I am the weird one I suppose because I am never without my rings. Rings and ear rings are my thing and I never go with out them.
I am still working on my phone issue. They gave me a website to file a request. Never heard anything so I found the headquarters phone number. So all week I have been leaving very unhappy customer messages and then get a call saying they are working very hard on my issue. I have filed 2 complaints with the Attorney General, but they don't seem too swift either.
justcheckingin73; when is your trip? I would totally make your DH deal with the kids while you are gone for what 4 days. Life still happens during tax season and he just needs to tell his boss now wife needs to be in London on XYZ days. I need to be off before X time to relieve the afterschool sitter I can WFH once I have the kids situated for the night. Maybe the kids miss their sports those few days you are gone which is no big deal in the scheme of things. Could you find someone to do the afterschool pick ups and then stay until 6ish?
Maybe it is different because the tax people I know who have kids are self-employed or small business vs CPA big guns but we all get off and eat dinner as a family and do bedtime and then either WFH or run back to the office to work. Jeez I still cook all the meals, do laundry, housework, pick DD up, work 70+ hours a week while fighting to get DH to pick her up from aftercare by 6pm 2 nights a week. I'm really grateful for my village during tax season because they help with DD a ton and reduce my stress level by chauffeuring her around since DH isn't reliable (he puts work/himself before everything else and therapy hasn't helped this at all).
Post by justcheckingin73 on Jan 24, 2019 20:23:41 GMT -5
186momx, he will if he has to but he is one of the bosses. He’s a partner in the firm so there is a lot of stress and expectations. All of the partners are family oriented and understand that life happens but in general they all work 14+ hour days and don’t come home until 8 or 9. I do everything at home and for the kids but I know if the roles were reversed I would do a hell of a lot more than he does. We’ll see what happens. Like I said it’s not mission critical that I go. The trip is the end of February.
DDOT: there’s a father daughter dance tomorrow. Should DH wear a suit? I have no idea.
Who is it organized by and where is it? I'd say yes. It's nice to dress up with your kids.
My other TWERK: DH and I went to an info session for a school with a specialized program for gifted kids and now we are debating what we should do. The program sounds amazing, the principal sounds amazing and her philosophy aligns perfectly with mine, and I think it's something DS would really enjoy; but the school is far, there are only 20 kids per grade level, DS loves his current school, and I worry - what if he's not actually gifted? We are going to get another assessment done, so at least we'd be armed with more information.
traveltheworld, in a similar situation we made the decision to leave DD (1st grade) at our neighborhood school. It’s highly rated, 12 houses up the street so we can walk easily (that’s why we bought the house before I was even pregnant with our first kid), we both work full time outside the home, and have 3 kids. So the possibility of a better school is not worth going far away, for us. We considered buying a nicer house, which I loved, recently in the same school district a half mile away, but decided against it because having to drive to school everyday would make our lives harder. I am trying my best to not spend my life in the car, and I like that my kids’ friends live so close.
But I think you may have fewer kids, a nanny, or some other differences from us that may make me consider it more in your situation.
After driving 15 minutes one way out of our way 2 times a day for daycare, I am really enjoying our neighborhood school. The bus picks the kids up then they have aftercare at the school which is a 5 minute drive. When they are old enough to be home by themselves they can take the bus home.
k3am, When I went to my Father daughter dance with my dad he dressed up and wore the tie I gave him. I also got to dress in a pretty dress my great grandmother gave me that matched my favorite dolls dress. I felt like a princess and it is a strong memory that I still have 22 years later. Have him dress up. Even if he is over dressed your DD will love it, and make sure he dances with her.
mae0111, it would depend on what they were paired with. And it depends on where they would hit me on the leg. If they hit in a wider part of my calf, I wouldn't like it.
FFFC? I honestly have no real memories of father daughter dances growing up other than crying through most of them and being upset because I had a BIL (my sis is 14 years older than me and married when she was young) going in my dad’s place. So I have mixed feelings about them now, but I know that it’s totally my issue. But I’m obviously sending my kid.
I also hide in the bathroom at weddings when I know the father daughter dance is coming up.
Yeah, that's what I thought. I liked them in the photo, they were on super sale when I bought them, and then they showed up and I was like eh... back they go!
This is seriously the 15th pair of booties I've purchased and send back. Please recommend.
Also, recommend your running shoes. I had been wearing Asics Kayano for years, and a few years back they changed the toebox to make it more narrow. My bunions don't like it. What do you wear?
I’ve never been to a father-daughter dance. If they were a thing I didn’t notice and I can’t imagine my dad pulling out his weddings and funeral suit to take me to one. Possible FFC: H refuses to attend. He doesn’t dance, DD1 doesn’t like crowds, he says the date aspects weird him out so when it came up he took her for ice cream and to the aquarium instead.
Post by covergirl82 on Jan 25, 2019 9:45:49 GMT -5
mae0111, what do you think about these Lucky Brand booties? I just ordered them last week through Zulily. I like them because they are pretty basic and seem like they would go with anything.
I’ve never been to a father-daughter dance. If they were a thing I didn’t notice and I can’t imagine my dad pulling out his weddings and funeral suit to take me to one. Possible FFC: H refuses to attend. He doesn’t dance, DD1 doesn’t like crowds, he says the date aspects weird him out so when it came up he took her for ice cream and to the aquarium instead.
Same for us, except DD loves crowds, just not DH.
FFFC - I find the idea of father daughter dates/dances a little icky. I don’t know why. Maybe it feels like a religious/chastity thing or something. I do like the idea of parent and kid one on one time. DD and DH do YMCA adventure guides, which used to be called Indian princesses and is just father daughter (the ymca also has groups for every other parent/kid combo) So I think it’s the naming of the events like ‘sweetheart’ more than the actual concept that bothers me a bit.
I feel like our school does a good job with mixing up the parent/kid events. We do a daddy daughter dance, a mother/son kickball night, a mother/daughter paint night, and a father/son night. And they really try to call it things like "Girls Night Out" or something a little more neutral.
mae0111, I live by Saucony. The are my favorite. DH just got a pair of Brooks. They are super pricey (he found a sale). They feel really good - I slipped my foot in them. That's what a lot of runners I know wear, but I like the Saucony and they are usually cheaper.
k3am, I like the idea of father daughter dance in theory - our school doesn't have them. But when you think about it, I think it would be rough on a lot of kids and families. I am actually glad we don't. DH works a lot of weekends. He would absolutely not want to take vacation, but the hysteria of DD would be epic if he didn't go, so I am glad we avoid that one.
I feel like our school does a good job with mixing up the parent/kid events. We do a daddy daughter dance, a mother/son kickball night, a mother/daughter paint night, and a father/son night. And they really try to call it things like "Girls Night Out" or something a little more neutral.
I love this! Our school alternates year’s with Mother/son and father/daughter. This year is a mother/son dodgeball tournament, which I think is amazing. 😊
Today was Dads and Donuts for DS. Tuesday is DD’s. DS last night asked why I can’t take him to Dads and Donuts. DD said “He likes donuts but doesn’t really like Dad.” Which is accurate. DH doesn’t understand that doing the absolute bare minimum with the kids is what causes them not to like him. He never plays with them unless I bloody force him to. We take them to the park and he uses it as time to go for a run. During snuggle time at night, he does laundry even though he could do laundry during the day when he’s alone. I’ve stopped trying to pretend the kids really like him. They don’t. And it’s his own fault.
Schools here don’t do the dances. The girls did them through Girl Scouts, adventure guides and with friends (City sponsored). There’s nothing mother son. It bugs me.
No dances here at our school. I would have DH dress up just because DD would want to be all fancy and then get cranky if DH came in is his cruddy work clothes or his normal beat up jeans.
The endocrinologist is sending DD’s blood draw for genetics. She’s concerned about the possibility of Turners Syndrome. I really expected (and I guess I didn’t realize this until she said she wishes she would have seen DD sooner) her to just say DD is short. Now we wait three weeks for results. FML.
k3am, DH is taking our two oldest for the first time next month. It's put on by the Y and the Dads wear a suit or dress shirt and tie. They have a photographer and get a keepsake photo out of it. I never went to one when I was a kid but I don't think my Dad would've gone then because he was always working.
sdlaura, Glad your surgery went well! Talk to me more about this no driving - is it your right foot? Mine will be my left foot and I'm only expecting 1 week off from work.