Post by covergirl82 on Jan 24, 2019 10:31:35 GMT -5
DDOT: I'm just super excited that my PTO accrual is increasing with my paycheck tomorrow. I'm moving up to 8 hours of PTO per pay period, from 6.5 hours per pay period, which is equivalent to about 5 more days of PTO a year!
Our total medical spend for this year so far is $2995.00. We have four more appointments before the end of the month. We met our family deductible by the 6th. I’m kind of dying at this. Upside - 2k to meeting our out of pocket. We’ve used the entire balance of the FSA so most of that is coming back, then hopefully things slow down because we are at the 20% coinsurance point. We also overpaid for two procedures for DD so checks should come back. I hate that it’s so complicated - can we just pay the final amount at the time of service? And if you bill me can it be right??
I've been reading through the elimination diet, and I realize that I can't do the phase 1 which is basically smoothies and vegetable soup because of my hypoglycemia, which is OK because I really wasn't looking forward to it anyway. So once I do start it will probably be at phase 2.
I am officially at that point in winter, where I ready to chuck it all and move somewhere else warm anyway warm I don't care. I would even homeschool my kids to do so. Unfortunately it doesn't make a ton of sense to quit my job and lose out on my pension. Next Wednesday it is supposed to be a low of -18 real temperature not including wind chill.
I slept weird and crinked my neck 2 days ago and it sill hurts. I feel like I have the boringest TWERKS usually. Basically like I am still here living the frozen tundra dream …
DDOT- DD has always tried to manipulate me I guess is the best word, and really into getting her way. She likes to say that no one likes her, no one loves her, and we favor her brother. We don't favor either kid, and we obviously love her a lot and treat her well. This is over stuff like she fought with her brother upstairs and left a mark on him, so I asked her to apologize and when she fought me on it I didn't push and said lets move on then. But she wanted him to apologize to her first.
She also fake cries and fake sobs a lot. We know it's fake because it comes on in 1 second and ends just as abruptly and it's super fakey obvious that it is for attention. I get it, she has her dad's strong personality that runs in his family where they really want to get their own way. I just am kind of at a loss. I took away TV because she didn't pack up her backpack and had it strewn all over aftercare, then she fake cries and runs upstairs and eventually comes down and is fine, but yeah she really doesn't like being in trouble either and is a perfectionist. She also tries to get out of chores by crying and I try to work with her, but also try not to cave because then in her mind she thinks she can make me do X or get out of X. I'm trying; I just don't know if I am succeeding.
Got my annual raise today! It's going to give me a nice little bit of wiggle room each month and make it not quite so tight with all the stuff I pay for by myself now.
waverly- the way we managed to get both kids to knock off the fake crying was to laugh at it and call it that. Like “Bwahaha! That is the WORST fake cry in the history of the universe!” DD has big emotions, and she really cries more than I’d like, but she no longer does the BS faking of it. DS was the same way. With DD we also told her fake crying would result in timeout.
DD got in trouble at school this week for the first time. Her BFF is a troublemaker. He stole her shoe during art while the teacher was giving directions. She felt like she couldn’t interrupt and raise her hand, so instead she kicked him under the table. He kicked her back and they proceeded to get in a kicking skirmish under the table. This morning we discussed it, and she cried. But we talked about ways to handle it better. Like asking him to give back her shoe or raising her hand after the teacher stops talking and politely asking the teacher to ask J to give her shoe back to her. But kicking isn’t kind or nice and neither is retaliation.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 24, 2019 11:22:06 GMT -5
Both of the houses on either side of me are vacant. I live on the MOST SOCIAL STREET IN THE USA but in a little dead zone of no people.
Anyway, one of the houses I know how to get in touch with the owners. The other ones I have no clue and now they have a broken pipe INSIDE their house. So here I am now, trying to find them.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 24, 2019 11:24:44 GMT -5
I wish I had an update. The government is still shutdown, I still don't know when I'll start my new job, and H is still living in our house. Three weeks and 1 day until he moves out and it can't come soon enough. I did get approved for a $3000, 90 day 0% interest loan through my bank so I don't have to get a penalty getting into my emergency fund I have in a CD...yet.
DDOT. I stopped wearing my wedding ring a couple of days ago and it feels very strange.
waverly, same here with living in the north. We were dumped with snow yesterday and now we are in negative digits today going into the next week. It gets old fast when you don't get any time outside. All of our family still lives here so I don't think we'll be moving anytime soon.
I had an MRI done on my foot and neck and see the doctors next week. Pretty certain we're moving towards surgery on my foot. It's similar to a bunionectomy in recovery time. I'm getting a deep tissue massage on Friday and I can't wait! Hope it helps with all the muscle tension and headaches.
Officially canceled flights and our spring break trip is postponed until the foreseeable future. Looking into a summer vacation instead.
We still haven't gotten our pink IRS forms that we ordered on Jan 2nd. We can e-file them but our software charges us per form which we pass onto our clients and then they grumble loudly. It is just a frustrating scenario.
Still no word from the school regarding TAG for DD. The state law says they get 30 working days which isn't up until 2/20. DD told me she is very unhappy right now this morning. Her class earns Dojo bucks for good behavior and she worked out higher $ needs to have lunch with Mrs. J (last year teacher) and Ms. S (3rd grade teacher) and needs 80 more bucks to have lunch with both of them. DD wants lunch with both of these teachers so she can learn something. I'm at a loss on how to help DD. I'm looking at enrichment camps for the summer along with music lessons (she wants to learn to play the flute), onto of her normal gymnastic camps.
DDOT. I stopped wearing my wedding ring a couple of days ago and it feels very strange.
Confession? I only wear my ring about 30% of the time... if that. It drives DH nuts. I feel more lost without my earrings than without my wedding ring.
TWERK: Things with the analyst are not going well. My work situation is like a pimple that needs to be popped.
DDOT: We got a quote to get our master bath remodeled. (Maybe it does DDOT on H&G?) But now we're having moisture issues downstairs and I'm not sure how expensive those will be to fix. The earliest appointment we could get to have someone look at it was in 3 weeks... =\
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 24, 2019 12:44:13 GMT -5
I wear a silicone ring instead of my wedding band or engagement ring. I kept forgetting to put the ring back on and it was starting to make DH nervous b/c I was all fit and everything. Now I'm fat and fit and he doesn't seem to be as worried somehow, lol.
supertrooper1, good for you taking these little steps.
Confession: I don't wear my wedding ring either. I will put rings on for special occasions otherwise they sit on my necklace tree or in the box. They just bug me. Plus I've lost too many stones working in the yard and it is a pain to replace.
DH still likes his job two weeks in and I love love love him receiving a paycheck at his regular salary after 11 months of unemployment or nothing.
DDOT: I have strep throat. Tuesday & Wednesday were hell cause I was trying to work (from home) with a fever and chills. Today I’m taking a real, full sick day just for me. And since I’ve been on antibiotics for 24hrs, I don’t even feel that bad anymore! It’s practically a staycation!
mommyatty, thanks I am definitely going to use the time outs on the fake crying. We already due to bwahaha you are fake crying bit, and it helps but not enough.
We are sad if a sick day is a vacation lol. I once told my dentist that this was me time.
Don't hate me but we are opening late and I was going to leave early, so I don't have to go in at all tomorrow. Chances are that school will be canceled though, so my day will turn into kids fighting all day long.
Post by traveltheworld on Jan 24, 2019 14:26:32 GMT -5
186momx, I'm sure you already covered this - but could your DD's teacher give her extra work in class or could she bring in extra work herself? DS was really bored in class and they stopped doing enrichment pull-out sessions; so we talked to his teacher, and she let him bring books from home to work on in class. We have the Bedtime Math series, and it's been great - as the questions go from super easy to hard. DS has been doing them with his table mates and it has worked out well.
My DDOT: I've been so much happier at work since we've hired the 2 new lawyers. My work load is actually manageable now, I get to exercise, and I get to spend quality time with the kids without being stressed out all the time. It's been great.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Jan 24, 2019 15:11:09 GMT -5
My Dad is retired Coast Guard and his next check will be affected if the government remains shutdown. I have no idea if they have savings they can dip into or not. They are very weird about money. I just hope this gets resolved soon for everyone affected.
Add me to the sick of the weather club for many reasons but mostly my running schedule. Last year I ran every other day so I was able to move my running days based on the weather but this year I’m running 5 days a week and we are getting no breaks between extreme cold and snow and it’s really messing with my schedule. I ran yesterday but had to dodge some icy and snowy spots. The day before I tried to run but could barely walk without slipping so I gave up. Tomorrow is supposed to be -25 degree windchills and then Sunday night/Monday morning we’re supposed to get another 5-8”. UGH! It had better be an early and warm spring.
I’m “supposed” (not critical but would be helpful) to go to London for a quarterly business review in February but I have no one to watch the kids since it’s tax season and DHs schedule varies so much. Since my FIL passed away, my SMIL has driven up here twice by herself and didn’t sound very excited when I mentioned this trip to her. She’s from a very small town and we’re near Chicago so she freaks about the traffic plus its a 5-6 hour drive. My parents will be hosting my sister at their house so they can’t help. This would be after school pickups and sticking around until 8,9,10 when DH gets home. Really hard to find a random person to do that.
+1 to the wedding rings. DH never ever ever takes his off, but I am constantly washing my hands or veggies or fruit or dishes and crap gets under them and my fingers react. So I take them off at home, which leads me to never putting them on.
I also have 2 fake criers. The big one does it when the little one touches her. Big is quite literally twice the size of the little, she doesn’t hurt her, big just wants to get little in trouble. So they both get in trouble.
I’m really enjoying my side gig, but I grossly underestimated my time. I went back and asked for more hours at a reduced rate, and have exhausted those. So now I’m working for free because it’s my fault. I hope they like the finished product and that they will tell people about me. Fingers crossed.
It has been 7 months since my DD was born. I still look pregnant and it was frustrating so I decided to see a personal trainer to help plan a workout routine. He did the diastasis recti test and said he can fit his entire hand between my abs. . . Told me I really need to see my doctor about it and that he didn't feel comfortable starting me on a core routine without seeing my doctor first and hopefully they can recommend a physical therapist to help heal it. I called an made an appointment for next week so we will shall see.
justcheckingin73 , I have the same problem- I can't travel anywhere without getting my mom or in-laws to replace me. I guess it doesn't matter since our out of state conference budget was slashed.
And working parents can't really help each other out. It is not like I can help my sister out and take her kids and then she helps me out and takes mine because of the work/ childcare issue since all 4 parents work and we are in different school districts.
justcheckingin73 , I have the same problem- I can't travel anywhere without getting my mom or in-laws to replace me. I guess it doesn't matter since our out of state conference budget was slashed.
And working parents can't really help each other out. It is not like I can help my sister out and take her kids and then she helps me out and takes mine because of the work/ childcare issue since all 4 parents work and we are in different school districts.
It’s so tough. Thankfully I only have to deal with it until April but Q1 tends to be busy so I’m stuck.