I had another mom at school congratulate me the other day. I say "I don't often get congrats for having a beer gut." She felt like an asshat.
It's insulting but it can be mortifying on a whole different level. I had a friend who had a still birth at 28 weeks and didn't leave the house for almost a month because she couldn't bear to have ppl ask her about it. Sho'nuff 1st day out, a stranger in the super market asked her when she was due. Asshat again.
Oh my god, poor thing. Like she wasn't traumatized enough.
I've never been asked this but I've got my response ready.
Dumbass Person: "Are you pregnant?" Me: "Nope, but I'm throwing this shirt away when I get home."