Week of Jan 7

[thoseareradishes]

Good afternoon!

E is sick again.  There is snot everywhere and she won't let me near her nose for a wipe.  She is also having epic meltdowns about getting her diaper changed, it really sucks.  She doesn't have tantrums about anything else, she's really laid back but omg getting her diaper changed is like the worst thing in the world.  

[pinkpeony08]

Ugh thoseareradishes. Screaming, wiggling diaper changes are no fun. Have you tried fixing a job? Like “could you please hold this for me?” Sometimes that helped us.

I’m still bleeding almost 5 weeks after my D&c with intermittent cramping. My ob ordered an ultrasound in radiology rather than the back office to be sure my uterus is empty. I’m going on Wednesday. I really, really don’t want another D&c. I had to have a second one last spring for retained placenta, but then I had horrible, cold sweat and nausea inducing cramps and this feels nothing like that.

[oneslybookworm]

thoseareradishes , diaper changes are hell here too...I hand G something to look at while I do it, or sing to him, and that normally helps calm it down somewhat, but...they're still hell.

G started pre-school today, and it was bittersweet. Great because I think it'll be really good for him, but sad because he's growing so fast. It's crazy to think about...my baby is a year and a half now!

[shauni27]

thoseareradishes, ugh I HATE when S has tantrums during diaper changes. I will say, "ok, time to change your diaper!" and he goes, "no," all cute and shaking his head. I try to make it a game or give him something to do, or to hold. Usually the game route, though. Lots of tickles and biting his feet, etc.

pinkpeony08, hugs. I never had a D&C but after the delivery of our later loss I remember still bleeding weeks and weeks later. I would burst into tears because I thought it was done and then it would start again. It was awful.

oneslybookworm, I saw your video this morning and died! I cannot believe they do preschool so early there! State law here requires kids be 3. He looked so grown up with his backpack on!!

Had a good weekend with S. did some open toddler gym time and had a playdate with our older friends--my BFFs all have kids between 3-8, so S was the little baby trying to keep up with them. Poor guy was trying to hard to figure out how to climb to the top bunk in the bunk beds, lol. H had a big shakeup at work so now he REALLY won't see S for awhile as he is working from 2-11 and then again most mornings at 8 or 9, so I will let him sleep in instead of get up with us. Hopefully (seriously) this will be temporary because fuck, it is not sustainable for H as a human being or for our family unit.

[oneslybookworm]

shauni27 , ugh, G's schedule sounds like it sucks! I'm sorry, that is the worst!

Yep, I mean...it's not a state funded preschool, so the state doesn't really have a say in it. It's a church preschool, they start at 1 (or whenever after age 1). It's only 1 day a week right now, but we're looking to increase it to 2-3 days a week, because I really think that will be beneficial for him. He's so social and he's all alone at our house, so...I think he'll really like being there.

[Mushe]

oneslybookworm, great idea getting him started early! He was so cute in that video.

[Mushe]

I am grumpy and tired this Monday. DD has been really upset in the evenings, and I just don’t know why. I feel like I’m constantly failing with her. DS was so easy comparatively! This not nursing thing is so hard. I got a sick appointment for her tomorrow to check ears, because WTF else could it be? I do think she’s starting teething, and has had her hand in her mouth constantly. Those little Hyland’s tabs help a little. H is gone overnight tomorrow and I’m dreading it.

On another note, hallelujah at school starting back today! DS was really restless, and started to be grumpy with our au pair. I told her to tell him he’s acting like the Tangerine Tyrant when he’s being unkind, and she surprised the hell out of me by saying, “he’s not so bad. Arrogant, but firm.” UH WTF GET AWAY FROM MY KIDS. I have been annoyed ever since. I’m starting the search for next year; we’re not sure if we’ll do the AP again. The language barrier has been more frustrating than expected, and especially if I’m anticipating DD will have things like PT come to our house, it’s important to avoid that. I found someone from Switzerland that I want to talk to, though, who’s already been an AP here for two years.

[scm1011]

((pinkpeony08)) I'm so sorry you're still dealing with that, and I hope it subsides soon.

shauni27, I don't know how you do it with G's schedule, it sounds brutal. I hope you guys are able to find a more sustainable solution soon.

I've been dealing with daycare drama all day. Apparently our director, who I love, was unceremoniously fired this morning (or actually demoted, she was asked to step down to teacher after being director for the past 2 years). Instead of promoting the assistant director, who is also beloved, they brought in someone brand new. Now many of the teachers are revolting and vowing to leave. I was set to hand in my paperwork/deposit for #2 today and now I'm hesitant. Ugh.

Other than that, things are good. DS has gone through such a developmental leap in the last few weeks. He's just this little person who has conversations and funny thoughts and such now. I'm loving it. My anatomy scan for DD is on Wednesday, so I'm looking forward to that as well

[shauni27]

Mushe, man, having an AP that you are not happy with must make things so difficult. I am sorry.

[oneslybookworm]

Mushe, talk to me about how to find an au pair?

[Mushe]

shauni27, we’ve been getting along so well, this was a shock! Ugh. She seemed on the train early. I want to be frank with her - he DGAF about other countries! - but probably can’t.

oneslybookworm, it’s a cool program! You have to go through an agency. I’m sure I can get you a referral code to ours if you wanted to browse available APs. It’s about $8500 for the agency fee for the year, then $200/week to the au pair, plus room and board...and cell phone and car insurance if they drive (and they all want to drive, even if it’s a shared car). Overall, I’m happy and would do it again. I’m in a live and learn phase re: our must haves.

[scm1011]

Ugh, Mushe. I'm sorry the au pair has been a source of annoyance and frustration instead of the helpful, trusted support as I'm sure you envisioned. And you are NOT failing DD! My DS was often (almost always) cranky in the evenings, too. I hope the pedi is able to give you both some relief.

[Mushe]

I have so much I’ve learned, scm1011! I point out to H how amazing it is that we don’t have to do the kids’ laundry, or double pick up and drop off. It has worked out overall, although there are stressful moments.

[scm1011]

Jan 7, 2019 16:27:13 GMT -5 Mushe said:

I have so much I’ve learned, scm1011 ! I point out to H how amazing it is that we don’t have to do the kids’ laundry, or double pick up and drop off. It has worked out overall, although there are stressful moments.

I am already dreading double drop off/pick up - that is definitely an amazing perk! 

[G22]

Jan 7, 2019 14:34:59 GMT -5 oneslybookworm said:

shauni27, ugh, S's schedule sounds like it sucks! I'm sorry, that is the worst!

Yep, I mean...it's not a state funded preschool, so the state doesn't really have a say in it. It's a church preschool, they start at 1 (or whenever after age 1). It's only 1 day a week right now, but we're looking to increase it to 2-3 days a week, because I really think that will be beneficial for him. He's so social and he's all alone at our house, so...I think he'll really like being there.

We started Z at a church preschool this fall just before his 3rd birthday. He has such shy personality around people he doesnt know, that we wanted him to get the social aspect of preschool now while hes so young. After staying home with me for a couple years, it's been so good for him! We started him out 3 mornings a week at first, but he loved it so much we bumped him up to 5 mornings after the first couple weeks.

I hope it's a great experience for G too!

[thoseareradishes]

I've tried distraction and humor, but once she decides she's done she's just done. Poor kid, I feel so bad forcing it but you gotta wear a diaper!

Hugs Mushe...I hope the doctor can help you figure out what's going on.
Yay for preschool oneslybookworm!

[landmermaid]

pinkpeony08 I'm so sorry you're still bleeding after all this time. I bled for a solid two weeks after my d&c, 5 weeks is torture. My doctors prescribed a pill, (I can't remember what it was) for me to use if my bleeding got worse and something was still left behind as I had a vacation already booked that was right after my MC. I hope your ultrasound shows that you're in the clear, but if there is something left behind maybe that would be an option instead of another d&c? I'll sorry this has been dragged out for so long ☹️

[landmermaid]

Jan 7, 2019 13:27:20 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

Good afternoon!

E is sick again.  There is snot everywhere and she won't let me near her nose for a wipe.  She is also having epic meltdowns about getting her diaper changed, it really sucks.  She doesn't have tantrums about anything else, she's really laid back but omg getting her diaper changed is like the worst thing in the world.  

My daughter used to barrel roll like an alligator and scream at the top of her lungs righting you during her diaper changes. They were horrific. You have my sympathies. I think we potty trained early to help, and I remember putting kids videos on my phone on the window sill to distract her.

[woowoo]

This is random but it's amazing how much fertility treatments and the endless apts make you fall behind on everything else. I just scheduled a dentist apt and an eye dr. apt and a hair apt and I'm embarrassed how long it's been since I've been to any of them.

[pinkpeony08]

Jan 8, 2019 13:42:42 GMT -5 landmermaid said:

pinkpeony08 I'm so sorry you're still bleeding after all this time. I bled for a solid two weeks after my d&c, 5 weeks is torture. My doctors prescribed a pill, (I can't remember what it was) for me to use if my bleeding got worse and something was still left behind as I had a vacation already booked that was right after my MC. I hope your ultrasound shows that you're in the clear, but if there is something left behind maybe that would be an option instead of another d&c? I'll sorry this has been dragged out for so long ☹️

Thanks. The bleeding increased yesterday and I think it’s my period? I checked with ob- now moved us to early next week with the hope this clears my uterus and the bleeding stops. If not, I’ll go in to the us. I’m so tired of bleeding!

[icedcoffee]

OB offices trying to "tell me my due date" is one of my biggest pet peeves. I did IVF. I know my due date. Stop questioning me.

Signed, My NT scan won't be until 12w6d because they say so. I know it's only 6 days, but they won't release the results of my NIPT until I come in for that.

I know this is stupid. Maybe I'm just annoyed because I sat in their office for over 2 hours yesterday for 1 stupid appointment.

[scm1011]

Jan 9, 2019 9:51:28 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

OB offices trying to "tell me my due date" is one of my biggest pet peeves. I did IVF. I know my due date. Stop questioning me.

Signed, My NT scan won't be until 12w6d because they say so. I know it's only 6 days, but they won't release the results of my NIPT until I come in for that.

I know this is stupid. Maybe I'm just annoyed because I sat in their office for over 2 hours yesterday for 1 stupid appointment.

My OB's office has my due date a day later than it actually is. I mean, its a day so whatever, but I tried to be all "I promise you its 6/2. I did IVF and that's the date the RE gave me. I know when I got pregnant down to the minute." but they were all "we go by ultrasound". Ok, fine, be inaccurate lol.

[pooh8402]

Jan 9, 2019 9:51:28 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

OB offices trying to "tell me my due date" is one of my biggest pet peeves. I did IVF. I know my due date. Stop questioning me.

Signed, My NT scan won't be until 12w6d because they say so. I know it's only 6 days, but they won't release the results of my NIPT until I come in for that.

I know this is stupid. Maybe I'm just annoyed because I sat in their office for over 2 hours yesterday for 1 stupid appointment.

My first OB office tried to do that, tell me what my due date is, by LMP. Lol. I was like, it doesnt matter, I did IVF, this is my date of conception, this is my due date. I finally gave up and told them a date that was 14 days prior to my retrieval. And instead of fighting it this time, did the same again, just told them 14 days prior to retrieval, even though LMP was actually 5 days earlier.

[pooh8402]

Jan 8, 2019 14:35:27 GMT -5 woowoo said:

This is random but it's amazing how much fertility treatments and the endless apts make you fall behind on everything else. I just scheduled a dentist apt and an eye dr. apt and a hair apt and I'm embarrassed how long it's been since I've been to any of them.

SAME! I am currently getting recs for a dentist because we had been doing fertility treatments pretty much since we moved here and I haven't seen a dentist yet! Yet my child has been to the dentist 4 times already. *shrug* And I've had one eye appointment in the last 2 years.

My hair is a top priority though. I go every 12 weeks on the dot, haha.

[icedcoffee]

Jan 9, 2019 12:07:21 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

Jan 9, 2019 9:51:28 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

OB offices trying to "tell me my due date" is one of my biggest pet peeves. I did IVF. I know my due date. Stop questioning me.

Signed, My NT scan won't be until 12w6d because they say so. I know it's only 6 days, but they won't release the results of my NIPT until I come in for that.

I know this is stupid. Maybe I'm just annoyed because I sat in their office for over 2 hours yesterday for 1 stupid appointment.

My first OB office tried to do that, tell me what my due date is, by LMP. Lol. I was like, it doesnt matter, I did IVF, this is my date of conception, this is my due date. I finally gave up and told them a date that was 14 days prior to my retrieval. And instead of fighting it this time, did the same again, just told them 14 days prior to retrieval, even though LMP was actually 5 days earlier.

Yes--I basically did this too.  I calculated 19 days before my 5 day transfer and use that every time they ask me when my last period was.  It just seems easier than explaining a million times why the last day I bled is not significant and was not a "real" period.

Annoyingly, my RE gave me discharge papers with my due date and they calculated it 1 day off.  So I just tossed them.  LOL

I know 1 day is NBD, but my "day 1" of this pregnancy is actually my DS' birthday so I want to keep it since I'm a numbers nerd and it makes me feel warm and fuzzy.  LOL

[kellikans]

I am so exhausted today. L screamed almost continously for 2.5 hours last night starting at 10:45pm. He would just sit up and scream. We're trying to sleep train/Ferber, but ohmygod it's draining me. I didn't fall asleep until close to 2 and had to be up at 5:15 for work. And then he started crying again when I was in the shower, so he only slept for 4 hours. You would think at some point he would fall asleep from exhaustion from crying, but nope! I'm really hoping tonight goes better. Kid not sleeping at night and first tri exhaustion is going to be the end of me.

[shauni27]

Jan 9, 2019 10:23:24 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Jan 9, 2019 9:51:28 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

OB offices trying to "tell me my due date" is one of my biggest pet peeves. I did IVF. I know my due date. Stop questioning me.

Signed, My NT scan won't be until 12w6d because they say so. I know it's only 6 days, but they won't release the results of my NIPT until I come in for that.

I know this is stupid. Maybe I'm just annoyed because I sat in their office for over 2 hours yesterday for 1 stupid appointment.

My OB's office has my due date a day later than it actually is. I mean, its a day so whatever, but I tried to be all "I promise you its 6/2. I did IVF and that's the date the RE gave me. I know when I got pregnant down to the minute." but they were all "we go by ultrasound". Ok, fine, be inaccurate lol.

Funny; my RE never officially told me a due date, so I just looked at the calendar and said 40 weeks to the day of my FET. I was sure that was probably not 100% accurate but whatever. And then when I moved to the OB they asked what my official due date was and I just told them the date that I assumed it was and they followed my suit. S was always within a day or two in regards to measurements so it was never an issue.

I do remember when they offered me an induction a week or two early and I was talking about it, someone I didn't know chimed in about how she didnt like that idea since they didnt know the ACTUAL due date of baby. I was like, I assure you I do.

[pinkpeony08]

kellikans ugh that sounds awful! I hope tonight is better.

[thoseareradishes]

I told my ob's office I did IVF but then just calculated what date my LMP would be because they just didn't get it. Then they would give me different due dates all the time based on how big she was. It was annoying!

I'm sorry kellikans, sleep deprivation is so horrible. I hope you all get some decent sleep asap.

Anyone else's kid have a sacral dimple (and ultimately a tethered cord)? Doctor wants to just keep an eye on her gross motor skills for now since she doesn't have any other red flags, and doesn't want to do imaging unless 100% necessary. I'm more worried about it than I like to be, considering it's probably not an issue, but damn man, we can't catch a break.

[loira]

Jan 9, 2019 13:33:25 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

I told my ob's office I did IVF but then just calculated what date my LMP would be because they just didn't get it. Then they would give me different due dates all the time based on how big she was. It was annoying!

I'm sorry kellikans, sleep deprivation is so horrible. I hope you all get some decent sleep asap.

Anyone else's kid have a sacral dimple (and ultimately a tethered cord)? Doctor wants to just keep an eye on her gross motor skills for now since she doesn't have any other red flags, and doesn't want to do imaging unless 100% necessary. I'm more worried about it than I like to be, considering it's probably not an issue, but damn man, we can't catch a break.

I'm sorry. I know it's been a bumpy ride with E. Fingers crossed it's nothing to worry about! I had never heard of a sacral dimple until now. I should not have looked it up in Google images at work, haha. So many pictures of bums!