Hellllooooooo!! Where is everyone??

[bullygirl979]

Entertain me. Tell me randoms. Tell me a win or a whine from the week. Tell me your weekend plans. Just tell me SOMETHING.

[mags]

Getting ready to go getting tattoos with gianna for her birthday!
Danilo comes home today
All my kids together for the weekend makes for a happy Mags,

First house showing on Sunday

[bullygirl979]

mags, what does that tattoo look like? And wow! That is quick and the people must be interested if they are looking on Easter.

[bullygirl979]

I was up at 5am today so I'm pretty beat. Will lay low tonight.

Tomorrow I pick up my new car (YAHOO!!) and I'm excited that 2 years later I finally found something that I liked enough to buy lolol. Later we are going to a neighbor's house for drinks, which should be fun.

Sunday we are hosting Easter dinner. We don't celebrate but my mom does. Most of my fam won't be around so we are smoking ribs.

P is out of town next week and I'm excited to eat all the food he hates for dinner, haha.

[spindle92]

I posted this on ML:
PSA on personal safety - trust your gut!

Yesterday at work, an adult female was nearly abducted in broad daylight.

So she was shopping and kept noticing this man in every aisle she went to, he was even in the women's underwear dept. She felt uncomfortable but just brushed it off.

When she went to leave the store, all of a sudden an SUV pulled up and this man was right behind her and grabbed her around the waist to try and put her in the SUV. Thankfully, she screamed and wiggled her arms out of his grip and was able to run back into the store. He jumped in the vehicle and took off.

By reviewing surveillance tape, the police were able to get the license plate number but the guy has her purse so he knows where she lives.


Before the police left our store, this same man and SUV attempted another adult female abduction at a strip mall about 5 miles from our location. Thankfully, they were once again unsuccessful.

[spindle92]

mags, wow a showing on easter is a good sign. I just hope you were not planning a big home cooked meal and had to change that.

bullygirl979, what kind of car are you getting?

[SwimDeep]

I slept like crap last night...my legs kept cramping up on me. So I got up early this morning and went to the gym with my H. That'll teach those dumb thighs and hamstrings to complain. Ha!

Really, though, I feel like ass. I want to take a mental health day and just sleep, but I only get two sick days a year, and what if I REALLY NEED those sick days later this year?

I guess that's my whine...

My win is ... well, today's Friday!

[bullygirl979]

spindle92, HOLY SHITE. That is super scary. I'm glad nothing happened to her but I would be terrified knowing he had my address.

It's a Mercedes C450 AMG. P saw it and sent it to me. I test drove it Wednesday and loved it. They gave it to me for the night and I went back and haggled last night. The car is seriously quick. It'll do 0-60 in 4.5 seconds. I am afraid as to how many speeding tickets I will get in this car, lol.

[SwimDeep]

spindle92, that's terrifying! I would be freaking out that he had my address I hope they catch the guy quick so those poor women get some closure.

[bullygirl979]

Apr 19, 2019 8:45:08 GMT -5 SwimDeep said:

Really, though, I feel like ass. I want to take a mental health day and just sleep, but I only get two sick days a year, and what if I REALLY NEED those sick days later this year?

That's crazy! I'll send you some caffeine to keep you awake today

[neonpink]

bullygirl979, What kind of car?

I am so excited. My brother and his BF just moved a 3 minute walk from me. We went out hand had dinner last night. I'm also excited to be able to hit up their gym with them and the fancy salt water pool.

I am also excited to go to our stadium tonight and install the tifo for Saturday's game. It's been fun being apart of a supporters group. I get to be crafty and paint flags and tifos, meet new people. Hang out and get out of the house. It's a good change in my H and I's life.

[bullygirl979]

neonpink, It's a Mercedes C450 AMG. P saw it and sent it to me. I test drove it Wednesday and loved it. They gave it to me for the night and I went back and haggled last night. The car is seriously quick. It'll do 0-60 in 4.5 seconds. I am afraid as to how many speeding tickets I will get in this car, lol.

That is awesome your brother is so close to you One of my good friends moved around the corner from me last year and I love it.

[doglove]

Happy to be home again after a very long cafe taking trip. I feel guilty as well though for not being around regularly to help with my mother.

Don’t have a ton of plans this weekend, I have to work tomorrow for a few hours at a cleanup event. Mostly just enjoying quiet time and being around the pups again.

[tiramisu]

TGIF!!!

This weekend I'm going to visit my parents for Easter. It should be fairly low key, which will be nice.

There's a food truck event going on this afternoon near the building where I have dance tonight, so I might stop by that for an early dinner before class. Tomorrow morning I'm getting a pedicure before I head to my parents' house. And I'm probably going to be buying the last few things I need for dance costumes: at least one leotard, black jazz shoes, and a red sparkly dance top for my hip hop routine.

My big excitement/overwhelm from the week, aside from turning in my notice: scheduling my time to go to the uniform store to get what I'll need (they budget $800 OMG). Everything is moving right along for starting the new job!

[tiramisu]

Hugs doglove. You do what you can and you're a good daughter. Glad you're home with all your furry loves now.

spindle92 that's terrifying! I'm so glad she got away, but how scary that he has all of her info.

bullygirl979 congrats on the new car! I'm impressed you found one and it sounds like a really nice one. Did you say what color?

[bullygirl979]

tiramisu, I am too! It checks all the boxes so I'm excited about it. It's a dark silver color. Also, I know I've said this already but I'm so excited for you and this job! I remember when I went from non-profit to for-profit and saw a huge jump in salary. I consider it life changing, like you previously said. It felt so amazing to feel like a got a great break. This is going to be amazing for you to have this new challenge AND get an awesome salary bump!

[SwimDeep]

My MIL has a handyman working on some things around the house...outside. Repairing the deck and such. He's been having a difficult time getting over here to get the list done because of his work schedule, and the last time he was over here he said he would be back today.

Well, he's back today. Working in a downpour. With power tools. Outside in the rain.

On the one hand...wtf, go home! On the other, I'm tired of having his stuff strewn about the backyard and I just want him to finish.

[chalupa]

mags good luck with the showing! I peeked at your listing photos, and the house looks wonderful. Of course, I still prefer it with the skeleton hanging out of the kitchen ceiling

spindle92 that is terrifying. Glad the woman is OK, but I know I'd want to move if that happened to me. Eeks.

I'm literally dragging this week. I jacked up my neck (mystery how I managed it) on Sunday, needed a couple trigger point injections and have spent the week on muscle relaxers and Rx pain meds to make it through the week. Today is the first day the pain's been noticeably better - now it just feels like I pulled a muscle in my neck instead of continuous spasms. I'll take it.

No big weekend plans. I plan to rest and let my neck heal, and get out my summer clothes to make sure I have what I want to pack for vacation. We leave next Saturday, woot!

[downtoearth]

I'm pretty new here and lurk, but I am so over this week and just want the weekend to be here already. I have about 10 hours of work to do and 4-5 hours to get it done. Just not going to get everything done that I wanted. Ugh. I will make it work somehow.

I am NOT super into Easter, but trying to keep it as "normal" as possible for kiddos. I am doing Easter with my (STBX) in laws in the morning for a couple hours - hike and some breakfast, then back to have Easter dinner with my parents and sister's family, and haven't bought anything except chocolate bunnies for the kids' Easter baskets yet. I also don't know if STBXH is planning to see the kids that day - we aren't religious so Easter is just a spring celebration with hiking and food usually, so neither one of us really cares. I wonder if the kids will want to see him to keep it more "normal" - maybe he can come over in the morning early for the egg/basket hunt or maybe this is a low key enough holiday to show the kids that we do things separate?

In good news - we just went under contract for a rental/second home we have in another state. I hope it inspects well and all goes through b/c with my house, STBXH's rental, and the mortgage on the rental house in CO, we are maxed out financially. That will be a relief when it is gone, but I also will miss the first house I ever bought and loved.

spindle92 , so freaky. I just don't understand people who would do that. So scary.

chalupa , Where is the vacation? Somewhere super warm?

[cleo29]

Things have been ok. Met with my attorney, whom I really like, so that is good. Will be part of a divorce/separated support group starting in May (all women) which I am looking forward to. I still cannot tell people without starting to cry. I have good days and bad days and just trying to move forward.

I still cannot see how we will be able to afford to live in this area after we split without it being even more depressing than it already is. In that way this sucks so bad. I don't want to bleed stbxh dry because he needs a decent place too, a place where our daughters will go and live with him.

C was a bit difficult this week all due to this which was hard.

[mags]

Thanks for all the well wishes.

We have 2 more booked for tomorrow.

Of course this weekend all the kids are home...

[bullygirl979]

downtoearth, crossing my fingers the sale goes through smoothly!

cleo29, I give you credit for thinking of your STBXH. Just make sure you aren't being too nice to the point where you screw yourself over.

[cleo29]

Apr 19, 2019 15:23:04 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

downtoearth , crossing my fingers the sale goes through smoothly!

cleo29 , I give you credit for thinking of your STBXH. Just make sure you aren't being too nice to the point where you screw yourself over.

I don't think I am. I mean, when we sell the house, we can always work it that I get a slightly bigger share. I honestly don't want either of us to be living terribly. My daughters have a the shitty prospect of their Grandma dying. I cannot control that. BUt, I can have some control over how this all shakes out and I will do my best to do right by them. Leaving either H or me living in a fairly miserable way will not be doing that.

But, I do get what you are saying.

[bullygirl979]

Apr 19, 2019 15:33:47 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Apr 19, 2019 15:23:04 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

downtoearth , crossing my fingers the sale goes through smoothly!

cleo29 , I give you credit for thinking of your STBXH. Just make sure you aren't being too nice to the point where you screw yourself over.

I don't think I am. I mean, when we sell the house, we can always work it that I get a slightly bigger share. I honestly don't want either of us to be living terribly. My daughters have a the shitty prospect of their Grandma dying. I cannot control that. BUt, I can have some control over how this all shakes out and I will do my best to do right by them. Leaving either H or me living in a fairly miserable way will not be doing that.

But, I do get what you are saying.

I agree. I just worry. My H's brother got divorced years ago. They had a verbal agreement that he would move and she would follow. Well, as you can imagine, when it came time for her to "follow" she told him to f*ck off and never moved. By that point he already relocated and had a job. He's now taken her to court twice over it (he lost the first time). As the saying goes, if you really want to know what someone is like, divorce them. I would recommend whatever arrangement you make, ensure it is ALL in writing as part of your divorce.

[cleo29]

Apr 19, 2019 15:38:31 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Apr 19, 2019 15:33:47 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

I don't think I am. I mean, when we sell the house, we can always work it that I get a slightly bigger share. I honestly don't want either of us to be living terribly. My daughters have a the shitty prospect of their Grandma dying. I cannot control that. BUt, I can have some control over how this all shakes out and I will do my best to do right by them. Leaving either H or me living in a fairly miserable way will not be doing that.

But, I do get what you are saying.

I agree. I just worry. My H's brother got divorced years ago. They had a verbal agreement that he would move and she would follow. Well, as you can imagine, when it came time for her to "follow" she told him to f*ck off and never moved. By that point he already relocated and had a job. He's now taken her to court twice over it (he lost the first time). As the saying goes, if you really want to know what someone is like, divorce them. I would recommend whatever arrangement you make, ensure it is ALL in writing as part of your divorce.

I plan on doing just that. he could stay here, but I will never be able to be here without my living situation being tight. Even with financial support from him. He knows that. we are slowly starting the collaborative process and I will be researching places to move to, etc and see what is a real possibility and what is not. I think his feeling is one of "let's not rush" and I am coming from a realistic place of knowing what I will and will not be able to do here and how I will want to live my life.

In some ways I could say this whole process feels like the timing is suspect, but he says this is how he feels and that is how it is. So, that acceptance will have to go both ways. So, whatever we do, in that regard, will be done in writing. It will have to be. And I am sorry about your BIL. what a shitty thing to do to someone.