I’m out. TFMR.

[Poppy]

Oh no. I am so very sorry to hear this. It really is an impossible choice. I've been through TFMR and it was horrible emotionally. Feel free to message me if you want to talk.

[loira]

I'm so sorry. It really is the most heartbreaking choice. I remember wanting it to be over as soon as possible and also being in disbelief, hoping that someone would tell me there had been a mistake with the results. We spoke to everyone the best doctors and geneticists in London, and decided to suffer ourselves so that our daughter never had to suffer a single minute.

Feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk. It can be an incredibly isolating experience.

[slcjess]

I am so sorry. You are NOT making an easy or a weak choice. sending you and your fam love and healing vibes

[aprilsails]

I’m so very sorry for you and your family. This is an exceedingly difficult decision and you have chosen the path that may be most difficult for you, but best for your children. Big hugs to you today and for many days to come.

[konapoppy]

I am so sorry. I TFMR several years ago. It is very emotional, even when you know it is the right thing for you. I will be thinking of you. There is a group on Baby Center that is very welcoming (I think it is still around). Feel free to PM me if you want to chat.

[pickel]

I am so incredibly sorry.

[zarapipe]

I am so sorry for your loss

[cherryvalance]

I'm so very sorry. Your choice is incredibly selfless and clearly full of love and compassion. I wish healing and peace for your family.

[biogirl21]

I am so sorry.

Your choice is right for your family, don’t worry at all about what other people might do in this situation.

[patches31709]

Oh I'm so sorry to read this. Wishing you and your family peace and strength.

[pooh8402]

I'm so sorry. Wishing you strength during this time. Huge hugs to you.

[farfalla2011]

I'm so sorry! Sending you and your husband all sorts of prayers and positive thoughts as you walk through such a difficult situation.

[landmermaid]

There are no words. I am so, deeply sorry.

[red]

I am so sorry, this is heartbreaking.

[shoeless]

You are so very strong, brave and compassionate. My heart breaks for you and I’m so sorry.

[kellikans]

I'm so incredibly sorry.

[oceanstbride]

I’m so sorry and will be thinking of you.

[hazel]

I am so sorry. You and your husband are so strong.

[osulori]

Shit, C. I'm so sorry, friend.

[thom]

My heart is hurting so deeply for you clseale. I didn’t know you were expecting but am lurking a bit, and I’m just so crushed for your loss. I can’t think of anything harder. I know many women here are sending love and peace to you. I hope it helps a little to know that others care and are grieving with you.

[jennistarr1]

I am so sorry for your loss, which I know is not a simple loss...you're being asked to be active participant in it, which is so unfair. Sending all my love and peaceful thoughts your way. Its comforting to see that people with personal experience are reaching out to you, I admire those women and sending them warm thoughts as well

[scm1011]

You've been on mind the last few days, C. Sending you love and peace.

[clseale]

Jun 5, 2019 10:17:11 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

I am so sorry for your loss, which I know is not a simple loss...you're being asked to be active participant in it, which is so unfair. Sending all my love and peaceful thoughts your way. Its comforting to see that people with personal experience are reaching out to you, I admire those women and sending them warm thoughts as well

The support I have received from this community has been so comforting. Whether it has been from women who have been in my shoes (which is so selfless, because I know it has to bring their own grief to the surface) or just from others sending love and providing compassion and understanding. Each time someone mentions our son (versus just a pregnancy that is ending) it has been like a little hug to my heart. To know that others see that he is here, that he is so loved and wanted, that he is part of our family and his life matters...it’s been an important part of me processing this.

Thank you to everyone in this thread. We are still awaiting the FISH results from the CVS (but that is more just to have the info moving forward, the diagnosis is definitely confirmed), but we will be saying goodbye this weekend.

[Mushe]

Clseale, I just saw your post, and am gutted for you and your family. You are in my thoughts, and I wish you peace this weekend and as you move forward. ❤️

[raangoli]

I am so sorry. You are stronger than you know. I wish you and your H peace. Sending you much love.

[mpc]

oh clseale, I am so sorry. What a terrible thing to have to go through. I'm thinking of you and your family.

[lo]

I’ve been thinking about you this weekend. Huge hugs.

[Susie]

clseale, just wanted to send love, I saw your post a couple up and I hope everything went as smoothly as it could for you under the circumstances. Sending comfort and healing thoughts your way.

[clseale]

Jun 10, 2019 13:31:29 GMT -5 Susie said:

clseale, just wanted to send love, I saw your post a couple up and I hope everything went as smoothly as it could for you under the circumstances. Sending comfort and healing thoughts your way.

Thank you. The process, (while obviously traumatic for a variety of reasons ) went smoothly. Physically, I am fine. I just miss him. And this part of the grief is where I feel more alone. DH is amazing, but he just can’t get this part of it. He says he does, but he doesn’t feel it like I do. He wanted this pregnancy very much and I know that losing it and seeing the way it hurts me has broken his heart, but he can’t feel it the way I do. For 3.5 months, I carried our son. I was never alone, he was always with me. When I read to dd or sang her bedtime songs or rocked her, I was doing it with both of my babies. And now he’s just gone.

I’ll be ok. I have an amazing support system and I can’t even begin to explain how crucial dd has been for me through this. I’m not sure where we would be if we didn’t have her to love, it’s just a weird sort of mourning and grief.

[lauren170]

I’m so sorry for your loss.