My genetics appointment

[vmars]

So I met the geneticist this morning. She was so nice and caring. She took her time with us and educated us on my condition. The long and short of it, is my chromosome abnormality is extremely rare, but it means I have a 50% chance of conceiving a child naturally with no genetic issues which will not result in a miscarriage. She explained there is testing that can be done if I am already pregnant to see if the baby will have an issue but they are invasive and can cause a miscarriage. With IVF with genetic testing I will not need to worry. They will test the embryos and not use ones with this issue. At this point, I think that may be my best option. I am going to see if I can get a consult with the RE before my HSG test (HSG test is done at REs office). This RE office comes highly recommended by everyone I speak to. It’s a little bit further away but I want to go to the best. I am overwhelmed and just trying to take this all in right now. It’s hard to come to terms with. She basically said I got extremely lucky when it came to my son.

[Jalapeñomel]

I'm so glad you have some answers. Overall, it seems like you can have another child with a little bit of science, which is good news, IMO. I don't want to lessen the fact that you have to have IVF or that this genetic issue exists, but there is something to be said that you can have another healthy child.

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I am also incredibly lucky I got one. After my years of struggle, it's kind of mind blowing that I did.

[vmars]

Jan 29, 2019 13:11:39 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

I'm so glad you have some answers. Overall, it seems like you can have another child with a little bit of science, which is good news, IMO. I don't want to lessen the fact that you have to have IVF or that this genetic issue exists, but there is something to be said that you can have another healthy child.

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I am also incredibly lucky I got one. After my years of struggle, it's kind of mind blowing that I did.

Are you in NJ? I think I am going to use RMA. They said I have to wait until after my HSG to schedule my initial consult.

[thoseareradishes]

vmars , I went to RMA. Feel free to PM me any questions 

[cherryvalance]

vmars, I didn't go to RMA, but I do have several friends who used them and had a good experience. If you have questions about other clinics, I might be able to help. I oddly know a lot of IVFers randomly.

Good luck! I'm sure it's hard news to swallow, but hopefully it gives you a path forward.

[vmars]

Jan 29, 2019 13:56:34 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

vmars , I went to RMA. Feel free to PM me any questions 

Sent you a PM. Thanks.

[seeyalater52]

I'm sure it's so overwhelming and stressful to be thinking about possibly doing IVF all of a sudden. I'm glad the genetic counselor was able to provide some more concrete information and possible next steps. One step at a time, and just keep breathing through all of it.

One question to ask the RE at some point in the future is to ask them to explain the process for identifying your specific mutation in embryos if you were to move forward with IVF and genetic testing of embryos. My understanding is that identifying your specific issue (PGD) is separate from PGS, where they are just globally looking to ensure the correct number of chromosomes in each embryo that occur randomly. They might have thoughts or recommendations about whether they recommend doing both types of testing (factoring in other things like your age and other risk factors) and what the combined cost is. Most people doing PGD do tend to also do PGS (no use trying to screen out embryos with the specific mutation and still end up with an aneuploid embryo that doesn't have your chromosomal issue) but I'm not certain how the costs work for that. 

[landmermaid]

That's a lot to take in. It sounds like you've got a very supportive team and can help guide you along the way. Good luck with your next steps!

[vmars]

I am still at such a loss mentally. I thought bc I conceived my son with ease that my next pregnancy would be the same. I obviously did not know how lucky I was at the time.

I am so nervous about the entire IVF process. I know very little about it and I am worried about the emotions that go along with it. I know I want to talk to an RE and have the process explained before I totally commit.

[Jalapeñomel]

Jan 29, 2019 13:20:43 GMT -5 vmars said:

Jan 29, 2019 13:11:39 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

I'm so glad you have some answers. Overall, it seems like you can have another child with a little bit of science, which is good news, IMO. I don't want to lessen the fact that you have to have IVF or that this genetic issue exists, but there is something to be said that you can have another healthy child.

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I am also incredibly lucky I got one. After my years of struggle, it's kind of mind blowing that I did.

Are you in NJ? I think I am going to use RMA. They said I have to wait until after my HSG to schedule my initial consult.

A friend of mine is 13 weeks pregnant from IVF there, and she raves about them. She recommends Dr Bergh.

[cherryvalance]

Jan 29, 2019 15:57:25 GMT -5 vmars said:

I am still at such a loss mentally. I thought bc I conceived my son with ease that my next pregnancy would be the same. I obviously did not know how lucky I was at the time.

I am so nervous about the entire IVF process. I know very little about it and I am worried about the emotions that go along with it. I know I want to talk to an RE and have the process explained before I totally commit.

You've just had a ton thrown at you. Don't worry about committing right now. Any clinic worth their salt is going to explain the process at length and you have a wealth of information right here.

IME, we had a consult where the doctor explained various treatments they do. Then, we proceeded with diagnostics. Then we sat down again and he gave us realistic treatment options based on our testing. I personally was adamant about not starting with IVF because it seemed overwhelming and invasive and they were fine with that. All of that is just to say, there's no right or wrong way to go about this process and you can absolutely move at a pace that feels comfortable.

[stellelinds25]

IVF is confusing and overwhelming and scary...but we're all here to help you along and ask tons of questions to your RE and nurses...when we went in for our initial consult, I googled what to ask and went in with a list of questions. We left that appointment on information overload, but feeling more at ease than I did going into it. Take some time and process!

[nmosrob]

vmars , I also went to RMA, feel free to ask me any questions as well. I used the Morristown and Basking Ridge locations.

[vmars]

Jan 30, 2019 14:02:53 GMT -5 nmosrob said:

vmars , I also went to RMA, feel free to ask me any questions as well. I used the Morristown and Basking Ridge locations.

I will send you a PM