It was a great weekend. DD and I went to an apple festival and a pioneer village. We all made chili and carved a pumpkin.
Vent: The one drawback was DH. We had made plans to go to a friend's and listen to them play music Saturday. Well all of the sudden, he remembers it is some hunting season an drops the plans. We can go later. No, if I haven't been anywhere by 8, I probably am not going. This just reminds me that I need to carve out a life for myself and not factor him in. He puts 0 effort into our relationship. With the kids getting older, I can see very clearly, I need to find some things on my own. He ended up not going, but not because he was being considerate.
Vent 2: He didn't go because the clutch on DS's truck went out. Now this is an ongoing project that was supposed to be ready to go by the time he got his license which hopefully will be Monday if he passes. DH is working 12 hours all week and we are camping this weekend, so the first chance he can even get to it is Monday. I was willing to pay someone to fix it, but no one can get it in any sooner than that. Now the kid is going to have a license and a broke down truck.
This week is nuts. I have around 10 people coming in for a training Wednesday - Friday and a trainer. I will only be periodically around because I have things on my calendar and DS's doctor appointment out of town Friday. Thursday night I have a parent presentation at a school, when I should be packing for camping.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Oct 21, 2019 10:33:55 GMT -5
DS had a great play date Friday and DD hung out at home with my sister and mom that day until I could get off work. Then DH took the kids to rocket day with cub scouts and then to gymnastics with DD. I then took DS to a birthday party and the next day swim lessons and another play date with an old friend from our old school. They let DD play too and she loved it. Oh and the Astros are going to the world series!!!
Downside is that our dish washer is leaking. At first I thought, oh well it's super old. We'll just get a new one. But then I realized it's not draining. I think that means we need a plumber. I'm about to leave town for 3 days on wednesday to a conference, then I'll be gone all weekend for my race. So I sent DH two plumber names and asked him to call. Now we wait to see if he does...
We had a busy weekend.. Highlight was DD's walkathon was on Saturday. Girlfriend walked 32 laps, for about 7 miles. And she came nowhere near close to being a top performer. They really go all out on the event, digital lap counter, DJ, games, etc. We ended up winning a silent auction basket for a family fun night - somehow they managed to have 5 board games that we don't have, so it seemed like it was meant to be.
And we got an email from the contractor that says waiting til next Monday is cutting it too close to the scheduled inspection date.. so now they're coming Thursday. So somehow this week I need to empty the closet and bath out after all. I keep trying to remind myself that I knew this company absolutely sucked when it came to timelines and scheduling when we decided to go with them.
Post by supertrooper1 on Oct 21, 2019 10:49:43 GMT -5
Beau and I had a good weekend together. We didn't do much other than go out to eat and go to the movies since the weather was nasty most of the weekend. At least the rain held off for most of DS's soccer game on Saturday. Beau has 2 sons in their early twenties. I met one last week and one this weekend. They were both so polite, even though I'm sure it was hard meeting their dad's first girlfriend after their mom's passing.
Vent: I hate hardware technology. I can't get both of my monitors to work with my docking station and my WIFI extender isn't connecting with my laptop.
Weekend was okay. Our pumpkin patch date Saturday got cancelled because the friends we were going with were up all night puking. Ended up running errands in the rain with a cranky kid but no way was I going to go to the pumpkin patch in the pouring rain with just us. Sunday we had fun puppy sitting my sisters 10 week labradoodle Wrigley. He wore our 10 year old lab out but it was also fun to see my old girl running zoomies and playing tag/chase in the yard. I've only had girl dogs. Puppy peed every 5-10 minutes for almost 4 hours straight. I don't know if he was just marking or what but jeez that isn't how I remember puppy potty training going.
Property maintenance guys showed up. They are going to go get a moisture meter to see if they can figure out where the water is coming from but I'm expecting a plumber and a whole being cut in my ceiling today. Not that I don't have a whole stack of work that I need to do today.
Post by covergirl82 on Oct 21, 2019 11:05:35 GMT -5
Weekend was insane, Sunday especially. Saturday morning DD cheered her last game, which was coincidentally DS's last football game of the season. They won 13-0 and ended the season undefeated! After that we headed to a farm to get pumpkins...this is one of those "entertainment" farms, where they have all kinds of other "attractions." The main reason we drove the 2 hours roundtrip is because they have repurposed machine-gun style cannons where you can shoot apples at various targets. The kids have a lot of fun.
Sunday we all got in the car to go to church, and halfway there, DS gets a puke bag out and says he feels like he's going to throw up. Pretty sure he and DH got mild food poisoning from food they ate Saturday at the bowling alley where DH has his bowling league. (He is now banned from eating there ever again, because this isn't the first time one of us has gotten food poisoning there.) So DH dropped me and DD off (I had to teach a Sunday school class). After church, DD and I ate a quick lunch, I washed dishes, and then we left to go to make a quick stop at the mall before going to a birthday party. While she was at the party, I ran to TJ's and then Aldi. Then I picked DD up and we rushed home so we had time for her to get a snack before Odyssey of the Mind practice and I mixed up the dry ingredients for muffins for DS's school snack this week. After I took DD to practice, I rushed home to finish up and bake the muffins. (Meanwhile, DH had an end-of-season football party at our house from 3-4:30.) Then I went to get DD at 5:00 and we rushed to small group.
Today is my short week (Friday off), but I have so much work. And I have so much that needs to be done at home that needs to get done on Friday (I'm going to be gone all day on Saturday and a few hours on Sunday afternoon isn't enough), that I won't have time to catch up on work for work and stuff at home while the kids are at school on Friday. We have a quarterly employee survey that allows for comments, so I was brutally honest about my workload and being near burnout. We need more people on our team. I can't continue to do the work of 1.5+ FTEs.
Post by HeartofCheese on Oct 21, 2019 11:24:52 GMT -5
Spent weekend with the boyf. Helped him move Friday night and had a late night dinner/Netflix date. Saturday we did our own stuff. Sunday we drove through the countryside on a perfect bright-blue-skies-62-degrees kind of day with all the leaves at peak color-change and then did a fall foliage train ride. Had dinner and a beer at a brewery in a cute little town. Then binge-watched Peaky Blinders once we got home. Giving it a solid 5-star rating.
ETA: Went to a burlesque at a whiskey distillery that served one of my favorite beers and shrimp tacos. Forgot about that somehow...so now the weekend gets 10 stars.
Monday vent: my coworker who has cancer is not doing so well. She starts radiation tomorrow (3-5 sessions) on the more pressing tumors and is planning to try to work thorughout. I am trying to prepare for the fact that it will probably knock her on her ass and she will (hopefully) take some time at home to rest as much as she needs. The universe just needs to give her a break.
I may have overdone it with traveling cross-country and being there less than 36 hours. It was great to see lots of family and friends, but I landed back home at 10 am yesterday and have spent most of the time since then sleeping. I am SO TIRED. I may actually leave work and go home to get back in bed.
DH and I had a fantastic weekend! We went to Nantucket, just us, no kids. The weather was perfect all weekend - sunny, mid-50’s, not too windy. We wandered around a bit on Friday, then had massages, then had OMG the best dinner ever at a restaurant right on the water.
Saturday we took a long walk to a small reserve and hiked up to get a view of the water off a cliff/dune. Back to the hotel for breakfast and showers, then out to see an old lighthouse. Then we walked along a cliff path overlooking the ocean. The harbor seals were close to or onshore sunning themselves- so beautiful. Then we went to a local brewery where they have food trucks and bands and a beer garden. Back to get ready for dinner, and I slept better than I have in MONTHS.
We came back yesterday afternoon, and DD1 has had 2 EPIC meltdowns since we’ve been back, each lasting 30-45 mins. I’m trying to be understanding knowing that things have been hard at school, but OMG it’s exhausting.
I’d hoped for a smoother re-entry into the real world.
Post by traveltheworld on Oct 21, 2019 13:10:13 GMT -5
We had a great weekend. Saturday was the usual run around with kid activities; but yesterday DS finished up hockey by 8:30 a.m., so we hung out at home for a bit, then went for a hike with another set of friends. It was so much fun.
He runs an event company and his event on Saturday ran late, so we were late getting on the road. He let me know well in advance and kept texting to apologize. It wasn't a big deal, just a minor annoyance. It's the nature of his job, so I got it. Then when he showed up to pick me up he had a big bouquet of roses with him to apologize more! I was totally shocked!
The rest of the weekend was just amazingly chill. We went out to eat, walked around the adorable seacoast town, went down to the beach for a walk. No real plans, just spending time with each other. Lots of talk of planning more trips and introducing each other to friends and family. Now I'm relaxing at home, catching up on a few chores, and he'll come back later for football.
Now I'm headed into a busy week with work and school events, but it's a short week since I was off today, so it shouldn't be too bad.
Post by supertrooper1 on Oct 21, 2019 14:07:31 GMT -5
I just got an email informing me that a case that I worked on five years ago finally reached a verdict in Federal Court. The guy will get a $150,000 penalty and up to a year in jail for his violation. This is pretty awesome, but crazy that it took five years for this case!
This weekend was crazy busy. Luckily my neighbors took the kids to events on Sunday since I had to work.
3 soccer games, 2 Cub Scout events, 1 Girl Scout event, 1 trunk or treat, 3 haircuts, 1 evening out with a friend.
I am off today for Sunday, and I guess the day off is healthcare themed. Drop off DS’s hearing aid before the warranty expires, change insurance cards at the pharmacy, pick up more asthma meds for DD, flu shots, and a chiropractor visit.
Also I went to Kohl’s because I had $10 Kohl’s cash but they suckered me into buying DD jeans so I spent $22 for jeans and a T-shirt for her.
Our weekend was pretty good. On a slightly venting/accepting how things are note, we looked at a house that would probably meet our needs to have space for MIL to have her own area while living with us. DH didn’t like that the main areas downstairs were small considering the overall size of the house. MIL wants her living area downstairs and bedroom upstairs, and this would give her the opposite. So, it has occurred to me that even though MIL is the one who supposedly wants to live with us and DH is the one whose mother she is, I’m the only one trying to make this a reality. And I’m the only one who really honestly doesn’t want it to happen anyway.
So, I do want a different house that has a better yard. But since I’m not going to find anything that meets all the bullshit requirements set by DH and MIL while finding a 2 family house, I’m going to start looking for a one family house that makes me happy. MIL can move into a flipping retirement center when the time comes.
Also I’m doing a bunch of reviews of interviews for a summer internship, and omg. I want to stab myself to get out of it.
mommyatty, Buy your dream house. You work hard. Don't bend over backwards to please MIL. If she wants to fit in to your lives, she will have to compromise. I don't mean put her in a cellar, but if you were willing to let her live in YOUR house, then she cannot be picky about what YOUR money is buying. This is the time for your and your family to make memories in your home. If she doesn't like it, don't live there. As for your DH, happy wife and all that and even the bible talks about leaving your mother to make a life with your wife, so he needs to defer to you not her.
BTW, I am pretty sure there would be snowballs in hell before MIL or my mom moved in with me, so I commend you for even considering it.
mommyatty , Buy your dream house. You work hard. Don't bend over backwards to please MIL. If she wants to fit in to your lives, she will have to compromise. I don't mean put her in a cellar, but if you were willing to let her live in YOUR house, then she cannot be picky about what YOUR money is buying. This is the time for your and your family to make memories in your home. If she doesn't like it, don't live there. As for your DH, happy wife and all that and even the bible talks about leaving your mother to make a life with your wife, so he needs to defer to you not her.
BTW, I am pretty sure there would be snowballs in hell before MIL or my mom moved in with me, so I commend you for even considering it.
All of this, especially the perfectly placed last sentence!!! Also, covergirl82, I'm exhausted just listening to your weekend!!
Post by librarychica on Oct 21, 2019 16:32:23 GMT -5
We had a nice weekend but also failed at our first-ever non-family drop off play date.
My girls, almost 5 and almost 8, were invited by a neighbor to come watch a movie. An hour in, I hear a banging on the front door and there stands my youngest. She just walked out without telling anyone and came home. Well, I call the host mom and she doesn’t answer but a few minutes later comes running up with DD1 and her daughter.
Okay. So DD2 gets a lecture and stays home with me and they return to the movie. After movie mom texts me “can DD1 stay later?” Okay. Fine. A couple hours later “can she stay for dinner?” Okay. Finally it is nearly bedtime so I text her that H will be grabbing her on his way home from the grocery. No answer. I’ve got the little in bed already and I know H will get her.
Well he gets there and everyone is crying and DD1 has ice on her nose. The girls got into an argument and her friend punched her. She says she wanted to leave but she didn’t think she could just leave and come home (since her sister got a lecture for it) and didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. She’s been allowed to go around the neighborhood for 2 years but I guess she forgot?
These girls are never going to want to leave my house again.
The next morning host mom wanted to come by and have her daughter apologize but I was like “oh no, it’s fine, next time let’s meet at a playground” and promptly took my kids and left the house to avoid forced apology awkwardness. I am a coward.
My weekend was good. I got to be lazy for a little bit of it, so that was a rare bonus. I was really productive Friday afternoon: finished a tutoring session with some kids around 4:15, rushed to the bank to get a check deposited before they closed, then rushed to the post office to get some stuff mailed for school so it could be postmarked that day, then rushed home to get some stacking pumpkins to deliver them to a friend's house and help them set them up on their porch, picked up Ferret from his doggy day care and then went home. I made stuffed squash and baked potatoes from the Farmer's Market for dinner this weekend, and they were both delicious! Veggies just taste so much fresher and cleaner when they come from a Farmer's Market. I love Fall veggies and soups! Saturday and Sunday were spent working on lesson plans and doing dissertation research, but I got to do that in pajamas so that was nice.
Vent: This is more a vent towards myself. I am sooo unmotivated to write my dissertation because I just want it to be done and over with! I'm kind of flying blind with getting some outlines together because I need to make sure my committee agrees with the direction I'm going in, but it just seems like one more thing to do before I start the actual writing process. It's honestly starting to just feel like busy work that will never get finished. Add that to trying to see my dad every day and trying to make sure I have things ready for the multiple schools I teach at and trying to make sure my supervisor is happy, and it just seems overwhelming.
Vent #2: This year we finally have an online referral system for students who teachers feel need extra challenge. This system is so much better and faster and helps kids get into classes quicker. However, I still have teachers putting paper forms in my mailbox at certain schools. I am only at each school one day a week, and using paper forms takes a lot longer to get students enrolled in classes because I only get the forms when I am at that school. The online forms come straight to my email so I can get students signed up immediately. It would be different if I hadn't met with all of the teachers in meetings and walked them through the online process, which is SUPER easy, and sent them a video link that shows them how to go through the process in case they forgot when I came to show them individually. Just use the online form!!!!!
Post by erinshelley21 on Oct 22, 2019 7:29:28 GMT -5
I had a good weekend. Friday I started painting at the new house. I got DD's room and the wall patches primed done before we had to leave for my mom's work family party. The kids stayed all night with her so I could paint on Saturday. DH worked Saturday so I painted uninterrupted from 9:00-4:00 and got our room and DS's room done. Kids and my mom got there, so I took a break before putting poly down on DS's section of floor that had been stained. MIL came to get the kids because she was lonely lol. DS ended up staying with me because he wanted to work on the house, so he painted his name letters while I scraped paint off the stairs. Sunday was not as productive, but it was nice to take a break. We went to breakfast, stopped at Lowe's for a few things, then to visit DH's grandpa. We dropped the kids off and I spent the next 4 hours prepping and staining DD's floor.
Refinishing these hardwood floors makes me realize why people put carpet over hardwoods. My body hurts.
Tuesday vent... My kids have just not been behaving. At all. They fight constantly. DD1 melts down at least daily, and DD2 is having an awful day today. The bickering started after school while we were walking to the car, and it didn't stop until I completely lost it in the car and was screaming like a lunatic.
As I'm pulling onto our street (after 25 minutes of all of us screaming and crying in the car), DH tells me that he has to go away next week Mon-Wed. OK... except he's away this week Thurs-Sun. So I basically get like a 6 hour break on Sunday for the next week. Super. Should be great, especially with the way the kids are acting.
mae0111, have you ever grounded your kids from speaking to each other? I’ve started doing that, and it’s been amazingly effective. They both melt down and cry, but the thought of not being allowed to talk to each other is horrifying to them. They quit bickering at the threat of it.
mae0111 , have you ever grounded your kids from speaking to each other? I’ve started doing that, and it’s been amazingly effective. They both melt down and cry, but the thought of not being allowed to talk to each other is horrifying to them. They quit bickering at the threat of it.
As a matter of fact, yes! DD2 is currently in her room with no access to technology for the next 5 days due to her inability to stop talking to her sister.
I remember my mom had done a behavior chart for us, so I started one for my kids. Some kids do not respond well at all to behavior charts, luckily mine usually do well with them.
It's a get along chart, they couldn't have fought more than 3 times in a day (and just minor fighting) and then they get a quarter per day. I usually save up the money and give them a dollar at time that they can use to buy whatever they want. DD used hers to buy TCBY and DS is buying a book at the Book Fair. I plan to continue it through the holidays, so they hopefully do not fight while we are in Hawaii.
We took our camper to the mountains last weekend and it was fun BUT--the drive was just super long, having to stop plus traffic issues, ughhh. I feel like we almost spent 2 whole days driving, grrrrr. I mean we really didn't but it definitely felt that way!! DH kept saying, jeez we could be at the beach in 3.5 hrs flat & never have any traffic issues going there!! Instead of spending almost 5+ hrs....
Oh well, I enjoyed being in the mountains because its really is so peaceful & beautiful.