Post by supertrooper1 on Nov 29, 2018 10:45:58 GMT -5
My swing shift drama queen coworker came back to work after being gone for almost 3 months due to a knee injury. She hasn't had surgery yet, so she'll be out for more time in the future. She is a leave abuser with zero leave on the books, so I'm not sure how she was able to get away with staying home since she came back to work on modified duty. It was nice not dealing with the extra work she creates.
I still haven't heard anything on all of the jobs I have applied for. And I've applied for another one, so I have now applied for 5 new jobs within my agency umbrella.
I am joining the boot camp I started last week - I am down four pounds. I have 100x more energy when I am active like this, and it’s fun to work out with friends, even if it is 4:45am.
I remembered to wear a strapless bra today as I will be trying on party dresses. Little things like that feel like big wins!
I started streaming Downton Abbey (I know I am behind). Omg it’s so good. Free on Prime, finally.
Post by HeartofCheese on Nov 29, 2018 10:59:48 GMT -5
What is DDOTs again?
I decided not to relocate. I am financially unable to do another $20k in attorneys fees this year and even if I could, if I don't get full custody (which is a 50/50 shot at best anyways), then I have $20k less, no job, and no severance. So it's a major gamble. A major, major, major gamble.
I have a job interview on Tuesday for a position possibly paying $10k less than I make now which I may not be able to take even with the severance package.
My best option is wfh, but there's downsides to that, too. I'm hoping that I'll find a job and go part time with the wfh position after a year or so.
Divorce is still not finalized. Ex introduced kids to GF in Sept when kids were still trying to adjust to him moving out a month before and starting new schools. Ex kept it a secret. In the meantime, my kids go silent whenever I ask them anything about what they did at dad's and our communication suffers greatly. Ex finally tells me abt kids meeting GF and I'm able to start addressing the GF with the kids and we talk about how they can talk about anything that goes on in our house with anyone they trust at anytime. This week it seems like our communication and support is back in place. Oh yeah, ex also sprung a surprise mtg with his GF at a random dropoff.
DS is struggling in school resulting in meetings with teachers and counselors and referrals to health support networks, and yet the counselor he is court-ordered to see thinks he is doing absolutely dandy and needs no intervention whatsoever.
Upside: still seeing the same hot, nerdy guy and that is going very well.
DDOT: We cut DS's hair yesterday. They cut it... way, way, way too short. He looks so grown up though.
TWERK 1: My coworker with cancer is continuing to be a badass. She is here and vivacious and kicking butt 2/3 weeks (1 week for treatment/recovery) and that just makes my heart happy. I'm hoping that her imaging next month shows that the cancer is responding well to the chemo.
TWERK 2: My analyst continues to be underwhelming. She hates working here and it's obvious. She went back to her WFH 2x/week schedule. If she were able/willing to explain WHY she needs to WFH, maybe I could sympathize for her "need" for it. As far as I know, it's just because she wants to WFH 2x/week... Meanwhile, I have no idea what she does, no one wants to talk to her, and things that SHOULD be assigned to her are being done by other people since she's difficult to work with.
I haven’t killed any of the guys who work for me, and that feels like a big win. I’m also realizing I’m doing a lot of work below my pay grade because I don’t trust parts of my team to handle stuff the way I want it handled. In 2019, I’m going to have to work on being less concerned with these guys’ feelings and more concerned with whether they are getting their shit done to my satisfaction.
My asthma meds appear to be helping. I am coughing a ton less, and I’m about to start my second round of antibiotics. If that doesn’t clear up the rest, I have to go have an MRI of my sinuses. I’m concerned I’m going to have to have surgery to clear out a chronic infection and to fix my nose. Several doctors have commented on how tiny my nasal passages are and how they are surprised no one has recommended I have that fixed. So I guess it’s an insurance-covered nose job? Yay?
I have a 9 am derm appointment tomorrow for my Eczema outbreak. Anyone get prescription meds for this? What would they prescribe? It's been 2 weeks, and it is maybe only 10-20% better than initially using Eczema creams. I've been to the doctor twice already for it.
Monday is the 1:30 pm dentist appointment for the mouth guard.
mommyatty , why are mouth guards and/ or anything with TMJ so controversial? Both chiro and PT says sometimes they make people clench more. Dentist wasn't for making me one, but maybe she just didn't want to. Only the physician was the one that got on board with it, and was like girl you need to or you are going to break some teeth.
I get that because when I had Invisalign I grinded my teeth more, so maybe that is where this all started with the Invisalign. Like fix something break something else. But then again, besides having way less pain the actual placement of the jaw is still out of alignment. And all the real patients that I talk to have had mouth guards (husband, MIL, mommyatty ).
New TWERK: my analyst is interviewing. Initial feedback from my spies sources were that two people had said don't bother bringing her in for an interview, they didn't recommend her. The manager apparently likes her, so FX she gets a job offer and moves on.
It's Thursday here, and now is the time in the semesters when all of the students who haven't been doing their work in my class come to plead for their grades. It's annoying, particularly because it isn't a very hard class.
DD is very much being 3 and throwing fits.
My right side hurts, and it has been hurting for three weeks, like a dull ache. They did an ultrasound and my ovaries look good. I have a follow up with my doctor next week.
DH and I took DD to the doctor yesterday. Based on the Vanderbilt survey responses, DD has ADHD. So she gets to start meds this weekend. I'm nervous and excited for her to start meds. Dr said to keep an eye out for side effects that are too bothersome. We'll meet with the doctor in a month to review DD's progress. Dr also looked in DD's ears since DD was pretty sick yesterday. Turns out DD has such a bad ear infection that it's making her dizzy and nauseous. She started the antibiotic last night and is much improved this morning, but not enough to go to school. So she's at home with DH, who is still feeling crappy. I think he just has a stomach virus of some kind. I made DH sleep on the couch last night and I slept so well. It was so nice that I didn't want to get up this morning. I'm still exhausted and am hoping for an easy evening when I get home from work.
Post by covergirl82 on Nov 29, 2018 12:40:15 GMT -5
TWERK: DH's company is doing a "restructure" and letting a bunch of people go. They just notified directors and execs. DH's director and VP were both let go (severanced). DH is a manager, and managers and supervisors will be in the next tier, which is anytime between January and June of 2019. So DH now has that hanging over his head until he finds out if he has a job or not. Based on the severance policy, he should get 11 months of severance, so hopefully he'd be able to find another job in that amount of time. We should be able to get my car paid off after he gets a bonus at the end of March (they are still projecting a payout of 125% of target), and we've been paying extra on it every month, so getting that paid off would allow us to save around $1K per month into our e-fund (if at that time we still don't know if he has a job or not, or if he's on severance we can save in preparation for when the severance runs out if he doesn't have another job yet). He has a history of great performance and has a good reputation/personal brand within the company, but I guess we'll see if that enables him to keep a job.
waverly: No idea why TMJ is such a THING. But it is. The dentists say it’s medical. The doctors say it’s dental. And everyone has stupid theories for what causes it and how to treat it. My current dentist says He thinks it’s because I had braces (to fix a bite so bad that literally no two teeth in my entire head lined up so I could chew properly, though my teeth looked bizarrely perfectly straight). My mouth guards are basically Invisalign. They work. And my dental insurance covers one set every 3 years. They just code it for bruxism instead of TMJ. Treatment is the same.
Heck, that’s another way to handle. Don’t say TMJ. Just say “I grind my teeth and it makes my jaws hurt and I’m worried about hurting my teeth.”
That’s another thing. DS at age 4 grinds his teeth so badly when he’s sick that I can hear it in the hallway. Poor pumpkin.
Post by traveltheworld on Nov 29, 2018 13:07:10 GMT -5
TWERK: I asked my boss for a "path to promotion" yesterday. I didn't/don't actually expect to get one, just want to make sure I'm on track. He said I am. So I guess that's good?
HeartofCheese, I'm so sorry things are messy right now. Since things aren't finalized yet, are you able to rewrite parenting plan arrangements to help with the girlfriend/expectations? Would your ExH do parenting classes? Our divorce coach specializes in that and helped us through a lot of things as we developed the parenting plan. Or are you able to share all the school issues with the counselor for your son so that they are on the same page?
2chatter, Love, love, love Downton Abby. My favorite show ever. I can't wait for the movie.
DD is doing better with volleyball. She is still not being super outgoing, but is talking to a couple of girls. She does great playing though.
I had to break it to mom we are not going to Gatlinburg this summer. She decided that we were doing a family trip, based on overhearing me tell my brother, we should go back to Gatlinburg sometime. She acted totally floored. Well that happens when you don't consult with people. And telling my kids that we are going to Gatlinburg and to cancel our beach plans is not consulting. Bring on the Gulf in July. She should be fun over Christmas.
DS is going to basketball tonight, so that is great. He needs to get out and get some exercise, they haven't been able to play in a couple of weeks due to the holiday.
Update - DD2 is in a cast for 2 weeks. Pray that we all survive it.
I’m still working on landing a certain small business client. From what I am seeing, he wants me to do a crap ton of work, but he does not want to pay me for it. Example - I told him I would provide him with a detailed 12-18 month marketing plan (I did not think he could see beyond that). What will be in the plan? So I sent him an bulleted outline. He claims he does not understand and could I provide him more detail? Nope... that’s billable work. Also I need to do research for more detail - also billable work.
Stick to you guns mae0111 . Do you have documentation set up for your business that you could send him showing proposal work examples, scope of work/ contract, and billable work examples (not actual work)?
Also, he probably knows the difference and is trying to get the work for free.
This is the opposite of an SOS. Our angel tree stuff is due in tomorrow. Since I had an unexpected trip, I was planning on going to shop the other night after the kids were in bed. DH offered to go instead.
You know how on the tags the list all their clothing sizes? DH literally got them clothing from every category. Including Nike shoes. He only got them the want item they asked for, so I raided our gift stash for another toy for each kid.
But I thought it was very sweet that he bought underwear and socks and pants and shirts and coats for two kids we don’t know. And he’s so proud he got good deals at Kohl’s.
DDOT: My in laws are killing me with what they consider "after school snacks." The girls get off the bus and are at their house for about an hour after school. Yesterday they fed them Chinese food. Other past "snacks" have been a piece of Elio's pizza, a bowl of tomato soup, and other stuff that basically screws me over entirely when I try to feed them dinner later. Appropriate snacks to me would be a granola bar, an apple, peanut butter crackers... Why is this something I have to explicitly explain?!
twinmomma, How old are your kids? My MIL kept doing this last year when DS would get off the bus and she would watch him on Mondays. Things like pizza, ice cream, or something meal sized. And then he wouldn't eat dinner, and his sister wouldn't want to eat dinner because he wasn't. I have yet to find a good solution to this, other than trying to instill life long things, like a slice of pizza is not a snack. We eat dinner as a family.....let me know if you figure something out....
DDOT: My in laws are killing me with what they consider "after school snacks." The girls get off the bus and are at their house for about an hour after school. Yesterday they fed them Chinese food. Other past "snacks" have been a piece of Elio's pizza, a bowl of tomato soup, and other stuff that basically screws me over entirely when I try to feed them dinner later. Appropriate snacks to me would be a granola bar, an apple, peanut butter crackers... Why is this something I have to explicitly explain?!
This is my MIL too. She regularly feeds the kids multiple items, including bowls of tortellini, bowls of ice cream or sorbet, candy, etc.
Plus she’s overweight and bitches constantly about being fat. Literally our entire conversation over dinner the other night was about her diet, how fat she is, how my BFF is losing weight and looks better, and the recent anti-carb articles she’s read online. So she’s simultaneously teaching my kids terrible eating habits and body-shaming. I get a twofer!
twinmomma, sounds like a power struggle to me. She wants to feed them dinner. Is this a new arrangement? If so I would give it a few weeks and then maybe the newness will have worn off and the snacks will be appropriate. If it is not new then it might really be a passive aggressive move because of the divorce.
mommyatty, YES! I get the body shaming too. MIL is overweight and constantly harping about making healthy choices and healthy eating habits. But... she doesn't. At all. She goes between starving herself and eating ridiculous tiny amounts of food and then binging on stuff. And then she tells me how she's GF because it's a good diet. When I actually have celiac.
phdmomma, They're six. It's so frustrating! I keep telling ExH he needs to yell at them about it.
I am already counting down to just using after school care again next year. This whole in laws bus situation saves me a negligent amount of money for the hassle it adds. I can never run late, because I get a guilt trip about how much they're watching the kids...
xctsclrx, Honestly, I think they're just not very smart people. lol This has been since the beginning of the school year and they do it regardless of whether it's a day I have the kids or ExH has the kids.
twinmomma, DH and I are not in a place where we can use family has child care, but even if we did we wouldn't, because I am sure we would get the guilt trip. My grandparents guilt me when watching my kids while at drill. She watches for maybe six weekends out of the year, but I still get it. Sorry about the struggle. Only half a year to go?
twinmomma - I bought fruit and veggies and snacks when my parents watched the girls. I harped on not eating when full and sweets being a treat - not an every day occurrence. Little Debbie’s were the big deal there. But buying the healthy options for sure helped. Mini bags of carrots and celery and a bottle of ranch, apples, clementines plus string cheese were the most common.