Presidents’ Day week

[Mushe]

Hey all! How are things?

I’m drowning at work right now. 😫 I’m down about half the staff I used to have, and no support staff. Both got promoted, which is great for them, but hard for me.

H has had a cold for about two weeks. I have a former boss who finds sickness a personal failing, and I kind of understand it! He’s that guy who coughs or sneezes into his hands. 🙄 I follow him around with Lysol wipes, but got a scratchy throat overnight.

The extra day off yesterday was great. We took B for a recheck, just to have an appointment in between 6-9 months. She’s such a sweetie! Despite my worries because I can’t remember when DS did everything, the doctor says she’s right on track. Physically, she’s definitely bridging the gap between adjusted and actual age; I’d love for her to verbalize more, though.

[scm1011]

I'm so glad you checked in, Mushe , but sorry to hear that work is so overwhelming at the moment. I hope you get some new support staff soon. That's great to hear that B is doing well though

I'm doing well. DS is a lot of fun and DD is 25 weeks cooked. I'm insanely exhausted all the time (like I took a 4+ hour nap yesterday after sleeping 11 hours overnight), which is the opposite of how I felt during my last pregnancy, but I guess I wasn't chasing after a 2 year old last time! Work is blah, pretty boring and under-stimulating, but I'm looking forward to my 16 week paid leave and I'm sure I'll be thankful its a cake walk when I'm barely sleeping upon my return. I'll tackle career advancement in 2020 along with a my marathon comeback

[loira]

It was family day for most here, so also a day off yesterday. I'm sorry you're under so much stress, Mushe.

The whole thread about embryo storage here brought up some conflicting feelings for me about being OAD. I am really, really loving this stage for A. I can see her being a sister. Our family feels a bit incomplete but I wonder if it would always feel that way even if we have another. Which we really can't. For one, it's just not feasible financially. For another, I cannot go through another pregnancy. But I'll be 36 this summer and it just sort of feels weird to close the door on this. Blarg, sorry for the brain dump.

[pinkpeony08]

I took the day off yesterday because school was closed and daycare was also scheduled to be closed for staff development. Because of so many snow days, daycare ended up deciding to open! So I spent a fun morning out at a science center with my kids and then dropped them off so I could get something productive done. I've been spending a lot of time making decisions and finding things for our new house. We're renovating a duplex into a single family, and it's getting closer to being done. I'm ready to be done making all these choices though. I'm excited to be going to a conference and then warm weather vacation in a few weeks! It will be a great time to get away after lots of cold and snow here this winter. I'm presenting with friends at a national conference, which is pretty exciting for our group.

Mushe So sorry it's been so busy. I hope you can find some great help to make it a bit easier.

[grover]

Not only has DD rocked the last two nights in her toddler bed, she also rocked the new cot at daycare for naps! WooHoo! Now hopefully I didn't jinx myself! I also am now thinking of trying potty training mid-late summer. It'll be easier in the long run than worrying about diapers for 3!

[kellikans]

Still dealing with sickness over here. I finally went to urgent care tonight and got some antibiotics for my sinus infection. Praying that they work. DS is getting over his pink eye and on antibiotics for his ear infection. DH is going to take him to daycare tomorrow (pedi cleared him and I don't want him to miss picture day!) so I can stay home and rest.

I'm starting to plan DS's first birthday party. I can't believe my little guy is going to be 1 in less than a month!

I'm 19 weeks with DD. I think I'm starting to feel her moving, which is fun. Still overwhelmed at the idea of having a new baby and a 16 month old, but getting a little more used to it. I'm really hoping she's a chill unicorn baby.

[shauni27]

Mushe, sorry about all the stress, friend. Work is the same for me as well right now. It is tough. Hugs!
loira, that is totally an understandable feeling to have and I empathize with you. Sending support.

things are not quite as hectic here so that is helping. S was sick then G was sick (still is) with a man cold. My mom's recovery from open heart surgery is finally starting to normalize so I am not needing to work from her house daily. I do still drive her to appointments once a week or so when my dad can't, which is hard to balance with my crazy work load right now, but I am making do.

One month left of being a "single" parent and then hopefully I can talk G into a career change.

S is learning new words daily and wavers between being a total toddler terror or a complete dream of a kid being silly and cuddly. I still feel like he was just born and yet he is closer to 2 than he is to 1. AHHH!!

[thoseareradishes]

Hi Mushe! Glad to hear B is doing well! Did her toe issue resolve?

We've been lightly potty training E; she's always been allowed in the bathroom with me and she's had a little baby bjorn potty for a while now so she's very aware of what happens in the bathroom. She also has been peeing on the potty before bath for a few months. Lately she has been asking to use the potty, so I ditched the onesie undershirts (wah, I hate seeing her bare belly in the cold!) and got her some pull ups, which we are still calling diapers (they are just to make it easier for me to help her). I don't know if we're doing the right thing, but we're just trying to follow her lead. Once it's warmer we may try underwear or bare butt, but for now this seems to be working.

[thoseareradishes]

loira, liking because I have some of the same feelings. I'm 99.9% sure I don't want another, but I would love for E to have had a sibling. But my uterus is a mess, and I am too scared of another preemie and/or baby with craniosynostosis, so I guess that's it.

[Mushe]

loira and thoseareradishes, hugs and love for you as you navigate these thoughts.

shauni27, I am so sorry, I completely missed your mom’s surgery! I’m glad to hear her recovery is on the upswing, and sending you good thoughts.

Radishes, that’s amazing E is working on PT! Go baby! B’s toe is still overlapping some, but we do stretches every day, and it does seem a little better. They said to expect the most improvement after she starts walking. PT has been tracking us monthly, and just kicked us out until May because she’s doing so well.

[shauni27]

Mushe, I honestly do not remember if I shared it, lol. It was a successful surgery, but everything that could go wrong with recovery did go wrong. She was in the hospital for one month, released and then 4 days later back in. Seems to be doing well now, though!

[loira]

Feb 20, 2019 14:10:13 GMT -5 thoseareradishes said:

Hi Mushe! Glad to hear B is doing well! Did her toe issue resolve?

We've been lightly potty training E; she's always been allowed in the bathroom with me and she's had a little baby bjorn potty for a while now so she's very aware of what happens in the bathroom. She also has been peeing on the potty before bath for a few months. Lately she has been asking to use the potty, so I ditched the onesie undershirts (wah, I hate seeing her bare belly in the cold!) and got her some pull ups, which we are still calling diapers (they are just to make it easier for me to help her). I don't know if we're doing the right thing, but we're just trying to follow her lead. Once it's warmer we may try underwear or bare butt, but for now this seems to be working.

I feel like A and E share a few personality traits, and fwiw I wish I had taken a more relaxed approach like yours to potty training. I went full on Oh Crap method and we had a lot of withholding and it was really stressful. A has also done really well with rewards now that she's no longer in daycare (couldn't do them there because it wasn't fair to other kids plus daycare did not want to encourage candy). Sounds like you're doing a great job!

[Mushe]

shauni27 oh yikes, a month?!? Your poor mama. 😥

[dellabear]

loira, I still feel conflicted about closing the door to more kids even though I know that I really can’t handle another one and I also really don’t want to be pregnant again. I have been telling myself that no matter how many babies you have, you will always have to be done sometime and that the twinges are because it is the ‘end of an era’ of having a baby around and not a sign that we should have more. It’s tough though.

Speaking of not being able to handle any more kids, H broke his wrist last week so he’s in a cast and cannot lift giant DS. So I have had to do all the toddler care including all daycare drop offs and pickups that are usually 100% H’s job, which has effed my schedule and I’ve been late every day all week. Good thing my boss is away.

Plus of course the cast can’t get wet. So I also have to do all the baths. And he can’t tie DDs skates or take DS to swimming, etc etc etc. These are the days when adding another child feels like absolute lunacy.