Post by oneslybookworm on Jan 7, 2019 14:47:25 GMT -5
DH and I adopted our son in July 2017 (finalized in Feb 2018). We'd been waiting for about 14 months before we got a call completely out of the blue that a birth mother had given birth the night before and had picked us to parent her son. It was a total whirlwind, but I wouldn't change it for anything. We now have an open adoption and are navigating parenthood, one tantrum at a time.
We adopted dd at birth in 2015. She's almost 4 now and is currently asking a lot of questions about her birth family. It's been an experience trying to answer questions honestly and in a developmentally appropriate way so I'm here for any tips on that.
Our process was slightly different because we were connected with the BM before we had officially started the process with an agency. It was an 11 week whirlwind of stress but it was so worth it.
Our adoption journey was just about 3 years long, all told. We did domestic infant adoption through a local non-profit agency. We met the then-expectant parents in February 2018, and our son was born in June 2018. So we had quite a while to interact with/and get to know the birth parents, mostly with the birth mother. We have a very open adoption.
We adopted DD in 2010. She was already born when we got matched, so we've been getting to know her birth family ever since. We have a fairly open adoption and meet up on a regular basis. Her birth mom is now married to someone different from DD's birth father, and they just had a baby last fall. We are navigating DD's desire to see her baby sister all the time and the fact that it just isn't possible. Birth mom is also going through a health crisis right now, so there's a lot going on.