This is not a GBCB, BUT

[erniebufflo]

Yeah, I'm gonna be that girl talking about the other board here. But whoa. Reading today's UO has me pretty confident in my decision to slowly back away, as if from someone unhinged. It was like people were just doubling down on the meanness, even in the face of folks sharing deeply personal stories. And I absolutely agree with eav2c about the few posters taking advantage of so many of us being gone to sort of dominate the place. It has a whole new vibe, and it's not one that I'm a fan of. And yet there are folks like JFH and Chelsey and Starbound (if y'all are reading this, I love you, and even more folks I can't name), who I like, so I pop in to check up on them, like a creeper watching my friends through the windows or something.

I'm just sad about the whole thing. But it's clearly not my happy place anymore.

[carawestt]

Sept 20, 2012 13:09:48 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

Yeah, I'm gonna be that girl talking about the other board here. But whoa. Reading today's UO has me pretty confident in my decision to slowly back away, as if from someone unhinged. It was like people were just doubling down on the meanness, even in the face of folks sharing deeply personal stories. And I absolutely agree with eav2c about the few posters taking advantage of so many of us being gone to sort of dominate the place. It has a whole new vibe, and it's not one that I'm a fan of. And yet there are folks like JFH and Chelsey and Starbound (if y'all are reading this, I love you, and even more folks I can't name), who I like, so I pop in to check up on them, like a creeper watching my friends through the windows or something.

I'm just sad about the whole thing. But it's clearly not my happy place anymore.

Now I'm intrigued! *runs off to read the UO* Like you, I check in on people I like and I respond to their posts occasionally. But there's A LOT of new SN's I don't even recognize..

[rubber pants]

I really dont like it there anymore. People are getting mean and ugly. Im not going to go out in a blaze of glory and GBCB, but I'm really going to guard myself and stay clear of the crazies.

[erniebufflo]

Sept 20, 2012 13:16:17 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Be careful - somebody over there is going to read this thread and talk about how lame it is when people over here read the bump and talk about it.

Meh. I don't care. I'm allowed to talk about what I want to talk about. It's a place I literally spent hundreds of hours on for the last year. I guess this is more of a lament than anything.

[thedahliharpa]

Sept 20, 2012 13:09:48 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

Yeah, I'm gonna be that girl talking about the other board here. But whoa. Reading today's UO has me pretty confident in my decision to slowly back away, as if from someone unhinged. It was like people were just doubling down on the meanness, even in the face of folks sharing deeply personal stories. And I absolutely agree with eav2c about the few posters taking advantage of so many of us being gone to sort of dominate the place. It has a whole new vibe, and it's not one that I'm a fan of. And yet there are folks like JFH and Chelsey and Starbound (if y'all are reading this, I love you, and even more folks I can't name), who I like, so I pop in to check up on them, like a creeper watching my friends through the windows or something.

I'm just sad about the whole thing. But it's clearly not my happy place anymore.

[thedahliharpa]

But if the divide hadn't happened we would all be there reading it. Would you have wanted to leave then or would you, and others, jumped in and made it a better discussion? Just fartin.

[creamsiclechica]

I try really hard not to take things on the bump personally. Sometimes it's harder than others. And I like so many posters that it's rare for me to find someone's posts consistently offensive. But today's UO kind of put it over the edge for me. Some people gave some really personal examples and shared some pretty heavy things, and people just kept going and going with their narrow minded dismissals and judgments. So far, I've let go some insensitive racist comments, infertility slights, and sexual orientation slams, but I think I've had about enough with this "suck it up and deal" approach to mental health issues. I'm sort of over giving people a pass for being outright assholes.

[maccalovah]

Sept 20, 2012 13:09:48 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

Yeah, I'm gonna be that girl talking about the other board here. But whoa. Reading today's UO has me pretty confident in my decision to slowly back away, as if from someone unhinged. It was like people were just doubling down on the meanness, even in the face of folks sharing deeply personal stories. And I absolutely agree with eav2c about the few posters taking advantage of so many of us being gone to sort of dominate the place. It has a whole new vibe, and it's not one that I'm a fan of. And yet there are folks like JFH and Chelsey and Starbound (if y'all are reading this, I love you, and even more folks I can't name), who I like, so I pop in to check up on them, like a creeper watching my friends through the windows or something.

I'm just sad about the whole thing. But it's clearly not my happy place anymore.

I get what you're saying, but aren't most of the people acting a fool in the UO thread over here anyways?

[erniebufflo]

Sept 20, 2012 13:23:25 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

But if the divide hadn't happened we would all be there reading it. Would you have wanted to leave then or would you, and others, jumped in and made it a better discussion? Just fartin.

And then people who disagreed would have been called "bullies." Or the "PC Police." I get what you're saying, and I think in retrospect, if the Bump PTB had given us a new mod and some action, the split could have been prevented, for the time being, but now I'm seeing some rifts that I think would have maybe eventually caused a split at some point. Pretty much every forum I've been on since 2003 has had a spinoff at some point.

[erniebufflo]

Sept 20, 2012 13:25:07 GMT -5 maccalovah said:

Sept 20, 2012 13:09:48 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

Yeah, I'm gonna be that girl talking about the other board here. But whoa. Reading today's UO has me pretty confident in my decision to slowly back away, as if from someone unhinged. It was like people were just doubling down on the meanness, even in the face of folks sharing deeply personal stories. And I absolutely agree with eav2c about the few posters taking advantage of so many of us being gone to sort of dominate the place. It has a whole new vibe, and it's not one that I'm a fan of. And yet there are folks like JFH and Chelsey and Starbound (if y'all are reading this, I love you, and even more folks I can't name), who I like, so I pop in to check up on them, like a creeper watching my friends through the windows or something.

I'm just sad about the whole thing. But it's clearly not my happy place anymore.

I get what you're saying, but aren't most of the people acting a fool in the UO thread over here anyways?

I actually think most of them are private board and TB folks. At least one of them I haven't seen here at all. Though it seems most everyone is reading here, looking for threads like this one

[erniebufflo]

Sept 20, 2012 13:27:50 GMT -5 @chelsmonster said:

Sept 20, 2012 13:23:54 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Just because I know people from TB are reading this: I don't mind the board-on-board snarking. It goes on all over the internet. I don't even mind some meanness and drama. I left because of how hard it is to get any of the bump powers that be to respond to its users and how much more smoothly things run around here. I think it's natural for people to go back and forth for awhile during a transition like this.

I am also skeptical that BK banned those trolls, because I clicked on a few of the names, and their profiles are still there. I thought when someone got banned, their account was deactivated.

I dunno, but I have a "Ban" button and I'm wondering what it actually does.

I think they said they were giving mods 3 day ban privileges or something?

[Regina Philange]

Sept 20, 2012 13:28:33 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

Sept 20, 2012 13:27:50 GMT -5 @chelsmonster said:

I dunno, but I have a "Ban" button and I'm wondering what it actually does.

I think they said they were giving mods 3 day ban privileges or something?

Whoah, i am so impressed right now!!

[eav2c]

Sept 20, 2012 13:23:54 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Just because I know people from TB are reading this: I don't mind the board-on-board snarking. It goes on all over the internet. I don't even mind some meanness and drama. I left because of how hard it is to get any of the bump powers that be to respond to its users and how much more smoothly things run around here. I think it's natural for people to go back and forth for awhile during a transition like this.

I am also skeptical that BK banned those trolls, because I clicked on a few of the names, and their profiles are still there. I thought when someone got banned, their account was deactivated.

In the email that Chelsey shared it said she IP banned which would be totally unrelated to actually banning an actual account. I doubt she even did that buuuuuut who knows.

[eav2c]

Sept 20, 2012 13:31:27 GMT -5 @chelsmonster said:

Sept 20, 2012 13:29:40 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Should I make a troll so you can exercise your banning powers, chelsey?

I kind of want a guinea pig to play with, yeah ;D

You can ban me if you'll go get me lunch at panera, kthnxs.

[eav2c]

Sept 20, 2012 13:39:50 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

please hold...

utohhh.

[thedahliharpa]

I'm waiting. Jumping back and forth and forth and back.

[Regina Philange]

Sept 20, 2012 13:39:50 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

please hold...

!!! haha

[charlielove]

I was going to post in the UO, but I had tostop reading because I got a major case of the sads. And up to this point, I've never taken anything there personally, but when your profession is being attacked it's kind of hard not to.

For such an intelligent, educated group of women, I cannot believe they hold some of those beliefs. Ugh, I could go on and on, but I'm going to leave it at that.

[eav2c]

Sept 20, 2012 14:31:37 GMT -5 charlielove said:

I was going to post in the UO, but I had tostop reading because I got a major case of the sads. And up to this point, I've never taken anything there personally, but when your profession is being attacked it's kind of hard not to.

For such an intelligent, educated group of women, I cannot believe they hold some of those beliefs. Ugh, I could go on and on, but I'm going to leave it at that.

Yeah. But, on the bright side... I was thinking... I never really got to know you that well on TB but I feel like I'm glad this board exists because we've crossed paths numerous times now and I kinda sorta think you rock. Okay, that's all.

[EmmieB1025]

I didn't make it past page 1 of today's UO thread. I could tell it wasn't going to turn out well.

[charlielove]

Sept 20, 2012 14:33:42 GMT -5 eav2c said:

Sept 20, 2012 14:31:37 GMT -5 charlielove said:

I was going to post in the UO, but I had tostop reading because I got a major case of the sads. And up to this point, I've never taken anything there personally, but when your profession is being attacked it's kind of hard not to.

For such an intelligent, educated group of women, I cannot believe they hold some of those beliefs. Ugh, I could go on and on, but I'm going to leave it at that.

Yeah. But, on the bright side... I was thinking... I never really got to know you that well on TB but I feel like I'm glad this board exists because we've crossed paths numerous times now and I kinda sorta think you rock. Okay, that's all.

Aw, thanks and I feel the same way! I do like that I feel we can all get to know each other even better over here.

[mamasaurus]

Sept 20, 2012 13:16:17 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Be careful - somebody over there is going to read this thread and talk about how lame it is when people over here read the bump and talk about it.

I wonder how long before somebody from the private board makes AEs and tells the people here and on TB what the people THERE are saying. I think it will happen within the next month, purely for drama.

[Deleted]

I bet a lot of lurking both ways will just continue. So the talking about each other will too. But I guess that's just how it goes.