Twas the WEEK before Christmas...

[shauni27]

Morning, everyone. Did you guys all have a good weekend? S slept until 8:30 yesterday and it was PURE HEAVEN! haha

We had a productive weekend without leaving the house too much--which as much as I hate being home all weekend, I think it is exactly what S needed after being so sick. He has finally seemed to kick the plague, though now my H has Strep Throat...I got a lot of wrapping done and still just have a handful of small things to get for stockings. 

Other than that, not much going on. I have work this week and then I am on break until December 2nd.

[pinkpeony08]

shauni27 jealous about the sleep! My kids are up at 6 daily, except random week days when they have school when we have to wake them at 6:45 to get going. I did sleep til 7 both days this weekend thanks to my husband, who got up with the kids.

It’s been a rough 2 weeks between the loss and D&c, then a week ago my son had norovirus. I had to stay home from work even though it was a terrible day to miss and I had to find coverage. Then I came down with it Wednesday last week and had to stay home Thursday, which was an even worse day to miss. My daughter has also been to the dr twice in the last week- ear infection and stye. Just hoping everyone can stay healthy this week.

Still just feeling sad about my miscarriage, and trying to worry about “what to do next,” yet feeling sad that it really feels a very wanted third child is not going to happen. My pathology finally came back with no clues as to what happened. Hoping for microarray results this week, but presumably they will be normal like the last 2. Unless someone can give me a clear answer as to why, I am not willing to go through another pregnancy which seemingly will inevitably result in loss. The only potential option would be reproductive immunology, which is expensive especially if I’m unsure I would even want to try again. I feel like I’m grieving the loss of this baby and the loss of a wanted third child simultaneously.

Meanwhile we are renovating the house we are moving into and need to decide things like do we do a 5th locker in the mud room or just do 4 for our current two children?

Ugh, sorry for the long venting post.

[icedcoffee]

I'm ready for Christmas. I have everything bought and wrapped. Normally I am not this far ahead so this is shocking. Now I just need to pack myself, DS, and the dog's stuff up.

I'm so sorry pinkpeony08 . You need a vacation from this month. I hope the microarray gives you some answers that have easy solutions.

I have my u/s on Friday so obviously this week will drag on and on.

My sleep has been so shitty since starting the PIO shots. I am so tired.

[shauni27]

pinkpeony08, I am so, so sorry. I cannot imagine how tough this has been. Dealing with grief and being sick and taking care of sick kids is awful.

[ivy]

pinkpeony08, you have been in my thoughts continuously the last couple of weeks. I'm so sorry that you're facing this reality and hope for some concrete answers. Big, big hugs.

[scm1011]

pinkpeony08, I'm so sorry. Wishing you answers and peace as you navigate this.

shauni27, I'm glad S is finally feeling better! I hope G is on the mend soon.

We had a good weekend. DS started a dance class on Saturday mornings last month and he LOVES it. Its the cutest thing. He really loves watching himself dance in the mirror and it cracks me up. He's not much of a participator in general (he's often doing his own thing vs. the group activity at daycare), so I've enjoyed watching his enthusiastic participation.

Friday was my firm's black tie holiday party and it was fun. It would have been more fun if I could have taken advantage of the open bar, but still good ha.

[thoseareradishes]

Hugs pinkpeony08. I was thinking as I read your post, you've been tested for infections, like endometritis? E was born early due to an infection so it's always something I think of.

We're all getting over colds here, so we haven't been out much. E had a developmental check-in with the pedi last week. He was very happy with her progress and would not have any worries if she was 17 months old (her adjusted age), and only minor concerns with her real age (21 months). He suggested OT/PT for an extra boost but I'm going to wait to see what they say at preemie clinic, and he gave me a name for a new speech therapist so I'll get the ball rolling with that after the new year. She also did really well at the appt, only screaming when someone examined/touched her (she has pretty severe fear around medical professionals), so I was able to actually talk to the doctor instead of yelling over her, heh. She is such a sweet, fun little girl, I'm so proud of her

[shauni27]

thoseareradishes, when I think of all you and E had to go through and hear how well she is doing I just start grinning like a fucking fool <3

[EllenGriswold]

pinkpeony08, I’m so sorry for what’s you’ve been going though, huge hugs.

thoseareradishes, awesome news at the dr. appt!

How is it only a week before Christmas?!?! We had a good weekend though, we took G on one of those polar express train rides this weekend and he had the best time. He got a “magic bell” from Mrs. Claus and wore it the rest of the weekend. I’m finishing up gifts today hopefully but now I’ve got to wrap everything and start baking. I told H he’s got to take G and get out of the house for at least 4 hours this weekend so I can get some stuff done.

I had my appointment with the RE last week to talk about a FET. It went well but stuff is getting real now. I’m making sure I can get short term disability insurance started and then I’ve got to schedule a saline sonogram and we will be ready to cycle. (!!!!). Thinking transfer will have to be sometime around the beginning of March, but that’s actually not far off at this point.

[loira]

Christmas has snuck up on me. I am completely unprepared, and A, who is normally a very healthy child, was sick last week and may have an ear infection as well. We took her to the walk in clinic yesterday and the doctor told us he couldn't tell because of buildup, but if it was an infection they don't like to prescribe antibiotics as readily as they used to. The treatment is to wait and see if it resolves on its own in 24-48 hours. He gave us a prescription, but I'm now unsure if we should give it to her. She's still got a really bad cold, and now seems to be complaining about the other ear instead. I don't want to wait until the infection is really awful, but I also don't want to give her medicine she doesn't really need, that might build up her resistance to antibiotics. Have any of you ever dealt with this in your kiddos?

pinkpeony08, I'm so sorry.

[pinkpeony08]

Dec 17, 2018 20:31:54 GMT -5 loira said:

Christmas has snuck up on me. I am completely unprepared, and A, who is normally a very healthy child, was sick last week and may have an ear infection as well. We took her to the walk in clinic yesterday and the doctor told us he couldn't tell because of buildup, but if it was an infection they don't like to prescribe antibiotics as readily as they used to. The treatment is to wait and see if it resolves on its own in 24-48 hours. He gave us a prescription, but I'm now unsure if we should give it to her. She's still got a really bad cold, and now seems to be complaining about the other ear instead. I don't want to wait until the infection is really awful, but I also don't want to give her medicine she doesn't really need, that might build up her resistance to antibiotics. Have any of you ever dealt with this in your kiddos?

pinkpeony08 , I'm so sorry.

We were just in to the doctor last week with an ear ache on Wednesday afternoon.  The doctor also gave as a prescription to fill if it wasn't better in 24-48 hours.  We gave ibuprofen to help with pain.  By Friday morning, she said it still felt full, but the pain was gone.  We ended up back at the doctor for a stye on Sunday, and she checked her ears- no longer red or infected.  That being said, there have been some times with my son where we go ahead and give the antibiotics right away, like when we were getting on a plane in 48 hours.  If you can give ibuprofen and tylenol in the meantime, you can likely wait 24 hours. If it's only getting worse, go ahead and fill the prescription. 

[Chrysanthemum]

Hi! I haven’t posted in a while, even though I still read regularly. C’s 2nd birthday is coming and I cannot believe he’s so big. I still call him a baby (he used to think that was his name)! He’s moving into the 2yo classroom at daycare soon and seems very excited for it. He LOVES Santa and reindeer so the Christmas season has been very fun this year.We’re starting to think about an FET for a 2nd soon. We’re buying a new house in Febrary though, so we’ll likely wait until after we’re settled there to update our labs and make a plan with the RE. It’s kind of daunting to think about all that again, but an FET should be so much easier than the round after round of egg retrievals we did!

((( pinkpeony08)))

[knx9211]

My kid gave me my first smooch without me asking for it. He later slapped my hand and tried to scratch my face for taking something away that he wanted. Awesome.

Since I last checked in, beta went back down and I got the worst AF ever. I assume that’s related to the chemical.

We’re already up to try again. I take my last birth control pill Sunday with a hopeful transfer of January 14. Fingers crossed, because this is our last blast. I really don’t want to go through a fresh cycle again.

[shauni27]

knx9211, thinking good, fertile thoughts for you!

[Mushe]

Chrysanthemum, so good to see you here!

[Mushe]

Man, you guys, I’m tired. It’s been so long since DS was this little that I’ve forgotten how there’s never a free moment. DD sleeps so well, though, which is a blessing. I’m still up to pump; trying to find my sweet spot with a schedule, so I don’t have to pump 3x at work.

I get to attend a fancy party tonight for our governor. I’m equal parts excited and nervous. I used RTR, and one of the dresses is pretty worn. Super annoying. The other is what I assumed I’d wear, but the reviews were accurate, and it fits a little large. We’ll see how it works out!

I think we’re done shopping, but need to wrap and ughhh when. I took off Friday and Monday, so I’m looking forward to an extra long weekend. I’m getting undereye injectables redone on Friday, and need a few extra days before going to work. 😆

[riffraff]

Dec 17, 2018 22:29:08 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

My kid gave me my first smooch without me asking for it. He later slapped my hand and tried to scratch my face for taking something away that he wanted. Awesome.

Since I last checked in, beta went back down and I got the worst AF ever. I assume that’s related to the chemical.

We’re already up to try again. I take my last birth control pill Sunday with a hopeful transfer of January 14. Fingers crossed, because this is our last blast. I really don’t want to go through a fresh cycle again.

Glad my twins aren’t the only ones who are basically sour patch kids fingers crossed for your transfer!

K has pink eye, and a cold so he’s been home with me the last two days, he’s slept most of today. I always feel so helpless when they get sick.

I imagine we will get a call in the next few days to bring home a baby, that is exciting.

I’m done Christmas shopping , but we are hosting for both families, on Christmas Eve and Christmas, my house is not ready.

[oneslybookworm]

Ugh, y'all, my kid has NOT adjusted to the end of DST. He wakes up earlier (0615 most days) and then if he's not in bed by 1830, the world is ENDING and he just MELTS DOWN! He's puked twice now from crying so hard. I'm absolutely dying because I'm so freaking exhausted. I'm up early with India calls and stay up late with China calls, plus work full work days in between. Thankfully, I'm completely off from 12/20 - 1/7, so hopefully I can rest.

In other news, G is doing well. Still not talking much (except he says "hi kitty" to the cats, so clearly he can talk, he's just being a punk). We'll likely get an evaluation done after he first of the year to make sure we're not missing anything, but overall he's pretty amazing. We bought him a play kitchen for Christmas that we need to put together, and a few other things, but I'm so excited for him to play with his kitchen!! I need to quilt him a little oven mitt to go with it, then he should be set! I can't believe he'll be 18 months in a few weeks!

[King26]

All 3 of us slept until 7 on saturday which is a first.....since he was born. To make it a trend he did it again on monday and i was late for work lol.

[pandora89]

DS now screams when we are trying to put him down for bed and any middle of the night wake ups. Not cries, just angry screams. He’s fed, not gassy, hungry, is clean etc. I think it’s being separated from us he doesn’t like because the only thing that immediately stops the screaming is when we pick him up and take him to our room. He’s happy as can be then. We decided it was enough and attempted a gentle CIO method, anytime we would go in his room to soothe him the screaming would get worse so we decided we would just leave him be. He finally fell asleep an hour and 15 mins after initially getting up (and screamed the whole time) but then slept through the night.

Argh, I like dread going to sleep now because I just do not know what to do when he starts.

[shauni27]

pandora89, totally normal. S was like this to, and around E's age is when we officially did sleep training (with a coach that we hired!) and we used the full CIO method. No going in, no checks, etc. It was SO tough at first, and exhausting, but it took about 4 or 5 days for him to get it and from then on he was a great sleeper.

Of course, now that he was sick for essentially a month and used to us going in and doting on him in the night, he is back to screaming bloody murder until we go in for him. He woke up at 3 am this morning and cried until 5 when we finally went in and brought him into bed with us so we could all get more sleep. It sucks.

[shauni27]

guys. I am sobbing at my desk and feel so sad.

If you read or post over on MMM you might have seen my thread asking about head hitting and head banging. S is 17 months and has been banging his head since he was maybe 7 months. Lately it has gotten much worse, any time he is frustrated, or even if he seems bored, he will go find something to slam his head against. He also gets frustrated really easily. For example, if G picks him up instead of me he will head butt G and/or slap him, hard. He does all of this without showing remorse. If he hits me because he is frustrated he almost always follows it up with a hug, but that is only with me.

He does this throughout the day, at home and at daycare. Dozens and dozens of times a day.

His daycare called today and wants to have him evaluated. I know that it is GOOD to have him evaluated, and that we can get some help and resources to stop this behavior, but the fact that the daycare owner said she really has not seen anything like this before (in 30 years!) just makes me sad. It is so hard hearing that something might be wrong with the development of your child. The words she used were that he is doing great cognitively and his motor skills are fantastic, but his emotional behavioral development seems off.

I am grateful for extra resources to help with this, truly. But I am just so sad thinking that something is "wrong" with him and then I spiral and think of the worst case scenarios.

Again. I know this is small compared to a lot of issues that many families face. It is just heartbreaking to hear that my kid is not developing "normally."

[scm1011]

Big hugs, shauni27. As people mentioned in your MMM thread, headbanging isn't uncommon (although I can understand the concern at the frequency). I think an evaluation will bring you more clarity and resources, which is great! I can't remember, how are his language skills? Is this behavior maybe linked to his inability to express frustration/anger/confusion?

[loira]

Big hugs shauni27. It's tough to hear your kid needs extra help.

I had a good cry myself yesterday. I found out that I got the promotion I applied for, and I would have been so happy all evening, but A has been sick and is just miserable. Last night she asked me if I was going to work today and cried when I said yes. She stays home with my H, so I know she's got amazing care, but the mum guilt is strong right now.

[shauni27]

scm1011, he has almost 30 words and can do some sign language as well. He is very verbal but still obviously limited and I think he just needs to find a way to channel his frustration. I have had time to think things through and feel calmer about it now, but it just makes me sad thinking that he is so frustrated.

loira, hugs, friend. I also think part of the reason I was so upset was just because I am so tired and sick of dealing with a sick family.

[knx9211]

Oh shauni27 I’m sorry. That sounds so stressful. Hopefully the evaluation will help.

[thoseareradishes]

Big hugs shauni27. You've been dealing with so much lately, it's okay to feel sad and overwhelmed. I hope the evaluation helps (EI?) and you can get a relaxing break soon.

[shauni27]

Dec 19, 2018 12:13:24 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

Big hugs shauni27 . You've been dealing with so much lately, it's okay to feel sad and overwhelmed. I hope the evaluation helps (EI?) and you can get a relaxing break soon.

I feel so stupid. What is EI?

[pinkpeony08]

Hugs, shauni27. I hope you can get the evaluation quickly so you don't have the anxiety of waiting. It's ok to feel sad about all that is going on. Hopefully the evaluation will go well and there will be helpful tools moving forward.

[thoseareradishes]

Dec 19, 2018 12:58:19 GMT -5 shauni27 said:

Dec 19, 2018 12:13:24 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

Big hugs shauni27 . You've been dealing with so much lately, it's okay to feel sad and overwhelmed. I hope the evaluation helps (EI?) and you can get a relaxing break soon.

I feel so stupid. What is EI?

Don't feel stupid!  It's early intervention.  In NJ they come to your house to do an evaluation, and depending on how the child scores, they may recommend therapy.  Therapy can be at home, daycare, or an outpatient facility.  Each state should have it's own program.