I know the board is pretty dead, but I assume many still peek in every so often.
XH pays child support, by check, biweekly. He used to make the checks payable on Friday, but since I sometimes can’t make it to the bank that day, I asked if he could direct deposit the money but he said no. So, I asked if he could make the check payable on Thursdays, and surprisingly he agreed. Shocked! However, it’s just such a pain for me to remind him every pay week to get the check to me by Thursday morning, and then to get to the bank, and occasionally he’s been late, but not intentionally. It would just be so much more convenient to have it directly deposited.
I asked him again about it today. But he still refuses because “I don’t like direct deposit”. Anything regarding finances with him is difficult, especially if it conveniences me (money was a key part to why we divorced). Can I have the courts force him to do the direct deposit? I know it varies state to state. I’m thinking the answer would be no, the courts can’t force him since he’s not behind on payments, but I’ve checked online for NYS and can’t find a clear answer. So I figured I’d give this a shot. Thanks!
Does your bank allow for mobile deposit on your cell phone? Or are you willing to switch? It is a game changer and makes life sooo much easier.
Yes, my bank does have that option available, and I was using it in the beginning. But they must’ve had a lot of issues with fraud because they changed the timing of when mobile deposits become available.
In MN you can do this. XH was a douche and wouldn't pay me without me asking him or would write "welfare" in the memo line on his checks. Would pay less saying he bought DD boots or something and take off $50. So I went to the county office and it all goes through the state now even though he didn't really do anything "wrong". I mean I know he did wrong when he would take money off but I never pursued it or anything. Money is taken out of each check by his employer, the employer sends it to the state and the state direct deposits it into my account. Good luck, I hope your state is similar.
Also want to say hello! This board was my home board 5 years ago and I remember you