Age difference

[kaneen]

I hung out working in Starbucks yesterday afternoon.  A really attractive guy walked in about 10 minutes after I got there.  I caught him looking at me more than once.  As I was packing up to leave he came over and introduced himself and asked me out.  It was clear to both of us there is a significant age difference.  Turns out he's 29 and I'm 45.  I just moved here and need to make friends (plus, he's hot!) so I gave him my number.

Thoughts on the age difference?

[doriswe]

Age is just a number!

[bullygirl979]

Aug 8, 2019 8:35:29 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Age is just a number!

QFT.

I'm met SUPER mature people in their 20s and crazy immature people in their 40s.

[doglove]

No harm in trying it out!

[kaneen]

He actually said, "Let's get dinner and talk about all the things we don't have in common." So yeah, I'm thinking if we like each other and have stuff in common then, why not?

[neonpink]

I'd give it a whirl why not.

[tiramisu]

Give it a chance! A hot guy who's almost 30 is totally in bounds and worth a shot.

[downtoearth]

I too would go out with him - I wouldn't worry about the age difference unless it was weird after the first few dates.

[BlondeSpiders]

I'll admit it, I'm a hypocrite when it comes to age differences. As in, when she's older, GET IT GIRL. But if he's a lot older? Get lost, Grandpa. And that's coming from someone who exclusively dated much, much older men in my 20s. My own guy is 7 years younger, but now that he turned 40 it's not such a big difference. Unfortunately, they age out of "boy toy" status.

[Shreddingbetty]

Honestly why not go for it and just see how it goes? You don’t have to marry the guy. Like PP said there are 40 y/o who are immature and 20 somethings who are very mature. I have a friend who is 26 (I’m 46) and we get along very well, I have known him for 4 years now and even 4 years ago he was very mature for his age (it probably also helped that he is a very tall and athletic guy). I don’t think it would probably ever work for us to truly date if we ever had the chance (we live on different continents for one) and have it be a long term thing but I think that doesn’t just have to do with age. Actually went to visit him for a couple of days last week and last month saw him for an afternoon of lunch and fun . We actually had some pretty deep convos and it really doesn’t feel like there is a 20 year difference. And maybe part of that is that I’m the immature one 😂😂 now that I’m divorced and ready to live it up a little haha. But we met while I was still married and a responsible adult , just a very unhappy one as it turned out.
My friend who is 35 has sort of started dating a 25 year old and is all wigged out about the age difference. Never mind that her pervious dude (who she is still seeing too it is a mess with him) is 15 years older than her. Yet the young one treats her much better and she has fun with him. How is age difference an issue when the guy is younger but not when the girl is younger. I could totally see myself dating a younger guy, maybe not 20 years younger for a long term relationship (especially since I’m done with kids ) but then again French president Macron met his now wife when she was his teacher and he was 15. He is now early 40s and she is in her 60s and they apparently make it work just fine. Isn’t Jason Momoa also much younger than his wife? Anyway, go have fun and enjoy and just see where it goes. It seems like there are a lot of younger guys these days that are into older women, probably because there is less stigma with it these days (even though there still is obviously and probably less drama than with young women.

[downtoearth]

Aug 15, 2019 2:49:50 GMT -5 Shreddingbetty said:

Honestly why not go for it and just see how it goes? You don’t have to marry the guy. Like PP said there are 40 y/o who are immature and 20 somethings who are very mature. I have a friend who is 26 (I’m 46) and we get along very well, I have known him for 4 years now and even 4 years ago he was very mature for his age (it probably also helped that he is a very tall and athletic guy). I don’t think it would probably ever work for us to truly date if we ever had the chance (we live on different continents for one) and have it be a long term thing but I think that doesn’t just have to do with age. Actually went to visit him for a couple of days last week and last month saw him for an afternoon of lunch and fun . We actually had some pretty deep convos and it really doesn’t feel like there is a 20 year difference. And maybe part of that is that I’m the immature one 😂😂 now that I’m divorced and ready to live it up a little haha. But we met while I was still married and a responsible adult , just a very unhappy one as it turned out.
My friend who is 35 has sort of started dating a 25 year old and is all wigged out about the age difference. Never mind that her pervious dude (who she is still seeing too it is a mess with him) is 15 years older than her. Yet the young one treats her much better and she has fun with him. How is age difference an issue when the guy is younger but not when the girl is younger. I could totally see myself dating a younger guy, maybe not 20 years younger for a long term relationship (especially since I’m done with kids ) but then again French president Macron met his now wife when she was his teacher and he was 15. He is now early 40s and she is in her 60s and they apparently make it work just fine. Isn’t Jason Momoa also much younger than his wife? Anyway, go have fun and enjoy and just see where it goes. It seems like there are a lot of younger guys these days that are into older women, probably because there is less stigma with it these days (even though there still is obviously and probably less drama than with young women.

Love this argument. I don't know why, it just made me smile. (PS They are 12 years apart Lisa and Jason - I looked it up b/c I didn't think it was that much - she looks really young.)