Triggers - How do you overcome them?

[SwimDeep]

Hi - my name's A_____ and I'm an alcoholic/addict.
I'm also in recovery from disordered eating.

And I'm really struggling with triggers right now.

I'm a little more than a month sober and a little more than a month away from my last purge. And it seems like everything is making me want to drink.

My husband has a bad day? Well, a drink would make that easier to handle.
I'm having a rough work day? Eat all the food! I can just throw it all up anyway.
Alcohol/drugs on TV? I have this thing where I quietly say, "I'm A_____. I'm an alcoholic/addict" anytime I see something on TV that triggers a craving. But I feel like it's lip service for my H. ... I only do it because he started it.

Boredom... how do you deal with boredom? Meetings are boring. I can't find a good book. Coloring isn't even holding my interest. Work is boring (but I spend hours at it because it's the most interesting thing I have right now). Exercise is boring.

My life right now is work, sleep, eat, pay bills. And respond/react to the people in my life. 

I am so fucking bored. So I'm extremely reactive right now. It doesn't help that I'm not that very far removed from alcohol. 

So tell me about your triggers and how you overcome them!

[flex]

I have found talking to my sponsor or a friend is helpful to get my mind off of destructive behaviors. You say that you attend meetings--are they 12 Step meetings? Have you started working Steps with someone like a sponsor?

[SwimDeep]

flex, I do have a sponsor, and I do go to 12-step meetings. But I'm not really sharing. I'm really good at glossing things over with "I'm fine - everything's good...I'm doing good."
And I'm not working the steps with my sponsor right now. She wanted to wait for my head to clear first, so I had to get to 30 days clean/sober before we started working the steps again.

Maybe starting the steps will help me feel less trapped in my life.

[flex]

Apr 18, 2019 5:57:21 GMT -5 SwimDeep said:

flex , I do have a sponsor, and I do go to 12-step meetings. But I'm not really sharing. I'm really good at glossing things over with "I'm fine - everything's good...I'm doing good."
And I'm not working the steps with my sponsor right now. She wanted to wait for my head to clear first, so I had to get to 30 days clean/sober before we started working the steps again.

Maybe starting the steps will help me feel less trapped in my life.

Every sponsor is different.  : )  It's been 30 days now, right?   I think it's time to begin working them with her as quickly as possible.

FYI:  We all get bored in sobriety.  It happens.  But the important thing is to take action and learn some new coping skills.  The Steps may help you with that.