Hello March!

[G22]

Mar 5, 2019 12:30:50 GMT -5 megstoo said:

Today's 5dp3dt and tested a BFN. I know it's early but I'm starting to lose hope. This is our first IVF cycle and I've had no signs of anything.

Its definitely still early since you did a 3dt. Your not completely out, but I know how much of a hit it is to see a bfn I'm sorry!

[msmerymac]

Mar 5, 2019 12:26:09 GMT -5 vmars said:

Mar 5, 2019 12:23:28 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

They embryos don't like them. I've been told to avoid them, but just on the day of retrieval and transfer (when the embryos hit the air, so to speak). 

Where did you buy these products? Does target sell unscented bodywash/shampoo etc?

I just used some castile soap because it's not heavily scented and washes away (no lotion or moisturizing component). Avoided all lotions, dry shampoo, etc.

[starryfish]

Mar 5, 2019 12:30:50 GMT -5 megstoo said:

Today's 5dp3dt and tested a BFN. I know it's early but I'm starting to lose hope. This is our first IVF cycle and I've had no signs of anything.

E    wayyyy too early. I only hear people getting + as early as 9days post or 10 (you are only at 8 days). I would not give up hope at all. You are WAYYY too early. I wouldnt give up hope until you are at 14 days combined. 

[vmars]

So I had my genetic counselor meeting for the additional bloodwork my RE ordered. Apparently I am a carrier for two conditions (one would effect the kidneys and the child would need a kidney transplant by the time they are an adolescent) and another is a liver issue. Luckily, DH is not a carrier and therefore we have a less than 1% chance of conceiving a child with these issues. DH is of course the picture of health lol.

[EllenGriswold]

Mar 5, 2019 12:26:09 GMT -5 vmars said:

Mar 5, 2019 12:23:28 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

They embryos don't like them. I've been told to avoid them, but just on the day of retrieval and transfer (when the embryos hit the air, so to speak). 

Where did you buy these products? Does target sell unscented bodywash/shampoo etc?

I used aloe instead of lotion and used basic soap. For day of retrevial I just showered the night before and didn’t use soap and then no deodorant until after I was back home.

[pooh8402]

Mar 5, 2019 12:18:33 GMT -5 vmars said:

Mar 5, 2019 12:10:18 GMT -5 EllenGriswold said:

Same as above, no ibuprofen and I cut down on caffeine. Had a cup of black tea in the mornings instead of coffee. Also my doctor told me to avoid scented products while stimming (body wash, lotion, etc.) and especially on the day before and day of retrieval.

What is wrong with scented products?

My first RE also told me no scented products because eggs and embryos don't like them. So ever since then, on retrieval and transfer days, I may wash my hair the night before but not use product (or only use something like coconut oil on the ends for frizz), use plain ivory soap, no lotion, no deodorant.

[msmerymac]

BFN. The super sweet nurse called and said, “so, I’m not calling with good news. It was negative. Are you okay?” I almost laughed and said, “yeah, don’t worry, I expected it!” I think testing at home is actually good for adjusting expectations. This is the second IVF negative I’ve gotten and I’m really okay. Of course, this time I have 10 blasts on ice and last time I was coming off a miscarriage AND my dad’s heart attack and was facing another retrieval.

[G22]

Mar 5, 2019 15:45:03 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

BFN. The super sweet nurse called and said, “so, I’m not calling with good news. It was negative. Are you okay?” I almost laughed and said, “yeah, don’t worry, I expected it!” I think testing at home is actually good for adjusting expectations. This is the second IVF negative I’ve gotten and I’m really okay. Of course, this time I have 10 blasts on ice and last time I was coming off a miscarriage AND my dad’s heart attack and was facing another retrieval.

I'm sorry, but I'm glad you are doing ok. ((hugs))

[landmermaid]

msmerymac I'm so, so sorry. Big hugs to you.

[EllenGriswold]

Hugs msmerymac. Glad you are in an ok place but sorry for the bad news.

[robinsbff]

so sorry for the BFN msmerymac - hugs.

[G22]

Literally everything is making me cry these days. Friday can't come fast enough.

[icedcoffee]

I'm sorry msmerymac. I hope the next one is it for you.

[stellelinds25]

msmerymac I'm sorry...sending hugs!

[fairfax]

Mar 5, 2019 15:45:03 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

BFN. The super sweet nurse called and said, “so, I’m not calling with good news. It was negative. Are you okay?” I almost laughed and said, “yeah, don’t worry, I expected it!” I think testing at home is actually good for adjusting expectations. This is the second IVF negative I’ve gotten and I’m really okay. Of course, this time I have 10 blasts on ice and last time I was coming off a miscarriage AND my dad’s heart attack and was facing another retrieval.

I’m sorry. I’m glad you’re in a better spot this time around!

[G22]

I'm 7dp5dt and having mild cramps and brown discharge/spotting. I don't know what to make of this. At this point it could be implantation bleeding (which I've never had, so I can't compare) or my period is trying to come. It feels a bit late for implantation spotting though, right? 

[G22]

Against my better judgement, I tested. BFN for now.

[EllenGriswold]

Hugs G22, hope you just have a late implanter

[vmars]

Mar 6, 2019 12:55:01 GMT -5 G22 said:

I'm 7dp5dt and having mild cramps and brown discharge/spotting. I don't know what to make of this. At this point it could be implantation bleeding (which I've never had, so I can't compare) or my period is trying to come. It feels a bit late for implantation spotting though, right? 

I had brown spotting with DS but it was at like 8 weeks so def not implantation but no cause either.

[knx9211]

Mar 6, 2019 13:28:39 GMT -5 vmars said:

Mar 6, 2019 12:55:01 GMT -5 G22 said:

I'm 7dp5dt and having mild cramps and brown discharge/spotting. I don't know what to make of this. At this point it could be implantation bleeding (which I've never had, so I can't compare) or my period is trying to come. It feels a bit late for implantation spotting though, right? 

I had brown spotting with DS but it was at like 8 weeks so def not implantation but no cause either.

I had really early brown spotting with DS. Fingers crossed for you, G22

[G22]

Mar 6, 2019 13:32:37 GMT -5 knx9211 said:

Mar 6, 2019 13:28:39 GMT -5 vmars said:

I had brown spotting with DS but it was at like 8 weeks so def not implantation but no cause either.

I had really early brown spotting with DS. Fingers crossed for you, G22

Thank you for this! (same to you vmars)

I know rationally I'm not out yet at this point. Spotting has never meant anything besides a failed cycle in the past for me, so I'm trying desperately to stay positive.

[ilovecandy]

Mar 5, 2019 12:30:50 GMT -5 megstoo said:

Today's 5dp3dt and tested a BFN. I know it's early but I'm starting to lose hope. This is our first IVF cycle and I've had no signs of anything.

Way way to early. Our first ivf was a 3dt and I don't think I saw my positive untill around 10 days post transfer. It ended in a chemical pregnancy but at least I know what a positive test looks like now.


Good luck to everyone.

I haven't been around much we keep going back and forth about ivf again and right now I am dealing with some issues from sleep deprivation so yeh. Also I have a confession to make and I feel like three is the only place I can make it but I am not sure either can actually type it out for the world to see. It is not a good confession and pretty flameful.

[msmerymac]

ilovecandy, I feel like I say plenty of flameful things in my RESOLVE group!

[ilovecandy]

Mar 6, 2019 16:58:56 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

ilovecandy, I feel like I say plenty of flameful things in my RESOLVE group!

Good to know. I should have probably brought this up in therapy today but oh well. Also my flameful isn't related to infertility. Maybe I will start a confession thread so people can properly flame me or give me validation.

[vmars]

Sometimes it pays to be an underpaid govt employee with shitty chromosomes. It looks like my insurance will cover everything except the freezing/one year of storage which is $1k. I have to pay $3k for genetic testing up front but should be reimbursed for 70%.

[chocolatepie]

msmerymac I am so sorry.

G22 and megstoo - fingers crossed for you both!

I have the flu. I didn't feel well when I was going to my 2nd beta on Monday morning but thought it was allergies. Got home, took my temp, and it was 102. I tried letting it ride but my fever kept going up & I started struggling to breathe (asthmatic) so dragged myself to urgent care this morning. I'm hoping Tamiflu will help me feel like a brand new person in a few days!

My mom is in town to visit and I've literally laid on the couch the entire time. Boo!

[red]

I survived my saline sono today! Took 800 ibuprofen an hour before, mild cramps but not bad at all. Weird that 2 hurt like HELL and 2 were no big deal. When I mentioned how much more it hurt last time and that I had a vasovagal response and almost passed out the RE said it was probably his fault last time. I guess it depends on where the balloon is inflated. Hmm. A few more days of BCP and then starting estrace.

[red]

msmerymac- huge hugs. I do think testing before helps to lessen the blow, I’ve done it for countless BFNs at this point. I hope you get your BFP soon.
@g22- I hope it was a false negative, I am sorry.

[wise_rita]

BFN at 9dp5dt.

Hoping it's too early, even though I accidentally drank done booze tonight.

(I know, WTF, right?)

[G22]

chocolatepie , I'm sorry you've been so sick, especially with your mom in town! I hope you feel better soon!