Tuesday Tell it Like it is!

[mags]

Get something off your chest.


I'll start...Im DREADING XMAS in Florida. I love this time of year, the cold, the (my) family traditions, and I do not want to go


The biggest issue is my bitchfacephonymotherfucker SIL will have to be there too. I have much anger.

[bullygirl979]

mags are you staying in the same house?

[bullygirl979]

I'm hosting Xmas this year for the first time and I really don't want to. We bought this house to entertain but most of my nieces/nephews are older and some don't know how to act. The last time we hosted my one nephew almost broke my gigantic ottoman. I feel like a d*ck saying that I have nice things and don't want them ruined but I have nice things, and I don't want them ruined. LOL.

[mags]

Dec 10, 2019 10:15:11 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

mags are you staying in the same house?

My guess is yes.

I haven't seen her in over 2 years and that's so fine with me. I have really removed myself from the family due to her and their feeding of her BS. 

[mags]

Dec 10, 2019 10:20:30 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I'm hosting Xmas this year for the first time and I really don't want to. We bought this house to entertain but most of my nieces/nephews are older and some don't know how to act. The last time we hosted my one nephew almost broke my gigantic ottoman. I feel like a d*ck saying that I have nice things and don't want them ruined but I have nice things, and I don't want them ruined. LOL.

How old is older?

[bullygirl979]

Dec 10, 2019 10:32:58 GMT -5 mags said:

Dec 10, 2019 10:20:30 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I'm hosting Xmas this year for the first time and I really don't want to. We bought this house to entertain but most of my nieces/nephews are older and some don't know how to act. The last time we hosted my one nephew almost broke my gigantic ottoman. I feel like a d*ck saying that I have nice things and don't want them ruined but I have nice things, and I don't want them ruined. LOL.

How old is older?

18-22ish. Old enough to know how to act...

[doglove]

A’s brother and his family are staying with us the weekend before Christmas on their way to FL. I love A’s brother, but his wife and kids are a LOT. I am dreading this short trip because I am sure I’ll be uncomfortable and tired at almost 35 weeks. A already has a plan to have them out of the house most of the time and the silver lining is they may just stay for one night instead of two.

At least we will have a quiet Christmas with just our furry ones.

[mags]

Dec 10, 2019 10:51:03 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Dec 10, 2019 10:32:58 GMT -5 mags said:

How old is older?

18-22ish. Old enough to know how to act...

Old enough for you to tell them to grow the fuck up!

[mags]

Dec 10, 2019 11:35:16 GMT -5 doglove said:

A’s brother and his family are staying with us the weekend before Christmas on their way to FL. I love A’s brother, but his wife and kids are a LOT. I am dreading this short trip because I am sure I’ll be uncomfortable and tired at almost 35 weeks. A already has a plan to have them out of the house most of the time and the silver lining is they may just stay for one night instead of two.

At least we will have a quiet Christmas with just our furry ones.

No one knows you are 35 weeks pregnant and shouldn't be hosting?

[tiramisu]

My favorite part of this thread is mags telling it like it is to all of us.


Let's see, I'm still sad about the guy I was dating, but I'm feeling better about it. I told one of my coworkers and he was nice about it, just validating that it sounded like this guy has issues that would've caused problems down the line. I'm trying to stay in that space of looking at things critically instead of thinking about what I miss. It's helping.

Last night I got invited to a team dinner with a group of my coworkers. It felt really nice to be included and it sounds like it'll be a fun night. Part of me is worrying about potential flirting/weirdness with men on this team, but I'll be vigilant.

[bullygirl979]

Dec 10, 2019 11:56:48 GMT -5 mags said:

Dec 10, 2019 10:51:03 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

18-22ish. Old enough to know how to act...

Old enough for you to tell them to grow the fuck up!

And when they almost broke the ottoman I did. LOL. I just hate the fact I feel like I even have to watch them for sh*t like that though. Although, I'm probably complaining for nothing as I doubt they will stay long as my house is "boring".

[doglove]

Dec 10, 2019 11:57:42 GMT -5 mags said:

Dec 10, 2019 11:35:16 GMT -5 doglove said:

A’s brother and his family are staying with us the weekend before Christmas on their way to FL. I love A’s brother, but his wife and kids are a LOT. I am dreading this short trip because I am sure I’ll be uncomfortable and tired at almost 35 weeks. A already has a plan to have them out of the house most of the time and the silver lining is they may just stay for one night instead of two.

At least we will have a quiet Christmas with just our furry ones.

No one knows you are 35 weeks pregnant and shouldn't be hosting?

If you knew these people, you’d understand. I think the wife offered to stay in a hotel. That would be glorious, but I don’t think it’s going to happen.

[doglove]

Dec 10, 2019 10:51:03 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Dec 10, 2019 10:32:58 GMT -5 mags said:

How old is older?

18-22ish. Old enough to know how to act...

Wow wtf with those ages??

[bullygirl979]

Dec 10, 2019 12:43:53 GMT -5 doglove said:

Dec 10, 2019 10:51:03 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

18-22ish. Old enough to know how to act...

Wow wtf with those ages??

Yeah...tell me about it. There are 6 kids and 5 of them are boys. Some of them REALLY don't get along so they just non-stop push each other's buttons. Which is fine when you are in your own house, but at my house let's act like grown-ups, mmkay?

[bullygirl979]

doglove, glad A is planning on having them out of your hair!

[doriswe]

I don't care about Christmas at all this year. The magic officially died this year.

[downtoearth]

Dec 10, 2019 13:10:19 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I don't care about Christmas at all this year. The magic officially died this year.

If my kids weren’t so into it, I’d be there with you. It sucks, huh? Sorry.

Oh and on top of it - every string of light has basically died this year or had some problem. So it’s like Christmas is trying to tell me to give up.

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2019 13:33:36 GMT -5 downtoearth said:

Dec 10, 2019 13:10:19 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I don't care about Christmas at all this year. The magic officially died this year.

If my kids weren’t so into it, I’d be there with you. It sucks, huh? Sorry.

Oh and on top of it - every string of light has basically died this year or had some problem. So it’s like Christmas is trying to tell me to give up.

I'm giving DD money for her vet bill (this week) as her gift, so she'll literally have three things to open (one from me, one from DS and one from my mom). DS doesn't have any needs and the wants are stuff I'm not going to buy, so he might just get gift cards or money to hopefully go towards a car. There's no surprise or fun or anything. I'm just over it. Change is hard yo

[gault]

Dec 10, 2019 13:46:16 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Dec 10, 2019 13:33:36 GMT -5 downtoearth said:

If my kids weren’t so into it, I’d be there with you. It sucks, huh? Sorry.

Oh and on top of it - every string of light has basically died this year or had some problem. So it’s like Christmas is trying to tell me to give up.

I'm giving DD money for her vet bill (this week) as her gift, so she'll literally have three things to open (one from me, one from DS and one from my mom). DS doesn't have any needs and the wants are stuff I'm not going to buy, so he might just get gift cards or money to hopefully go towards a car. There's no surprise or fun or anything. I'm just over it. Change is hard yo

This is rough. I am sorry, love.


We are having three christmases, wait four. And three bday celebrations. And two framily christmas gatherings. And i have 4 choir concerts (luckily we performed two this last weekend). And bf's band is playing on the 23rd. So much going on this month.

On top of that i have to focus on losing weight so i can have my weight loss surgery in a timely manner next jan/feb, and my parents are putting pressure on me because my recovery and surgery might be during a time they planned for vacation. Except the timing of it is literally out of my hands, and they know it. But keep asking me anyway.

[doglove]

I’m exhausted by reading your post gault! I can barely do a load of laundry these days though. Wtf to your parents?

[gault]

Dec 10, 2019 14:38:25 GMT -5 doglove said:

I’m exhausted by reading your post gault! I can barely do a load of laundry these days though. Wtf to your parents?

They're doing it in a helpful spirit, like they want to be there and will postpone a few things to do so, but want to know ALL the dates and schedule RIGHT NOW because they are planners. So what is meant as good-intentioned is becoming stressful because i will not have answers for them in the time they want. No matter how much they ask. Like at this point, go on vacation because i don't want to worry about your schedule and how to make this easy for you as well as have internal organs cut out of me

[mags]

Dec 10, 2019 15:05:07 GMT -5 gault said:

Dec 10, 2019 14:38:25 GMT -5 doglove said:

I’m exhausted by reading your post gault ! I can barely do a load of laundry these days though. Wtf to your parents?

They're doing it in a helpful spirit, like they want to be there and will postpone a few things to do so, but want to know ALL the dates and schedule RIGHT NOW because they are planners. So what is meant as good-intentioned is becoming stressful because i will not have answers for them in the time they want. No matter how much they ask. Like at this point, go on vacation because i don't want to worry about your schedule and how to make this easy for you as well as have internal organs cut out of me

Tell them nicely to back off that the pressure is causing you stress. Be honest!

[mags]

Dec 10, 2019 13:10:19 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I don't care about Christmas at all this year. The magic officially died this year.

Me either....not 1 fuck. 
They are grown and no one cares

[doriswe]

Dec 10, 2019 15:40:28 GMT -5 mags said:

Dec 10, 2019 13:10:19 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I don't care about Christmas at all this year. The magic officially died this year.

Me either....not 1 fuck. 
They are grown and no one cares

This is the shit no one talks about when you have kids...and it should be shared so people can prepare for the feels. 

[spindle92]

I don't have any kids and I just wish it was January.
Every year I dread December.

[Shreddingbetty]

I really don’t care for Xmas and haven’t in a while. I just hate the commercialism and the having to buy gift for everyone just for the sake f buying gifts. DD is 9 and still believes and so that’s kind of fun but other than that I could care less. DD is with her dad that week so one good thing is that I don’t have to do too much except buy a couple of presents for her (we agreed to put a limit on presents a few years, so one Santa present, one from the parents and one other one and that’s it).
The good thing about being divorced and not having family on the same continent is that I don’t have to deal with family lol. I will spend Xmas eve with friends and call it good. It will be low key which isn’t a bad thing.

[kaneen]

Dec 10, 2019 9:39:56 GMT -5 mags said:

Get something off your chest.


I'll start...Im DREADING XMAS in Florida. I love this time of year, the cold, the (my) family traditions, and I do not want to go


The biggest issue is my bitchfacephonymotherfucker SIL will have to be there too. I have much anger.

If you are even remotely close to me I’ll come pick your ass up.  We can bitch and moan together.  It’s what we’re good at.  Text me

[mags]

Dec 10, 2019 23:27:29 GMT -5 kaneen said:

Dec 10, 2019 9:39:56 GMT -5 mags said:

Get something off your chest.


I'll start...Im DREADING XMAS in Florida. I love this time of year, the cold, the (my) family traditions, and I do not want to go


The biggest issue is my bitchfacephonymotherfucker SIL will have to be there too. I have much anger.

If you are even remotely close to me I’ll come pick your ass up.  We can bitch and moan together.  It’s what we’re good at.  Text me

would love that

[neonpink]

So I'm not in the mood for Christmas and I am hosting for 17+ people for the first time.

My Dad had his hip replaced this week, my Grandmother has been in the hospital for the past month. I don't want to buy any presents. I am just not feeling it. My Husband's family is being ridiculous. I usually help my Dad buy my Mom her presents but she doesn't want anything. I just want to say NO GIFTS THIS YEAR, but know that will not happen. 

I could go on an on but I'm just feeling grinchy.

[tiramisu]

Last night a male acquaintance was expressing to me how it kind of baffles him that I'm still single and that I've dated so many more people than him since we briefly dated. Which was great, because it just reminded me of the feeling I've had before that no one will ever choose me and I started thinking "maybe I'm no one's forever." Which is just super helpful in the grand scheme of things. I basically told him to STFU, that what he was saying wasn't helpful, and he apologized. But it just sucked to have those thoughts come back up after so long. Ugh. Dating is not for the faint-hearted.