I am not sure who to ask

[iluvmytxrgr]

I would call the number just in case they are planning to provide refreshments or what ever.

[erin2903]

I would just call the number. Not to be rude but, how would we know?

[basilosaurus]

If they give you a number to rsvp, then you should call the number to, you know, rsvp.

The way I'd read that invite is they don't want you to call if you can't come, but you should call to let them know you're going. A traditional rsvp you call for both. This is a more modern style.

[beans]

You have the oddest questions sometimes. Like you really couldn't figure this out on your own?

[beachy]

Seriously, sometimes I wonder how you function as a married, adult women if you have to ask the questions that you ask. Or even a functioning member of society.

[Dory1988]

What's funny is in your OP you say there was a paper invite but the you say it was verbal. If indeed a paper invite says RSVP then common sense would indicate you call. If it didn't then you don't. I knew that by the age of 12. I didn't need to be in my mid 20's, have a college degree, and be married a few years to know the answers to some of the dumb ass questions you ask.

[prettyinpink]

My rule of thumb for things like that is if it gives me a number to call I call if I plan on going. I find its always best to call if you have that option. This also gives you the opportunity to off to arrive early to help set up or to offer to bring something.

[beachy]

I had general social skills waaayy before your age. There is a phone number saying you can let her know if you are coming. Nobody is going to think less of you for doing what the note says and calling to let her know you're coming.

It's not that anyone thinks they have all the answers. But seriously, you ask some of the dumbest shit I have ever heard of. I am pretty sure you could ask a 13 year old most of your questions and they could answer them.

[ilovelamp]

Maybe nobody ever taught Smurfette these things when she was younger. Everyone if raised differently and surrounded by different types of people growing up. There is no stupid question IMO.