It’s Monday.

[mommyatty]

So didn’t want to come in today. But I have a lot to do. I have a presentation on Wednesday that I need to prepare for. I also have lunch today with a colleague who is also involved in nonprofit board service, so that’s something to look forward to.

DD may or may not have a tae kwon do belt test this week. Her little brother had one last week. So he’s a yellow belt and she’s still a white belt. He was pretty funny this weekend, threatening her with his mad ninja skillz.  I heard him telling her “I know tae kwon do, you know. I’m a yellow belt. You better be nice or else!” 

[twinmomma]

I was supposed to have dinner with my two best friends tonight, but they both had to cancel this morning. I'm really bummed out. We haven't seen each other altogether in person in months. One is buying a house, one's business is taking off, and I'm dating a great guy. We had a ton to catch up on! Group texts just aren't cutting it.

I started the day training a group on a new process. We are going to send automated texts/emails on the sales peoples' behalf so they don't have to manually do all check ins. The feedback I got was "Well, what if I forget this goes out and I also send the same message myself? Won't that make us look dumb?" and my response was "Well, that's why we're doing this training. So you know this is going out and you don't do that. It will all be tracked in the database so just be conscious of it." I may have come off harsh, since the other manager followed up with "We do appreciate all your feedback and concerns though." I don't appreciate that feedback. Don't be dumb.

(I probably need more coffee. I'm feeling grumpy.)

[covergirl82]

Monday, we meet again. I'm hoping for a less busy week, and maybe I can catch up on some work that I haven't been able to get to the past few weeks.

After Saturday being a packed day, it was nice to have a more relaxing afternoon yesterday. DH and I planned which restaurants we wanted to get reservations for for our WDW trip in April. Our reservation window opens on Friday. We going to a some favorites and want to also try a few new places.

[supertrooper1]

Yesterday's laziness caught up with me this morning when I didn't have lunches made and clothes still in the washing machine. It was 37 degrees this morning, so I'm very excited to leave for Hawaii on Friday.

My trainer is back today after being gone for two weeks. She's WFH, but it's still nice knowing I have my safety net to reach out to when I don't know how to do something.

[erinshelley21]

We got a good start on refinishing the hardwood floors. Sanding was MUCH harder than I expected. Now that we are past the learning curve, I bet we can finish sanding next weekend.

DH's bff was just at the house with us while we met the inspector. DH asked him about the drywall in the bathroom and he said the guy gave us a cheap price and DH would be stupid to not have him do it. I feel victorious today.

We have DS's parent teacher conference on Wednesday. I'm slightly nervous about it. We have turned a corner when it comes to him not wanting to go, but his school work has just been okay. And I know we aren't reading enough throughout the week.

[rere]

I. am. so. tired. I don't really know why. I had a race Saturday that somehow seemed to feel like it was uphill the entire day, but then we got home from the wedding fairly early. Sunday was nice and we just cooked out. Both the kids were with friends so we were chill. Both kids were also in trouble Sunday morning. DS left his shot out, because he couldn't find needles, so we lost 2 doses. He couldn't find needles because when I ask him to clean his room, he shoves it all in the closet. So he was ORGANIZING his entire room that morning. I ran past the neighbors and called DD to make sure she feed their dog this weekend, they were out of town. Nope. She jumped out of bed and went over and did it, then I wouldn't let here go back to bed.

I made DS go to tutoring this morning after last week's freak out before his test. She let him correct his mistakes, showed him what to do and then gave him 100%. Yay! So that paid off.

We are off tonight with just practice. Game Tuesday, I work until 9 Wednesday at a Teen Leadership Conference, then it's up in the air about a game Thursday.

[mae0111]

Hopefully this week will be easier than last. I was sick and DH was 3k miles away... but I’m better and he’s home, so fingers crossed...

Weekend was OK. DD1 had many meltdowns when things didn’t go her way, after being ok for most of the week. I was unable to set up a play date for her on Friday, but I set one up for Saturday... tears and screaming about Friday. No one was around in the neighborhood when we got home - more years and screaming. Sunday DH, DD2 and I decided we wanted to go to a local park for a walk/scooter ride/playground- screaming and tears because she didn’t want to go. Ok, stay home, you’ll be 10 in a week... more screaming and tears. And the bullying of her little sister is just getting worse. And the back talk... hooooo boy...

So I have a call in to her pedi and I’m waiting for a call back. This behavior, along with some academic and social stuff, is killing us. I posted about it on ML and many people suggested that the No-ADHD feedback we got through neuropsych testing is incorrect, and it makes a lot of sense. I’ve been so resistant to medication because I feel like she is pretty sensitive to it, but this just can’t go on.

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DS is really nervous about his surgery tomorrow. I’ve been recording him sleeping every night in the hopes that I can do it again after he’s recovered and we will hear a significant change. I’m dreading recovery though. Everyone keeps telling me how awful tonsilloadenoidectomy recovery is, but their kids all had it done as toddlers so I’m hoping the fact that he’s almost 8 will make it a little better. We are stocked up on Gatorade and kool aid and all sorts of crap I never buy so hopefully he will be willing to drink. And I have every version of junior Tylenol and Advil on the market (irritated they don’t make swallowable pills for either now). Now we just need it to be this time tomorrow when it’s all over and we are into recovery mode.

That’s dominating our week. I’m really hoping this study holds true for him: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4261322/#!po=74.1379

[polecat8]

On Saturday, DH took DD to the museum for some quality time while I took the boys to DS1's soccer game with my parents. Then we went to a car cruise. Then my mom and I went shopping to find some outfits for my family for picture day next Sunday. Then we had a quiet evening at home.
On Sunday, I went for an 8-mile run and I actually felt pretty good afterwards. I took DS1 out for some quality time. Then the kids did some homework and we had a lazy evening.

This morning, I drove an hour to the office to find out that there was no power in that part of town due to a big fire. So I drove back home and took a nap on the couch. Then the power was restored to the office just before lunch, so I am now working from home for the rest of the day.

[rere]

Sept 30, 2019 12:21:13 GMT -5 @mrsgreeko said:

DS is really nervous about his surgery tomorrow. I’ve been recording him sleeping every night in the hopes that I can do it again after he’s recovered and we will hear a significant change. I’m dreading recovery though. Everyone keeps telling me how awful tonsilloadenoidectomy recovery is, but their kids all had it done as toddlers so I’m hoping the fact that he’s almost 8 will make it a little better. We are stocked up on Gatorade and kool aid and all sorts of crap I never buy so hopefully he will be willing to drink. And I have every version of junior Tylenol and Advil on the market (irritated they don’t make swallowable pills for either now). Now we just need it to be this time tomorrow when it’s all over and we are into recovery mode.

That’s dominating our week. I’m really hoping this study holds true for him: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4261322/#!po=74.1379

I had mine out at 16.  It wasn't bad at all.  I don't remember much pain, just laying around watching tv making people hunt me down strawberry ice cream.   I was up and going in a few day - cant' remember exactly how many, but I remember going out the weekend after.  

[phdmomma]

@mrsgreeko, DS is 7 and had his adenoids out (not the tonsils) when he was 6. He was a little freaked out by the anesthesia, but asked for a sandwich when he got home. He was really good, and not terrible. Just vegging on the couch.

[mustardseed2007]

Sunday I had a big race out of town, and it went...just ok. It was really hard and I had to use my reasonable brain to tell myself that I was pretty far ahead of the cut off time for the course so the fastest way for the course to be over was for me to get goings vs waiting for a sag car from the race.

The other result was that I was gone all day saturday and didn't get home until 9pm on Sunday. So the house is a disaster and we have very few groceries other than pumpkin poptarts and lunchables that DH picked up this weekend. Oh and he and the kids also got new Halloween decorations. The essentials right?

But seriously they had a good weekend and I'm glad of that.

[186momx]

@mrsgreeko, I had my T&A surgery Wednesday before Thanksgiving when I was 12. I ate lots of ice cream, chicken and stars soup, and had leftover T-day dinner on Sunday and was back to school on Monday with meals that were just soft. Buy lots of bags of peas and rotate them for ice packs. Also wake him up in the middle of the night for a dose of pain pills the first couple nights so he doesn't wake up in pain.

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Sept 30, 2019 13:11:44 GMT -5 186momx said:

@mrsgreeko, I had my T&A surgery Wednesday before Thanksgiving when I was 12. I ate lots of ice cream, chicken and stars soup, and had leftover T-day dinner on Sunday and was back to school on Monday with meals that were just soft. Buy lots of bags of peas and rotate them for ice packs. Also wake him up in the middle of the night for a dose of pain pills the first couple nights so he doesn't wake up in pain.

T&A surgery cracks me up every time.

We are planning on a full 2 weeks out of school because they have a 5 day weekend next weekend so if he did go back next week it’s a short week anyway and the hospital said a full 7 days out of school and it seems silly to just go back on Wednesday next week (and Wednesday is early release anyway). Maybe overkill, oh well it’s how it worked out. It’s good to hear he should be okay in a few days though. I was wondering if icing it would help or not. So thank you for that. I’ll grab some peas when we are getting the grocery store mashed potatoes he wants. We are definitely planning on meds in the middle of the night. He’s not a great med taker and is already pretty opposed to the idea of meds so that part will probably be the worst.

[mae0111]

@mrsgreeko - my DD1 had hers out at 8 and she stayed out for 10 days. Recovery wasn’t bad if we kept up with meds. This meant that I was setting an alarm for 2 or 3 am for 10 days, but it was worth it. One night we didn’t set the alarm and she was sobbing at 4am - the only time she cried during recovery.

Her sleep improved significantly once those giant adenoids were out of the way. Her surgeon said he had no idea how she was breathing at all 😳.

Good luck! Ice cream, popsicles, Italian ices, milkshakes!!

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Sept 30, 2019 15:07:39 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

@mrsgreeko - my DD1 had hers out at 8 and she stayed out for 10 days. Recovery wasn’t bad if we kept up with meds. This meant that I was setting an alarm for 2 or 3 am for 10 days, but it was worth it. One night we didn’t set the alarm and she was sobbing at 4am - the only time she cried during recovery.

Her sleep improved significantly once those giant adenoids were out of the way. Her surgeon said he had no idea how she was breathing at all 😳.

Good luck! Ice cream, popsicles, Italian ices, milkshakes!!

Oh yeah I was going to pick up Italian ices too. I guess I’m going shopping. I should really make a list....

Did you notice behavior improvement after the surgery if there were any concerns before?

Even if his behavior doesn’t improve at least he will be able to breathe from his nose which will help when we start with the palate expander in a few months.

[mae0111]

Sept 30, 2019 15:15:50 GMT -5 @mrsgreeko said:

Sept 30, 2019 15:07:39 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

@mrsgreeko - my DD1 had hers out at 8 and she stayed out for 10 days. Recovery wasn’t bad if we kept up with meds. This meant that I was setting an alarm for 2 or 3 am for 10 days, but it was worth it. One night we didn’t set the alarm and she was sobbing at 4am - the only time she cried during recovery.

Her sleep improved significantly once those giant adenoids were out of the way. Her surgeon said he had no idea how she was breathing at all 😳.

Good luck! Ice cream, popsicles, Italian ices, milkshakes!!

Oh yeah I was going to pick up Italian ices too. I guess I’m going shopping. I should really make a list....

Did you notice behavior improvement after the surgery if there were any concerns before?

Even if his behavior doesn’t improve at least he will be able to breathe from his nose which will help when we start with the palate expander in a few months.

Honestly... we did not. We were hoping for an improvement as well, but it didn’t happen. We thought lack of sleep, possibly PANS/PANDAS from so much strep... no. But her sleep really did improve tremendously. I hope your result is better on the behavior front.

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Sept 30, 2019 15:21:29 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

Sept 30, 2019 15:15:50 GMT -5 @mrsgreeko said:

Oh yeah I was going to pick up Italian ices too. I guess I’m going shopping. I should really make a list....

Did you notice behavior improvement after the surgery if there were any concerns before?

Even if his behavior doesn’t improve at least he will be able to breathe from his nose which will help when we start with the palate expander in a few months.

Honestly... we did not. We were hoping for an improvement as well, but it didn’t happen. We thought lack of sleep, possibly PANS/PANDAS from so much strep... no. But her sleep really did improve tremendously. I hope your result is better on the behavior front.

I’m going to pretend I didn’t ask and you didn’t answer in the negative. 😂. We really really need this to help his behavior. Hopefully it at least stops the snoring so sharing a hotel room (or even a 4 bedroom house) with him isn’t so irritating!

[waverly]

I feel like if the kid sleeps more the behavior is usually better. But whether it is entirely a sleep issue, I guess you will find out.

DS had them out when he was 5. It was terrible. It doesn't help that he is sensory avoidant and basically does not eat anything cold, so ice cream and popsicles were out, and he doesn't eat jello. Ditto to staying on the meds. He cried twice, and I cried with him one day because I felt so bad.

[sdlaura]

All day presentation training today at a hotel near the office. Luckily it’s a chance to interact with some of my firm’s other partners who are located in other offices and I like them. Then tonight, because one of my BFFs is here for the training, I’m going out with a few girlfriends after putting kids to bed. I also had a 7-8:30am conference call that I had to listen to while getting kids ready and to school, and the kids were surprisingly well behaved while I was doing it. So not a terrible Monday so far.

[186momx]

Weekend was rainy and cold. I had to turn the heat on. Me who normally doesn't turn the heat on until late October turned it on in September.
Took DD to cheer her team mates on at the first gymnastics meet of the season. DD sat with N & E who are both in college now and no longer competing. It was good for DD to hang with them and they taught her when it was a good time to cheer and not a good time and explain how everything worked. They told DD she need to congratulate her teammates after the meet. Each girl DD tried to give a hug and say how great they did blew her off. Both N & E saw this and I saw them share a look of "oh that isn't right". The meet did give DD some incentive to try and get her skills so she can do the next one which is in 3 weeks.

I found the meet to be an extreme sensory overload and basically crashed for the rest of the day. Like I could have slept the entire afternoon because I was that exhausted. I don't remember big events like this being a problem in the past so not sure why it was this time. Sunday was errands for most of the day and a lazy evening at home.

[mommyatty]

We got an email today that the mother of a girl in DD’s grade died unexpectedly over the weekend. They are 2nd graders. The little girl asked her dad to let her come to school today so she could just have a normal day. My heart is breaking for her.

[drjeep]

I'm already exhausted for the week! I had to go to two Fall Festivals on Friday night, then spent most of the weekend working on research and catching up on laundry. Some guys came and demolished my master shower because it has cracks in the grout around the floor and up the walls about three feet on two of the sides, which means water has been leaking under my house. Perfect! *eyeroll* Thankfully it was caught early (like six weeks ago) so I have been using my guest bathroom for a shower, which is a pain because I have to get out of bed and walk down the hall whenever I have to go to the bathroom. What can I say? I'm lazy and enjoy certain comforts. I have had a really loud fan (think industrial sized like when there is a chemical spill) going in my bathroom since Friday 24/7 so it can dry whatever the people did on Friday so they can hopefully install a new basin, do the waterproofing, and install the new tile from Wednesday-Friday. I can't wait to be able to use my shower again! You never know how much you appreciate your own shower until you can't use it. Four more school days to get through, and then it's finally Fall Break!!! Sooooooo ready!!!!!! Even though I will be working on research and writing, I will at least be able to sleep in and work in pjs in my comfy chair. Small victories!

[drjeep]

Sept 30, 2019 17:18:56 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

We got an email today that the mother of a girl in DD’s grade died unexpectedly over the weekend. They are 2nd graders. The little girl asked her dad to let her come to school today so she could just have a normal day. My heart is breaking for her.

That has happened a lot with students here as well. If something tragic happens to a sibling or other family member they often want to come to school so they can have a routine and structure they can count on since a death is often so unexpected and out of their control. It also helps them to be around their friends and teachers who love them and offer them support and comfort. I'm so sorry for that little girl. That has to be so difficult, especially at such a young age when young kids are so dependent on their moms. Poor thing!

[186momx]

Vent: It's the first of the month and I should be busier than all hell but no I'm sitting around waiting on clients to send me payrolls. It's noon and I've done 3 payrolls and I have another 6 that should be coming in and done before I leave at 3. I have no clue what my clients are thinking today.