How do you guys cope with the anxiety and fear? I feel like all the symptoms I had the two weeks after our successful transfer have decreased or disappeared. My first scan is a week from today. I’m trying to distract myself but it’s hard.
Post by landmermaid on Feb 19, 2019 21:48:22 GMT -5
I'm so, so sorry. It's really such a terrible mind f*ck.
I wish I had an easy answer. With my third loss, I kept trying to do the "today I am pregnant" mantra. And just tried to be as positive every day as I could. I was still devastated when it didn't work out, but I *think* maybe I enjoyed a small piece of it?
I dunno. This sucks and I'm really sorry for what you're going through. The good news is that symptoms can come and go. I hope you get good news at your scan.
Post by cherryvalance on Feb 19, 2019 22:01:02 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. PGAL is the absolute worst.
Honestly, and this will suck to hear, but nothing made it better for me but time. I just focused on whatever was the next hurdle--getting to the first scan, graduating the RE, etc. Even up to the end I had bouts of fear, waiting for the other shoe to drop.
ETA: Don't put too much into symptoms. They come and go in the early weeks. It's a complete mindfuck.
I don’t have any real advice as I’m dealing with this as well. With symptoms though, I had no real symptoms with my DS and this time I’m pregnant with twins and felt great with just some sore boobs now and then and hunger until just a couple of days ago (7W). I spent a lot of time wondering if I was even really pregnant, despite three betas, until my ultrasound.
I didn’t deal well at all (see my posts on the graduate board). I also had no symptoms and was convinced I was going to miscarry at any moment. The only thing that made it better was trying to stay busy and time.
I wish I had advice, but honestly being pregnant AL was so emotionally challenging for me that I said I would never do it again. Every week the first 16 weeks felt like a month.
Things that helped a little were early testing. Then once I got past my loss date in weeks (17 weeks for me) I was able to relax a bit more, and then again once the ultrasound at 20 weeks showed everything was healthy I was finally able to enjoy it a bit.
I also got myself a home doppler that I used more than I care to admit that really reassured me from about 14 weeks on.
Hugs, it is truly one of the worst experiences. I cried daily for months.