She does have access to the internet, right? Like, ordering food for yourself is pretty damn easy. I'm just so baffled by this every time I come back to this thread.
Did you guys ask her what she wanted? Was there a whole back and forth with this? Was she just looking for free food? I'm just so confused!
Post by sapphireblue on Feb 19, 2019 23:17:02 GMT -5
I have all the same questions as Isabel.
Do you guys live in an area where there isn't delivery (I have lived in such places) and she couldn't leave the house to pick up takeout? If there is delivery, why wouldn't she have just ordered her own food? Because she wanted you to pay for it?
While I wouldn't have sent lunch to someone at an office who could clearly get about on his own, it sounds like this lunch was part of a meal train? It's typically dinner, but people do send take out if they can't get to the person to bring the meal. While still crazy, it sounds like OP was providing a meal from a meal train (that this entitled whacko set up for herself) rather than getting asked randomly to send lunch.
I have a facebook friend though who will routinely just ask for things on facebook and people will bring them to her. Stamps, a cup of coffee, babysitting. It's bizarre that people are willing to do this. I also have no friends. It seems like there are the wackos who will not be friends with anyone who isn't willing to do everything they say and then there are the people climbing over each other to be near these people. Send lunch, get matching Trucker hats, whatever it takes. I don't get it.
I realize that it is probably too soon to be asking for updates, but I really hope that the OP will come back and update us once she ghosts this chick. I'm also really hoping that OP asks this "friend" to bring her a meal to see what she says.
I could have read it wrong but I thought the meal train was after a baby (and was OPs idea) and the delivery was when Friend was ill, two separate instances. Like she was complaining about being sick and they asked what they could do for her and she suggested delivery two days later.
She does have access to the internet, right? Like, ordering food for yourself is pretty damn easy. I'm just so baffled by this every time I come back to this thread.
Did you guys ask her what she wanted? Was there a whole back and forth with this? Was she just looking for free food? I'm just so confused!
But if the others order for her, they pay. Free food delivered was her goal.
This makes me realize how much nicer other people are, because I'm pretty sure I'd have laughed directly in her face if she had the audacity to ask me to buy her husband lunch when he's at work with his own wallet and a presumably working telephone. I doubt I'd have purchased her lunch either, but for damn sure I'm not buying her husband lunch.
This also might be why I only have like 5 friends.
If the options are 5 friends or this fuckery, I'd rather have only 5 (or fewer) friends.
I could have read it wrong but I thought the meal train was after a baby (and was OPs idea) and the delivery was when Friend was ill, two separate instances. Like she was complaining about being sick and they asked what they could do for her and she suggested delivery two days later.
I don't know why I even posted. LOL It's just messed up no matter how you look at it. I had irritating experiences with meal trains so I think I just hate everyone and everything. I joined a Mom's group that did these whenever someone had a new baby. I had absolutely no help when my son was born, my husband was gone 12 hours a day and no family nearby. Money was really tight and I still participated in these meal trains. Every single time I delivered the food there was at least 2 other adults, besides the new parents, in the house taking care of the mom and the baby. Cooking and cleaning for them. I swear it seemed like the more people they had doing things for them, the more likely it was that every meal would be signed up for. The popular people got 3-4 weeks. 3 to 4 weeks of meals delivered daily. One girl was not in the IN group, I guess. I brought a meal and she was really struggling. They had found a serious issue with the house and major repairs were needed and both the baby and their toddler had medical issues. They set up a five day meal train and only 3 people signed up. The organizer said, "I think it's because of her address." They would all nod solemnly when asked to pray for her baby in the hospital, but driving 10 minutes outside of their rich neighborhoods into her poor one was more than their Christian hearts could give. She was the last person I ever brought a meal to.
What does this lady bring to your friendship? I’ve seen a few people like your friend and I’m always baffled because I never see the redeeming qualities that everyone else sees.
I could have read it wrong but I thought the meal train was after a baby (and was OPs idea) and the delivery was when Friend was ill, two separate instances. Like she was complaining about being sick and they asked what they could do for her and she suggested delivery two days later.
I don't know why I even posted. LOL It's just messed up no matter how you look at it. I had irritating experiences with meal trains so I think I just hate everyone and everything. I joined a Mom's group that did these whenever someone had a new baby. I had absolutely no help when my son was born, my husband was gone 12 hours a day and no family nearby. Money was really tight and I still participated in these meal trains. Every single time I delivered the food there was at least 2 other adults, besides the new parents, in the house taking care of the mom and the baby. Cooking and cleaning for them. I swear it seemed like the more people they had doing things for them, the more likely it was that every meal would be signed up for. The popular people got 3-4 weeks. 3 to 4 weeks of meals delivered daily. One girl was not in the IN group, I guess. I brought a meal and she was really struggling. They had found a serious issue with the house and major repairs were needed and both the baby and their toddler had medical issues. They set up a five day meal train and only 3 people signed up. The organizer said, "I think it's because of her address." They would all nod solemnly when asked to pray for her baby in the hospital, but driving 10 minutes outside of their rich neighborhoods into her poor one was more than their Christian hearts could give. She was the last person I ever brought a meal to.
Aww, this makes me so sad for that poor girl. I'm glad you helped out.
A friend of mine just had a serious surgical procedure and a meal/carpool (for her kids) train was set up. Five weeks of meals and rides was booked in a day. After 1.5 weeks she messaged everyone and told them she appreciated it, but her recovery was going faster than she expected and that she had a lot of help so she was cancelling the rest of the train. She encouraged everyone to instead donate a meal's worth of food to the local food pantry. I thought that was pretty classy.
OP your "friend" is seriously lacking social and relationship skills.