And I’m pretty happy to be back at work. Saturday was freezing cold and we had a tee ball game and a baseball game, scheduled where there was just a tiny bit too little time to go home and warm up between games.
Sunday we took the kids to a birthday party that wasn’t particularly well-attended, so I felt bad for the kid. And my daughter acted like a Mean Girl to another little girl, and I was FURIOUS with her. Like spitting nails mad.
I’m exhausted and scheduled a doctors appointment for myself for tomorrow. I have been having this persistent chest pain and when I ran Friday my heart rate was at my max even when walking. Now when I stand up it hurts really badly in my neck. So....I guess it’s time to get in and figure this out.
The weekend was wonderful but didn’t help. Birthday party for my mom, followed by Five Feet Apart. Got home around 11:30.
Saturday brunch with the girls then got home from the lake around 11:30. So lots of late night driving - and since this is apparently not true everywhere - here that means driving 80 in construction zones in the dark, so not relaxing highway driving.
Yesterday I have no idea where the day went. I did manage to procure groceries and yell at the senior living place. I have started to slowly ramp up on their social media pages - with no response of course - because my mom STILL doesn’t have an emergency alert tag. I haven’t posted the whole saga on their page, that they gave her a non functioning tag, she tried to exchange it and they never replaced it - she fell and spent 16 hours on the floor and has been in the hospital ever since - but I don’t get how they are not ALL OVER this - it’s been a few weeks since I first asked for it and even face to face they tell me they will put it in her apartment RIGHT NOW and then they don’t. Suggestions on how to make them comply with their own standards appreciated.
2chatter, Attorney General and Board of Nursing? I'd escalate it. If a company doesn't respond on social media to stuff like that, they probably don't have a real marketing person monitoring it, so it'll be a crap shoot and a useless response if/when you do get one.
It is Spring break here. DD has a birthday party today that DH is taking her. DS may have some boys over. I am taking the kids to their favorite Mexican restaurant Wednesday. Maybe cookout one night and that's about it. I took the day off Friday, but I am hoping we can work in the yard getting ready for spring. I am trying to figure out how to get a truck load of mulch home. In the past, I would take DH's truck to work and get it on my way home. Heaven forbid I get his new truck dirty. He doesn't have any faith in my ability to pull a trailer behind it. He may or may not have time to get it before Friday. Ugh. This is usually my project where I do not have to wait on him.
Weekend was OK. I never knew that friendships at my age would be so hard. Most of my friends went camping this weekend. We didn't get invited. Part of the reason is DH's crazy work schedule. He works several weekends, so we don't get out with everyone as much. Sometimes I go alone, and all I get all night is where is DH? Sometimes I want to say, I killed him and stuffed him in the closet, because they all know he works weekends. Another part of the reason is that we are not where our friends are in life. I don't want to stay out till 2am. I don't want to go out on Thursday for Thirsty Thursday, and then on Friday, and get hammered on Saturday, so I have to lay on the couch hung over on Sunday. I am 40+ damn it. I did that crap for 20 years. We run kids to extracurricular stuff all week and I like my house. I just want to go out on the weekend, have some drinks, maybe a nice meal. I want to get in bed at a decent hour because I run on Sunday morning (not fun running with a hangover) and I like to feel good on Sunday to maybe cookout with the family or friends or just enjoy the day. So far, we haven't found that group, and I guess we are the boring ones in our current group that do not always get invited.
Had a great weekend with the kids. I am trying really hard to implement more of a clean up routine, which is awful to admit because they're not little, but my kids suck at it. So we deep cleaned the playroom and then they did really well keeping up with putting things away when they were done with them instead of just adding to the piles of toys on the floor.
This week is going to be crazy busy. Grocery shopping tonight, therapy and haircut for me tomorrow, talent show and work event simultaneously on Thursday, and counseling intake for the kids on Friday. I'm so relieved to have finally found them a counselor to see to help process all the changes. XH's GF moves in next week sometime, so it is perfect timing.
Vent: DH snored all.night.long. And not just a light snore, or a consistent snore... the kind of snoring where every so often, he would snore so loud it would jerk me awake as soon as I'd started to doze. I am the world's lightest sleeper.
He has mild sleep apnea and hasn't done anything since having it diagnosed. I'm sure the treatment plan would be some form of CPAP, which would help him.. but would also likely keep me awake.
I feel like I can't win here.
The kids came back from their trip to the IL's.. DD's favorite part of the trip? She got to sleep in the same bed as DS. Her least favorite part? DS snores. She said she feels bad for me because she knows DH snores louder than DS and that every night must be awful.
Last week was the kids spring break so I took Friday off and we went to lunch, Dave and Busters and frozen yogurt. There wasn’t a lot of bickering and it turned out to be a really fun day.
DH worked all weekend so it was just me and the kids. Saturday was groceries, putting together a new lateral file cabinet and hutch I bought and laundry.
Sunday I did my usual run but the knee pain I’ve been having suddenly got really bad for about 15 minutes and then cleared up which was very weird but I think I need to make an appointment with PT. Not sure if it’s IT band or something else. Plus my lower right back has been giving me issues for while so I’m not sure if they’re related. I found myself limping and walking funny yesterday and realized that I’ve been doing it awhile and it’s not normal.
Ended up going to the mall since DD needed some new shorts. We were there almost 3 hours - ugh! So there went my Sunday. Then both kids wanted to move their rooms around so we did that, made dinner and I called it a night. Sat on the couch and zoned out on my iPad.
First day back at work after being gone for two weeks. First week I was in Vegas for a conference and then I took last week off for my kids spring break.
First time to Vegas. Not really a fan, gotta be honest. Can't imagine I would ever spend my own money to go back.
Spring break was, meh. We are spending our annual vacation money on a new patio and landscaping this year, so no family trip. It was miserable! I have no interest in spending $100/day to take the kids to do some lame indoor activity, and it was really cold for most of the week. Basically we stayed home and played a lot of Monopoly. We did start some projects in the little girls rooms, getting ready for new carpet that comes next week.
Spent the weekend working. DD came with me on Sunday as she wanted mommy time. Left about 3 and ran to Costco, then planted some flower bulbs at home before eating dinner.
DH is thinking about going over and playing paintball this weekend. He will let me know on Thursday if he will be home for the weekend or not. Now...do I plan for him to be gone and find someone to pick DD up Friday from aftercare, and sitter for at least Saturday. My mom is already gone Friday night and Saturday. Last time he did this I planned and then he didn't go and was pissed that I had arranged DD to be gone. I hate putting people on standby just because DH won't plan anything in advance.
DD1 came down with the stomach flu on Friday night/Saturday AM, altering our plans to help my parents out. She seemed 100% better yesterday so I sent her to school, but got s call from the nurse a little while ago to pick her up.
Now I’m feeling awful - stomach, full body aches, chills. It came on suddenly and hit me hard. I have so much to do this week. I really didn’t need this. Hope it’s quick.
Post by librarychica on Apr 1, 2019 11:43:13 GMT -5
I leave for vacation early next week and my focus is shot. I’m really pushing myself to finish the to-do list before then. Future self will thank you, current self!
We had kind of a chaotic Monday. H and I were up late compiling tax docs, I overslept, we forgot we are snack family for the youngest this week (thank god for a fruit cup sale that meant there were 16 fruit cups in my cabinet) ...
Tonight when I swing by for the rest of the week’s snacks I think I’ll just grab dinner at the deli rather than cooking fish as planned and aim for a quiet evening.
I have an unrelated question, if your friend is having a 40th surprise birthday party at their condo. And it says plus one welcome, does this mean no kids? I see her one friend who has a kid RSVPed for just 1 person, so I am assuming that the husband is staying home with the kids.
I really want to support her, and we missed her husband's 40th party, but it is 5 pm on a Friday night 1.5 hour drive in traffic. I could maybe aim for 7pm - miss the surprise and stay until 9 or 10pm though.... I kind of hate driving all that way, but on the way home it will only be 45 minutes because no rush hour traffic. I am such a homebody.
I just realized I am off that day for Good Friday, so maybe I skip the surprise and show up at 7pm and skip the traffic. This girl always runs late, and they don't need the guests to be there an hour before she gets there. And probably she would be 30 mintues late, so if I show up at 7 then maybe I show up 30 minutes after the surprise.
waverly - if you are off and DH can have the kids, I would go to her area before traffic and do something like bookstore/pedicure/drink with another friend on the way that is almost there, then make it for the surprise. I have found though that if I drive 1.5 hours with some traffic I am not sociable when I arrive.
SS has been sober for one year. Wow, my stress level this year should in theory be lower because I am not juggling cocaine rehab with life....maybe in 2020 no one will be in any kind of rehab on April 1. That would be nice.
H will be mostly gone for the next 2 weeks. I have to get babysitters so much just to do Day to day things. If I want to go on a run I need a sitter. DS’s practice is just way too late for the little ones to go go, I also need a sitter during DDs first communion retreat. They are are also requiring another family mass this weekend and ya know what? I’m not going. My 3 year old is so hard to deal with at church and that’s what happens catholics when you don’t put a space for crying children...we stop going. I dare them to call me out on it too. Nope not going this weekend.
Post by supertrooper1 on Apr 1, 2019 21:53:21 GMT -5
We landed in Phoenix last night. The weather is perfect. We didn't do much on our first day but eat and swim, but that's ok for me. The bottle of Malibu that I bought might not last the week. STBXH will not STFU, and it's just endless chatter about nothing.
Post by librarychica on Apr 2, 2019 6:30:29 GMT -5
My Monday went seriously awry. I screwed up something at work which is relatively minor but rather embarrassing for someone with my seniority, my tenants called with a kitchen flood and while I was arranging to get that sorted my kids and the other kid I was watching for the evening decided to make mud pies, ending in showers for all and mopping the kitchen. Here’s hoping Tuesday is less bumpy.
supertrooper1 , are you on vacation with your ex? Wow that um is brave and mature and I wish you the best of luck.
This. You can solidly say your spot in heaven is reserved as of this week. I don't think I could do it. I barely want to talk to mine beyond text messages at this point.
supertrooper1, I would get away and go so something anywhere to avoid him. Did you guys pre-figure out how you were splitting DS this week? Either take the kid and run off for a kid adventure or take yourself off for some alone time. Your spot in heaven is reserved especially if you don't maim you STBXH this week.
Post by supertrooper1 on Apr 2, 2019 17:18:42 GMT -5
Yes, I am on vacation with the ex, only because we had booked the trip before we decided to split. Today is a little better. I keep telling myself that he is just lonely and wants someone to talk to.
I tried leaving by myself yesterday but he wanted to tag along. At least he's in the pool with DS now and I can relax.
Yes, I am on vacation with the ex, only because we had booked the trip before we decided to split. Today is a little better. I keep telling myself that he is just lonely and wants someone to talk to.
I tried leaving by myself yesterday but he wanted to tag along. At least he's in the pool with DS now and I can relax.
You are a saint. I see celebrities doing this and bragging wow we are so awesome we vacation together but I don’t know anyone in real life.
DH took a vacation with ex and kids when we had been dating about 9 months. It was super weird all around, made the kids think they may get back together and that he was cheating on me with their mom/cheating on their mom with me, ex got drunk and thought they would put the kids in a room together and share the other room/bed - it was such a CF it was ALMOST funny.
I am glad yours sounds way way more low key supertrooper1. I could do it now but no way would I have survived in the first two years.