Week of 11/12

[icedcoffee]

We had our evaluation with Early Intervention for DS this morning.  He is a little delayed in expressive language which was my concern.  They only qualify for services if they are 25% behind (so...18 months or less) and he came in at 19 months for that and fine motor.  I'm both relieved he's still considered to be "on track" and happy I got him the evaluation.  They gave us some good tips for working with him and reassured me I was not crazy for calling them.  They said to call back in 6-9 months if we still have concerns.

DS got a toy baby stroller and doll for his birthday from a friend and it is so effing cute.  He loves to feed baby and hold baby and tuck baby in and take him on walks.  My ovaries are basically begging to get pregnant watching this.  LOL  Hopefully this FET works.  My friend who has 2 girls got him the doll/stroller and it was brilliant!

[scm1011]

icedcoffee, that's a great idea for Christmas! I have a sinking feeling #2 is going to be an unwelcome surprise for C, so anything that can get him excited about a baby is good, ha. And I'm glad EI showed your DS was more or less on track!

Yesterday was Cal's birthday and we kept it a low-key affair. We had one of his old daycare buddies over for playtime and cake, and the mini-trampoline we got him was a huge hit. Well probably not for our downstairs tenant, but for Cal at least lol (don't worry, we're not assholes, our tenant is a good friend who we told to call us out if it got too annoying). 

I'm 11+1 weeks and have my first OB appt on Weds. I'm really anxious to (hopefully) hear the heartbeat! I also got my NIPT blow draw done on Friday so I'm hoping to get those results this week too.

[icedcoffee]

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Happy Birthday Cal! I can't believe you're already 11 weeks!

[thoseareradishes]

Glad the EI eval went well icedcoffee!
Happy Birthday C! scm1011

I'm taking E to the pedi today because her pee smells sweet. I really hope I'm just overreacting. We've noticed it over the weekend - her diapers have a sweet smell (she wears pampers), but she wet through onto her sleeper overnight and her sleeper smells sweet too. My anxiety has been pretty high lately and I'm scared I'm starting to freak out over everything due to her medical history. I just feel like I have to be so diligent about everything because of how her birth went - if I hadn't gone to the hospital, things might have turned out so differently. So now I'm so scared of something bad happening because I didn't notice or take action or something.

[woowoo]

10.5 weeks at this point, have my first OB apt on Wednesday. Hoping I like the office. I have a MILLION questions for them although I"m meeting with the lead NP (not an OB quite yet). Very curious when they have me come back after this.

Otherwise, feeling really good. Still just having random bouts of nausea but nothing consistent. And very very tired every night and of course very emotional, but otherwise I feel like the first trimester so far has been all I could hope for.

[shauni27]

icedcoffee, I am really glad the eval went well! DS sounds so cute with the baby <3

scm1011, I CANNOT BELIEVE C IS 2!!! that is WILD. Also, keep us posted on the NIPT results! will you find out the sex?

thoseareradishes, What does sweet smelling urine indicate? I can completely understand being overly anxious and freaked out with your history and background! E is a miracle baby and you want to do everything you can to protect her. It is hard not to play the "what if" game. Hugs. Keep us posted.

woowoo, I am so freaking excited for you!!! Wednesday cannot get here soon enough. You will hear the heartbeat and the NP will hopefully be wonderful to work with. My PCP for a number of years was an NP, and the midwifery team we used was all NPs as well. I loved them and trusted their medical judgement 110%.

[shauni27]

S has a cold that was pretty bad all yesterday and just so exhausting. Not only does he favor me always, but especially when he is sick. He gets to the point when G picks him up, S will HIT G and cry and scramble to get out of his arms. We are trying to work on both the hitting and the attachment he has to me. Any suggestions?

Other than that he is just so funny and filled with personality. He learned about shaking his head "no" and does it ALL the time now, very dramatically. It is so cute and also beyond helpful to have another communication tool! He is also obsessed with water and after he drinks any water now (again, in huge gulps, very dramatically) he ALWAYS finishes with a lip smack and says "ahhhhh" like a satisfied sigh. It is so funny.

Not so funny was the fact he was up at 11, 1 and then from 4:30-6 am, all crying and miserable. Poor guy.

[scm1011]

shauni27, yes, we are finding out the sex this time! I can't wait.

I'm sorry S is sick As for the mama attachment, I can commiserate. C doesn't hit K, but he definitely scrambles out of his arms to me at every opportunity. And he'll say "no, daddy" when K goes to sit next to him or play with him sometimes, it makes K so sad. It has DEFINITELY improved with time (it was probably the worst in the 14-20ish month time frame), but he still very clearly prefers me (which is why I think #2 is going to go over like a lead balloon).

[thoseareradishes]

shauni27, I was worried about diabetes, which is so unlikely given how healthy she is, but I figured it's better to be safe than sorry. The doctor ordered a urine test (glucose) but thinks it is more likely due to her weird water drinking habits. I dropped the am bottle, so she drinks very little in the morning, then tanks up during dinner and bedtime and pees a ton overnight.

I hope S feels better soon, poor babe (and mama)! I've been trying to get E to do the AHHH after drinking but she hasn't caught on yet. She does like to clink her cup with mine and pretend drink from her tea set.

[pinkpeony08]

Congrats to scm1011, woowoo - we are on similar timelines. I went in today 10w6d or 5d depending on who's calculating. I went with a full bladder so we could (barely) see the baby with the abdominal US. Waving and wiggling away. I go back a week from tomorrow for 12 w US and blood test. Grateful I was able to maneuver short genetic counselor appointment (really nothing to discuss given third visit in about a year) then US. I asked to come back weekly until 15 w (to get past the prior losses window), and my OB is ok with that. He's also OK with having the US in the room booted up so if we don't easily find the heartbeat with the doppler, we don't have to wait.

Kind of torn about telling people at work. I told my closest friend at work today. While I think I want people to know if we have yet another loss, I also don't really want to talk about the pregnancy, and I also don't want to have to "un-tell" anyone. Thinking of maybe just telling my closest friends at work and maybe my manager if all is good past 12 weeks. Then waiting until January (17 ish weeks) to tell others. Still feel like I'm waiting for the bad news, and guessing that might not really go away.

[woowoo]

pinkpeony08, it didn't even occur to me that it might not be a vaginal ultrasound again. I guess I'll just wait and see. I've never made it far enough for an abdominal US! Glad you were able to get in for your 12 w next week, and very glad your Dr. is being receptive to repeat ultrasounds for a few more weeks!

[shauni27]

pinkpeony08, I LOVE that your practice is being understanding and supportive in coming up with a plan that will help make you feel less anxious! That makes me so happy.

[konapoppy]

I am so excited for the baby boom! It warms my heart

All good here. The girls turned into toddlers overnight. It is crazy but so fun. And I bought us 3 parenting books 🤣

[pinkpeony08]

Nov 13, 2018 11:57:53 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

pinkpeony08, I LOVE that your practice is being understanding and supportive in coming up with a plan that will help make you feel less anxious! That makes me so happy.

Me too. The plus side through all this mess is that I am so grateful to have an amazing ob, who has proven how amazing he is time and time again.

[scm1011]

I just had my first OB appt and baby still has a heartbeat! I'm feeling like now at 11+3 I can relax a little.

[scm1011]

Mushe , how are things going with you and your crew? Have things improved with nursing? How is N doing?

[pandora89]

scm1011 - ahh! So happy for you! Can’t believe C is already 2, I feel like you were just pregnant with him!

shauni27 - I am sorry S is sick, no advice, just hugs and hairpats.

thoseareradishes - I hope E’s appointment goes well, please keep us posted. Echoing Shauni, it is so hard to not question everything, especially after everything you guys went through.

[pandora89]

We did our Christmas photos this last weekend and it went so well! The photographer sent us our gallery early and said that E was the best baby she photographed all weekend during her minis 😂
I am going to AW some of my favs lol

[scm1011]

Oh my goodness, pandora89, I can't believe how big he is! Those pictures are precious. Was it actually snowing?! How serendipitous!

[pandora89]

Nov 14, 2018 11:14:12 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Oh my goodness, pandora89, I can't believe how big he is! Those pictures are precious. Was it actually snowing?! How serendipitous!

Thank you! I love how they turned out. And it was! The weather all day was so crappy, freezing and so windy. We got there for our 20 min session as the wind died, and it started snowing.

He is getting far too big .

[cactuscookie]

pandora89, those pictures are fantastic! I especially love the very first one you posted, of him sitting on the sleigh in front of the tree.

[shauni27]

pandora89, I AM DEAD. he is SO cute.

[shauni27]

S seems to be feeling much better, knock on wood. Still up before 6 daily, though. Ugh.

ETA: scm1011, SQUEEEEEEEEEE. tag me when you post your NIPT results!!!

[woowoo]

Had my first OB apt today (Love the new clinic) and got to hear the heartbeat for the first time. Our sweet boy is growing perfectly. I burst into tears...like full on sobs. Was so nervous going into today without my husband (He's out of town for work) and I think it all just built up.

I don't know why but today it all feels so much more REAL. I just bought some cute onesies (first of anything I've purchased, been too scared to) online to celebrate.

I go in for another ultrasound in less than two weeks, then that will be last for two full months!

[pooh8402]

Yay so happy for you woowoo!

[kellikans]

Yay woowoo and scm1011!
So freaking adorable pandora89. We had ours done on Sunday and I can't wait to see them.

[thoseareradishes]

Great pictures pandora89!!
That's awesome that your OB is being so understanding pinkpeony08
Woohoo woowoo!

[cactuscookie]

That's such great news, woowoo! I'm so happy for you!

[Mushe]

scm1011, thanks for checking in on us! Things have been really nuts at work, but I read for a few minutes a day. I’m going to be off for thanksgiving, and plan to do nursing boot camp with B. Ugh it’s so hard! I feel like I have a fear of rejection, so I don’t offer as much as I should.

DS is doing so great, though! We just had parent-teacher conference, and he’s doing amazing. My favorite part was her saying he’s an excellent citizen, though. ❤️

So excited for this baby boom we’ve got going on! woowoo, awesome news! Love to hear good things happening.

[scm1011]

Mushe, thanks for checking in! That's so awesome about your DS (although I can't say I'm surprised he's an "excellent citizen" with a mom like you!).

So much luck with the nursing boot camp. I know its not at all the same, but Cal had several week long bouts of nursing strikes and I understand how difficult the rejection is. Those periods, far more than his year of nightmare sleep habits, were the most stressful parts of his babyhood for me. For a while DH dubbed him "Sir Screams at Boobs", lol. Anyway, I hope things take a positive turn, and even if they don't, you've gone above and beyond and should be very proud of your efforts <3