Bring your random Hump Day musings here

[kaneen]

I am SOOOO happy to be back in my place.  Everything is pretty much done with the exception of some paint touch ups here and there.  I'm guessing I'll be finding stuff like that for weeks to come.  I will put together some before/after pictures once I get things back into place.

I realized right before I moved back in that my living situation has been unstable/changing for a full year now.  I finally feel like I'm where I belong and can breathe a sigh of relief and move forward.

I bought a dress while I was in Vegas for a ball I'm going to later this month.  I can't remember the last time I had an excuse to buy an actual gown and I'm obsessed with the one I got.  I had to order a size they didn't have in the store and it's supposed to come today.  I can't wait to get it and try it on.  

What's going on with everyone?

[tiramisu]

I've just been working as usual this week. Had a wonderful date Saturday, though of course I'm fixating on the one concern he shared, but he's had that concern and has still been dating and talking to me, came to the flash mob with his son, etc. So I'm trying to get out of my own head about it all.

Work has been pretty good, but a little weird this week. In less than 2 weeks, my partner changes and I'm sad about it. My new partner is cool, but very different (also going from having a female partner to a male one).

I got a recall notice in the mail for my car. The emissions system needs a software update, I think. So I have to get that taken care of soon. Maybe it'll be part of my weekend plans. Today is my Friday and I still don't have any real plans for my weekend.

[chalupa]

Hiya! I just got home from an interview. *I* thought it went well and really liked the team (it was a panel interview with 3 people), and I'm hoping they liked me, too. It's timely, because my current F'd up company is talking about restructuring my organization. I'm in exactly zero danger of being cut, but the only things that have kept me there through the past year are that I work from home and I adore my manager. If I'm not going to report to her, I'm definitely out.

Congrats on your home being put back together kaneen! Looking forward to your photos.

My family is most definitely coming my way for Christmas, and I had thought we were all settled on who was staying with me vs who was staying in a hotel, yet my mom called last night and tried to guilt me into letting my sister and her FI sleep on my freaking couches, because "they want to hang out with her siblings" (my brothers and their wives/kids are the ones crashing here). I was very proud of my self for firmly putting my foot down. There are already 7 extra people staying with me, I'm maxed out. My sister is welcome to hang out and chat as late as she wants each day, but we're not sharing any more horizontal surfaces or rationing who gets to shower. Also, the petty side of me remembers that the last Christmas I spent with my sister, she called me a bitch. So - you better believe I made sure to reach out to my brothers first to offer them my guest room, sleeper sofa, and air mattresses. I'm sure there will be more drama to be had as the holiday gets closer - I joked to my MIL that I was going to sneak out to her house for some peace and quiet. Their house is an hour south, LOL.

[chalupa]

OMG - I just got a call back from the recruiter for this interview to confirm my salary requirements and say they're going to prepare an offer for me. Squee! I negotiated up a bit from what I'd previously stated, and apparently it's at the very top of their budget range, but still within that range. Fingers crossed they get back to me by the end of the week or on Monday.

I have NEVER gotten a call back within 2 hours of leaving an interview - I didn't even have time to write a thank you note.

[doriswe]

Yay chalupa!! I hope you get an offer soon!
Yay kaneen for feeling settled! I can't wait to see pics!
tiramisu, is his concern something about you or him? Just nosey

I feel like I'm surrounded by doom and gloom lately. My mom's mom died and literally two weeks later her sister died. She's a hot mess right now. I think the funeral on Saturday will be really awful for her. My friend's 15 year old daughter is on hospice due to her cancer coming back with a vengeance. My other friend had a micropremie baby and she's struggling with the stress of all of that.

But I'm working from home in yoga pants and a hoodie. My yoga studio has a 21 day challenge going, so I'm doing that and one of my friends is doing it with me, which has been nice. The big prize is a trip to Mexico for a yoga retreat! The chance of me winning is tiny, so I'm focusing on the joy in doing all these classes with my friend.

R has a really really really hard time taking time off of work and relaxing. He told me last night he's planning a trip for us to go to Nashville in a few weeks for a long weekend! Yeah buddy!

[tiramisu]

doriswe that is a lot to be holding space for! I'm glad you're doing things for yourself. The yoga challenge sounds really nice.

His concern is about me. Specifically that I'm agnostic and he's Christian, like goes to church every Sunday and Bible study on Thursdays. I think it has a lot to do with navigating things like how he's raising his son and how, if we did end up getting married and having a child together that child would be raised. I think it's also because he was at a wedding where he probably saw some things he would want were he to get remarried, which made him think about whether or not he'd be able to have religion incorporated into a wedding with someone like me.

[downtoearth]

kaneen , so great to feel at home and less transitional.
chalupa , way to go on the interview and quick turnaround discussion on the offer.
tiramisu , eek - tough on the religion thing. It's good you are both open and talking about it to see if it's a thing that is going to be unnavigable in the future. Yea to good communication, especially when it's a big difference in your world view.
doriswe , sorry for your gloomy season right now. It sounds hard and tough to stay strong for so many. But glad you are looking forward to a long weekend vacation. Weird - my yoga/Barre studio is in the middle of a 21 day challenge too. Mine does fall, winter, and summer challenges. Do a lot of them do this now? I am only 6 away from finishing before the 21 days. It's nice to reset, but I am having a hard time motivating to some classes. Some I love and others I am sort of indifferent too. Plus, I haven't taken a day off and I think I need a break day. 

My random musing - I had a great talk with my new person this morning. We actually talk a lot, which is also wonderful and welcoming. I love being honest and not having any history or games or trying to tiptoe around the other person's idiosyncrasy (or egos like my XH had). We moved rather fast due to his ending of one project and his own life/travel plans. Now as things settle, I really like that we keep touching base and keeping our discussions honest and forward thinking about how we have different plans and shapes in our lives. It's different to date when I feel so transient myself, especially to date someone who isn't from my place, while I have kids and things tethering me to my place. I like that we are touching in and making small plans together, but also not trying to define some end game for this new relationship yet. I think our timing is just off for meeting, and it was perfect too for what we both need. It's weird to think that it was a blessing, but also still feels new and like we may have changes in the future. I realize that is okay and not hurting either one of us to recognize that we aren't on the exact same path right now.  It feels like my first real adult relationship as far as communication (sad to say since I was with XH for 22+ of my adult years). Which is so welcoming, and bonus that we still love exploring where this is going as we discuss how we're different. 

[doriswe]

downtoearth, mine does it at least once a year. It's awesome, but at the same time, people come out of the woodworks to try and win so classes are packed. We had 46 people in a hot 5:30 AM class yesterday. It's insane! We get three "mulligans" so we can miss a day by doubling up on one day or doing a home practice, which is nice. They also added a ton of chill classes and meditation classes, so it's not all go go go!

[chalupa]

tiramisu religion and non-religion is a tough topic to navigate. Kudos to you both that you are being so open about what is important to you.

[tiramisu]

Thank you downtoearth and chalupa. I told him on the first date that I admire how my parents handle their religious differences and that I look to their example for how I would navigate it in a future relationship. I also just honestly have never tried to label or define anything about my beliefs, because they don't fit neatly in any particular box and some are more mystical/esoteric than most mainstream organized religion is comfortable with, plus I really dislike the sexism inherent in so much of organized religion. So there are some fundamental differences, but it seems like I'm going to have to open up and try to explain my stuff to him at some point soon. Including that I've always thought if I had any kids, they should be baptized (yay Catholic influence wanting to make sure they're absolved of any original sin so that my decisions aren't held against them in case I'm wrong) and that if I had any kids and they wanted to go to any particular religious services, I would make that happen for them. To me, faith of any kind is deeply individual and we all need to make the choices we think are best for ourselves instead of being forced to believe what others believe.

[doglove]

I am starting to feel miserable and uncomfortable and my belly isn’t even gigantic yet. Ugh. A’s family is coming into town tonight for a shower we are throwing ourselves on Saturday. I don’t know why I thought this was a good idea?? I am so tired and grumpy and emotional lately because I haven’t been sleeping much. The progesterone I have to take to keep that baby in is ruining my stomach. I hate eating lately because I never know what’s going to be okay and what is going to cause terrible turmoil in my gut. Being pregnant is hard.

After this weekend, it should be smooth sailing in the obligations area. I’m looking forward to leggings for the next 11+ weeks and watching a lot of Netflix.

[bullygirl979]

Hugs to all that need them!

[bullygirl979]

It's snowing here and I am just not ready for that nonsense.

This remodel is starting to get to me. We are ending our 7th week of construction and there is still so much to do. The level of disarray and dirt is starting to bother me. I'm really looking forward to when we can kick back and be at our "normal" again. On the plus side, the appliance are getting delivered today so that's exciting! They won't be hooked up, but at least they will be here.

[tiramisu]

Hugs all around!!


Last night I cried at work. Lots of stuff, but I finally figured out that the reason I kept tearing up was because I felt like a hug but wasn't going to be able to get one. Once I identified that, it helped. Just a lot of stuff building up and then some specific things all smacking me in the face at once. Basically, someone once told me that someday God was probably going to put me in a position to stop someone who would've otherwise killed themselves. It really hit home last night that that is literally what I'm doing. So there's a lot of processing stuff and a bit if a mindset/worldview shift that I'm contemplating, which feels huge but I also want to be small/quiet/personal.

[kaneen]

Nov 7, 2019 14:22:34 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

It's snowing here and I am just not ready for that nonsense.

This remodel is starting to get to me. We are ending our 7th week of construction and there is still so much to do. The level of disarray and dirt is starting to bother me. I'm really looking forward to when we can kick back and be at our "normal" again. On the plus side, the appliance are getting delivered today so that's exciting! They won't be hooked up, but at least they will be here.

I'm giving you a virtual hug of solidarity.  I TOTALLY get how you are feeling.  Hang in there.  I can say with confidence that it's all worth it when it's done!

[kaneen]

Nov 7, 2019 15:58:04 GMT -5 tiramisu said:

Hugs all around!!


Last night I cried at work. Lots of stuff, but I finally figured out that the reason I kept tearing up was because I felt like a hug but wasn't going to be able to get one. Once I identified that, it helped. Just a lot of stuff building up and then some specific things all smacking me in the face at once. Basically, someone once told me that someday God was probably going to put me in a position to stop someone who would've otherwise killed themselves. It really hit home last night that that is literally what I'm doing. So there's a lot of processing stuff and a bit if a mindset/worldview shift that I'm contemplating, which feels huge but I also want to be small/quiet/personal.

That is a lot.  Be kind to yourself on this!

[tiramisu]

Nov 7, 2019 18:05:16 GMT -5 kaneen said:

Nov 7, 2019 15:58:04 GMT -5 tiramisu said:

Hugs all around!!


Last night I cried at work. Lots of stuff, but I finally figured out that the reason I kept tearing up was because I felt like a hug but wasn't going to be able to get one. Once I identified that, it helped. Just a lot of stuff building up and then some specific things all smacking me in the face at once. Basically, someone once told me that someday God was probably going to put me in a position to stop someone who would've otherwise killed themselves. It really hit home last night that that is literally what I'm doing. So there's a lot of processing stuff and a bit if a mindset/worldview shift that I'm contemplating, which feels huge but I also want to be small/quiet/personal.

That is a lot.  Be kind to yourself on this!

Thank you, I really appreciate it. For whatever reason, my last call of the night last night hit me a little differently. I'm doing a lot better now, though.