Anyone up for UOs?

[2chatter]

I was sent places but rarely travelled with my parents. Traveling with my kids I am like wtf is wrong with my parents that they didn’t want this? I mean, it could be either the alcoholism or the bi-polar that got in the way....so probably better I wasn’t subjected to family vacations?

I love trips with the kids.

[waverly]

I will admit traveling with babies or toddlers who were acting crazy on an airplane or who didn't sleep was not the greatest, but now- it's so much better!

I actually have a lag between my memories and expectations and reality in terms of their age. Like I still think oh no this will be awful, and then I go and am like wow no sledding really isn't that big of deal (well except when DD threw a fit trying to walk up an ice hill like her brother did), but overall most thing are better and my brain is not 100% caught up to what they are able to do now in terms of maturity. 

[mustardseed2007]

If you are a nurse whose job it is to teach parents how to give injections to kids, you should call them back when they try to set up an appointment with you as instructed. Also if the parent has given their cell phone number to every medical provider including you because they work, you should call that number instead of their home number to set up the appointment.

Unpopular with our assigned nurse, apparently.

I can't even figure out when and how they got my home number.

[campermom]

Feb 22, 2019 12:26:16 GMT -5 mellym said:

2chatter, I'm with you! One of my close friends texted last week that we should do something so I asked her for coffee/brunch/lunch (anything!) last weekend and response was that she would love to but she's so busy. I follow up with okay, so what day would work for you? Still waiting for a response...It gets to me because it feels like I'm juggling so many things and still keeping her a priority but it doesn't feel the same in return. It might be that she just doesn't have the bandwidth because she comments that she doesn't know how I do it all but then be honest and tell me that!

I have so many friends and family who do this exact exchange. I’m probably overthinking it but those are the friends I’ve been texting less and phasing out. I mean, if I can do all the same shit they are doing but still make time for them during my “free time”, why don’t they make the effort for me? I’ve convinced myself that they don’t value me as much as I value them (not saying this is the case for you...again im prob overthinking it) but I’m tired of getting burned by friends.

[waverly]

The interactions I was referencing were more acquaintances then friends. I really don’t have a ton of true friends, but I don’t really care. I’ve labeled people so much over the years, and I didn’t see a lot of value in it since true friends disappointed and acquaintances sometimes stepped up. My friends have ended up being more situational so if we move away the friendship peters out usually in their end first so I’ve accepted that now instead of fighting it. As long as I feel social and out of the house I am good with it. I am still an introvert, but I’ve moved my perspective from an introvert to an extrovert perspective when it comes to friendship maybe because most of the world is extroverted, so I keep running into it, of maybe it’s just more realistic? Overall I find friendships to be much less intense in these family raising years then high school or college. And my expectations are lower maybe in a good way.

[sandandsea]

Feb 22, 2019 11:07:52 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

Feb 22, 2019 10:57:26 GMT -5 2chatter said:

Any time someone says they don’t have time for something, they really mean they aren’t prioritizing that item. And that’s okay, but I get super irritated with the people who are so insistent that they are “too busy”. Most of the time when this gets me, they work minimally or not at all and have only school age kids.
I really need to have a response printed “I work 50 hours a week, have three kids (one of whom is currently a medical trainwreck), a husband who is either out of town or at work, am responsible for my mom, work out 3-5 days a week and manage to have a social life. I am not sympathetic to your busy tales of woe. I think what you really mean is you haven’t prioritized something but for some reason you are incapable of just saying that. Work on being secure in yourself and your choices or find someone else with whom to discuss this. Kthanksbye.”

Eh I’m probably one of the people you’re talking about. I can certainly work on my prioritization and time management. But I also have no desire to have 100% of my time scheduled. Combo of introverted nature and anxiety that seems to be ramping up despite trying several methods to reduce it (chemical and otherwise).

Link with no sleep causing a near inability to focus and I am a hot mess. I have never been so exhausted as I have been in recent months. Every day feels like a battle that I cannot face. On every front.

So certainly some question of choices and prioritizing, but I’d dare say that there are other factors.

Ditto. I hate being over scheduled and need some down time to keep up my energy for being “on” and going all the time. I also work 50 hours a week, have 2 little boys, an even busier husband, and volunteer so I’m quite busy and need to say NO a lot. It’s easier to say “busy” than explain the details of everything and people are sensitive so saying I don’t want to isn’t fair either. I do want to but have to say no for my own sanity.