My Monday started off like quite a Monday...I'm flying to Seattle for a day trip (5-6 hrs roundtrip) to present to a prospect.
Our babysitter arrived about 10 min late after having puked in her car on the freeway. She said she had a headache and took ibuprofen and she's not sick, but she didn't have a bag in the car,, so she was a mess and so was her car.
So I got the 3 kids ready while she cleaned her car and took a shower, and I lent her some clothes. Then I get ready to go really late and can't find my phone-I had it but lost it in the craziness - so the kids and I ran around the house looking for it and if course I had already put it in the car and it was there all along.
I left for the airport exactly one hour before my flight during morning rush hour - we live over 30 miles from the airport. Luckily it was light traffic and I valeted my car and there were zero people in the precheck line so I ended up boarding with my group. Phew! Now I have a long 3 hr flight to wind down
Thank goodness for our amazing babysitter who was even still willing to get the kids to school.
How is everyone else's Monday? I hope all of your days started off a bit better!
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 20, 2019 10:06:42 GMT -5
sdlaura, gold star for that morning. Well done my friend. Well. Done.
Took the kids to the endocrinologist today. They've both grown a little over an inch. Things are going well. She's moving for her husband's job, though, and so we're going to have to switch endos. LUCKILY our old endo, who also moved for her husband's job, has moved BACK. So we get to see her now, hooray!
I'm going to work a few hours, and then take off to go see DD in her end of year recital.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 20, 2019 10:07:43 GMT -5
Do you ever have something come up at work, and you're metaphorically staring at the problem...and can't figure out if you're just inexperienced or the situation really makes no sense?
Weekend was great. Got my garden in, went to a birthday party, where someone signed one of the guest up to sing a very inappropriate Prince song, which he did in full force. Cooked and chilled yesterday.
DS started his job today. I hope he does a better job there then he does at the house. He mowed Friday and it looked like he did it with his eyes closed, or he was trying to give the yard a Mohawk look.
DD starts volleyball Wednesday. The coach sent a text saying see you at 7:30 AM, the very next day a text came saying see you at 6 AM. How can you not figure this out. You have the schedule of probably 50 very busy parents in your hands. Be considerate.
I am trying not to lose it at work. We are trying to get superintendents and school board members in for a round table meeting. One of my partners assured me she had these people in close contact and would take care of scheduling. It is now a week and a half away, and we still don't have confirmation. I like to give people more than a 1.5 week notice, so I am freaking out.
Post by covergirl82 on May 20, 2019 10:41:34 GMT -5
I got about 3 hours of sleep last night. I had a hard time falling asleep and then couldn't get back to sleep after I got up around 1:15 to let the dog out. (She'll be 13 years old tomorrow and now needs to go potty once during the night.) I think I'm just stressed out about work. I recently took on sales commissions payments, and not only do I have to learn it all, but the sales leaders have no compassion for me being in the learning process (or at least that's the feeling I get). ETA: They basically expect me to fail and get things wrong, and that has gotten in my head.
Overall, it was a pretty good weekend. I got some vegetable plants (already started) at the farmer's market on Saturday morning. The kids were actually really excited about the garden, so they helped prep it over the weekend. Tomorrow night we'll lay a new layer of soil and then plant the already-started plants as well as some seeds. I'm glad they are interested in helping.
I'm glad it's a 4-day week of school and work (for me, DH has to work on Friday) this week and next week. I'm hoping for some time to relax this weekend (although DS has a baseball tournament Saturday and Sunday, so maybe not so much rest will happen on those days).
Our weekend felt like a marathon of birthday parties. Friday night the girls and I all went to my sisters to celebrate my nephew turning 15, DH got home late that night from a week long fishing trip so I let the girls stay up to see him.
Saturday afteroon I dropped DD2 off at a friends house for a birthday party and then DD1 and I went and got lunch and did some shopping. She is getting so fun to hang out with and I can't wait until the teen years. She's such a great kid. Then in the evening, I took DD1 and her friend to a sleepover and came home and hung out with the little ones. Take out and movie night.
Sunday morning we all went to church and a friend brought DD1 home from her sleepover in time for us all go to a party for DD3s little friend. Bounce houses, face painting and lots of food and friends.
Came home and DH and I got a few small projects done. We ordered the girls all new mattresses and they arrived while he was OOT. So we got them all set up in their rooms and took out the old ones.
I'm exhausted from the weekend! We spent much of the weekend opening the pool, which turned out to be a very physical undertaking. I'm really sore!
Friday evening DD1 and I met with her neuropsych so that she could tell her about some of the testing results. DD1 was impressed with some of her results, but didn't think that she really had any "issues". The Dr was great and encouraging, and we talked about ways we could help her to be more successful and less frustrated. She was receptive. I hope that sticks.
Reality is setting in that the school year is nearly over, and DD will be going away to camp this summer. We told her about camp on Saturday morning, and she cried. She begged us not to send her away. I was tearing up. But then she watched the video about everything she'd get to do... and slowly stopped crying... and by the end she was asking if she could maybe go for 3 weeks instead of 2. I really hope this helps her to find herself a bit.
I need a weekend to recover from our weekend. My house still hasn't recovered from DS's party - despite vacuuming endlessly and running the floor scrubber, I keep finding cake crumbles everywhere. EVERYWHERE. I'm pretty sure no one actually ate any cake, they just sprinkled it liberally throughout the house...
Our garbage disposal broke yesterday. DH wanted to call a plumber, but I convinced him that it was something we could fix ourselves and save the emergency/Sunday plumber fee. Garbage disposal was replaced with minimal issues... except today we woke up to a soggy kitchen, because he cracked one of the fittings and we didn't notice. And I'm pretty sure water came out the air gap when we ran the dishwasher, even though DH doesn't believe me. That's the only explanation I can find for why the towel that was sitting on top of the counter was soaking wet this morning.
My boobs think I’m pregnant which since I had a tubal and ablation plus they did a pregnancy test before my eye surgery 13 days ago and it was negative, would be quite a surprise. So I called my gynecologist this morning and got an appointment for my annual this afternoon. If I’m pregnant, from what I’ve learned via Dr Google, it’s likely ectopic or can cause really bad shit like death because I don’t have enough uterine lining to support a pregnancy. So my boobs need to stop whatever they are doing and act normal.
So I’m having a completely freaked out Monday. After a completely freaked out weekend.
Post by supertrooper1 on May 20, 2019 12:02:28 GMT -5
I had a blast at my 20 year high school class reunion. Saturday night was a dinner and dancing and Sunday was a potluck picnic. I thought I would only stay a couple hours, but ended up staying until midnight when they closed the doors. Pretty much everyone was still the same, but more mature and the assholes were not assholes anymore. I saw quite a few people that I hadn't seen in years and a few even discussed getting together again soon which would be fun.
Last night I had dinner at my friend's house (boyfriend now I guess?). It was interesting seeing how he interacts with his kids. His 11 year old son is a super nice kid and I played basketball with him. His 13 year old daughter is interesting. I think it's just teen attitude, but it made me question his parenting just slightly. She's failing multiple classes right now and I would be handling the situation very differently. But I'm not a parent of a teenager, so I shouldn't be judging.
So far no offers on my house, but the open house yesterday will hopefully generate an offer today. The 5 acre parcel next door has had several offers, but STBXH won't consider them because he wants to sell the land with the house. But I have a feeling that anyone wanting to buy our house would not have the money to buy the land too, and if they did have the money, they would be buying something fancier.
Saturday morning turned out to be nice at the coast. 50s and no wind. During break 1 my tax school buddy and I walked from the hotel to the end of the road and back in 8 minutes. Break 2 we made it down to the end of the road down the path touched the water and back in 12 minutes. It was still nice at lunch so after we ate we spent the rest of our 90 minute lunch walking the beach. It was so nice to move around. By 1:30 it was raining and nasty so the rest of the day I was stuck inside.
DH did nothing all weekend at home. I got a text at 2pm asking what I was cooking for dinner and when I would be back. I texted back he needed to feed DD as I wasn't done until 5 and then had a 2 hour drive home. I got home in time to put DD to bed.
Sunday I ended up getting stuck going to the bowling b-day party. Ended up watching DD and DH and a few other kids in his group bowl and then left to go walk the mall area across the road. I basically walked around and found a nice chair outside to just sit and veg. DD almost beat DH in the first game. By the second game DD had figured out how to bounce her ball on the bumpers get a strike. She had 4 strikes in 1 game!
We had the most packed weekend of almost the entire year. Because of that, Friday was spent canceling and moving multiple things so we could go to MI for my Grandma’s funeral.
Despite cancelling a million things we still had dance and baseball. DH still had an appointment and we still had AC guy come for the annual clean out then 5 hour drive on Sat. Dinner was a literal storm. It blew all the umbrellas off the tables and we had to run for cover lest the kids get hit with something. The restaurant didn’t know what to do considering half their tables were all of a sudden non functional, so we had to leave and go somewhere else.
Funeral stuff all day Sunday. Mostly it went well. Most people got along; I heard one political conversation but that was it and luckily I wasn’t in it. Sisters in-laws are wacky politically, so it can get awkward quickly. Went out to eat afterwards and my sister ordered way way too much food (family style), so they went home with like 15 boxes. It’s always hard to say goodbye; we got to visit the grave markers and leave flowers as well.
Drove back today and now have to get ready for the rest of the week all this afternoon. Ugh
waverly I am so sorry for your loss. And WTF to your SILs? Politics and family is never a good idea. Politics at a family funeral? Are they kidding? Ugh.
Post by traveltheworld on May 20, 2019 13:49:03 GMT -5
We did family camp and that was fun. DS made friends with a few older boys and overall enjoyed himself. I now feel a lot more comfortable about sending him there in the summer by himself.
Over the weekend I worked 18 hours on the slide show for end of elementary and I am pretty happy with it. I sent it for review to a few people and included at someone else’s request a woman I would rather not have sent it to because she is the unfortunate combination of “takes credit for other people’s work” and “pretends something was expected that was never discussed”. Y’all pray I don’t launch if she says anything crazy.
Also had an afternoon at a resort pool (a friend’s dad had passes and in my 40s I am still happy to use parents’ perks). Pina colada and felt like we were in the tropics. A much needed break.
DH told me Saturday night he’s “not happy with me” and refused to speak to me. He hid from SD too, so the three girls and I shopped and picked up dinner and had a nice evening despite him. Turns out he legit felt like because soccer was cancelled for rain it was my job to take DS to a birthday party, not his. He later apologized but I think 75% of our marital issues stem from him really thinking the kids and house are 100% me unless he wants to “help”. Blows my mind as back in the day this guy was happily doing kid stuff he initiated. I think he really only likes kids through about kinder and then he’s done. I had no way of knowing that. Ugh.
Post by librarychica on May 20, 2019 14:51:34 GMT -5
I had a very chaotic, mondayish morning. H has been traveling frequently for forever. You’d think I’d be able to get my own kids ready for school, especially since a babysitter does the actual driving. You’d be wrong! I was running around like a crazy person when she got here and was 15 minutes later for work.
Work was dull today. I wasn’t feeling it
I am now arguing with Benefit wallet about another claim. I would just quit using them but, damnit, the dependent care flex account is part of my benefits package and I will benefit! I still do not have a dishwasher despite the alleged scheduling of my dishwasher delivery for last Wednesday. I’m taking the kids and dog to an outdoor cafe tonight to avoid more dishes and cooking.
Yesterday was okay until I got trapped working the concession stand. It threw the whole night off.
I'm having a hard time balancing everything right now. I am doing my best to keep up with wife-ing, mom-ing, working, cleaning, adulting, etc. I don't necessarily feel like I'm drowning but I also don't feel like anything is getting the attention it deserves. Hopefully this is short lived and once baseball is over I'll feel better.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 21, 2019 9:15:25 GMT -5
oh regarding my actual weekend - I got a text from a friend from our old school asking for a play date with DS. We settled on a park meet up. As we were texting on Friday I told DH about it.
Anyway Sunday morning the mom bailed, said her husband would be at the meet up. Ok fine, but DH...want to go hang out with this dad? Or sit on a bench with him at the park? DH was furious I would even ask bc he wanted to be able to watch tv or whatever. Stupid DH.
Whatever i went and it was fine. The guy brought a magazine but I talked to him anyway and it was lovely. All guys are weird.
My guy neighbor has 2 pit bulls who were out running around all night and this morning. DH texted me a warning they were out loose. An hour later DD, the dog who has a vet appointment today, and I walked out the door. The dogs were in the yard. I yelled go home which normally helps. Nope they start pack formation and charging up our front walk. I couldn't get the door open my poor lab let out a pitiful whinny woof and we all got back in safely but by the time I slammed the door they were on the front step. Called DH who called the neighbor who didn't answer and he came home from work to help us get out of the house. Called my other neighbor who also call the neighbor to no avail. Animal control doesn't open till 9am. Talk about a wild morning.
186momx- I would still call animal control to report them. They need to know that animals that are obviously aggressive are menacing people and are owned by someone who isn’t properly caring for them. I would be LIVID.
Called animal control. They took my info and told me an officer would follow up with me within a week. I'm going to make DH go over and talk with the neighbor about keeping the dogs fenced in again and see if he needs any help fixing his fence/gates.
Update: gynecologist assured me that my boobs were mistaken and I was not pregnant. Maybe to punish them, he made me go downstairs to get my overdue mammogram. Period showed up today, so all is well. Moral of the story: boobs are sometimes big fat liars.
mommyatty - yay!! I had a panic like that a couple years ago and realized I really really don’t miss the nervous anticipation feeling around baby possibilities. It was more like stark fear, too. Your post made me scared for all of us that are done!!