Week of 11/12

[seeyalater52]

Who’s with me!? Share your updates and thoughts here.

[seeyalater52]

Just waiting around for transfer #3 on Thursday.

I screwed up my endometrin over the weekend (took one dose like 10 hours late) but I’ve gotten the PIO all correct so hopefully all will be ok. I called my RE and she basically said the endometrin is extra and not to worry. I’m just an anxious mess.

Two more of my close coworkers are pregnant and due to the same time as my sister (in May) and I just know I’m going to lost my shit if this doesn’t work.

[megstoo]

we're not starting until Jan but this new RE likes everyone to prime with prednisone for a month prior. He says it's supposed to help with PCOS which he says is really just inflammation. I want to do my own research but I'm already feeling overwhelmed.

[icedcoffee]

YAY for transfer seeyalater52! I really hope this is a success! I would not worry about 1 dose of endometrin.

I'm just hanging out and taking Estrace. Next monitoring appt isn't until next Wednesday.

[stellelinds25]

Happy almost transfer day @seeyoulater25 !! Fingers crossed this is it for you!

I finally got my biopsy results back. Still have bacteria. I am so fed up with my body right now I could scream. They put me on a high dose antibiotic (different one from the previous 2 times) and my RE wants to do a biopsy in two weeks to see if it’s working while I’m on the med and another one a month after that to see if the bacteria comes back. Previously I just had a biopsy a month after I finished the meds.

I also found out that we can’t start the retrieval process again till the new year. When she said there wasn’t room in the current cycle I thought that meant we’d start with my November period. When I asked about when I’d start meds I was told the cycle is full till after the holidays. So I’m pretty annoyed, pissed and I feel like I’m being punished. So we’re contemplating seeing a new RE, but I don’t know if it’s worth it, if we’d be able to cycle with a new dr right away or if it would just delay us further. WWYD??

[chocolatepie]

My HSG is tomorrow afternoon and since my labs and his info is back, they said I'd meet with the RE immediately following regarding a plan. DH wasn't planning on coming with me (to save time off work hours) but now I'm wondering how much of a plan the RE is willing to do without him present.

A good friend, who successfully had 2 children using IVF after years of loss, strongly recommended I go straight to IVF because of my age (40). So tonight I'm just pondering if I go in prepared to petition for that or go with the doctor's suggested plan. She felt they wasted too much time following the doctor's advice and only after changing to a new practice, and advocating for themselves, did they get pregnant. I'm sure her personal struggle is playing into her advice but it is food for thought.

[seeyalater52]

stellelinds25 I’m so sorry you’re still in limbo with the biopsy and unable to get scheduled with your clinic. It sucks that they seem to fill up so fast each month. My clinic doesn’t have any caps or limits on how many people can cycle at once and I think it’s a lot simpler that way. Depending on the practice you’re considering you may be able to start right away with a retrieval, especially if they’ll accept your test results from your current clinic. It’s probbaly at least worth a shot if it won’t delay you too much.

chocolatepie good luck at the RE today. I don’t see why they couldn’t give you the details of the plan even if your husband can’t make it. Sometimes it is hard to get away from work, and while it’s nice to have everyone there it’s probably not entirely necessary. I don’t know your history or what other treatments, if any, you’ve done but if you’re interested in moving straight to IVF I would just say that. Especially if you’d like to have more than one child that might make sense considering how challenging it would be to start over again TTC if you did successfully conceive a first with another type of treatment. With IVF you’d potentially have some embryos created with your 40 year old eggs on ice if you wanted them later, and most practices will transfer them well into your 40s.

[starryfish]

We are taking the month off. I should find out in a week or so if we qualify for IVF trial. If not we will do one more iui in December

[seeyalater52]

Nov 13, 2018 21:17:53 GMT -5 starryfish said:

We are taking the month off. I should find out in a week or so if we qualify for IVF trial. If not we will do one more iui in December

Fingers crossed the IVF trial is a go!

[pickel]

seeyalater52, happy transfer eve! Fingers crossed everything goes well tomorrow and third time is a charm!
stellelinds25, I'm sorry your body is not cooperating. That is so frustrating! My RE also take the holidays off so we are not moving forward until Jan.

We have secured a donor and are looking at a fresh transfer in January! I had another hysteroscopy and ultrasound done last week and will start Lupron in 3+ weeks. I'm super excited and super nervous and a little sick over how much this all costs. Ha.

[icedcoffee]

That is so exciting pickel! I'm so happy for you!

chocolatepie, How did your meeting with your RE go? Do you have a game plan?

[chocolatepie]

Nov 14, 2018 11:33:30 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

chocolatepie , How did your meeting with your RE go? Do you have a game plan?

Thanks for asking It didn't go as expected so I was pretty teary afterwards. 

HSG showed both tubes are completely blocked; I have Crohns and had a resection years back - one part of the resection involved a perforated bowel that abscessed into my appendix. I never realized that the scar tissue from that would possibly affect my reproductive system. Which makes total sense... now... but was off my radar. The scar tissue has also pushed my cervix incredibly low. It took 3 tries to actually do the HSG and he said it's no wonder a pap hurts. They kept having to prop me up higher, and he was standing up, just to access it so the whole thing was mortifying and painful.

Then they saw something in the uterus - again, wasn't prepared for the possibility because I'm a moron. I am like clockwork, cramp very little each month, and am never heavy. But we did a sonogram and it's a fibroid. He seemed surprised I had no symptoms.

So the plan is a hysteroscopic myomectomy in a few weeks. IVF is the only option, obviously, but he recommends frozen embryos due to my age so we can get going on the prep for egg retrieval (labs and such I guess) but have to wait 2 months from surgery before transferring anything.

The good news - and thankfully there is some - is that my insurance covers unlimited IVF @ 100% and my husband's sperm was "the best he's seen this year" and my AMH number is 4.2 and he said that's the number of a woman 10+ years younger than me. So he was confident that we'll find success after surgery and such. I also really really like him and the staff. 

I think I'm mostly just mad at myself. It was never a possibility for us and I waited until I was 40 to finally seek help. I could have learned 10 years ago that the tubes were blocked and could possibly be a mother today. Hindsight, right? Just hopeful it's not too late for us.

[icedcoffee]

Oh, man chocolatepie. That's a lot to take in. I'm sorry you had such bad news, but the plus side is that you got a lot of really good news too! That AMH number is AWESOME and with good sperm I think your doctor is right that you'll have good success. And 100% insurance coverage is soooo nice!

IVF was our only option too (my H has really shitty sperm--like, almost nonexistent) and in some ways it was a relief to not be spending time doing IUI which has much lower success rates. I'm glad you have a plan in place!

[seeyalater52]

chocolatepie I’m so sorry you didn’t get better news at your appointment. It must be so shocking to hear that there’s an issue you never considered before. I’m so glad your doctor is so optimistic about your eventual outcome and that you have great IVF coverage, but I know first-hand it can all feel overwhelming regardless!

Good luck with everything and please keep us updated and let us know how we can support you with next steps.

[seeyalater52]

pickel I’m so glad you found a donor and have a plan to cycle! I will be rooting for you in January!

[minionkevin]

Nov 12, 2018 19:58:54 GMT -5 chocolatepie said:

My HSG is tomorrow afternoon and since my labs and his info is back, they said I'd meet with the RE immediately following regarding a plan. DH wasn't planning on coming with me (to save time off work hours) but now I'm wondering how much of a plan the RE is willing to do without him present.

A good friend, who successfully had 2 children using IVF after years of loss, strongly recommended I go straight to IVF because of my age (40). So tonight I'm just pondering if I go in prepared to petition for that or go with the doctor's suggested plan. She felt they wasted too much time following the doctor's advice and only after changing to a new practice, and advocating for themselves, did they get pregnant. I'm sure her personal struggle is playing into her advice but it is food for thought.

On the RE front, my H never went to any of my sit down appointments, just his required bloodwork, SAs, etc. He was down with going as far as I wanted WRT treatments, in fact he was more pro-IVF than I was in the beginning. I was never asked where he was, why he wasn’t there. IME, his presence isn’t necessary, but optional.

[scm1011]

Thinking of you today, seeyalater52!! I hope everything goes smoothly!

[stellelinds25]

chocolatepie ugh, talk about a lot of information to take in for one appt...I'm so sorry the news wasn't what you were expecting or hoping for. DH and I are also going right to IVF due to his crummy sperm... like someone else said, it's nice to at least know that's where you're heading before you waste a bunch of time and money on treatments that will never work. Thinking of you!!

seeyalater52 wishing you SO much luck today...stick little embie, stick!!

[icedcoffee]

Good luck seeyalater52! I have everything crossed for you!

[seeyalater52]

Thanks everyone! Transfer went well, day 6 4BA embryo is in there, and looked “beautiful” post-thaw per the embryologist. And they moved my beta day to Saturday 11/24 at my request (9dp6dt) so I don’t have to wait until Monday for results!

[starryfish]

seeyalater52, eekkkkk so exciting! Fingers crossed the embyro is snuggling in!!!!

chocolatepie, my DH didnt come to 95% of my apts, even IUI lol. It was no big deal. I am sorry it was scary but your numbers look really good! That AMH is amazing!!!

[shoeless]

@yay seeyalater52. Hope your bean is snuggling in for a long stay