Someone just asked me if I was pregnant.

[dev22]

Awesome. She actually said - "Can I ask you something? Are you pregnant?"

And here I was, thinking I looked cute today in new jeans and a new shirt.

No, I am not pregnant, lady. A fact of which I am painfully aware. And yes, I am fat. Another fact of which I am painfully aware.

So fuck you and happy Friday.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

WTF??? Who ASKS that?
Seriously, as far as I'm concerned, you are only permitted to ask another woman if she's pregnant if she is actively pushing a baby out of her vag. That's it.
That's rude. Especially with what you're dealing with. I'm so sorry.

[wawa]

Please tell me you told her off. Please!?

Because people who ask that kind of question do not deserve to be treated kindly. They deserve to be shamed so hard that they NEVER EVER EVER do it again.

Like I did to my old boss when I told her that, "No, I'm just fat, but I did just have a m/c so thanks for bringing it up."

[pixy0stix]

My gpa asked me that the other day when I was wearing a cute maxi dress.

I'm sorry dev.

[ladybug2002]

I am sorry. That would piss me off, too. I have gained some weight and I am sure some people wonder if I am pg, but thankfully no one has asked.

(hugs)

[Daria Morgandorffer]

FFS.

My 90 year old great grandmother in law asked me when the baby was due at Easter. Thanks granny.

[osulori]

Please tell me you told her off. If not, can I do it? I haven't been to the West Coast in for.ev.ver and this is a perfect reason to hop on a plane.

[dev22]

May 18, 2012 11:30:30 GMT -5 asdfjkl said:

What did she say when you told her you weren't?

"Oh."

And I was too schocked to say anything. I just stood there like an idiot.

[mysterons]

A similar thing happened to me at Super Target last month. A woman behind me in line insisted that she help me put my grocery bags in my cart because I looked like I was "ready to pop" and she couldn't let someone who was pregnant do heavy lifting. She was a large woman herself. I went home and burst into tears.

[Daria Morgandorffer]

May 18, 2012 11:34:55 GMT -5 mysterons said:

A similar thing happened to me at Super Target last month. A woman behind me in line insisted that she help me put my grocery bags in my cart because I looked like I was "ready to pop" and she couldn't let someone who was pregnant do heavy lifting. She was a large woman herself. I went home and burst into tears.

The fuck? What is wrong with people?!

[copzgirl1171]

People are ridiculously unaware of how hurtful they can be, what ever happened to "how are you? Enjoy your day"

Instead they are nosy and ignorant.

[marie427]

I'm so sorry, Dev. People seriously suck.

I was working with a not-pregnant colleague a few months ago when an old woman she was helping actually TOUCHED HER STOMACH and said, "Congratulations on your pregnancy, when are you due?". My colleague took it in stride and handled it well but I could tell she was absolutely crushed and I had to take over when the stupid woman left so she could go to the ladies' room and bawl. It was awful.

[pescalita]

I just can't understand why anyone would think that's an appropriate question to ask. Do they even think what if the answer is no???

[debatethis]

Ughhh. I'm sorry. I've alternated between crying and blistering sarcasm in my responses to this question over the last couple weeks.

[secretlyevil]

May 18, 2012 11:23:42 GMT -5 dev22 said:

Awesome. She actually said - "Can I ask you something? Are you pregnant?"

She needs to hand in her female card because every woman has it in their dna not to just ask this question. It is RUDE.

[iammalcolmx]

Don't people know to NOT ever ask this question? I had a coworker ask a woman this before sitting down on a flight, she wasn't pregnant, so as a result he pretended to sleep for the entire flight while the woman commented on what an asshole he was to ask the question, LOL!!

[marynjoe]

May 18, 2012 11:26:50 GMT -5 wawa said:

Please tell me you told her off. Please!?

Because people who ask that kind of question do not deserve to be treated kindly. They deserve to be shamed so hard that they NEVER EVER EVER do it again.

Like I did to my old boss when I told her that, "No, I'm just fat, but I did just have a m/c so thanks for bringing it up. "

I am going to say that if I ever hear that question again.

[ringstrue]

I'm sorry.

2 different cashiers asked if I was pg when I was under 150lbs and wearing non-belly-clinging clothing because (I think) I was subconsciously patting my belly. Pair that with carrying all my weight in my belly and I pretty much always look 15 weeks pg.

[hubes]

That's something that you never, ever, ever ask. Not if a woman looks like she's smuggling a basketball in her t-shirt that says "Mommy to Be," while registering and Babies-R-Us. Just NEVER. Ever.

[catsarecute]

Guh, I'm sorry. I hate people that do this. Especially when they are female.

A secretary at a school I go to once a week said to me "Ohhhh I didn't know you were pregnant!!" Yeah, I'm not. And when I told her that, she tilted her head and scrunched up her nose as if I was lying to her. I was so close to saying "I'm pretty sure I know whats going on with my uterus."

I've had it happen far too many times and each time, I wish my come back was full on bitch mode instead of sheepishly saying that I'm not pregnant. I feel bad for whoever says it to me next time.

[chichimi]

That is the suck. I am so sorry. What makes people think its ok to comment at all on other people's appearance?

[msmerymac]

I had a FRIEND ask me that once, and also said, "Because your boobs are huge!"

My response was seriously, "Nope, I'm just fat."

[meshaliuknits]

Boo! It's even worse on the days you're looking extra cute. Sorry Dev

[Deleted]

I will never understand how people say things like this and SO many of you have experienced it, really beyond comprehension. Here's my response to those dumb bitches:

[caden]

Someone asked me that once. When I said I wasn't KU he tried to back track and acted like he confused me with someone else, which was ridiculous. I was stunned too and the second he turned around to walk away I burst into heaving sobbing messy tears. I'm so sorry Dev. People suck. Oh and I threw out the sweater I was wearing the second I got home.

[ringstrue]

confession -

I was convinced a friend I know was pg because she was real skinny before and never lost all the baby weight and was wearing really lose dress at a wedding we went to. It took all I had to not say something. Actually, I did bring up "having another" but they are far from it.

[Deleted]

That sucks. I got asked that when I was moving into my first post-college apartment. I responded with, "no, just chubby."

[IIOY]

What the motherfuck is wrong with people? I mean, I don't even ask very-obviously pregnant women - you know, the ones who are stick thin with a basketball belly - if they are pregnant because it's not worth it. Fuck that noise.

[wawa]

I'm so conditioned NOT to ask such a thing that I once put my foot squarely in my mouth because a friend who had been super thin and toned WAS pregnant and the thought that she was KU'd didn't even occur to me.

I hadn't seen in her a few month - and the last time I saw her she was in a bathing suit and swimming laps and laps and laps in a pool. Literally. I had to leave a beach vacation early and when I said goodbye she was in the pool. She looked slammin'. And then I saw her at a wedding and she was wearing something kinda shapeless and looked really thick through the middle.

I kinda wondered what in the world had happened, but pregnancy didn't even cross my mind. I kinda wondered if she had gotten sick and couldn't work out. Or hurt. Or was on steriods for a health problem and it made her puffy. Or...had worms. Or I dunno SOMETHING.

Finally I heard her say to somebody else, "well, since my due date is x, blah blah blah" and I blurted out "OH you're PREGNANT!" And it was abundantly clear that the next (thankfully unspoken) part was "that explains why you arent skinny anymore!" I was beyond mortified. I kinda stammered some absolute nonsense for a minute and finally was just like, "congrats! You look great! I love your shoes!" and ran away to get a drink. I still feel awful. She was very gracious and just laughed at me.

[heightsyankee]

I had another mom at school congratulate me the other day. I say "I don't often get congrats for having a beer gut." She felt like an asshat.

It's insulting but it can be mortifying on a whole different level. I had a friend who had a still birth at 28 weeks and didn't leave the house for almost a month because she couldn't bear to have ppl ask her about it. Sho'nuff 1st day out, a stranger in the super market asked her when she was due. Asshat again.