Thursday Randoms

[starrieskies]

Today is the anniversary of the day I filed for divorce. I feel like I should celebrate this, but feel like it's not really something to celebrate at the same time.

Whats everyone up to?

[tiramisu]

starrieskies I'd say in your case that's definitely something to celebrate! I might be a little biased, though.


I'm here! I've been tired all week, but trying my best to keep up with the millions of things it feels like I need to do. Tonight is tap and jazz classes, which I'm of course looking forward to. I don't remember all of the choreography for jazz, but hopefully I'll get it tonight.

I guess the other big thing I have going on is that I'm working on creating a profile on at least one, maybe two sites. I'm using a program from a dating coach to help me figure out what to write, what kind of pictures to choose, etc. I'm not ready to "go live" yet, but I'm getting there.

[starrieskies]

Jan 17, 2019 9:42:12 GMT -5 tiramisu said:

starrieskies I'd say in your case that's definitely something to celebrate! I might be a little biased, though.

I would have to agree for the most part. It was definitely the best decision for my mental and physical health. It just makes me a little sad that it was a decision I had to make. That's all.

Also, on a very different note, I'm getting kind of nervous about all the snow we are supposed to get this weekend. Western WA doesn't get that much, so i just havent had to deal with it. I've heard predictions for anywhere between 9 and 24 inches. I do not know how to drive in that much snow, and i have a 35 minute commute to work... I have been pleasantly surprised at the lack of snow since we've been out here. I'm sure that this is nothing new to the road crews out here and all will be fine. But it still makes me cringe thinking about it.

[tiramisu]

Jan 17, 2019 9:49:16 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

Jan 17, 2019 9:42:12 GMT -5 tiramisu said:

starrieskies I'd say in your case that's definitely something to celebrate! I might be a little biased, though.

I would have to agree for the most part. It was definitely the best decision for my mental and physical health. It just makes me a little sad that it was a decision I had to make. That's all.

I can understand that. It does suck that it was a decision you had to make at all. At the same time, I love how much happier you seem now. It's good to see you around here!

And sorry, no snow driving tips. I would be nervous too.

[spindle92]

starrieskies, here is a driving tip for you coming from a Minnesoooootan.

if you get anything more than a foot, there is no driving - tell bossman/woman you are parking your booty at home.

Can I also just say how jealous I am of this snow you are getting. We have nothing. It is January and dreary as shit here. I love winter and all that comes with it, which includes snow, not rain. Damn mother nature.

[spindle92]

and speaking of anniversary's, yesterday would have been my 13th wedding anniversary.
I have been divorced for a while and in years past the day has come and gone with not much thought but yesterday it wasn't like years past.
I am over it and today is a new day though.
Onward and upward.

[starrieskies]

Jan 17, 2019 10:09:22 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

and speaking of anniversary's, yesterday would have been my 13th wedding anniversary.
I have been divorced for a while and in years past the day has come and gone with not much thought but yesterday it wasn't like years past.
I am over it and today is a new day though.
Onward and upward.

Isnt it funny how these days will pass by for years without a thought and then one day it doesn't? Xh and I had it out last week a little bit. Thats probably why its fresh in my mind. But he's an ass, and thats not new. What is new is the way I handle his asshattery, and he doesn't quite know how to handle this new me.

As for the snow, I know if I asked S to drive me anywhere I need to go he will do it with a smile. But staying home sounds good. A feiend of mine in WA posted a clip of a weatherman who classified the upcoming snow by how many bottles of wine you ahould buy to survive the weekend. I'm apparently in a 15 bottle area.

[chalupa]

starrieskies we're on snow watch, too. I love that they're all "could be 8-12"....but more than 14" would not be surprising". Pick a number, folks! Ditto spindle92 - if we do get a foot of snow, the first thing that's going to happen is that all non-emergency crews will be asked to stay off the roads, so today is a great day to ask your manager about weather contingencies.

My work environment is getting worse in a hurry. I emailed someone Tuesday morning that had gotten laid off Monday afternoon And I've also come to the conclusion that the company is intentionally not fixing what's wrong here, because they'd love for the rest of us to leave voluntarily so they won't have to pay out on severance packages. I think they're ultimately looking to un-dual-headquarter themselves and want to consolidate everything to NYC. I've had one interview so far, and I task myself with sending out a resume every day. I keep getting calls from headhunters, but they're all for positions requiring relocation, which is not what I'm looking for.

At least it's a 3 day weekend for me! I'm looking forward to relaxing and purging a closet or two (found a local non-profit that will take my old suits AND my wedding dress - woot!).

[starrieskies]

My supervisor is great and has already said that if its bad stay home. I've only been here about 6weeks, but they're awesome and very flexible. So no worries there. I may just take my laptop home and plan on working from there for a little bit at least.

ETA: I have not always had such flexible employers, so my default is always "omg how am I going to get to work!" Even though I know its not an issue. Thats just where my brain goes first. But the real issue is simply that I do not know how to function in that much snow in general. And I know the only cure for that is exposure.

[doriswe]

I had an email exchange with my boss this morning that has soured my mood. He's not pleased I'm working 10 hour days just to keep my head above water. Dude, I'd rather not be here that much, but I have a zillion things to do. Logically, I know he's looking out for my best interest, but something about the way he wrote the email ticked me off.

I'm taking DD back to school tomorrow and I'm really looking forward to her leaving. I love the girl, but she's messy and can be a real dick from time to time. We're getting snow today and I'm crossing my crossables that it stops today and I can get here there and get home easy peasy tomorrow.

[SwimDeep]

I saw the doctor this morning about my daytime sleepiness/zombie state. She said from everything I'm describing it sounds like the most likely culprit is sleep apnea, so we're going to do an at-home sleep study. She also took some blood to run labs and rule out anemia and anything that might be wrong with my thyroid.

I feel guilty for spending money on this, but at the same time I feel like I need to cover my ass at work. I'm trying to decide if I should email my boss and let him know that I'm being proactive about chasing down a reason for my poor behavior, or if I should just let it go.

[bullygirl979]

I have to say, I'm chuckling a bit over the thought of staying home for 12 inches of snow. Up here that's just called a regular day. The only time you don't go in to work is if there is a driving ban, which we haven't had one in, um, well maybe 3 or 4 years?

starrieskies, do yourself a favor and invest in some snow tires. Everyone thinks AWD is the answer, but snow tires is really where it's at.

[starrieskies]

bullygirl979 haha! I dont think I've been in 12" of snow ever.

[bullygirl979]

starrieskies, oh I get it! You are more than allowed to feel super nervous about it. My comment was more directed just in general, not at you.

I would highly recommend getting some snow tires and going to an empty parking lot to practice.

These tips are really spot on:

www.caranddriver.com/features/a25350719/how-to-drive-in-winter-snow-safely/

[spindle92]

Jan 17, 2019 10:24:42 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

Jan 17, 2019 10:09:22 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

and speaking of anniversary's, yesterday would have been my 13th wedding anniversary.
I have been divorced for a while and in years past the day has come and gone with not much thought but yesterday it wasn't like years past.
I am over it and today is a new day though.
Onward and upward.

Isnt it funny how these days will pass by for years without a thought and then one day it doesn't? Xh and I had it out last week a little bit. Thats probably why its fresh in my mind. But he's an ass, and thats not new. What is new is the way I handle his asshattery, and he doesn't quite know how to handle this new me.

As for the snow, I know if I asked S to drive me anywhere I need to go he will do it with a smile. But staying home sounds good. A feiend of mine in WA posted a clip of a weatherman who classified the upcoming snow by how many bottles of wine you ahould buy to survive the weekend. I'm apparently in a 15 bottle area.

I love this classification!

But I do have questions.  Is that per person, per household...how many people is that suppose to cover and for how long?

LOL!

[spindle92]

Jan 17, 2019 13:50:59 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I have to say, I'm chuckling a bit over the thought of staying home for 12 inches of snow. Up here that's just called a regular day. The only time you don't go in to work is if there is a driving ban, which we haven't had one in, um, well maybe 3 or 4 years?

starrieskies , do yourself a favor and invest in some snow tires. Everyone thinks AWD is the answer, but snow tires is really where it's at.

In years past 12" would be nothing here too but since we have had very little snow, a foot would be like Armageddon to the idiot drivers who forget EVERY.DAMN.YEAR how to drive in winter weather.

[chalupa]

Jan 17, 2019 19:37:52 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

Jan 17, 2019 10:24:42 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

Isnt it funny how these days will pass by for years without a thought and then one day it doesn't? Xh and I had it out last week a little bit. Thats probably why its fresh in my mind. But he's an ass, and thats not new. What is new is the way I handle his asshattery, and he doesn't quite know how to handle this new me.

As for the snow, I know if I asked S to drive me anywhere I need to go he will do it with a smile. But staying home sounds good. A feiend of mine in WA posted a clip of a weatherman who classified the upcoming snow by how many bottles of wine you ahould buy to survive the weekend. I'm apparently in a 15 bottle area.

I love this classification!

But I do have questions.  Is that per person, per household...how many people is that suppose to cover and for how long?

LOL!

I think it's better to err on the over-prepared side and buy 15 bottles per adult. For safety