Facebook Friend Requests

[mommyatty]

How do you guys decide who to accept friend requests from? I have a ton of requests sitting in my queue. Mostly from moms at my kids’ school. Since I’m politically liberal in a place where Ted Cruz just won re-election (though he didn’t carry my county!), I’m always worried about accepting requests if I don’t REALLY know the person.

Work related requests are a hard no for me. I’m not even Facebook friends with my work BFF. But what do you guys do with mom requests?

[madringal]

Basically this is my measure - if I haven't seen you in a year and I run into you at Target, would I stop to chat with you? No? Well then you get a big fat decline.

[186momx]

I only accept friend request that I would want them to see or know about stuff going on. I also have a huge amount right now and have been avoiding them as most of them are either people DH know but I don't or mom's from DD's circle who I say hi to but don't talk to. Short to if I don't normally talk to you and share stuff then nope you aren't a Facebook friend which is why I only have about 25 friends.

[waverly]

I don't post anything on my page. Maybe 10 posts a year, a few kid and vacation pictures and thanks for the birthday wishes type thing. A few political stuff. I also don't comment much, so when I do post no one feels like they interact with me anymore, so I don't get much response either.

Way back in 2012, I started a whole new account, because in the first days I was friends with everyone including random people from high school that I was never friends with. Even with that I still didn't have too many.

These days I have about 100-200 friends- not sure how many. I do accept mom requests. I have no one from work even though I am probably closer to some work people. I used to have a co-worker message me about work stuff, and I would never think to look there. I just don't see why FB would be a work communication method when we both have work e-mails? I also had someone from the public annoying one of my staff members so she had to defriend him, and I told her she could blame me for it. I think you can hit ignore though and not see them.

[2chatter]

I accept the ones that aren’t nuts/unstable that I actually would converse with in person. Random mom who I don’t know really gets an instant decline and not a second thought.

I’ve guessed badly a couple of times - hey let’s have a play date, does 10am Tuesday work for you? Weird, I only have school age kids and a career. A couple uncomfortable socially situations as a result. Several have unfriended me because I am liberal. In Texas. IDGAF. I’m not here for them.

[CrazyLucky]

I'm also liberal in a very conservative area. I accept the moms because that's how most people do birthday parties around here, and it's just easier for everyone. I have blocked many people for their politics, but I still see birthday invitations.

[k3am]

I accept them. I even have a couple clients that are FB "friends". If they post stuff I'm not interested in seeing, I have no qualms about hididng them. Heck, I have my own mother and nephew blocked from showing up in my news feed. A couple times someone has asked if I saw what they posted, and my response is usually just "I have no idea how FB decides what to show me." And it's the truth.

I do not have co-workers on FB since we have an HR policy about it (that I'm sure isn't enforced or enforceable), so it's a nice excuse, but it wouldn't really bother me.

I don't post anything political, opinionated, controversial, or that I would be embarassed to show everyone at work or at a dinner conversation. If someone wants to see the first time DD rode a bike or DS playing with trains, sure, go ahead.

[waverly]

I hide a ton of people. Probably like 20 people are hidden out of 100 or maybe more because if you annoy me the slightest = hidden. Pretty much anyone that posts a lot or multiple times a day or the bragging.

[sdlaura]

I accept requests from other moms if I've attended social events with them and talked with them. I honestly couldn't care less if they like my political views.

There is one request sitting on facebook now from a mom who I have not socialized with. We just have a lot of mutual friends and I can see that she sells some kind of skincare line or something. So she'll just sit there and I don't plan to accept.

Many of my coworkers are my personal friends, so we're facebook friends as well. For the coworkers I'm friends with on facebook, we all socialize together outside of work, or have in the past. I'm friends with my CEO's wife because she also has 1st grade girl, so we have a lot of mutual friends.

[2chatter]

I don’t hide anyone. I want to know what the really crazy level conservatives think, too. It’s like I have this confirmation bias paranoia coupled with a need for information. It’s a compulsion.

Ironically, the one person not in my newsfeed is DH. I know exactly what he thinks and have minimal respect for his political position. DNW to see more of it, and he posts inflammatory insanity.

[rere]

If I will talk to you in person, I will accept your friend request. If you are some random person from my past, I ask myself do I really want to know about your life. If the answer is no, then no. I tend to hide anyone overly political, sorry family. I just want to know about events I may want to attend, see cute pictures of kids, pets, and vacation, and check the comments on my trashy reality shows.