Mondayyyyy

[gault]

Good afternoon! How was the weekend? Tell us things.

I took today off and it feels soooo good! Bf and i went to a party on friday and spent saturday at a local casino. Steak dinner, lots of laughing, nice hotel room. It was perfect and a lot of fun.

Sunday we went to see an apartment for me and i signed papers for it. He'll most likely move in in august. 😮

[doriswe]

gault oohhhhhhhhhhhh? So things are going well with the boy??


My weekend was awesome...and sooooo good for my soul! Friday night R and I met up with my friends at the Garth Brooks concert. We were soooo close to the stage and had so much fun. I got R drunk (3 beers lol) and he was slapping my friend's husband's ass lmfao. After the concert we met up with two of his friends at a brewery and shut it down. I'm so old I can't remember the last time that happened lol. Saturday we got up and have brunch with my BFF and her fiancé. Then we came home and hung out until it was time for DS's play. It was not good but DS called me and asked me to laugh loudly so others would laugh. So for the next hour I loudly fake laughed, which did get others laughing.

Yesterday, R's band opened for a bigger band at a fundraiser so we spent the day hanging out there. R's friend got my number and she and I have been texting a bit and she's cool, so I was a little excited about making a new friend. She even suggested we could get together even if the boys didn't want to hang out with us lol.

[tiramisu]

I am verrry tired. I woke up between 3:30 and 4am to prepare myself for my schedule the rest of the week. Luckily, it's the first day of teacher appreciation week and I'm at my outgoing job today, so I had coffee. Lots of coffee at home, here, more delivered by a student from his mother... So much freaking coffee today. Like, I teared up because of the appreciation (and this is a good problem to have!)

My weekend was calm, which was exactly what I needed. The Inflatable run was kinda lame, but we also enjoyed the inflatable things. Yesterday a client (not from the school) sent me a text with a photo after finishing a triathlon, thanking me for my support. I felt so many feelings at once. I tear up thinking of it, even today. I'm such a softie.

[SwimDeep]

I'm trying to run a fundraiser for a friend who has MS - I've raised a little bit more than $300 so far! This is the reason why I'm running a half marathon, so it feels good.

I couldn't put work down over the weekend...so today feels like a Wednesday to me. I want a real weekend.

[SwimDeep]

I'm thinking about selling my telescope ... I've held onto it for so long... it's a short scope refractor ... I think it's worth about $200 - it'd put a dent in my medical bills.

I don't use it (I can't use it - there's too much light pollution and not enough horizon where I live).

But I'm so sad to think about selling it. I worked so hard to save up to buy it. And I hardly ever got to use it

[bullygirl979]

doriswe, yay for making new friends! And I was giggling at the thought of you fake laughing for 60 minutes, lol.

gault, congrats on the new apartment.

[bullygirl979]

Weekend was good but soooo quick.

Saturday I went for a run then saw Avengers End Game with a friend. I gorged myself on popcorn, which was a nice treat as I never buy popcorn at movies. Later on that night we went out with a group to celebrate someone's birthday. It was fun but I was so tired I was falling asleep on the way home.

Sunday I listed a ton of clothes for sale on ebay and poshmark and then we went to go see Hamilton with one of P's friends.

[neonpink]

I am exhausted. I went to a 3 day festival this weekend. I saw Beck, Tears for Fears, Cage the Elephant, Tame Impala, Foals among so many more. I walked 26 miles and my body can feel it. However it was so much fun.

Tonight is resting and watching Game of Thrones. I can not wait. I've avoided all social media so I don't hear any spoilers.

[kaneen]

My weekend was SO awesome but also packed with plans. Thursday night I went to a surprise 50th bday party for my girlfriend. While I was there I ran into the CEO of the company that is my customer down here. I hadn't seen him in about 6 months and his wife was with him so I finally got to meet her. We totally hit it off and she invited me to his 50th bday party on Saturday. Friday night my friend and I went to a songwriters festival. Then Saturday night was the fancy country club bday party. It was soooo good to see some folks I hadn't seen in months and in a social vs. work setting. I definitely made some new friends. One of the guys at the party now is trying to set me up with a newly single guy. Not sure how newly single so I guess we'll see about that....

[cleo29]

Helped stbxh buy stuff for his apartment. It felt like i was helping my kid get ready for college. Other than that, it was just really busy with lots of errands.

And something odd happened. A man,one of the dads in the neighborhood, heard about me and H and reached out to me to tell me he was sorry to hear about it, but then asked to meet up for coffee. He is married, happily as far as i know, so I don't think this is anything romantic or anything like that. But it is strange. And now I am curious. There is some complicated history here where last year his wife and H became friends on FB and all this drama followed. I guess she did not like me that much, though in truth, I hardly know her. Anyway, this is all odd.

[downtoearth]

Pretty good weekend - spent Friday at a city-wide parade with the kids, had a beer after at a brewery with friends/parents, then back home to play with kiddos in the first sunny, spring day we've had. Another beer with a friend on the back patio, then my parents brought over pizza, then another friend stopped by for wine.

Saturday I went to hot barre and then breakfast with 2 friends. Worked my way back home slowly and went on a mountain bike ride with two other girlfriends, then left again to try to give STBX more time with kids and went on a hike and to hang with my parents.

Sunday - breakfast, then yoga, then back home to play monopoly (cold again and snow flutters), and then to Avengers Endgame with the kids. Dinner and bed. Started laundry, but haven't finished it all and it's Tuesday.

Monday - Not a great day... STBX came over and took the VW Van. I knew he was coming and I knew it is more his baby, but we bought it together and every major vacation since about 12 years ago we've pretty much taken the kids in the Van. I also spent two summer vacations (10-days ish each) driving around Canada each day to hot springs and national parks with just the boys and I while STBX was in a race all day. It just has a lot of memories and good ones and I'm so fucking sad that I don't even get to sit in it one more time, let alone take it for one more camping trip with the kids. Ugh. I hate that I feel sentimental. And then DS#3 was sick with something like noro-virus for about 3 hours in the middle of the night. So I am super tired today and spent most of the morning NOT working and instead focusing on selling a house out of state and typing up our coparenting plan to discuss tomorrow at a co-parenting therapy session. Oh and my office smells like electrical fire or something, and the landlord for our building is trying to get it sorted.

TLDR - Great weekend, sucky Monday. I want a beginning of the week do-over.

[doriswe]

May 6, 2019 18:57:27 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Helped stbxh buy stuff for his apartment. It felt like i was helping my kid get ready for college. Other than that, it was just really busy with lots of errands.

And something odd happened. A man,one of the dads in the neighborhood, heard about me and H and reached out to me to tell me he was sorry to hear about it, but then asked to meet up for coffee. He is married, happily as far as i know, so I don't think this is anything romantic or anything like that. But it is strange. And now I am curious. There is some complicated history here where last year his wife and H became friends on FB and all this drama followed. I guess she did not like me that much, though in truth, I hardly know her. Anyway, this is all odd.

cleo29, I just saw your post of ML....is this the husband? I am sooooo sorry you're going through this. There are (sadly) a lot of us who have been there and are here for you! 

[downtoearth]

tiramisu, Happy Teacher's Appreciation Week!

SwimDeep, any plans to move somewhere that you could use the telescope more? It sounds like it really does "bring you joy" and it's not going to make you that much money.

[gault]

Posting here too. Cleo i'm so sorry. Suffice to say, you are better off with this trash out of your house and your life.

More will come out and i guarantee they have done more than kiss. Sadly this often happens a lot. Slow trickle of information.

We are here for you.

[cleo29]

May 7, 2019 14:51:45 GMT -5 doriswe said:

May 6, 2019 18:57:27 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Helped stbxh buy stuff for his apartment. It felt like i was helping my kid get ready for college. Other than that, it was just really busy with lots of errands.

And something odd happened. A man,one of the dads in the neighborhood, heard about me and H and reached out to me to tell me he was sorry to hear about it, but then asked to meet up for coffee. He is married, happily as far as i know, so I don't think this is anything romantic or anything like that. But it is strange. And now I am curious. There is some complicated history here where last year his wife and H became friends on FB and all this drama followed. I guess she did not like me that much, though in truth, I hardly know her. Anyway, this is all odd.

cleo29 , I just saw your post of ML....is this the husband? I am sooooo sorry you're going through this. There are (sadly) a lot of us who have been there and are here for you! 

Yes. And  he is pissed and done with their marriage. so, it is a cluster fuck all the way around. 

[doriswe]

Sending you hugs, cleo29. And fuck him!

[cleo29]

May 7, 2019 16:12:13 GMT -5 gault said:

Posting here too. Cleo i'm so sorry. Suffice to say, you are better off with this trash out of your house and your life.

More will come out and i guarantee they have done more than kiss. Sadly this often happens a lot. Slow trickle of information.

We are here for you.

I going on the assumption that they have done more. I don't buy two adults meeting up, in secret, to only end up kissing and groping.

[downtoearth]

cleo29 - seriously remember vividly how lost, angry, hurt, broken, defeated, and wildly emotional I felt the night I found out (and for awhile after to be honest - almost always at night). If you need anything tonight, I haven’t been sleeping well anyway and I’ll check in here. Just PM or put an SOS in here and I’ll chat with you. It was so hard those first few nights and I felt so alone. I will tell you jokes or just listen or reassure you that he is the broken one, not you. You are strong and amazing, but I know how daunting this all feels. (((Hugs)))

[cleo29]

downtoearth, thank you. we talked a lot tonight more honestly than we had in a long time. IN some ways i think we could have prevented this and in other, I think it was inevitable. But it makes me sad. I think he had realized what he has lost and is sad and has regrets as well.

and I had the details i wanted, the truth and I can't sleep. I mean, I needed to know to move forward. BUt it sucks. I hope i do not run into her anytime soon because I am not sure what I will do. I hold him responsible, but she had her role in this.

on one hand i don't want people to know and on the other I want people to know what assholes they are, especially her because she puts forth a completely different image. And I can't think of how awkward the pool will be this summer. I doubt H will go much now which totally sucks for my girls.

they fucking had to shit where they eat and it really pisses me off. This was avoidable. I am so mad.

[doglove]

I’m sorry cleo29. Big hugs.

[tiramisu]

Big, huge hugs to you cleo29. I remember what a gut punch it was both times I found out xh cheated. This week I'm barely around as I start the new job, but I'm always willing to check in and message when I can. You're dealing with a lot.