I need counsel...AA and racism

[SwimDeep]

I'm struggling with something right now... y'all know I'm trying to get/stay sober...



The AA circle I'm in is mostly white, and I've noticed some racism - mostly on FB and from two particular people who would be considered very senior to me. I rarely see these people in person, and when I do, everything is all about AA. But I just can't see them the same way after seeing their posts on FB. I've lost my respect for them, I guess.

Should I be more confrontational? I know it doesn't do much good to confront people on FB. And these ladies would pretty much pat me on the head and "bless my heart."
But should I confront them for the sake of my own morals?

Or should I "live and let live" and focus on my own sobriety?

[SwimDeep]

ETA: ...I dare you to dare me to post this on CE&P...


(please don't make me do that)

[sacattack]

This may not be the correct answer but this is what I would do:
- I would unfriend or just hide that person and not engage on FB.
- If they said something in my presence I would speak up.

[smock]

I'd respond on FB when you see it happen. You don't have to throw down, but you can comment "This is offensive" or "Why would you post this?"

You probably won't change their minds, but think of all the other people seeing their posts.

And then I'd consider finding another AA group.

[SwimDeep]

smock, let's say its your boss. Would you still say "this is offensive."

It's my sponsor's sponsor and one of my sponsor's good friends. (I don't think I'm breaking anonymity by saying that.) Funny thing is they have no issue speaking up for what they believe in. I'm the one that has an issue with confrontation.

Facebook aside, I'm on a charity board with these ladies. There's diversity in the board, but I've noticed that the women of color tend to be labeled "trouble makers" by certain white women. I don't like it. I'm at the point where I'm ready to stop working with the charity over it... I'm at the point where I'm ready to find a new sponsor over it.

[mags]

Well, I would go to another group, BUT you need to find a sponsor and group Before you leave this one.

When they question me as to why....I'd let it all out....LOUDLY and everywhere!

[smock]

Feb 25, 2019 14:21:55 GMT -5 SwimDeep said:

smock, let's say its your boss. Would you still say "this is offensive."

Obviously your wording depends on their comments and the context. And I'm self-employed, so I don't have a boss, but I take your point. Power dynamics make it hard to stand up in this sort of situation.

Still, it sounds like you can't really participate in your group because of these racist biddies. So I'd start thinking of ways to find a better support system.