Do you think this would be strange?

[cleo29]

so, there is one other mom that i am friendly with in our neighborhood who is divorced. she has a son who is 8. i kind of want to reach out to her and to talk. I have told two good friends that H and i separating/divorcing, but i still feel so isolated and just sad. I found out about a support group, so i am making strides for real support, but would it be totally terrible to reach out to her?

Everything is very raw right now and this came from h, not me. There are things i wanted to get better and work on, but in part due to a lot of other stressful matters we have been dealing with, it just got pushed to the side or H was too scared to really push it to the top. obviously, the damage is done and this is where we are now.

[bullygirl979]

Not at all. Have you hung out with her at all? If yes, I wouldn't hesitate to reach out and just say it'd be nice to talk to someone who has "been there". If you haven't hung out with her, I may be a little more...casual? about the invite. Like, see if she wants to grab a drink but have it be more social and not necessarily as much about divorce.

I know this board seems slow but most of us are on throughout the day and have been divorced. Feel free to brain dump here when needed.

[tiramisu]

I don't think it would be strange at all. It sounds like a good idea. And yes, it might seem dead, but we'll all get on here and chime in. I'm sorry you're in this situation, butt glad you've found us. This kick-ass group of ladies has helped each other through so much. Hugs to you, cleo29.

[mags]

Great idea to reach out. Having someone nearby who has gone through similar experience always helps.

It may help her too

and of course....counseling counseling counseling! it was a mind saver!

[doglove]

I’m sure things probably suck real bad right now, but please know it will get better. Big hugs.

[neonpink]

I think as adults it’s hard to make friends and we all want to be more social but find it difficult. I’d reach out to her.

[spindle92]

I agree word for word with what bullygirl979 said. If you have met her before than go for it but if not, maybe start pout slow for coffee or something and then go from there.
You can NEVER have enough people in your corner at any point in time in your life but especially when going thru divorce. It is so easy to isolate yourself and that is not the best approach.

[cleo29]

Mar 24, 2019 19:09:39 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

I agree word for word with what bullygirl979 said. If you have met her before than go for it but if not, maybe start pout slow for coffee or something and then go from there.
You can NEVER have enough people in your corner at any point in time in your life but especially when going thru divorce. It is so easy to isolate yourself and that is not the best approach.

Oh, I know her. Have spoken with her, etc. i will reach out to her this week.

[arch01]

Definitely do it.

I lost a lot of the people who I thought were friends when XH went to rehab the first time-and felt so alone and isolated when we separated. I'm surrounded by seemingly happily married people. It was comforting to me to be around people who had been there-I've slowly rebuilt a small group of friends that I know I can go to when life just sucks as a single parent-and they can come to me.