Post by aprilsails on Sept 19, 2019 9:43:54 GMT -5
jennysmitten I am so very sorry for your loss. I think missed miscarriages are so cruel since you continue on thinking you are getting closer. I know after each of my losses I felt so very emotionally drained and I didn’t get a minutes worth of work done for a couple of days afterwards.
Please know you aren’t alone. I had a D&C on 9/9 (I thought I was 10 weeks along) and still have bad days too. It’s especially difficult because your body is recovering, hormones haven’t adjusted back and there’s likely the physical reminder of your loss (for me it’s still spotting and the bloated belly).
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s hard. And it’s hard to articulate the sadness. It’s okay to just feel sad today. And it’s okay to feel however you feel tomorrow. I’m just slightly ahead of you in this process and it’s getting easier to find joy everyday. For a while I just let myself sit in the sadness which is what I needed and then one day the cloud lifted a little. I hope you find more days of joy soon but in the meantime it’s okay to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you need to feel that day.
I’m so sorry. We lost a pregnancy in June at 14.5 wks and it hits me in waves. The day to day fog lifted after a few weeks, but there are still moments where out of no where a wave of grief hits. I think these things likely just take some time & we need to be kind to ourselves as our hearts heal.
Post by farfalla2011 on Oct 1, 2019 12:55:55 GMT -5
I missed this post before, how are you doing now that it's been a couple weeks?
As everyone else said, know that your feelings are so incredibly normal. As I've walked through my journey, I've also learned how common miscarriages are. As unpleasant of a topic as it is, I really wish there was a way to raise the awareness of how common it truly is so all of us that have experienced loss didn't end up feeling so isolated and alone.