Post by mustardseed2007 on Dec 5, 2019 6:27:35 GMT -5
I have a good follow up - taking my kids to my therapist for going sleep in their own bed seems to have worked as my kids have slept in their bed every night!!! I thought DD would be the problem with tantrums in the night, but actually if you can say there is a problem, it's DS who lays on the guilt trip rather than the tantrum. His birthday is next week and he's asked to sleep in our bed as a present. I'm leaving it up to DH.
Follow up to something I didn't even post, as part of this stay in your bed thing (and I'm sure you guys would have told me the right product to get had I posted about it) I got the LittleHippo Mella ok to wake clock because it was the "#1 Best Seller" on amazon and I could get it same day... but I cannot figure out how to get the damn thing to do all the things consistently. I've yet to see it be green or yellow or any color. Sometimes they little eyes are sleepy eyes but by the time we're in bed it looks like its drowsy? I'd throw it out the window but in my last minute panic about the own bed thing, I spend way way way to much on the stupid thing. Right now it's an expensive clock in their room with a smiley face.
Not really an update because I didn’t post before. DH is at a conference all week and I am barely holding on. I was used to him traveling, but I got spoiled plus the kids do more activities, it’s a busier time of the year, and I am PMSing and work is pissing me off. I had to cover for a not very dedicated employee yesterday and missed an important training. And I might have to cover for a vacation day today. I just feel spread too thin covering for everyone. I go on vacation in 2 weeks so my time will come but it doesn’t seem real in my head and probably won’t until I get there and am like peace out- swearwords and it will be over too quickly.
@mustardseed- Do you have directions with it? If not google for a manual. I had the same problem but my kid said they sometimes saw it turn green so I think we were just missing it because we were sleeping through it or something. Then I think the batteries died then it was a time change so the whole thing turned out to be a hassle/ expensive toy. Then I would take time to fix it and it would work again. Eventually as they got older (school age) I just got them regular alarm clocks with an actual power plug rather than battery operated that just beeps. I think they were $20 on Amazon.
@mustardseed- Do you have directions with it? If not google for a manual. I had the same problem but my kid said they sometimes saw it turn green so I think we were just missing it because we were sleeping through it or something. Then I think the batteries died then it was a time change so the whole thing turned out to be a hassle/ expensive toy. Then I would take time to fix it and it would work again. Eventually as they got older (school age) I just got them regular alarm clocks with an actual power plug rather than battery operated that just beeps. I think they were $20 on Amazon.
I have the manual since we just got it, I think we must be missing the color changes too.
Also this probably relates back to the bed time thread where my kids' bedtimes are at 8pm but DS especially has been going to bed late this week. They both went to bed late every night over thanksgiving.
mustardseed2007, can you return it? We had an OK to wake clock that I also bought in desparation. We threw it out since it never worked right and was an overall PITA. I ended up getting DD a night light and a smart plug and setting up a schedule on my phone... it turns on when it's time for bed, and off when she can get out of bed. And since it's controlled from my phone, if we luck out and she's sleeping in (or being a turdle and needs to go to bed early) I can control it remotely and turn it on or off as necessary.
Post by covergirl82 on Dec 5, 2019 13:37:18 GMT -5
DH told me last night after he and DS got home from a baseball hitting lesson that DS wrote a note to the girl he likes and told her that he likes her (and the reasons why), and she wrote him a note back and told him she likes him too (and the reasons why). You guys...I am so not ready for this!! But DS is about 10.5, so it is to be expected soon.
Had DD's conferences last night. She is doing really well. Ms. S only complaint is that DD is capable of doing more but does the least possible so she can just get done and have free time. It is solid 3rd grade work and similar to her peers but Ms. S knows the work DD can do when she wants to so she wants to see that work all the time. Her spelling is at grade level so all the studying she is doing is helping. Her spelling in her work is way below grade level but that is part of DD rushing through it just get it done and over with. We agreed that DD should learn cursive to help slow her down and to make her think about spelling so that will be my winter break challenge for her. I also asked if Ms. S can just tell DD she must write a whole page instead of the 5 sentences she wants to do because she knows she can do that and Ms. S said she can for somethings. The funniest part was when she told me the computer says DD isn't on track to graduate because DD tests horrible on the computer. Ms. S said DD does fine working on paper but put her in front of the computer and it all goes kaboom on her. I told her when DD has done iReady at home on breaks she tends to rant and rave at the computer and I find it very counterproductive and sad that my kid who loves math gets so frustrated by the program.
Post by covergirl82 on Dec 5, 2019 14:58:50 GMT -5
Another TWERK related to my job search: Early last week, I had a phone interview with a recruiter for a job at a university in my area. My pay requirement was much higher than the range, so the recruiter and I mutually agreed to end the call early and she would check with the hiring leader on if there would be any consideration for paying what I asked. I just talked with the recruiter again, and she indicated that the hiring leader is reviewing the range and there may be a chance they will come up to where I need them to in order to make a change.
Last night, I applied for another job, coincidentally at the company that DH left in May. I know they would have no issue with paying me what I want. ETA: Recruiter just called me to set up a short phone screen/interview for Tuesday, 12/10! A girl I used to work with, and had a good working relationship with, works at that company now, and I connected with her before I applied for the job, so I think that helped with the speed to which I received a call to request a phone interview.
One of my biggest hesitations about leaving my current job (even as much as I hate doing sales commissions) is that I have a lot of flexibility to work from home or adjust my hours for appointments, and I'm worried that other employers won't be as flexible...
Fiji is as incredible as I imagined. This may be the most relaxed I’ve been since having kids. DH is having a hard time forgetting/disconnecting from work though - while the rest of us (we came with another couple) are sitting around reading books on the beach, he’s still checking markets and reading stock reports. We’re at a small resort that only has like 10 other guests and a lot of staff. Our villa has an amazing patio with pool and the snorkeling is awesome.
The kids seem to be doing great at home with my parents. But our 14-year-old dog - who was totally normal when we left Sunday - is suddenly not eating, having accidents, and having trouble getting around. My parents are taking him to the vet today. I’m really hoping it’s a stomach virus or something and not the beginning of the end My mom is theorizing that he might have had a mini stroke on Monday.
I don’t have a twerk, I just wanted to say how much I love my gym. They are serving the kids dinner, giving adults a drink ticket each (my gym has obtained a liquor license for these occasions) and they are having Santa come for pictures.
I was thinking about working out and doing all that...but I’m going to skip the workout and just do all of that LOL!
This is perfect bc we didn’t have another chance to see him.
Edit just kidding though they served all of us dinner from 3 really nice restaurants. They checked the kids into the enormous play area for 2 hours while we ate and met new people. What a lovely night.
Post by librarychica on Dec 5, 2019 16:59:54 GMT -5
H and I toured a Montessori charter school this morning. It is very nice! It is like the perfect compromise between H and I’s different educational views and isn’t too small. We shall apply. It’s a lottery so we probably won’t get in but what the hell.
I continue to struggle finding a sense of community for us. I have been trying for a few years since we moved to this part of town and especially the last couple years. . Where we live now is not conducive to that, it seems. Idk that anywhere in this city is anymore but I am probably being pessimistic.
One of my biggest hesitations about leaving my current job (even as much as I hate doing sales commissions) is that I have a lot of flexibility to work from home or adjust my hours for appointments, and I'm worried that other employers won't be as flexible...
I stay at my job for this reason. They've been hugely flexible and while I don't love what I do I NEED that flexibly. I very unexpectedly have to drive my younger one to school this year. It is an hour to get there. I now start work almost an hour later. I use every one of the 20 suggested vacation days (we're official unlimited, but more than 20 days needs approval). I don't think any other job would work unless there was huge pay raise to hire help.
This is more of a vent than a Twerk. My SIL wants us to come up and do zoo lights with them which is in their town a little over 2 hours from our house. Only weekend that really works for us is the 21st or 22nd or after Christmas. I told her we already had plans on the 14th (playdate dinner date). She wants us to come up Sunday the 15th do a late lunch with them before the lights and figures we can all be home by bedtime if we leave the zoo by 7. Yeah they can be home and do bedtime because it is 20 minutes from their house not 2 hours. If we are lucky we will get home shortly after 9 but that is already 2 hours after DD's bedtime and we will still need to shower and stuff after being out in the wet/cold. We hardly ever see SIL/BIL. The last time was last December because their schedules are always super crazy and they refuse to drive to our town. Last year we ran into a ton of traffic and we didn't get home until almost 11pm due to a wreck and all slept really late on Sunday to recoup. WPs advice 1. Do I reschedule playdate dinner date which our friends who won't care if it Sunday instead of Saturday 2. Tell SIL no we just can't do a late Sunday night when we have school and work the next week 3. Something else
This is more of a vent than a Twerk. My SIL wants us to come up and do zoo lights with them which is in their town a little over 2 hours from our house. Only weekend that really works for us is the 21st or 22nd or after Christmas. I told her we already had plans on the 14th (playdate dinner date). She wants us to come up Sunday the 15th do a late lunch with them before the lights and figures we can all be home by bedtime if we leave the zoo by 7. Yeah they can be home and do bedtime because it is 20 minutes from their house not 2 hours. If we are lucky we will get home shortly after 9 but that is already 2 hours after DD's bedtime and we will still need to shower and stuff after being out in the wet/cold. We hardly ever see SIL/BIL. The last time was last December because their schedules are always super crazy and they refuse to drive to our town. Last year we ran into a ton of traffic and we didn't get home until almost 11pm due to a wreck and all slept really late on Sunday to recoup. WPs advice 1. Do I reschedule playdate dinner date which our friends who won't care if it Sunday instead of Saturday 2. Tell SIL no we just can't do a late Sunday night when we have school and work the next week 3. Something else
We are often in a similar position with my in-laws. I tend to defer to their schedules because I want my kids to have a relationship with their cousins and that’s the only way they’ll have one. So from that aspect, I would go with 1. Big 2 is also perfectly reasonable especially this time of year when everything is super busy.
I am leaning towards 1 if your friends won’t care. I agree that # 2 is perfectly acceptable especially for people who make you come see them and won’t come see you.
I survived my meeting and I think it went really well. My co-moderator and I gathered a ton of good feedback that the execs were happy with. I wish I had spoken up a little more, but my colleague had more answers readily available to him given his role vs. mine. It was still a good balance.
Today was day 2 with the senior team. Again, wish I had spoken up a little more, but I think I'll have more to contribute to day 3 and 4's topics. Today was sales and revenue heavy so lots of listening and learning for me.
Tomorrow night is the company holiday party that I planned. I don't know how I'm going to stay up past midnight after being "on" and in these meetings for 3 days straight. I'm exhausted already.
This is more of a vent than a Twerk. My SIL wants us to come up and do zoo lights with them which is in their town a little over 2 hours from our house. Only weekend that really works for us is the 21st or 22nd or after Christmas. I told her we already had plans on the 14th (playdate dinner date). She wants us to come up Sunday the 15th do a late lunch with them before the lights and figures we can all be home by bedtime if we leave the zoo by 7. Yeah they can be home and do bedtime because it is 20 minutes from their house not 2 hours. If we are lucky we will get home shortly after 9 but that is already 2 hours after DD's bedtime and we will still need to shower and stuff after being out in the wet/cold. We hardly ever see SIL/BIL. The last time was last December because their schedules are always super crazy and they refuse to drive to our town. Last year we ran into a ton of traffic and we didn't get home until almost 11pm due to a wreck and all slept really late on Sunday to recoup. WPs advice 1. Do I reschedule playdate dinner date which our friends who won't care if it Sunday instead of Saturday 2. Tell SIL no we just can't do a late Sunday night when we have school and work the next week 3. Something else
They are the worst. I would never do that on a Sunday so I would either do a different weekend all together (2?) or check on 1 with your friend I guess. People like that really irk me.
One of my biggest hesitations about leaving my current job (even as much as I hate doing sales commissions) is that I have a lot of flexibility to work from home or adjust my hours for appointments, and I'm worried that other employers won't be as flexible...
I stay at my job for this reason. They've been hugely flexible and while I don't love what I do I NEED that flexibly. I very unexpectedly have to drive my younger one to school this year. It is an hour to get there. I now start work almost an hour later. I use every one of the 20 suggested vacation days (we're official unlimited, but more than 20 days needs approval). I don't think any other job would work unless there was huge pay raise to hire help.
That's why I have stayed here so long. On days when I want to throw in the towel. I've interviewed for other jobs (usually with a government agency) and they act like I am asking to drink beer and take naps when I've asked about flexible hours. I've always been able to adjust time here and get off early and make school events. Unless it was a huge pay raise or I absolutely hated the job, then I would consider.
My boss is spiraling. She doesn't get her work done and it is now coming down on me and my staff. She signed her coalition up for a volunteer event Monday night. She doesn't have enough people to cover so she asked me and my staff. So I said ok, we can come and we will flex off in the week. We are hourly. She sends me and txt today if we can "volunteer". I told her no. I am not comfortable asking staff to "volunteer" at a work event.
That is all kinds of labor law violations. She txt back to forget it. She will reign terror down Monday. I have already sent the conversation to HR. They said no to the volunteering. She will just find little ways to make everyone miserable in retribution.
I am glad I bought a fancier dress for DH’s work party. It was not black tie but it was themed which I didn’t 100% realize. It was really just a snow / winter/ holiday theme but people did stuck to those white, champaign, and green colors and sparkles.
They talked about past themed parties that made me think of your past parties,k3am.
waverly that sounds hard enough but to be solo at the beginning of the holiday season adds more stress too, don’t you think? You have all my empathy! Hope he returns soon.
sdlaura Fiji sounds amazing. I hope your dog is just adjusting to you being gone. When my husband leaves my dog doesn’t eat for a few days. Then she eats but it’s a lot less. Enjoy your amazing trip!
rere, I can’t remember if you’re at a quasi-government agency or not. But I would document the living hell out of this, call HR, and possible elevate this to your boss’s boss. That whole idea of forced volunteering makes my blood boil. As a former employment attorney, I know it’s illegal as hell for employees who aren’t salaried.
rere, I can’t remember if you’re at a quasi-government agency or not. But I would document the living hell out of this, call HR, and possible elevate this to your boss’s boss. That whole idea of forced volunteering makes my blood boil. As a former employment attorney, I know it’s illegal as hell for employees who aren’t salaried.
I have already been to HR and sent them screenshots of the txt. I am not salary and neither is anyone who reports to me. My guess is we will have it out Monday. She gives lip service to all the right cliches about being a boss, but in reality is vindictive and only cares about herself. If she even says 1 thing, I will ask her to take it to Hr. Plus with the documentation, I will consider any retribution as harrassment for not breaking labor laws and file a formal grievance. I have had enough. If I have to go toe to toe with her weekly for the next 5 years, so be it.