Thanksgiving Randoms

[icedcoffee]

SIL announced pregnancy within 10 minutes of arrival. How much wine is too much wine for a FET cycle?

FML

[pickel]

Ugh. So many hugs. I’d definitely hit that wine.

[seeyalater52]

No wine is too much. I’m so sorry.

Much less annoying but still annoying. A friend who had a loss earlier this year announced her April pregnancy today on social media as her “something to be grateful for.” Like, I get that this is a thing that people do but I kinda thought that someone who had a loss would be more sensitive to the holiday announcement thing. Guess not. It just made me feel super alone for some reason.

[icedcoffee]

I feel like I should get an award for surviving my SIL announcing a pregnancy in the midst of IVF twice.

I’ve probably surpassed how much is too much wine and just poured another glass. I’ll hate myself tomorrow, but will feel better by Saturday.

[icedcoffee]

Am I the only one who thinks their SIL and BIL not telling us first is super dick knowing we have fertility issues? I feel so alone in feeling this way.

[seeyalater52]

Nov 22, 2018 19:16:42 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

Am I the only one who thinks their SIL and BIL not telling us first is super dick knowing we have fertility issues? I feel so alone in feeling this way.

SUCH a dick move. Personally I think announcing to the family while you’re there at all is a dick move, even if they had let you know in advance.

You definitely earned some sort of horrible infertility badge for this bullshit.

[icedcoffee]

Nov 22, 2018 19:59:39 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Nov 22, 2018 19:16:42 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

Am I the only one who thinks their SIL and BIL not telling us first is super dick knowing we have fertility issues? I feel so alone in feeling this way.

SUCH a dick move. Personally I think announcing to the family while you’re there at all is a dick move, even if they had let you know in advance.

You definitely earned some sort of horrible infertility badge for this bullshit.

We left when they started calling extended family. And I told my H once we do get pregnant they will find out along with the rest of our extended network at like 20 weeks. I’m so hurt. I cried the whole way home. I thought I could handle it better. Oh well...I’m home with my fave after dinner drink from Africa. 🤷‍♀️

[seeyalater52]

Nov 22, 2018 20:34:12 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

Nov 22, 2018 19:59:39 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

SUCH a dick move. Personally I think announcing to the family while you’re there at all is a dick move, even if they had let you know in advance.

You definitely earned some sort of horrible infertility badge for this bullshit.

We left when they started calling extended family. And I told my H once we do get pregnant they will find out along with the rest of our extended network at like 20 weeks. I’m so hurt. I cried the whole way home. I thought I could handle it better. Oh well...I’m home with my fave after dinner drink from Africa. 🤷‍♀️

They called around while they had company and they know you guys are having a hard time? What the fuck? I mean, rude either way but unfathomable in this situation. I’m so sorry you’re hurting. Gentle, mutually sobbing hugs from me. Today was just shit all around.

[icedcoffee]

Nov 22, 2018 20:40:22 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

Nov 22, 2018 20:34:12 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

We left when they started calling extended family. And I told my H once we do get pregnant they will find out along with the rest of our extended network at like 20 weeks. I’m so hurt. I cried the whole way home. I thought I could handle it better. Oh well...I’m home with my fave after dinner drink from Africa. 🤷‍♀️

They called around while they had company and they know you guys are having a hard time? What the fuck? I mean, rude either way but unfathomable in this situation. I’m so sorry you’re hurting. Gentle, mutually sobbing hugs from me. Today was just shit all around.

Yeah....it was a mess. It sucks when it’s your family that’s most hurful, but this is not totally unexpected. They’re like this.

[seeyalater52]

Nov 22, 2018 21:01:21 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

Nov 22, 2018 20:40:22 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

They called around while they had company and they know you guys are having a hard time? What the fuck? I mean, rude either way but unfathomable in this situation. I’m so sorry you’re hurting. Gentle, mutually sobbing hugs from me. Today was just shit all around.

Yeah....it was a mess. It sucks when it’s your family that’s most hurful, but this is not totally unexpected. They’re like this.

I hate them for you.

[pickel]

They called while you were there?? That is some next level bullshit right there. I am so sorry you had to deal with that.

[G22]

Oh icedcoffee I'm so sorry. I say do whatever you need to to survive the day. So many hugs coming your way.

Apparently Thanksgiving is a great holiday for pregnancy announcements. My FB feed was full of them today.

[chocolatepie]

I am so sorry icedcoffee

[pickel]

How are you doing today, icedcoffee ?

[icedcoffee]

Nov 23, 2018 8:48:50 GMT -5 pickel said:

How are you doing today, icedcoffee ?

Hungover but better! Thanks for asking. Nothing a Gatorade and fast food won’t fix. Haha

The thing is that if they had told me before Thanksgiving I would have been ok too. The way they did it was just so shitty though. They sent their older DS downstairs with a big brother shirt on. So I was in front of other people and needed to react. It’s just so thoughtless. Not surprising though because it’s totally their personalities.

[woowoo]

icedcoffee, I'm really sorry. This is so shitty.

[G22]

Thats so shitty icedcoffee. I'm really sorry you had to deal with that.

[bronxgirl]

I'm so sorry, icedcoffee,.  How painful.
Before T'giving dinner my mom invited some family friends over.  One of them oddly started recalling an upsetting memory when my mom had a miscarriage 46 years ago.  He was 13 at the time and my mom didn't even know that he knew about it.  he's talking about it freely in front of my mom, my brother, husband, and all of his kids, none of whom knew about it previously, and acting like it's his news to tell.  They were there as a condolence call for my dad, but this bizarre conversation topic made me go cry in the bathroom- not for the loss of my dad, but for all my IF/ PG loss.  What the hell??

[stellelinds25]

What a bunch of assholes...seriously. They need smacked. I'm sorry...I hope you are doing better today!

We hosted Friendsgiving on Saturday...5 kids under the age of 3, 2 of them have been born this year. I spent my day of cleaning/food prepping having meltdowns and just felt kinda distant from everyone while they were here. This is the first time being around other kids really affected me to the point of tears. My friends try to get it, but they just don't.

[icedcoffee]

Nov 26, 2018 10:18:09 GMT -5 stellelinds25 said:

What a bunch of assholes...seriously. They need smacked. I'm sorry...I hope you are doing better today!

We hosted Friendsgiving on Saturday...5 kids under the age of 3, 2 of them have been born this year. I spent my day of cleaning/food prepping having meltdowns and just felt kinda distant from everyone while they were here. This is the first time being around other kids really affected me to the point of tears. My friends try to get it, but they just don't.

I'm sorry.  3 years ago I hosted a Friendsgiving.  I just wanted a way to escape and have fun with my friends.  I had already mentally prepped myself my friends would bring their kids and I was ok.  There were even 2 kids under 1 month there and I held it together.  I cooked and cleaned all day.  I made a shit load of delicious food.  2 minutes after we all serve ourselves and sit down one of my H's friend announces his wife in pregnant.  To be fair, they had no idea we were having trouble TTC.  I felt the tears build up so I stood up and ran upstairs to the bathroom.  It must have been obvious because 2 minutes later my sister came up with a bottle of wine that we finished by taking swigs directly from the bottle.  LOL  It was horrible.  It was also so embarrassing since everyone pretty much figured it out. 

Anyway--now that I think through this my SIL/BIL is even more of a bitch announcing to us the way they did.  They were there at that fateful Friendsgiving and saw how devastated I was.  So they announced their own to us in front of everyone...at Thanksgiving.  Those bitches.  LOL

[icedcoffee]

That is such a weird thing to bring up bronxgirl . Some people are so dumb and clueless! I'm sorry they did that.

[landmermaid]

That's doubly brutal icedcoffee. So obtuse and insensitive. I'm sorry they did that to you.