last week of January

[mpc]

hi all! I am back to work now. I ended up being off for 17 weeks between my maternity leave and the government shutdown. It was nice to have the extra time with the baby but it still didn't feel like enough. I had PPD this time and that definitely made those beginning weeks/months more rough. I'm doing a lot better now. The baby started daycare yesterday. I was really nervous because she wasn't taking bottles at home, but apparently she drank all her bottles there so that was a big relief for me. Anyway, now that I'm back to sitting at a desk all day I'll probably be around more often. I feel like I missed a lot!

[thoseareradishes]

Hi mpc!

E had her second session with her new speech therapist and I like her so much better than our old one. She lets E play with whatever she wants and isn't constantly up her ass to clean up. She has lots of figurines which E loves, and she doesn't care how E plays with them. She was playing with the princess castle, then she got a dinosaur and made it go in the castle, and the therapist played along instead of making her clean up the castle then play with the dinosaur, like her old therapist would have done. I'm hoping this helps E make some more progress.

[icedcoffee]

I finally worked up the nerve to call my OB and see if my results for my NIPT were in (I suspected yes because the website said they sent them to my doctor). The baby is healthy and they emailed me the report to find out the sex. I'm waiting to get home to open it with H.

I am so effing nervous. I don't know why. The hard part is over and it's HEALTHY!!!

Also--I'm really proud of myself for calling because I hate the phone and I especially hate annoying people and prefer to wait, but I just couldn't knowing the results were sitting in an office 5 miles from my house.

AHHHH! NERVOUS ENERGY!

[icedcoffee]

How the eff was I team green with DS? 40 whole weeks!! LOL

[icedcoffee]

It’s a boy! I won’t lie, part of me is mourning the fact that I’ll never have a daughter, but overall I’m handling it better than I thought I would. So glad he’s healthy!

Now tell me all the good things of only having boys! . Things like “you’ll never have to comb out knotty girl hair” help. LOL

[woowoo]

icedcoffee, welcome to Team Blue!

Ya'll, my husband is traveling for work this week and I came home Tuesday night to a leak in the kitchen. I thought it was the HVAC unit (we're in a one story home and the cooling unit is above the kitchen) so I called an HVAC guy. Yeah....that wasn't it. By the next morning (even after turning the main water valve off overnight) it had spread all over the kitchen ceiling and at 7:35am my ceiling caved in. The entire kitchen ceiling.

A critter had gotten into the attic and chewed through a PVC line. I was in shock. Yesterday was a long day with plumbers, water cleanup crew, restoration crew, and critter control. By myself at 5 months pregnant. Fun times.

I'm exhausted and kind of want to cry a lot.

[scm1011]

Jan 30, 2019 19:56:09 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

It’s a boy! I won’t lie, part of me is mourning the fact that I’ll never have a daughter, but overall I’m handling it better than I thought I would. So glad he’s healthy!

Now tell me all the good things of only having boys! . Things like “you’ll never have to comb out knotty girl hair” help. LOL

Congrats on the healthy baby boy! I think its normal to mourn what you'll never have. While I was hoping #2 was a girl, I was around a friend who has 2 boys over the weekend and they were SO sweet and adorable with each other, so clearly each other's best buddy, and I had a pang of sadness that I'm not giving DS a brother instead. 


 

[scm1011]

I hope the transition back has gone smoothly, mpc. I'm sorry to hear you were struggling with PPD, but I'm glad you're feeing better <3

Yay for the new speech therapist, thoseareradishes!

We're doing well. DS got a "report card" yesterday and it confirm some stuff that I suspected; he's a little behind in communication and problem solving. When he gets upset he shuts down and just cries instead of using words or asking for help, so it doesn't come as much of a surprise. I guess I should do some research on best techniques to combat this.

Other than that, he's great! He's such a silly fun little guy and I'm really loving this age. I'm 22 weeks pregnant, and it feels like I've both been pregnant forever and have forever to go, ha. But I can't complain, things have been going smoothly.

[icedcoffee]

Jan 31, 2019 7:48:19 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Jan 30, 2019 19:56:09 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

It’s a boy! I won’t lie, part of me is mourning the fact that I’ll never have a daughter, but overall I’m handling it better than I thought I would. So glad he’s healthy!

Now tell me all the good things of only having boys! . Things like “you’ll never have to comb out knotty girl hair” help. LOL

Congrats on the healthy baby boy! I think its normal to mourn what you'll never have. While I was hoping #2 was a girl, I was around a friend who has 2 boys over the weekend and they were SO sweet and adorable with each other, so clearly each other's best buddy, and I had a pang of sadness that I'm not giving DS a brother instead. 


 

Thanks!  I spent the night looking at pictures on FB of friends that only have boys and I'm getting a little more excited.  Boys are really cute.  And I am sure DS will love his baby brother.  We do make really sweet and adorable little boys.

4 years ago I didn't know if I'd ever have 1 kid let alone 2 healthy boys so I just need to get my head on straight.

OMG  woowoo.  I am so sorry.  Sadly, I can relate.  My finished basement flooded when I was 20 weeks pregnant (on my birthday!) with DS due to a cracked pipe.  I spent the night on my hands and knees shop vacing water out of the carpet.  The next day we called an emergency repair place and they ended up needing to replace the bottom 6 inches of drywall and trim and all the carpet.  It was such a mess.  That weekend we were supposed to go to the beach with H's family, but I sent H without me.  I just couldn't handle life and needed the weekend alone after all that.  I hope you can get it all cleaned up quickly so you can put it behind you.

[scm1011]

Oh no, woowoo ! What a nightmare! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that alone

[loira]

Jan 30, 2019 19:56:09 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

It’s a boy! I won’t lie, part of me is mourning the fact that I’ll never have a daughter, but overall I’m handling it better than I thought I would. So glad he’s healthy!

Now tell me all the good things of only having boys! . Things like “you’ll never have to comb out knotty girl hair” help. LOL

You'll never have to scrape poop out of a vagina and wonder if you got it all.

[loira]

woowoo, that sounds awful. I'm sorry.

The loira household is doing alright lately. My job was made permanent and H got his work permit so now he can work and get government healthcare. We've planned a bunch of camping trips this summer, and DD can't wait to hit the beach. I'm also keen for summer but know I can't complain because we have snowdrops instead of snow and everyone else in this country is freezing their arses off.

[shauni27]

woowoo! You poor, poor thing! that would put me in the hospital with a panic attack, I think!

[knx9211]

Jan 31, 2019 10:45:31 GMT -5 loira said:

Jan 30, 2019 19:56:09 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

It’s a boy! I won’t lie, part of me is mourning the fact that I’ll never have a daughter, but overall I’m handling it better than I thought I would. So glad he’s healthy!

Now tell me all the good things of only having boys! . Things like “you’ll never have to comb out knotty girl hair” help. LOL

You'll never have to scrape poop out of a vagina and wonder if you got it all.

Omg you just made me pray this baby is a boy.

[dellabear]

I’m home with sick DS today. Truthfully I probably could have sent him to daycare as it’s just a cold, but I am exhausted, work has been crazy lately, so I opted for a lazy day at home with him.

I’m so glad that January is over, it has felt like the longest month ever. I hate winter, I really need to plan better in the future so we have time and money to travel somewhere warm in Jan or Feb.

[pickel]

woowoo,OMG, you poor thing!! I hope everything gets repaired quickly. :-(

icedcoffee, I had gender disappointment when I was pregnant with DS1, so I completely empathize. I will tell you though, I cannot imagine not having him or having a girl instead. From the time he was born, he has been the light of my life. I enjoy being his mama so much. It is so true what they say about boys and their mamas, I am definitely his "person" and we have an incredible bond. I will say, it is SUPER easy getting him ready for bed and ready for school (no frilly clothes to try to match, no hair to blowdry so it doesn't tangle, etc.). He was also super easy to potty train, which I had heard was harder for boys. There was some article I had read when I was pregnant with him and struggling with GD that said something like, what expectations did you have with having a girl, was it that she would do "girl" type things like shopping or arts and crafts or was there some experience you wanted with a girl? Because lots of girls do not like doing stereotypical "girl" things and there's no guarantees with regard to experiences, and vice versa, your boy may be into those things. That really helped me and turns out the things that I wanted out of being a girl mom, I get with my son. He is a super cuddler, does art projects with me and reads with me every night. Bonus is that my H loves taking him out to have "guy" time and I get that time to myself, which is so nice. Just this last weekend, they went to my H's home state to see his family and go skiing while I stayed at home. In a couple of weekends, they're going to go see Monster Trucks. Congrats on your baby boy!!

[icedcoffee]

pickel, Thank you for saying that. You are so right. And you know, I can't even think of one experience I wanted with a girl that I won't get with a son. Possibly shopping for a wedding dress type stuff, but there's no guarantee a girl would get married and there's no guarantee my son's partner wouldn't want to include me in that. Unless I turn into a psychopath like my MIL. LOL You are spot on. Thank you! I guess part of me wants my kids to have the relationship that I have with my sister and that's still totally possible!

Getting pregnant, being pregnant and delivering have made me overthink everything and I am so excited for the day both my sons are here and I can stop thinking about my future family and just live in my current family.

[pickel]

icedcoffee, I didn't realize you had a DS (still new around here :-)) so I hope I didn't sound condescending. I am so sorry if I did! Picking out prom and wedding dresses was something I struggled with too, but I thought, who knows, maybe my future DIL will want me to tag along to pick out her wedding dress or maybe she won't be close with her family and will want to do more with our side. I really wanted to have the close relationship with a daughter that I have with my mom, but I know a lot of guys who are super close with their moms. If you have a crazy MIL, chances are you will be nothing like her, because you have learned the lessons from the DIL side of things! Haha :-) I do get you though, if this one is a boy, I will probably still have some of that longing and it will be different because my family will be complete and there won't be another chance for a girl. I think its normal to have the "what ifs". :-)

[woowoo]

icedcoffee, I'll admit to feeling a little disappointment when I heard our one good embryo was a boy. And I think if I pushed DH to admit it, he would too. But my reasons have more to do with the feminism movement of our era and having the the chance to raise a strong, powerful young woman (which honestly borders on the absurd considering how different all children are). I also realized I could make just a strong an impact on the world by raising a respectful, kind and feminist-leaning young boy/man.

All that said - I'm now LOVING all the boy clothes (I think they are so much better than little girl stuff), excited to share my love for Marvel comic book characters (regardless of gender), and kicking the "boys" out of the house to go watch football together so I can have a Sunday afternoon by myself.

[loira]

Jan 31, 2019 12:09:17 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

Jan 31, 2019 10:45:31 GMT -5 loira said:

You'll never have to scrape poop out of a vagina and wonder if you got it all.

Omg you just made me pray this baby is a boy.

Haha, there are so many amazing things about having a girl. But this wasn't one of them, haha.

[icedcoffee]

In other news. Remember the drama with my SIL announcing pregnancy at Thanksgiving (so---on a holiday in front of a room of people) while I was in the midst of IVF? (Refresher: pandce.proboards.com/thread/604295/thanksgiving-randoms)

My BIL called my H yesterday with a "if you don't have plans you should come to mom and dads for brunch on Sunday". She's exactly 20 weeks so my H asked if this was for a gender reveal and he said no. You guys...I'd bet 6 million nest dollars it's for a gender reveal. He hasn't called my H in probably 6 months until this. If he lied so that I can't mentally prepare for this I might lose it.

They still don't even know we're pregnant. I have no desire to tell them.

People shouldn't be tricked into showing up for a gender reveal. Maybe I'm totally wrong, but unfortunately my intuition in regards to people's pregnancies is generally spot on.

[icedcoffee]

woowoo, this site has some fantastic feminist shirts for boys: www.freetobekids.com/

DS has the "boys will be good humans" shirt, but there are others that are fantastic too.

[shauni27]

Feb 1, 2019 8:50:43 GMT -5 icedcoffee said:

woowoo , this site has some fantastic feminist shirts for boys: www.freetobekids.com/

DS has the "boys will be good humans" shirt, but there are others that are fantastic too.

I have so many things in my shopping cart, lol.

[woowoo]

icedcoffee, LOVE THESE! Thank you!

[shauni27]

S is officially 18 months. He is so bright and is learning new stuff every day. I never believed people that "it gets even more fun" as they got older, but man, I am LOVING this age right now. Every day there are new words, new actions, etc. We got him a little potty and introduced it to him. He loves playing with it and said "poop in potty!" and knows to sit on it. No actual training yet (waaaaay too soon for us) but he already seems to know so much about it, lol. He can help us do things around the house and is just so silly and goofy and sweet and fun.

Going to try taking him skiing at the hill this weekend. I think he will hate it, but it's finally supposed to be over 30 degrees and I WANT TO BE OUTSIDE, DAMNIT!