’t tell us they wanted the garage fridge out and water was turned off to the building for maintenance and she freaked out. I’ll be out of town so my mom’s agent will take her thank goodness.
I take DS for X-rays and surgery decision this morning. And I have to finish a presentation for next week and an infographic.
We’ve given up on soccer (6 games in 8 day’s coming up). So I can’t work late because team dinner is tonight.
2chatter, I'm pretty close to losing mine this week. TMJ plus neck pain, DD has an asthma cough that won't go away and her emotional state is always extreme (gets that from her dad). Coughing all night long while I solo parent this week. I canceled the dentist appointment as it was all too much.
Went to TMJ appointment where doc wanted 7K up front (um no). Physical therapy twice which is probably more like me time but still work, and counts towards my FMLA time, doctor appointment for her asthma, and audiology appointment for DS. Good news on audiology though- his appointments and new ear molds are free through the school district which is still amazing to me. His hearing loss is still stable and his speech recognition in noise has improved theoretically because of him maturing and gaining those auditory skills. Working all around the appointments and cooking dinner. Oh and a last minute stop at Target for dance clothes because she starts dance tomorrow. And they didn't have all the sizes so I could only get tights and tap shoes. Leotard coming today from Amazon, but I should have bought the one with sleeves, I realize. I got the one with straps at the top. Hoping I can just throw a cardigan on over it.
So any advise appreciated here. I have mentioned our unorganized organizational chart. I have worked to bring the people together this year to better input into our strategic plan and coordinate programs and activities. I have been at my current position 5 years, and I do not think my title reflects my actual duties.
I had my evaluation today. I proposed raising my job by one grade level (job is given a classification grade so a 19 to a 20). This would be a raise, but would also reflect my actual duties. My boss wasn't closed to it, but she did go into how she can't raise a level to what she feels reflects her duties because she doesn't have a masters. That is not an issue with what I am doing, I am perfectly qualified. She also went into the budget. I contended that I don't think my 3-5% would sink the agency budget. I also contended that as an agency we have had trouble recruiting and retaining staff in the past and some of this is because of stagnation. Also, we complain about staff complacency. Well those who hit it out of the park are not given any incentive or rewarded in any way. I also told her I would like to step up in the strategic planning, accreditation process to provide better information and coordination that is required in this reporting.
She told me to think about it. I told her I have thought about it. This is what I think is needed. I am afraid it will die with her. I think if it got to HR and our director, it would go. But she will see that she can't move up, so why should I. Leapfrogging over her would be frowned upon and wouldn't work.
k3am - elbow - specifically a double fracture of the humerus. It isn’t healing at a normal rate but they think he will fall into the delayed healing category instead of failure....we will know in four weeks.
Having an activity restricted six year old boy was not fun for eight weeks. Having the same WITHOUT the full time hard cast truly sucks - it shocks me that they really think I can keep him from banging his arm into stuff/falling/injuring himself. Without losing my mind.